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An Excerpt from Sun Sign Karma by Bernie Ashman

The sign of the zodiac on the day of birth is known as our Sun sign, and it gives each of us unique personalities. Each sign guides us in its own way to make choices that steer us away from karmic patterns that can interfere with our personal road to fulfillment. There is the light of transformation in the framework of each of the astrological signs.


If you were born into the fire sign Aries tribe, you possess a natural expression for displaying fast actions and often can be a risk- taker. Patience and focus come as you gain greater insight into your most important goals. When you channel your inner restlessness productively, life is a happier experience. Your trail-blazing spirit can give you the inner strength to stare down any karmic pattern obstruction in your path.

If you were born into the earth sign Taurus tribe, you are attracted to life experiences that have a stabilizing effect. You likely have a tendency to move carefully with a sense of purpose. You resist change if it is not on your own terms. Your way of staying focused empowers you with a rugged determination to push through any karmic pattern.

If you were born into the air sign Gemini tribe, the universe has given you immense communication power accompanied by a strong mental nature. You are at your best when having multiple life paths to pursue. Your curiosity about a wide variety of subjects keeps your mind stimulated. Your ability to decipher ways to integrate karmic patterns into your life makes for a happier journey.

If you were born into the water sign Cancer tribe, you likely operate with a deep emotional nature. You have a tendency to move cautiously but with an underlying strategy to achieve goals. Finding the right home is highly valued. You are probably very particular about which people you will allow to get close to you. Your powerful intuition can guide you to successfully navigate through karmic patterns.

If you were born into the fire sign Leo tribe, you have a lion-like dramatic self-expression. Your charismatic personality can make you the center of attention. An ability to convince others of your ideas is what often leads to making your dreams come true. It is your willpower that gives you the opportunity to work your way through karmic patterns.

If you were born into the earth sign Virgo tribe, you are gifted with learning skills that bring you new opportunities. People likely perceive you as being analytical and hardworking. Realizing that perfection can be the enemy of the good keeps you happier. It is your tenacity at problem-solving that helps you figure out how to rise above karmic patterns.

If you were born into the air sign Libra tribe, you are likely partnership-oriented. It is not that you can’t be independent but more that you desire to share your life with others. A mental and emotional balance is highly valued. You get clear vision of the past, present, and future when you take the time to recharge your mental batteries. Your drive to seek a sense of inner peace is often the motivation to conquer karmic patterns.

If you were born into the water sign Scorpio tribe, you have a natural tendency to express yourself with deep emotions and passion. Your loyalty to people wins their love and friendship. When you are able to trust your intuition, life seems more user friendly. Your survival instincts are strong, allowing you to overcome obstacles in the path of your goals. It is your determination to experience a true sense of personal power that allows you to not let karmic pat- terns keep you from finding authentic happiness and fulfillment.

If you were born into the fire sign Sagittarius tribe, you were given an inspiring spirit that thrives on seeking adventure. It is your optimism that is the road to new opportunity. People probably perceive you as lucky, and you might wonder why others don’t have such good fortune as often as you do. When you develop a broad life philosophy, the universe rewards you with new stimulating experiences. It is your never-ending positive thinking that prepares you to successfully turn karmic patterns into energies of hope for a brighter today and tomorrow.

If you were born into the earth sign Capricorn tribe, chances are you have a serious demeanor with a strong focusing ability. Ambition colors your thoughts. You have a tendency to be serious about commitments. Your follow-through on a job has no sign rival. You attract responsibility, so you do need to be careful about how much work you accept. You like people you can count on when you need support. Your inner strength magnifies when you trust your ability to succeed. It is your determination to face the reality of karmic patterns when they arise that truly empowers you.

If you were born into the air sign Aquarius tribe, you are an individualist with unique insights. You likely live for the future as the present does sometimes bore you. Your mind tends to enjoy people with new ideas. You probably have a wide variety of friends. Romantic partners are likely friends as well as lovers. Some people see you as aloof, but you like to think of this as remaining objective. Your mental side probably outweighs your emotional expression. It is your unique way to see outside of the box that guides you to learn from karmic pattern energy and put it to creative use.

If you were born into the water sign Pisces tribe, you have a vivid, dreamy imagination that is moved to act on ideals. Some people could perceive you as passive, but you view this as your way of processing your thoughts. You are a romantic with strong feelings. Your inner being can be a poet and artist. Reality is not always what drives you toward success. You are more likely following an inwardly inspired path. You can fall in love with the ideals of a lover. It is your willingness to learn from the past that allows you to treat karmic patterns as teachers gifting you new wisdom.

Each sign has a unique way to inspire us to rise above karmic shadows. Sometimes the lighted path to a sense of rebirth is closer than you think. You will read in the sign chapters in Sun Sign Karma the keys to rising above karmic challenges.

In acupuncture and massage there are pressure points in our body that can be worked on to release bottled-up energies causing discomfort. In a similar way our signs can be tuned and used as a way to release us from the hold of karmic patterns. Each sign contains a magical formula to guide you to let go of shadowy karmic baggage that will lighten your load as you walk your journey through life and find greater relationship fulfillment.

