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    • NO JUDGMENT: BE HONEST AND KIND WITH YOURSELF

      An excerpt from The Clutter Remedy: A Guide to Getting Organized for Those Who Love Their Stuff,

      by Marla Stone

      Decluttering effectively requires self-honesty, since the goal is to remove from your home whatever is inauthentic, out of date, and burying or blocking your authentic self and aspirations. As you do, little and big gems of understanding will fall into your lap, astounding and dazzling you. Clearing up hazy half-truths and stupefying, self-defeating behaviors clears the path to becoming a champion and builder of your empire.

      Ironically, one of the things people discover is how they could have fooled or misled themselves about their own lives, often with good intentions, yet in very unsettling ways. Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy are innocent, well-meaning untruths, but as a child
      I remember feeling a little squeamish when I realized I had been duped. Since then, it’s made me wonder: Do these early fictions teach us that it’s okay and sometimes preferred to lie and dupe ourselves? To tell “little white lies” or say yes when we want to say no? To pick a career that does not interest us because parents or society convince us that it is the only way to succeed? Or to choose a particular path because we think it will be the only thing we will be good at? Are we supposed to deny what we enjoy because others will judge us or we believe it’s wrong? When people are confused about what they want in life, the Clutter Remedy is an excellent process for recognizing personal truth.

      For this reason, I always advise people to approach decluttering from the stance of “no judgment.” See clearly, be honest, and avoid blame. Foster unconditional love and regard for yourself. Be kind, no matter what you discover. By going through this process, you’ve committed to remedying the accumulated clutter in your space, and this usually requires seeing and addressing your inner clutter: the issues, emotions, pain, and untruths that led to it. No one, including yourself, is allowed to judge you, criticize you, or complain about how much you own, how you collected it, or what you will keep. No one should be eyeing your stuff for themselves. It’s your stuff and nobody else ’s business. Accepting your clutter as you find it, without feeling shame or regret, is the optimal stance. This will help you see more clearly and will help you recognize any negative patterns and attitudes that you will want to work through prior to going through all your stuff. Focusing on blame and getting mired in judgment will only stress you out and bog you down.

      One thing that helps make the experience fun and uplifting is to remember that everything you own was chosen for a reason. You acquired things with good intentions; they were useful or they served a purpose or you simply loved them. So when you look at your possessions objectively, ask yourself, “Why is this in my real estate? Why did I think this was a good idea?” You could have chosen certain items because they reminded you of good times. Or they were expensive items that conveyed a certain status you desired. We buy and keep items for lots of reasons. Some items you find during decluttering will remain useful and serve a purpose and still be loved, while some will make no sense at all. Remaining nonjudgmental and enthusiastic rather than ashamed
      and befuddled over your stuff is easier when you see how it relates to your core values. Remember, the goal of decluttering is to create an organized, satisfying, and productive lifestyle.

      Marla Stone, MSW, is the owner of I-Deal-Lifestyle Inc., which provides decluttering, design, corporate training, and lifestyle coaching services. She is a former social worker and psychotherapist turned professional organizer who helps people live an ideal lifestyle by getting to the root of their mental, emotional, spiritual, and environmental challenges. She lives in Orange County, California. More information at www.i-deal-lifestyle.com

      Excerpted from the book The Clutter Remedy. Copyright © 2019 by Marla Stone. Printed with permission from New World Library.

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    • Double Vision: Spiritual Reasons for Infertility?
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      I understand that there are physical reasons for infertility, but I also understand that everything physical has spiritual roots. Are there metaphysical reasons that some women are more fertile than others? Is it possible that there are blocked chakras or something that would prevent conception, or issues that may cause miscarriages? Do past life experiences play a big role here? Is it possible to work on a spiritual level in order to overcome fertility problems? Thanks for any insights you can offer.

