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    • Getting Over a Breakup

      by Amy Seward

      I often times have clients who are struggling to move past a recent break-up or they want to know if they will get back together with an ex. Even if we want to go back to a happier time or a relationship that left us sad when it ended, when we focus on the past we cannot live fully in the present and this may be blocking your path to true happiness.

      On the flip side, sometimes the universe will block your forward movement because you are not truly ready for it. If you need to go through a period of grieving the past, do so in the healthiest way by looking towards the future.

      “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.” ~Unknown

      The next chapter for you will be richer if you focus on the path ahead, be it with your ex in a new realm or someone new. Just know the energy that you give out when you are stuck in the past does not welcome new relationships into your life, at least not healthy ones.

      No one wants to go through the pain, sadness or loneliness of a breakup. In my mid 20’s I ended a 5 year, very serious relationship (he had bought the ring). I knew we were close to making a bigger commitment but he had broken my trust many times in the relationship and as I looked towards a future with him I knew I no longer wanted this. The relationship ended abruptly and all contact with him was severed, like a death. As I look back I realize it had to end this way, as the relationship was only going in one direction and I no longer wanted this even though I still deeply cared for him.

      I used to wonder why the relationship went on for so long and recall that I always focused on the good things and pushed away the bad. It was like I only wanted to read the good parts of the story and ignore the bad. When I finally moved on from this relationship I went through a long period of sadness. But, I never looked back. I took time to visualize what I really wanted in my future and became so much stronger in doing so.
      So how do you move beyond your past? Closure, really has no set formula, you have to find the formula that works for you. For me it was making even more changes than the breakup itself, it was making a dramatic change to my hairstyle, moving to a different part of the city, living alone for the first time in my life, and taking time to connect with my friends and travel to new places. I had to put myself in situations that were unfamiliar and uncomfortable (like blind dates, or online dating). But as I put myself out there, I started a new chapter and become happier than I had been in years. The more I put positive energy out to the universe, the more positive energy I received back.

      Looking backwards should never be your focus, you have a choice how you react to every situation in your life, so look inward and forward! The sooner you move on to the next chapter, the richer your life can become.

      “You can’t skip chapters that’s not how life works. You have to read every line, meet every character. You won't enjoy all of it. Heck, some of the chapters will make you cry for weeks. You will read things you don’t want to read, and you will have moments so amazing you don’t want the pages to end. You have to keep going. Stories keep the world revolving. Live yours, don’t miss out!” - Unknown

       

      Amy Seward is a Psychic Medium, Astrologer and Tarot reader with over 20 years experience. Her keen ability to tune into your problems and provide stellar guidance is unparalleled. Visit her link to get your first reading with Amy free! Free Reading with Amy

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    • Double Vision: Is there a religion that spirit recommends?

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      I don’t know if either of you are aligned with any religion in particular, but if you had to pick one, which one would you pick? I know you’ll probably say that there are many paths to God and they’re all beautiful and wonderful in their own way, but surely there are some that are truer and more powerful than others. Is there a religious path that spirit recommends?

      Dreamchaser:

      I was raised a fundamental Southern Baptist. I was in church every time the doors opened. In my view, there is something wrong with any organization that has a six-year-old child literally terrified all the time.

      I was constantly praying for forgiveness just in case Jesus came back. I was afraid to do or say anything because it was a sin and I would burn in hell. I could not dance. I could not wear pants. I could not cut my hair. The list goes on and on and on. As soon as I was old enough to make up my own mind, I broke away from the church and went the complete opposite way. I went buck wild and made some really bad choices, but after years of searching, I found what works for me.

      I am not aligned with any organized religion; I follow my own path. I know what is right and what is wrong for me. What works for me is to always tell the truth, to always be helpful to those around me, and to treat people like I would want to be treated. I stand up for myself, and if someone offends me, I call them out on it. If I do something wrong to someone, I apologize as soon as possible. Every morning before I get out of bed, I pray, asking spirit to guide and protect me.

      I also create my day. Whatever I want for that day, I say three times over. Only then will I get out of bed. I walk with spirit all day, every day. I pay attention to things around me. If an animal crosses my path, I find out what that animal means to me. I look up all the time at the trees and the sky and the birds.

      No one can tell you what religion will work for you. There is also not a religion that spirit says is better than any other. What builds up your soul and power is the one for you. I cannot say that one path is more powerful or true than any other path.

      For example, I am sure that some Christians believe I am going to hell because I am a psychic and I do not go to church. However, if you ask a Christian, they feel their path is the one true path that it is blessed by God, and people who follow other paths are going to hell for being unbelievers. There is no one true religion. As my profile says, “Religion is for people who believe in hell. Spirituality is for people who have been there.” Ask spirit to guide you to the path that best works for you. You will find it.

      I wish you a fulfilling form of worship that makes you feel whole and one with all that is.

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      Astrea:

      My very best friend is a Christian, and when he says, “The smart money is on Jesus,” I always cringe. How absurd is that statement? What he doesn’t realize is that all gods are one.

      You’re right, there are many paths to spirit, and no path is any better or more powerful than another. God loves all of us equally and the same, no matter what name we call God by, or how we choose to celebrate God in our own lives.

      While the right church can help you connect to spirit, this is a very personal choice to make. Are you looking for acceptance in a community of your peers, or seeking God? Certainly in the U.S., Christianity is the most popular religion. If it’s acceptance you want and you’re an American, then Christians are your safest bet.

      Are you more interested in studying religion than getting actively involved in it? The Jewish faith is very studious, and will connect you to God in that way. If you’re seeking personal peace, you might try exploring Buddhism. If you’re a rebellious sort, check out the pagans who seem to be getting more popular in the U.S. every day. When I was searching, I tried everything that was available to me before I made up my mind.

      Organized religions compete like sports teams, and mostly they’re competing for money. That’s why they have such a hard sell. The fundamentalist Christians in the United States are one of the best organized, richest groups in the world. If you’re looking for the power in numbers, they’ve got it at the moment.

      However, their converts seem to come from fear of God. True Christians, by contrast, seem to flow with God from love. While Allah is praised by Muslims and Buddha by Buddhists, deep down God is God and the God in you knows very well that all gods are one.

      No matter what path you take, religion is a deeply personal experience for those who are truly seeking to know God. It doesn’t matter where or with whom you’re worshiping the deity of your choice – all that matters is that you feel the deity in your spirit and take that out into your world and do good works.

      All religions help others and strive to make the world a better place. The answer to your question is to find the spiritual path that speaks to you in a way that moves you to do good for others and to live a life of exceptional love. Letting the God in you out to the rest of the world is difficult enough without trying to find one religion that is better than all the rest.

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