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by Ileana Abrev

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

If you can make the future of your unborn child emotionally balanced, guilt-free, and ooze with nothing but positive energy, would you do it? Of course, you would! How could you not?!

Mindful Mama guides you through each week of your gestation journey from conception to the end of the pregnancy whilst using positive affirmations, meditations, and nature's most pressures gifts (such as crystals, flowers, essential oils, the flame of a candle, music, and the chakras).

Mindful Mama helps you, the mother-to-be, remain positive, calm, and most importantly, stress-free throughout your pregnancy. Nurturing your unborn child in this New Age of Pregnancy, you will be creating a well-grounded and self-assured individual in the future.

Mindful Mama is not a substitute book for prenatal care or medical advice (to which you should always adhere), but it is a book about loving the experience of pregnancy and pampering yourself, and to also recognise that pregnancy is the ultimate tool to prepare your unborn child for a bright future.

Within the book, each week of your pregnancy starts off with a positive affirmation, followed by what baby is doing that week, what the mother to be can expect, and things that the mother can do to manifest a loving, happy and peaceful womb experience.

Staying centred and mindful during your pregnancy is a fundamental part of creating life. You will be the vessel, the mainframe that transfers energy signals and thoughts through the connectedness between the two life forces.

If you, the mother-to-be, feel emotionally happy, that energy automatically passes to the baby and in turn, the baby feeds from all that wholesome happiness and nurtures from it. But, if you are troubled due to emotional stress or any unforeseen negative emotional situation, those energies unconsciously transfer through the connectedness you both share and the baby does nurture from it. In short, the baby does feed and nurtures from both positive and negative energy.

By being mindful, you have control over what your child takes from the womb experience. You can't hide the sorrows or the ups and downs of life, but you can sure try to minimise the impact of those negative emotions to the child you carry by asking yourself, "How can I contribute to my future child's future?"

Well, this is how you can start!

Mindful Tips
Journal
Buy (or, better still, make) a journal to keep and remember every single precious moment of this wonderful experience. Use colourful paper if you like, and paste pictures and even your baby scans. Write down how you are feeling throughout the weeks and months of the journey. You can even do an electronic journal, and turn t into a photo book down the track! You never know—one day, you may want to share it with your own child or their in-laws, and by you actually taking the time to make it, it becomes even more precious.

Flowers
Flowers can bring a smile to your face and to your home. Flowers warm the soul, and when your soul sings, so does your baby's. Use flowers as a focal point throughout your pregnancy to help you relax and stay focused (not to mention enhance the beauty of your pregnancy). Their essence is quite calming and nurturing. Use them as a reminder that all is well and all will be as it should be.

Music
Play music that uplifts your soul and makes you happy, but most importantly, play the music that helps you to relax. Whatever music you play during your pregnancy, your child will relate it to in the future. There is nothing more rewarding than your child loving the same music you do. This can be a wonderful bonding tool in the future that you both will cherish in the years to come.

Crystals
Make crystals an integral part of your pregnancy to connect to and communicate with your baby. By wearing, carrying, or displaying a crystal for a specific purpose, you can communicate that need to the baby. Be it for health, love, or happiness, crystals are excellent spiritual tools to ignite your baby's spiritual path while in the womb. Crystals can make you feel more connected to the baby while creating a bond from the onset of your pregnancy. Crystals can ignite your child's future intuition with nothing but love, happiness, and wellbeing.

Meditation
Find time to meditate. Meditation calms the mind from the worries and the stressors of the day. Meditation connects you to the baby to strengthen your child's growth and development by creating a peaceful womb experience. You can meditate just about anywhere, even while walking or doing house chores! By being in tune with your body and the life growing within you, you can clear your mind and stay focused on the many tasks ahead. Meditation can conquer your day, leaving you more rested and at peace with your surroundings and the life growing within you will benefit from the practice.

Visualisation
Visualisation is a conscious daydreaming practise and a must while pregnant. By creating a guided positive imagery, you can accomplish a positive outlook on the things that you need, want, or that help you remain happy, calm, and loving throughout your pregnancy. By actively telling yourself something positive, you can make it happen. You can make your self feel that positive affirmation that can transform your day by simply saying things like: "I love the way I look pregnant," or, "My baby is growing healthy and strong." You can manifest your intent for the benefit of the life growing within you and your state of well being.

Color
Color can bring a smile to your face while pregnant; it seeps into your body like a luscious moisturiser to create a need or a positive emotion. Each color has a purpose, and it can be an excellent companion to your pregnancy. By wearing or displaying a specific colour, you create the mood needed to benefit your health, to nuture your baby, and to create a positive environment throughout your pregnancy.

Candles
Candles warm the soul and bring peace to your home. The flame of a candle is the fighting and courageous spirit within us all. Candles can also bring peace and harmony to the home and to your pregnancy. The glow of a candle can do wonders at the end of a busy or stressful day. When you see the burning flame, you will settle into a state of calmness; it connects you to a higher state of being, and, most importantly, it can connect with your growing bundle to pass those easy comfortable and peaceful energies to your baby.

Baths
A bath is a great way to relax and connect with your baby. A bath relaxes your aching body like nothing else can, and it brings peace to your mind and emotions. Having a bath can connect you to your baby on an emotional level like nothing else can, as water acts as a conduit to pass and connect emotions to your unborn child. When you add colour, herbs, flowers, and even essential oils to your bath, you can create a wondrous emotional relaxing experience for your baby to settle nicely into its weightless comfort.

Essential Oils
The scent of safe essential oils is something you will love using during your pregnancy. Your house will benefit from their scent and energy to create a loving and peaceful oasis you can feel comfortable with during your pregnancy. Essential oils are a great way for your unborn child to develop an intuitive future when older. Essential oils make you feel loyal to your pregnancy to do the right thing by you and your developing child. Breath in their connection to the Universe so can stay connected to your womb and your child.