      – Liz

      Dreamchaser:

      Past life issues like karma can absolutely affect things in this lifetime. As sad as it is to say, sometimes a woman’s infertility is due to a karmic issue, and often, this won’t make a whole lot of logical sense to us in this lifetime. In the big scheme of things and over the course of a soul’s entire journey, however, it absolutely makes sense.

      There are also times when the man in the relationship is the infertile one, and the woman is able to bear children, but she has to suffer along with him. You can bet there is some karmic issue from a past life that needs clearing between these two beings.

      There are times when a soul will choose to be miscarried, aborted, or stillborn so that it can fulfill some path of its own. Again, this is one of those things that make no sense to us here, but on the Otherside, it makes perfect sense. Those particular souls thank you and other women like you who help them fulfill that aspect of their soul’s path.

      Being adopted myself, I am very pro-adoption. Please give this some thought. There are lots of children who are born to two particular parents because they need the DNA those parents can give them. Once these children are born with that DNA, they may no longer need those parents.

      These children are often orphaned or end up in the adoption system for some reason. In all cases, those children need loving, supportive homes and families to care for them while they’re growing up. If you are unable to bear your own biological children, you might consider taking in someone who needs you even more than you need them.

      Finally, you might want to ponder if you are blocking conception with your belief system. Do you believe you can have a baby? Do you believe you deserve one? Do you believe that after all the things you have done in your past that you should be entrusted with the care of another human being?

      Do you see where I am going with this line of questioning? If we don’t believe we can have something, that thing will not come to us. Make sure that your belief system is in line with what you want.

      It is absolutely possible to work on a spiritual level to overcome any type of physical problem. I know that a lot of people will disagree with this, but I have personally helped a woman with terminal liver cancer heal simply by working with Reiki and her belief system. I KNOW that we can heal our bodies with our minds. Do you believe you can do it? That is the essential question.

      I wish you fulfillment on all levels.

      *****

      Astrea:

      Infertility seems to be a growing problem for young women all over the world.

      No matter how carefully you examine your timing for trying to become pregnant, I find that babies come when THEY want to come, and to the people THEY want as their parents. Some people get lucky with their parental choices, and some don’t. I don’t know if there is anything a future parent can do to control when conception happens, but there are certainly many avenues to explore.

      I have heard from many Lightworkers that a blocked heart chakra can be one metaphysical reason for infertility. Chakras can be blocked for many reasons, but even physical problems can be cleared by an expert healer.

      Clearing the chakras is simple. Visit a Buddhist temple and engage one of the monks to clear them for you. This usually costs around fifty to a hundred dollars. Even if you’re not Buddhist, these monks are usually very sweet, kind, and receptive.

      If you meditate on your own, there are a number of self-clearing acts you can try. Sitting quietly and seeing light travel from your toes to your nose and then out the top of your head is a simple way to get your energy flowing. Pull light energy in from your lowest to your highest chakra, being careful not to let the energy escape when it reaches the Third Eye.

      Spinning either fiber or your body is another great way to clear yourself. In fact, throughout history, women have used spinning to concentrate their energies in meditation, visioning, and clearing their spirits.

      The bad energy is repelled from the force of whatever is turning, and spins away from you and out into the Void. Spinning of the body in a clockwise motion draws energy, while spinning in a counter-clockwise direction clears energy.

      If you choose to spin your body, lower your left hand and raise your right as you spin. Allow the energy to flow from the right (God) hand through the left (Goddess) hand, and then out of you and down into the accepting Earth. You’ll get dizzy, but you’ll feel better afterwards.

      If you’d like to try spinning fiber, you can start with everyday cotton balls, a stick, and a small potato! If that sounds like a waste of the potato, a fine sturdy spindle can be made from little wooden wheels sold in craft stores. Spinning instructions are readily available on the internet.

      Most of the time, infertility issues are physical, so you should of course consult a medical specialist who knows what she’s doing. It never hurts to be spiritually open and clear, however, so give spinning and other spiritual treatments a try.

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