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    • Divination by Scrying: A Second Sight

      by Marianna Boncek

      (Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

      My interest in scrying started when I bought an "authentic gypsy crystal ball" at an auction house in rural upstate New York. I have no idea whether the crystal ball ever truly belonged to a gypsy or not, but it was a beautiful peace of glass, and I had a keen interest in the metaphysical so I bought my first scrying tool, totally clueless as how to use it.

      Scrying, sometimes called "crystal gazing" is a technique by which a person "gazes" into anything reflective. However, most people use a crystal ball or a scrying mirror. Scrying mirrors are concave opaque pieces of glass. They are very beautiful. However, you can scry on just about any reflective surface; a bowl of water, a piece of metal, a mirror, etc. Some people can even scry in smoke, flames, etc.

      The purpose of scrying is to gain information. Some people believe this information is given clairvoyantly or psychically. Others believe the scrying technique simply clears the mind so information from the Universe or the Source can flow more freely. The information given can be used to answer a whole host of questions and concerns. Sometimes the information given is very literal; the scryer will see visions of real people, places and events. Other times the information is symbolic, like dreams, and must be interpreted.

      In my experience, open eye scrying takes concentration and regular practice. I have found it difficult to focus my attention with my eyes open. I have met people who are natural scryers. They can focus and images begin to appear almost immediately. However, I was never quite got the hang of it. I had, however, been able to gain images, in a relaxed state, on my eyelids, with my eyes shut. It wasn't until I met another person who used the same technique that I realized this was a form of scrying. I'm sure many people would not consider this technique scrying since it does not involve a "tool" outside of the person, such as a crystal or a mirror. However, I have found this to be an effective way to practice scrying technique with my eyes shut. It helps me focus and relax and receive meaningful images.

      Before I begin, let me just say that I have been scrying on my eyelids for most of my life. It began spontaneously when I was a child. However, for people who have tried the open-eyed method and easily become distracted or frustrated this may be a way that is easier and relaxed.

      Before you begin for the first time, you may want to light a candle or incense. Whatever you do to "clear the air" of any negative energies that may be around. If you have a prayer or an incantation that you like, you can say it as you begin to focus. This little ritual of lighting a candle and saying a prayer will often help focus the beginner. Find a darkened place. Try as I might, I cannot scry in bright light. Get in a position that feels comfortable. I do best lying down or reclined. However, if you feel you will fall asleep, sit upright or just slightly reclined. Try a few positions until one feels best for you. As you practice, you will find a position where it is easy to relax and you receive the best images.

      You are going to want to record your images for future reference, interpretive purposes and to check back for accuracy in interpretation, so make sure you have a dedicated journal near by.

      Once you are in a position that feels very comfortable, start relaxing your body and your mind. This is the same as meditation techniques. You will want your body to be in a very relaxed state and your mind in a very alert, yet relaxed state. There are some good relaxation and meditation tapes out there by various companies. You may want to practice relaxation and meditation until you get used to it before you try closed-eye scrying.

      I caution you not to use music when closed-eye scrying. The reason for this is that music can often influence the visions and information you will receive. If you need to use some sort of sound to block out noise, I suggest using "white noise" such as a fan. A fan will block out background noise but will not interfere with the visions or information you are receiving.

      Once you are in a relaxed state turn your attention to your vision with your eyes closed. At first, all you may see are flashes of light. Or you may have an "imprint" of the last thing you looked at before you closed your eyes. In the beginning, it may take a while for the flashes of light or the "imprint" to fade. The most important thing is to not really think about these images. Stay relaxed and alert. Begin to "look" with your eyes closed to see if, in the background, you are starting to see any images appear that are not associated with the undefined images of light you saw when you first closed your eyes. Don't stress, just simply relax and observe.

      Remember those old Polaroid cameras? You took a picture and then slowly an image began to appear. This is what it will be like. In the beginning, you may only see a shadow of an image. That's ok. Just continue to relax and see if it develops into a more distinct image. Make sure you are recording what you see.

      Closed-eye scrying is very similar to "people watching" in the park. When you are people watching, you are sitting, relaxed on a park bench simply watching the people and events around you. You are alert, but you are not involved with what is going on around you. When you are closed-eye scrying, you should feel the same way. You are relaxed and alert. You are simply observing.

