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    • Just Enough: Vegan Recipes and Stories 
from Japan’s Buddhist Temples

      by Gesshin Claire Greenwood

      When Gesshin Claire Greenwood was twenty-two and fresh out of college, she found her way to a Buddhist monastery in Japan and soon she was ordained as a Buddhist nun. While at the monastery, she discovered she had a particular affinity for working in the kitchen, especially at the practice of using what was at hand to create delicious, satisfying meals. Her book, Just Enough: Vegan Recipes and Stories from Japan’s Buddhist Temples is based on the philosophy of oryoki, or “just enough.” From perfect rice, potatoes, and broths to hearty stews, colorful stir-fry dishes, hot and cold noodles, and delicate sorbets, Greenwood shows how food can be a direct, daily way to understand Zen practice. With her eloquent prose, she takes readers into monasteries, markets, messy kitchens, and four a.m. meditation rooms while simultaneously offering food for thought that nourishes and delights the body, mind, and spirit.

      We hope you enjoy this excerpt from Just Enough: Vegan Recipes and Stories 
from Japan’s Buddhist Temples


      A Zen riddle I often think about asks, “How can you drink tea from an empty cup?” I remember asking a monk in Japan this question. He smiled and said, “Empty cup is better than full cup, because you can always add to an empty cup.” The odd paradox of using less is that sometimes it makes us feel even more satisfied. Becoming comfortable with lack can make us feel as though we have enough.

      In my late twenties, I found myself in charge of running the kitchen at a Japanese convent called Aichi Nisodo, where I had lived for three years. I had come to Japan as a young, idealistic spiritual seeker and was hastily ordained in the Soto Zen tradition at age twenty-four — a decision I thought might help me solve my emotional problems (more on that later).

      The first time I worked in the kitchen I was taught the basics. I learned how to wash rice, how to make Japanese soup, how to roast and grind gomasio (sesame salt). I spent hours cutting nori (dried seaweed) into thin strips to use as garnish, seeding pickled plums, and picking stones out of raw rice.

      Becoming proficient at cooking Japanese food was like adjusting the lens of a camera; it was a process of subtle focusing and readjustment. The biggest shift I had to make was in my relationship to flavor, especially soy sauce. As an American I had poured soy sauce onto rice, but I soon learned that Japanese food uses only a small amount of soy sauce. In Japan, good soup stock, timing, vegetable slicing, and salt, rather than bold flavors, inform the production of a good meal.

      I approached learning to cook Japanese food with all guns blazing and no real understanding of the difference between Japanese, Chinese, and Korean food. I was used to dumping soy sauce and ginger onto everything. The first step in learning to cook Japanese food was listening — the willingness to learn. The second step was dialing back my natural impulse to overflavor things. I came to understand that if all steps in a meal are made with care and effort, a little soy sauce goes a long, long way.

      In contemporary Western culture we don’t pay much attention to that point in time when we have just enough. We’re conditioned to think in terms of lack. Do I have enough money to retire? Enough friends? Am I exercising enough? This of course is not about having just enough, but about having not enough. We are usually making an assumption based on a comparison with the people around us. How much money we need to retire is relative; it depends entirely on what standard of living we’re used to and what lifestyle we want to maintain. There’s no such thing as too few or too many friends. Any idea about this would come from comparing our number to the perceived friend count of others. And of course, although everyone benefits from exercise, there’s no predetermined universal amount that is sufficient for everyone.

      The strange part about this kind of “not enough” thinking is that it usually results in overabundance or excess rather than just enough. Worldwide, the United States has the highest rate of consumer spending per household, the highest military spending budget, and the highest rate of obesity. We have 5 percent of the world’s population, but use 23 percent of the world’s coal. A recent study by Oregon State University indicated that for a woman in the United States, not having a child decreases her carbon footprint by twenty times that of other options like recycling or using energy-efficient household appliances. This is because living in the United States comes with a higher rate of resource consumption. I find this research fascinating; the best thing for an American to do for the environment is to not produce any more Americans.

      What’s more, in our culture, success is synonymous with not just the ability to make money, but the ability to buy the right things at the right time. And yet anyone who has felt the emotional toll of earning and spending knows that there is only limited happiness to be found in purchasing the right thing. This is not to say that there’s no pleasure in buying things — of course there is!

