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by Tammy Mastroberte

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

My grandmother on my mom's side passed away on New Year's Day when I was only five years old. I grew up in the Catholic religion and was told she was in heaven and looking down on me. But as a child, all I wanted was to have her back.

It was 17 years later that my mother died suddenly of a brain aneurism, only three days after Christmas, and we buried her on New Year's Eve. By this time, I was 22 years old, but it didn't change how I felt. Again, all I wanted was to have her back.

However, this time it was different. I grew up with my mother talking about signs she received from her mom, either in a dream or a song on the radio. I didn't really understand it until my mother started sending me signs after she died—and she sent a lot of them.

I often shared them with friends and family members, and would always hear, "You are so lucky. I wish I got signs from my dad!" or, "Wow, that is awesome. I don't ever hear from my brother who passed 10 years ago." At first, I thought the same thing, agreeing I was really lucky, but then I realize it wasn't luck, and that we are all getting signs. It's just that nobody has ever taught us how to listen and notice them.

This launched me into creating a process for others to start receiving and understanding signs from the their loved ones, angels, guides, and the Universe itself based on what I was doing, and it's now the subject of my book The Universe is Talking to You: Tap Into Signs and Synchronicities to Reveal Magical Moments Every Day.

One of the exercises I share in the book, and with my students and clients, is to actually assign a sign to a loved one. The idea came to me after interviewing a medium for Elevated Existence Magazine. She told me her husband took his birthdate, multiplied it, and told his loved ones and the Universe to use it to let him know they were around it. And that is when it hit me...I was actually doing this without realizing it!

Here is how it played out:

My mom would send a sign, like her name (MaryAnn) or her birthdate May 9 (0509).

I would notice the sign and say hello, and be so excited I got it. I would thank her and tell other people about it.

She would see that I accepted the sign and recognized it was her, and so she would use that sign again...and again.

In a way, I was assigning her signs, and as I accepted more of them, she would continue to use them to get my attention. That is when I created my "Assign a Sign" exercise, and the best part is that you can use this exercise to assign a sign to each loved one you would like to communicate with, as well as any archangels, guides, or masters you would like to open a dialogue with in your life.

For example, if you are on a healing journey, you could assign a sign to Archangel Raphael, who is known as a healing angel, to use. Also, if you don't know who the name of your guardian angel, you could just assign them a sign to use. You could even assign a sign to your team of guides as a whole collective.

In doing this, you will begin to create a reference guide unique to you, your loved ones, and your angels. You won't need a dictionary of signs because often—especially when it comes to our loved ones who have passed—the signs are unique to you and your life. As you start to assign signs, and then recognize them when they arrive, this will help open the door to you noticing other signs being sent to you as well.

How to Assign a Sign
Here are the steps you can take right now to assign a sign to a loved one, angel, guide, or master, and this process can be repeated for each spirit you would like to work with or hear from—just do only one at a time, and repeat the process with someone new after you received the sign you asked for from each person.

Step 1: Pick who you would like to receive the sign from, whether it's a loved one who has passed on, your guardian angel, your team of guides, or Goddess Lakshmi to let you know wealth is on its way to you.

Step 2: Now pick what sign you would like to assign to them to use with you. If it's a loved one, you could choose their first name, their birthdate, their favorite flower, or something else you know would remind you of them. For example, if you dad loved squirrels you could ask him to use a squirrel to get your attention. You could also assign a flower or animal to your guardian angel, or even a number that is significant to you in some way.

Step 3: Assign the sign using this prayer:

Dear Universe, I call in my angels, guides, loved ones who have passed on and all those in my soul society—only those of the highest vibration—to be with me right now. I call upon [state the name of who you are giving the sign to] specifically because I would like to communicate with you. I would like to give you the sign of [state the sign you are giving them] to use in order to let me know you are around me, or helping me in some way. I know I may have been missing signs you have sent in the past, but I promise to be open to them moving forward, and I will accept it when they arrive. Please use it within 24 to 48 hours. I also ask all my angels and guides to help me be open to the sign and recognize it when it comes across my path. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Amen.

Accepting the Sign
The other important piece to mention— it may seem obvious—is to accept the sign when it comes. Believe it or not, it's easier said than done. So many times, people get a sign from of loved one or the Universe, and they second-guess it or question it. They wonder if it really is a sign. They call friends to get their opinions. They talk themselves out of it, and then a huge opportunity is missed.

If you ask for a sign, and you recognize it when it comes, then be sure to say "yes" to it. Accept it, celebrate it and be grateful for it, and you will open the door to more.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2020. All rights reserved.