      In the beginning, try your closed-eye scrying for fifteen minutes. When you are done, write down any images you saw, even if they are shadowy. Eventually, the images will start to become clearer and more distinct. Then the images will start to move, and you will begin to see scenes.

      I have had only a few experiences of clear clairaudience; that is, the ability to actually hear what is being said in the images I am observing. However, I do know clairvoyantly what people are saying in the scenes I am watching. I get an inner sense.

      If you find a scene unfolding in a manner that feels uncomfortable to you, simply open your eyes. You will probably note you are breathing heavier and no longer relaxed. Allow your breathing to return to a relaxed state and then get up and do another activity. Do not return to an uncomfortable scene. Don't over intellectualize. Don't ask yourself, "Am I really seeing this or is it just my imagination?" If you find yourself doing that you are not a relaxed observer. Just let the images appear as they come. Try not to make judgments about yourself or the images. Above all, don't worry if you are doing it "right." There is no "right" or "wrong" way to scry.

      Interpreting the Information
      Interpreting the information you receive is an art, just like closed-eye scrying is. It will take time for you to learn to interpret the information you receive. Remember, often times you will get information symbolically. I use a very simple technique I learned at the Association for Research and Enlightenment in Virginia Beach, Virginia. I attended a lecture at their visitor's center about dream interpretation. This technique is very easy to use and gives very good results.

      Steps:

      • Fold a piece of paper in half long ways
      • On the left hand of the paper write down the elements of the scene you experienced during your closed-eye scrying.
      • On the right side of the paper, write down what you think those symbols may mean.

      Let's say, you saw a black dog come out of the woods at your grandmother's house and eat her prized flowers. Consider first, what does a "black dog" mean? It could mean something dangerous, particularly if you don't like dogs or the dog seemed mean. Next, consider grandmother's house. Perhaps, you always felt safe and secure at grandmother's house. Lastly, the prized flowers. Those are something grandmother spent time and energy on. Those were something very important to your grandmother. Now, synthesize the symbolism. In this scene, you may feel something is threatening your grandmother's or your own sense of well-being. This type of interpretation will take practice and review. Go back and review your interpretations. Often times, once you are scrying on a regular basis, some symbols may repeat themselves, for example, every time you see a rose that could mean love. Remember, occasionally, you will receive a disturbing image. For example, maybe you saw a friend killed in a car accident. If you keep in mind, that most of the images will be symbolic, you won't call your friend crying hysterically. You may want to call your friend and say, "I've been thinking of you." You might find out something is happening in his/her life that could be symbolized by a car accident.

      Focused Scrying
      Eventually, you will want to focus your scrying. Maybe you will do this for yourself, your family or friends. This will take more practice. As you light your candle and say your prayer, think about the purpose of your scrying.

      I also use scrying to communicate with people on an astral level. As I relax, I think of the person and the purpose for the communication. I find this very useful when I have had an argument with someone and we are unable to communicate because we are angry. I can communicate my side to the person and listen to his/her side as well. When you do this, note particularly the surrounding. The surroundings can tell you a lot about what the other person is feeling. If the person meets you in a barren field, he/she may still have harsh feelings for you. If he/she meets you a lush garden he/she may be willing to listen. Please do not try to "invade" the images you see. Just relax, be there and speak your heart. Do not try to manipulate the images you receive. Often times, the other person will not even speak.

      You now have the basics of closed-eye scrying. Remember, it will take some practice to get the "hang" of it. The two most important things you can do are; consistent practice and record everything in a journal. Practice is the only thing that will help you get better. Recording everything will let you know what is working and what is not. There is no one correct way to scry using the closed-eye method.

      Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2006. All rights reserved.

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    • Double Vision: How do I reconnect with my teenage son?

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      You and Astrea  are my favorites on the site. I love and appreciate all your readings. My question concerns my son Stephen, born 4/10/86. Lately he has been coming in at all hours and saying we “wouldn’t understand” what he is going through. We think it’s a girl thing. My husband and I try to listen, but he says so little. Is there hope for him to be as close to us as he used to be? We miss the days when he was younger, as he is now in this “cocoon” of his own making. He seems a thousand miles away. I have a hard time believing he’s even the same person anymore. We know he smokes some marijuana, but I honestly do not have a problem with that as long as it’s under control. Do you have any suggestions on how to bring him back to us? Our older son is 22, and he is so much more loving and forthcoming. He tries to help us too. He says he also has some trouble communicating with Steve. He seems to be going through a time of isolation from his family, but he is still very active with his many friends. Is there a spiritual approach/answer?