      There is indeed a kind of aliveness that comes with wanting, but remaining balanced and moderate with desire is easier said than done. What Buddhist philosophy and practice point to is the understanding that our desires are insatiable — that there is never an end to what we want to be, have, buy, or accomplish.

      And yet it’s too simple to say, “Wanting is bad.” I was ordained as a Buddhist nun when I was twenty-four years old and spent most of my twenties in monasteries in Japan. At first I was attracted to Buddhism because of the meditation practice; it offered me a sense of calm and sanity in the midst of my stressful, chaotic college years. Soon I came to admire Buddhism’s sophisticated ethical system and the emphasis on simplicity and minimalism. As someone raised in a well-off family, I found the notion of not having or going without revolutionary. However, my time in the monasteries in Japan taught me that Buddhism is not simply about going without, minimalism, or scarcity. It stresses what the Buddha called the “middle way,” a lifestyle between deprivation and excess.

      According to legend, the Buddha was a prince, born into a royal family. Trying to shield him from reality, the Buddha’s father gave him everything he wanted: fine clothing, the best food, and beautiful women. However, one day the Buddha left the palace and saw around him sickness, old age, and death. He was then inspired to understand the truth, and he left the palace in search of the end of suffering. For seven years he practiced meditation and asceticism, eating only one grain of rice a day. Due to this severe lifestyle, he became frail and sick and almost died. Luckily, a girl from a nearby village saw him and offered him a bowl of milk. Although in the past he had sworn off milk and other rich foods, at this moment the Buddha drank the milk and felt reenergized. With his newfound strength, he was able to sit and watch his mind long enough to come to understand the causes and conditions of suffering.

      This story is the first example of the “middle way.” Initially, the Buddha was a prince. He had everything he wanted and more — excessive amounts of food and riches — but still he was not happy. I think the story of the Buddha appeals to people in developed countries because, if we have our basic needs met, we often are in the same predicament. Trying to counteract this excess, the Buddha fasted and became sick. However, only when he found a middle way between extreme wealth and poverty, between sensual pleasure and self-mortification, was he able to end his suffering. This story can be important guidance for us.

      A few years ago I read of a study by Princeton University that showed that money does buy happiness, but only up to a certain point. Researchers found that people who made below $75,000 per year felt more stressed and weighed down by everyday problems and that for those approaching the $75,000 per year mark these feelings lessened. However, making more than $75,000 per year did not make people feel happier. In other words, having enough food, objects, and money does make us feel better, but having more than enough doesn’t.

      What if we could retrain ourselves to think in terms of “just enough” rather than “not enough”? And what is this $75,000 amount per year about? For someone in a developed country, $75,000 might be just enough, but for the majority of the world’s population, this amount of money is a fortune. In other words, our sense of what is “just enough” depends in large part on our surroundings, on what we are used to and expect. For some Westerners, finding the sweet spot of “just enough” will mean scaling down.

      For Americans, experiencing “just enough” when we eat will often mean preferring the riddle’s “empty cup” by eating less. But I believe this can — and should — be done with joy, grace, and pleasure. There is a beauty in just the right amount of anything: too much furniture in a room gives it a cluttered feeling, but not enough furniture means you can’t sit down. This is not some kind of mystical Eastern concept either! All good painters know the importance of negative space — the artist Kara Walker’s paintings are famous exercises in negative space, and what would Vermeer’s Girl with a Pearl Earring be without that black background? With regard to food, there are ways to eat and cook that bring us closer to this philosophy of “just enough.”

      But beyond food, I am also interested in what “just enough” means more broadly, what it means to live a life that is sane and balanced, a life that does not devolve into extremes. This interest, of course, arose out of my personal experience living a comfortable childhood followed by a monastic life for many years that was austere and characterized by extreme self-denial. Coming out of that experience of extremes, I knew that, though the strict monastic path was beautiful and stressed many useful and important things, I wanted to find a more radical kind of balance.


      Gesshin Claire Greenwood is the author of Just Enough and Bow First, Ask Questions Later. She also writes the popular blog That’s So Zen. Ordained as a Buddhist nun in Japan by Seido Suzuki Roshi in 2010, she received her dharma transmission (authorization to teach) in 2015. She returned to the United States in 2016 to complete her master’s degree in East Asian Studies. A popular meditation teacher, she lives in San Francisco, California. Find out more about her work at Gesshin.net.