Don’t ever underestimate the transformative power of each astrological sign. The universe works in magical ways through your own sign and the other eleven. Any karmic pattern corresponding to an astrological sign can be lifted out of a negative hold from past incarnations into the radiant light with a refreshed clarity in this life.

BERNIE ASHMAN (Durham, NC) is a highly respected professional astrologer who has been studying, practicing, and teaching for over thirty-five years. He is the author of several books and has contributed to the astrology magazines Dell Horoscope, Astro Signs, The Mountain Astrologer, and Welcome to Planet Earth. Bernie also gives personal readings, conducts lectures, and contributes to astrology software programs. For more visit www.BernieAshman.com.

Excerpt from Sun Sign Karma by Bernie Ashman © 2021 by Bernie Ashman. Used by permission from Llewellyn Worldwide, Ltd.

My husband passed away two months ago. Why haven't I dreamed about him? He didn't even show me signs that he would leave us soon. I have never experienced dreams about departed love ones before, not even my father, whom I loved most. I have been wanting to see and talk to them in my dreams but it's not happening. What does this mean, and what can I do? Please help!

Lanilyn

Susyn:

I know you are anxious to dream about your husband, but these processes can take a bit of time. Also, when your husband's spirit comes to you, he may choose a different manner in which to communicate with you than your dreams. When a loved one leaves us, especially if it's unexpected, we are naturally overcome with emotion and must travel through the grief cycle. Your husband is going through this same process; before he can come to you, he has to acclimate himself to the profound changes he has just experienced. It can take anywhere from six weeks to three months after dying before a spirit is able to communicate with us, so you may need to wait a bit longer before you dream of or hear from him.

As a psychic channeler, even I have had difficulty reaching someone who is newly departed. I recall channeling for a woman who had lost her father six weeks prior. He came to us during the session, but could only write down what he wanted to say, as he was not yet able to communicate directly.

It may seem ironic, but the more profound our feelings of loss, the harder it can be to connect with someone who has passed. If we are still working through our grief and overcome with sorrow, that heaviness can block communication. To connect, we must move beyond this state of shock, which simply takes time. Of course, another factor is how open we are to communicating with spirits in general. This can work both ways: for example, if your father was deeply skeptical of spiritual phenomena, he may have refused to even entertain the possibility. This could explain why he has never visited you in your dreams.

As time passes, spirits become more capable of reaching out to us. While they often appear in our dreams, they can also use other methods to connect with us. Certain smells, favorite songs or unexpected memories are all signals to watch out for. There are endless ways our loved ones can let us know they are near, so you'll have to trust your intuition above all.

If, after three more months, you have still not connected with your husband's spirit, I suggest you schedule a session with a professional medium. During this meeting, you will be able to connect with your husband and share back and forth. The medium may also be able to call in your father so you can speak directly with him as well.

Please keep in mind that not all people dream about their departed loved ones. Luckily, there are many other ways to interact with their spirits that do not involve waiting until something happens. I am confident that your husband's spirit is nearby, and that when he is able, he will reach out to you through your dreams or find some better way to connect with you.

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Oceania:

I'm sorry about your deep disappointment in not being able to meet departed loved ones in your dreams. It's clear that you long to be with them again, and believe a dream rendezvous would help alleviate your sadness and loneliness. You may also be feeling angry given that you lost your spouse without warning or a chance to say goodbye.

I recommend you join a bereavement group, which you can find at a local hospital, church or community center, as it would provide you an opportunity to express your feelings to others who are coping with similar losses. When we can't get what we want, consolation can still be found in sharing our pain, especially with people who understand. Although you miss your loved ones, you might move toward healing by forming new bonds with the living. Though it can be hard to see in the moment, profound loss can lead to unexpected gains and joys.

Although you can't force anyone - living or dead - to communicate with you, you can do your best to express yourself clearly to them. I recommend you write heartfelt letters to your husband and father and then read them aloud while assuming your loved ones can hear you. After that, write letters to yourself from each of them; just let the words flow without analyzing them. This exercise may be the first step in opening up channels of communication between you and the two most important men in your life.

Proactive communication like this can also be applied to the living. Many of the clients I've worked with over the years have expressed sadness about losing touch with family members and friends, while assuming the other person just doesn't care. My clients were almost always welcomed with open arms when they reached out with a sincere desire to reconnect and with an apology for their part in any misunderstandings that may have occurred.

I'm not sure how long ago you lost your father - the person you say you loved most - but if you haven't fully processed that grief, you may be shut down emotionally. You may not realize you have walls up that are keeping you from growing close to others in an attempt to prevent yourself from feeling pain should you lose them too. We lose everyone we love sooner or later, but if we know how to grieve well, we grow to feel confident about our ability to adjust and bounce back. This confidence frees us to love openly and with abandon now and in the future.

Rather than wait for departed loves ones to come to you in your dreams, I hope you'll proactively reach out to them and to any living loved ones you've lost touch with. Reaching out to fellow mourners in a grief group or online forum would be another important step on your path to healing.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.