      – Marcie

      Dreamchaser:

      Marcie, thanks for the compliment; it is much appreciated. I am sure that Astrea is going to cover the Aries Angst that your son is going through, so I will not discuss that.

      There are a few things going on here, the first being his typical teenage behavior. He is at an age when nothing is more important than his friends and his activities. He does not want to stay home, and he does not want to socialize with his family. It is pretty normal. I know your other son was much more sociable with you and your husband, but you gave birth to two very different individuals, so you must expect very different behavior.

      Another thing happening here is his obvious drug use. You are aware of and apparently condone his marijuana use. He has not stopped at marijuana. He is drinking and doing other drugs as well. His behaviors are “symptoms” of deeper drug use. I want you to start vigilantly keeping a log of his schedule, behavior and appearance. You will start to see patterns. I want you to compare those patterns to known drug use symptoms. You have to prove this to yourself to believe it. I am concerned about him. Please do not brush this off. This needs your immediate attention.

      Now, before I tell you the following, I want you to understand that how someone feels is valid. It does not have to be realistic. If I feel like I have ants crawling on me, I will act like I have ants crawling on me. It does not matter if I really do. Having said that, you should know that Steve feels like he is in his big brother’s shadow. I know you and your husband do not dote on the oldest son any more than Steve, but this is Steve’s perception. That is one reason why his brother is having a hard time reaching him. Find something Steve excels at in his own right and emphasize that. It may be slow going, but over time it will make a difference.

      The spiritual approach to this is to pray. Pray for guidance and wisdom. Pray for Steve and his soul. Most of all, Marcie, pray for the ability to let go so that he can learn his own lessons. That could very well be the hardest thing about being a parent. He is searching for himself and his own way. He will find himself. It will take a little time, but he most definitely will find himself.

      I wish you and yours true contentment.

      *****

      Astrea:

      I’m glad you have an open attitude about the pot smoking, but keep a weathered eye, okay? Aries youngsters can become excessively involved in things. Aries is the first sign, and often wants to “do it until it is all gone.” Compulsive behavior is common in Aries boys his age.

      Usually with a young Aries boy, I would be somewhat more concerned with gambling being the problem “you wouldn’t understand.” Coming and going at all hours would tip me off to that. Check his pockets, Mama. (You’re still the Mom here!) Is he working? Where is that money going? Heck, just ask him if it’s gambling! He’ll tell you the truth. I know you guys want to be gentle and spiritual with him, but he might be in a little money trouble.

      Mostly, however, it’s this older girl. Yes, she’s older – at least 22. If he’s working, that is probably where he met her. She’s a nice girl: Pretty, cute figure, and immature for her age. She is probably a Scorpio or a Gemini and she’s been hurt but never married. She has nice parents who would just die if they knew she was seeing your 17-year-old son! You’ll like her if this lasts long enough for you two to meet.

      Your son is becoming sexually active with this girl. As I see it, it’s only this one girl, so that’s probably as safe as anything like that can be. She’s older but she doesn’t have any children yet, and she probably wants to keep it that way for now. She has just finished college, and may start teaching grade school (probably third or fourth grade) next fall.

      He thinks he loves her. He is taking care that he doesn’t do anything to hurt you and the rest of the family. He’s cautious, careful. He gets that from you. Aries are terrified of messing up their lives with unplanned kids, and they fear deadly illnesses more than any other sign, so you can be confident that he’s taking every precaution against pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs). He’s a good boy, and knows what’s what. He’s a lot more mature than other boys his age. All these things are blessings for which to be grateful.

      You son is keeping his own counsel right now because he doesn’t want to worry the two of you. Aries people have “secrets.” They just do. There isn’t a whole heck of a lot you can do about that birthday and that attitude. He will come back to you as soon as he gets his big head thinking again. At the moment he’s one big ball of fire sign hormones! You’ll reconnect, don’t worry. Give him his space now to grow.

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