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What to Do When You Have a Ghost, by J. Allen Cross

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

So, you just realized you are sharing space with a ghost; now what? A startling amount of folks will tell you to build an altar and give them offerings, or call a priest and have the home exorcised, but I would not recommend either of these options. I've been a paranormal investigator for fifteen years, and a psychic medium for much longer than that. Along the way, I've gotten to know quite a few ghosts, and helped many of them find peace by crossing over to the other side or by cohabitating comfortably with their living roommates. If you find yourself sharing space regularly with a ghost, here is my advice for what to do about it.

Understanding Is Key
You can't really interact with or help a ghost if you don't know what they are or how they function, so learning about them can be extremely helpful. The first thing to realize is that ghosts are just people without bodies. They don't become something super scary and different on the other side; they are just like us, and so I always recommend interacting with them the same way you would with people. If you had a houseguest or roommate, you wouldn't build an altar to them, or buy them a bunch of presents because well… that would be weird. It would also create a power imbalance between the two of you rather quickly. You also wouldn't ask a priest to chase them out of your home because well… Rude! Ghosts, like any regular embodied person, are not harmed or banished by prayer or holy water. Some will even take great offense to you trying.

The second thing you need to understand is that not all ghosts are happy where they are. Many are lost or confused, and some don't even know they are dead. This can prevent them from moving on to the next place. I've noticed there is a big misunderstanding among many witches I speak to who think that any attempt at investigation is some form of harassment. However, many ghosts have been waiting decades for someone to notice them so they can get help. So, if your ghost is particularly active or seems to be trying to get your attention, it may be asking for assistance.

For further education on life as a ghost, I recommend picking up books like When Ghosts Speak by Mary Ann Winkowski, and my new book, The Witch's Guide to the Paranormal, for more detailed information.

Set Boundaries
While ghosts have free will just like the living, they respond well to boundaries being set for them. Before you bust out the Ouija board, call the ghostbusters, or hire an occult professional, simply try talking to the ghost. When you feel their presence, simply say hello, introduce yourself, and set any boundaries that will help you feel more comfortable. Some boundaries you may want to enforce include, "Don't startle or interact with my children, they don’t like it," or, "If you want my attention, please stir the windchimes, but don't poke me," or, "Please stay out of my bedroom." Normally, they'll follow the rules you set for them.

Similarly, while you are setting boundaries, I would refrain from giving specific permissions about anything. For instance, I wouldn't say, "You're welcome to stay here, just don't go in my room." The reasons for this are: First, they're already staying in the home, so they don't necessarily need your permission to do so. Second, your perception might be off, and it may be something more sinister than the ghost of a sweet old lady and giving it permission to stay in the home will make getting rid of it that much harder.

But How Do I Know if They Need Something?
Many ghosts are simply living their afterlife peacefully alongside the living. Sometimes, they don't even pick up on the living people in the home, and may perceive the house as being empty, or they may have a faint sense of the living the same way the living may only occasionally sense a ghostly presence. Others may be able to fully see and hear the living, but still choose to keep to themselves while cohabitating in a space. If this is the case, you may experience very light activity such as a whiff of perfume every now and then, or small infrequent noises. If this is the case, they may need nothing from you.

Other times, however, a ghost may create activity in order to try and get your attention. So, if you are experiencing some ghostly shenanigans such as knocking, objects falling off of shelves, or occasional pokes or prods, it may be an indication that the ghost is attempting to get your attention. If that happens, they may be asking for help, and you may need to reach out to local professionals for assistance. In some cases, you may get them to move on peacefully by placing fresh lilacs around the home and visualizing a beautiful white light opening to take them to the next place. Other times, they may need more complex care before they're ready to move on.

But What If They Are Aggressive?
If the activity seems to be more than just a cry for attention, or if their behavior suggests they are trying to harm you, it may be for a few reasons. First, they may be trying to claim territory. Many spirits will feel possessive of an area because they either feel like they own it or because it contains a secret they don't want discovered. These ghosts may or may not know they are dead as well, so please have compassion for them; you'd act aggressively, too, if a new family just moved into your home while you were still living there. Second, they may have objections to who you are as a person. Yup, ghosts are just dead humans, and that means they can be racist, homophobic, against pre-marital sex etc. and may forcefully object to you or your life choices if they don't approve. Furthermore, they may have trauma; for instance, you may look like the person who murdered them, and therefore they may target you. Third, they may simply be awful people. Murderers, abusers, predators, and the like all have to die at some point, and can continue to be aggressive harmful people in death.

In this situation I would highly recommend calling upon local professionals, and/or getting a copy of my book The Witch's Guide to the Paranormal, which goes in depth on these issues in a way that can't be covered in an article like this. You may be able to get them to move on using the technique described above, but if they are unwilling to go, you may have to resort to something a little more drastic. Using things like salt to repel them, as well as expellant smoke from cleansing herbs can help. Neither one of these will automatically boot them out, but prolonged use will make the space uninhabitable and force them to leave. Once you feel they have gone, be sure to put protections in place so they don't return.