I dreamed that I was at my wedding and about to marry my husband, but then I realized that he wasn't there. I looked for his family and they weren't there either, so I picked up a white rose, and through my mind, I was talking to my husband. Then someone from his family called, saying he was dead. I was in front of a coffin with my husband in it, crying in my wedding dress. Then I touched his hand and it was hot; my hands were cold compared to his. I told everyone he was actually alive and that I had talked to him. He opened his eyes and then rescheduled the wedding. He ended up not being there again! He had gone up North. I called him and he said he totally forgot the date. I was crying. I left the wedding and went somewhere where I looked in a mirror and my sister said that I was beautiful and if he didn't want to marry me, then someone else out there would. My husband came down looking for me but I was hiding from him. He found me and I told him, If you don't want to marry me, then someone else will. He embraced me and just kept on repeating, I'm sorry. I love you. Then I woke up and started crying because all I could think about was my husband in a coffin.

Adileny

Susyn:

There is a theme running through this dream that contains important messages for you. I believe the entire dream is about you and some hidden fears you are carrying.

Typically, when a person dreams about a loved one dying, it implies that a change is needed. This does not mean a physical change, but speaks to an emotional or intellectual adjustment that needs to be made. This dream is not prophesizing the death of your husband. This is clear because he was mistakenly identified as having died in the dream, then you were able to feel the heat and life in his body, after which he opened his eyes and rescheduled the wedding.

Here your husband is serving as a catalyst for the doubt and fear this dream evoked within you. There may be a part of you deep in your subconscious that tells you that you are not lovable and do not deserve your husband. These issues come to light when he does not show up for the wedding, when he forgets about it after having failed to be there the first time, and when your sister tells you that if he does not marry you someone else will. These elements suggest a lack of self-confidence and fear that your relationship is out of balance.

The fact that you were wearing a wedding dress and prepared to be married twice during the dream also suggests that you feel some distance or some misunderstanding. While you are totally committed to the relationship, these scenarios indicate a possibility that he may be pulling back or acting distant. Depending on what is going on between you and your husband, this dream could represent a block in communication or the need to be more expressive in how you feel about one another.

Dreams like this remind us to appreciate the people we hold dearest in our hearts. People become so busy with the outside world that they often forget to acknowledge their loved ones. You may want to journal about how things are going with you and your husband to discover if some changes need to be made; perhaps you need to spend more time together or have a heart-to-heart talk.

The white rose in your dream represents the spiritual aspects of your marriage. With the rose in your hand, you were able to speak to your husband on a spiritual level even though he appeared to be dead. Take this as a sign to build on the soul connection between the two of you and as a reminder that prayer and meditation can ease the upset this dream created and enlighten you to what you need to do to improve the relationship.

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Mata:

I don't feel this dream has anything to do with your husband dying. Since dreams are generally symbolic, it may not even have anything to do with your marriage, but instead be about some other huge desire and your fears that you won't be able to bring it together, perhaps because some other party involved will cause it to die before it really gets going. If you can pinpoint some undertaking you are considering that you fear you will be unable to bring to fruition, you have your answer.

However, if the wedding were a metaphor for something else, you would tend to have other dreams about the same issue that employ different scenarios. For example, you might first dream of this as a thwarted wedding, then dream that you were trying to get to the airport for an important trip but the taxi driver you hired didn't show up, and when you called another taxi, that driver kept going the wrong way. Since the wedding metaphor remained consistent, odds are good that this is about your marriage.

I would not at all be surprised if you've been feeling a bit unfulfilled in this area of your life and perhaps even considering giving up on your marriage fulfilling all your dreams for love. All marriages go through ups and downs. In fact, I have never met someone married for any significant length of time who didn't at some point feel pretty frustrated or dissatisfied.

I feel you are working through some relationship issues in this dream. Here the white rose you used to communicate with your husband is a symbol of pure love; it is the true love you carry for each other that keeps you together despite the many challenges of marriage, that keeps you communicating even when it seems impossible to understand each other.

It's probably safe to assume that the reason you've not been completely happy in your marriage is because you don't feel your husband is as passionately committed and devoted to your relationship as you are, for in this dream, we see him failing to step up and be there for you when you really need him to be. This dream suggests that whether you are conscious of it or not, you want him to pay more attention to you, show up in your marriage, and make you a higher priority in his life.

Your sister represents a part of you that loves and believes in yourself. This healthy party of you is telling you not to give up on your dreams even if it means you have to rock the boat to get your husband to stop taking you and your devotion for granted.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.