Chakras
The Chakras are the seven life centres that reside within all of us. Each of these Chakras has a name and a colour. Each one has a function with our spiritual and emotional body to keep us emotionally balanced. While pregnant, these Chakras can become out of tune just like a musical instrument can. We need to tune the Chakras once in a while to stabilise our emotional bodies. We can do this with positive affirmations, wearing a colour that will active or pacify a particular Chakra, listening to music, meditating, burning candles, using essential oils, or with crystals. Also, keep in mind that your child is also developing its own little chakras while in the womb. Be mindful of your emotions, take time out, don't get involved in the dramatic emotions of others, and communicate with your womb every single chance you get to enforce a peaceful and happy womb experience with you baby.

Your Home
Bring things into your home that make you happy to create a peaceful ambience you can connect and be happy with.

Bringing Baby Home
Create a space you are proud to bring your baby home too. Choose colours to create the emotions you want your child to have and settle down in the baby's room.

Partner
Include your partner in this wonderful journey and make them a part of the experience. Don't let them feel they are being left out. You are both in this together. If you are doing this journey on your own, make sure you have friends and a support group you can call upon so you don't feel alone but loved and comforted to know that there is always someone on whom you can count.

Exercise
The labour room will test your fitness, so keep active as much as you can and make exercise a companion to your pregnancy. Walking and swimming are on top of the list to keep your mind, soul and physical fitness.

Overall
Eat the right things. Don't overindulge in the things you know are not good for you and for your pregnancy. Quit smoking and drinking. If you are having problems doing so, please seek help to do so. Lastly, be kind to yourself! Doing so will make you "The Mindful Mama" of this wonderful journey.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2020. All rights reserved.

I have a coworker who is a bully. She has caused problems for others in my department, and recently I caught her slandering me. I had my boss help me confront her, after which she blabbed to everyone about what I had accused her of saying. (I had told only my boss.) Now she wants a letter of apology. I tried the freezing tool Susyn recommended but it hasn't helped. What should I do?

Susyn:

It sounds like this coworker is not your only problem. If others have had trouble with this bully yet your boss still repeated what you said to her, your boss may be making things worse, for now she may feel she has control of the situation and can do whatever she wants. If your boss refuses to appropriately deal with this troublemaker, you may have to freeze him as well. When a negative person has a great deal of power, it can take two or three freezings for the spell to be effective. However, because this situation appears to involve a number of people, more action may be required.

There is great power in numbers. If you can speak with the other people she has troubled and join forces with them, you may be able to write a group letter to your bossí supervisor. If you and your coworkers don't feel comfortable with this approach, you can each perform rituals to disarm this woman. For starters, you might have everyone who has been affected by her try the freezing ritual.

It does not sound like you or your coworker plan to leave the company soon, so here are a few rituals you can try in the office to create more protection around you. You can also share these with others who are looking for a solution.

Start with color therapy to deflect this personís energy. Indigo, yellow and white can create an invisible barrier around you and add to your protection. You might wear clothing or gemstones in these hues, put flowers on your desk, or place objects in your desk drawer to generate a deflective aura.

The color indigo encourages clarity of thought and speech. It will protect you from saying too much or giving away information she can later use to attack you. Yellow represents personal power; it will create an aura of confidence around you that will make her think twice about bullying you. White will surround you with spiritual protection and strengthen your intuition so you can move with wise awareness when around her.

I would also recommend you place a mirror in your drawer or carry one in your purse to reflect back to others any negative energy they send your way. When you sense that she is targeting you or preparing to cause trouble, stop and visualize a mirror in front of your power chakra, which is located in the stomach area. This will send any negative energy she aims at you back to her tenfold.

Metaphysically, the Universe is offering you an important lesson through this experience. Once you've learned how to speak up for and protect yourself, her antics should subside.

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Mata:

Since some of your coworkers have also had problems with this bully, her behavior is obviously not about you. Knowing this should make it easier for you to not take her behavior personally.

Letting go of your personal feelings about what this person has said and done will lift you above ego and empower you to transform this situation with love and wisdom. It would be wise to let go of needing to look like you triumph over her, for any such desire is a sign that she is dragging you down to her level. In fact, if you truly want to be free, you may have to let her think she has won.

Instead of trying to win this battle, focus on winning the war. By this, I mean strive to lift yourself above all of this drama so you can attract a higher quality of people and experience.

Once you are no longer angry or upset with her because you're not taking any of this personally, you might be able to find your way to feeling some compassion for her. People who are angry and aggressive aren't happy; they are simply externalizing their own fear and pain. This woman is clearly not at peace in her own life and is making enemies right and left; can you imagine how miserable it must be to be her?

Once you feel some compassion for her, your goal is to show her kindness regardless of what she says or does. If you find this difficult, this article by Alan Cohen may inspire you to see the situation in a different light.

If you attempt to kill this bullying with kindness, you may or may not begin to bring out some of this woman's better traits, but you will certainly lift yourself into a higher level of experience. It is essential to be sincere, of course, for what you send out will come back to you. Remember: fighting a bully will lead to more fighting, while making peace with a bully will lead to more peace.

One thing that helps me a great deal is to always remember that what we say about other people is what they believe to be true about us. If this bully calls someone else a liar, people think of her as a liar. The more she talks trash about others, the more despised she becomes.

Similarly, the kinder you are when talking about her, the more you will shine through as a wonderful person. Eventually, nothing bad she says about you will stick. In fact, if you have had nothing but good things to say about her and others, your boss and coworkers will leap to your defense if she or anyone else ever tries to attack your character again.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.