At the end of the day, just remember that ghosts were people, too. Even in death, they have their own hopes, dreams, fears, desires, beliefs, and secrets. So, when it comes to a ghostly roommate or office helper, always remember not to frame them as something unknowable and otherworldly, because after all, the specter stealing the pens from your cubicle is probably not an eldritch creature from the void, but is instead more likely to be Chad, the copy guy who died in a bike accident a year ago. Knowing this, our everyday conflict resolution and communication customs are likely to do the trick.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2022. All rights reserved.

After my daughter passed away in her sleep, she was cremated. Did this take from her spirit or detract from her ability to contact loved ones in some way? I still don't know the cause of her passing. I wish she would come to me in a dream or some other way to let me know she is okay. I miss her very much. My Aries child lived 27 years, 4 months and 1 day. She left a toddler son behind. I wish I knew what happened and why I don't dream of her. Thanks, blessings and peace to you.

Patsy

Astrea:

My family is always cremated. I don't know why the others choose it, but I do because I don't want to take up more room than I have to when my soul leaves my body. The Earth is crowded now, and since I plan to live to a ripe old age, I expect there will be even less room by then.

Cremation is an ancient practice that reduces the body to the smallest eco-friendly unit while employing the cleansing elements of Fire and Air. Even today, some cultures believe that the smoke carries the soul to loved ones on the other side.

The human body is a physical manifestation of spirit. Since your daughter has a spiritual body in the afterlife, cremation of her physical body will have had no effect on her spirit or her ability to contact you. People who die in youthful bodies may find it more difficult to focus their minds away from all the joys of Paradise, so your daughter may explore the Afterlife for several years before she tries to reach back to loved ones here.

It's also highly likely that she is with you even though you can't sense it. Though she may come and go quickly, you can learn to feel her fleeting warmth while she learns how to better control these visits. This sort of thing takes time, and Aries girls aren't known for their patience. Keep letting her know that you are here for her and eager for contact so you're paying attention when she figures out how to make that happen.

Another comforting fact is the departed don't yearn for us the way we do for them. Your agony at not being able to speak to her and your understandable grief at her untimely death must diminish before you'll be able to consciously connect with her. I know it's hard, but try to be light yourself so she can come to you as Light.

I've found that dreaming about a departed loved one and actually visiting with someone in spirit are quite different experiences, and I predict the same will apply to you and your daughter. It's not unusual to wait one to two years for a visit. I know that may sound like an eternity, but it's not.

I have absolute proof from my father that cremation doesn't interfere with sending or receiving messages from Beyond. I also encourage everyone else to do what Daddy and I did: Arrange some signs before it's too late. Daddy's setting of the clock faster each day and the haunted toilet that we laughed about before he died are the most enjoyable. It was easy to set these signs up; anyone can do this!

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Susyn:

I am sorry for your loss; there is nothing more heartbreaking than losing a child, especially when there is no apparent cause or reason for their death.

I can assure you that cremation does not interfere with a soul's ability to contact love ones, nor does it take away from one's spirit, so there is no need to be concerned about the manner in which your daughter's remains were handled.

My sense is that she had heart problems that were never diagnosed. Though your daughter's life on earth was short, she was able to do the things she came into the world to do, the most important of which was to give birth to her son.

She is very happy where she is now but misses you and her little boy. She also seems content with how things were handled after her passing, including her cremation and the strong foundation you and your family are providing for her son.

It can take anywhere from six weeks to six months before a spirit gains the ability to start communicating with loved ones. Some don't always make their presence known through dreams. She could indicate that she is near you through touch or tingling sensations, a sudden memory or special song that comes to you out of the blue, or the discovery of her possessions in unexpected places.

When I channel for my clients, their loved ones typically promise to send a message through nature, often in the form of a bird, butterfly or particular animal they were fond of such as a cat, dog or horse.

It is possible that you are too close to this situation to hear or sense your daughter's presence at this time. Seeking the aid of a psychic channeler can help you reconnect with your daughter, answer the unanswered questions you have, and affirm that she is doing okay. Being able to contact and converse with your daughter through a medium can ease your worries and bring you great comfort.

Your daughter may also speak to you through your grandson, as small children are often able to sense spirits. Because their instincts are unfettered by outside influences, they simply find it natural to talk about seeing or interacting with departed loved ones. I suggest you spend more time with him and listen closely for signs that your daughter is near.

Once you're relaxed and feel confident that your daughter is all right, you may be able to connect with her more easily on your own. You'll soon begin to recognize when she is near and be able to send and receive messages with her.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.