      Excerpted from the book Just Enough. Copyright ©2019 by Gesshin Claire Greenwood. Printed with permission from New World Library.

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    • CAN SOULMATES MAKE EACH OTHER MISERABLE?

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      My ex was born on the cusp of Aries/Taurus (April 20) and I was born on April 11. I was told by a psychic that we were soul mates in a previous life. I do feel a connection with him, but we spend so much time arguing and fighting that I wonder if she is really correct. I asked her to tell me if we were going to get married, but she said she couldn’t see that, but she said if I did decide to make a life with him, he would try. I was left confused: shouldn’t she able to tell me if we are going to end up together? Sometimes he makes me feel so miserable, I wonder if I would ever even want to be married to him, but then other times I am convinced he is “the one.” Is it worth holding on to this dream? Can soul mates make us miserable? – Paulette

      Dreamchaser:

      I am so glad you asked this! So many people are under the false assumption that finding your soul mate means “happily ever after.” I have no idea where that comes from, except maybe for the fairy tales we are all force fed as children. You know: the Prince comes and kisses the Princess and they live happily ever after in a castle.

      Well, in reality, sometimes the Prince’s breath smells, we have to go to work to pay the bills for the castle, and there are no fairy godmothers, singing mice or sewing birds to help with the day-to-day chores. That is when we realize that even though we may have found true love, we still have to deal with real life.

      Another false assumption is that when we find a soul mate, we will never ever split up. Many times we or the other person may choose to walk away from the relationship for various reasons. Sometimes it is because everything that needed to be done karmically was done. Sometimes it is because the person picked up a bad habit of some kind, or changed in some fashion that we cannot tolerate. Sometimes the relationship is just a bad choice and a big mistake.

      There are so many different reasons relationships break up. I always say we get approximately five soul mates per lifetime – contingency plans, so to speak. So when a psychic tells you that someone is your soul mate, that does not mean that he is your one and only, and you better not mess it up. It just means that you two have an extraordinary connection and it is worth trying to foster it, provided that the other person is also on board.

      Those we love the most can also hurt us the most, so of course soul mates will hurt you. Everyone will hurt you sooner or later in this life. It is not realistic to expect to live a life free from all hurt and suffering.

      No one can tell you without a doubt if you will end up with someone or not. Both people in a relationship have free will. Either of you can exercise that free will at any time. Sometimes it is very clear which direction the relationship is heading, and your psychic will be able to say so. At other times, the decisions are not yet made, and no one can see the outcome. A reputable psychic will explain to you that he/she does not know the outcome and why. Psychic are not all-knowing. We can only see what can be seen, and not even God can predict an undecided outcome.

      I wish you authentic love.

      *****

      Astrea:

      If I believed that we only had one soul mate for every incarnation, I would be very upset. The universe presents us with choices to make as we seek our own happiness and our own joys. Many people will come in and out of our lives who could be soul mate material. We’ve been with some of these people in past lives, and others are new to our experience. The choices we make determine whether or not that person becomes a life partner.

      Just because a psychic says that you’re soul mates doesn’t make it true! Do you know how often that person has been right about the soul mate question for other people? What is her track record for accuracy? Do you feel that she knows both of you well enough to make that assumption? If you just had one isolated reading with her, she was probably doing the best job for you that she could, with very limited knowledge of your situation. If she was an astrologer and familiar with both of your charts, I doubt that she would have seen you as soul mates. I could see you as friends and maybe even siblings in some past lives, but not romantically involved.

      Two Aries people in a relationship form a bond that is so intense that a psychic might mistake that powerful energy for a soul connection. I know that if partners are very alike, sometimes that hurts more than it helps.

      Contrast is a good thing in relationships. If you have the same idea all the time, but see different approaches to your goals, that could pose some major difficulties. While there is a deep level of understanding, there are also impediments because of the feelings that stopped between you. Neither of you would want to seem weak to the other. Your Aries sun sometimes causes you to hold your feelings in, and not express them. That leads to the kind of conversations that often develop into arguments.

      People who sincerely love one another do what it takes to stay together, even if that means changing their values and points of view. I can’t see you getting married or staying together forever, but if you can agree to try to work this out between you, perhaps going to a counselor would give you someone you could bounce your concerns off. Don’t try to force yourselves into anything out of fear that you won’t get another chance at big love. There are plenty of potential soul mates out there for each of you!

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