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    • Trance Dance Your Way to Happiness

      by Yasmin Henkesh

      (Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

      Sad? Depressed? Anxious? Stressed? Not feeling good enough—not the right height, the right shape, the right whatever? Wish you could click your ruby red slippers and forever banish self doubt? If so, push back the couch and make a little room—I have something I want you to try.

      Did you know you can dance your way to happiness?

      For the same reason many of us have "chased that disco ball around" after a relationship ended, dancing makes us feel better. In her article "Four Powerful Ways to Live a Joyful Life Today," Amy Leigh Mercree recommended regular exercise to increase happiness in your life. She wrote, "exercise doesn't just make you happy on a physical level, but also on a spiritual one" because it "releases endorphins … causing an analgesic effect [and] a feeling of happiness." What she didn't mention is that exercise also releases serotonin, a neurotransmitter often deficient in people with depression.

      Depression is sadness and self-doubt amplified out of proportion; a bottomless pit, a black hole in a world of brilliant color, an all absorbing, inescapable pit of quicksand. In the developed world doctors usually treat depression with talk therapy (how to avoid excessive discouragement and self-blame through a positive attitude) and behavior modification (daily sunlight exposure, moderate aerobic exercise, and a consistent sleep schedule). In the developing world, however, people with mental illnesses are not so fortunate. Hospitals, let alone psychiatrists, are few and far between—which is why for millennia women in Africa and the Middle East have turned to trance dancing to cure their ills.

      Besides causing the brain to secrete endorphins and serotonin, exercise also causes the electrical impulses generated by the brain's billions of nerve cells (brainwaves) to slow from the higher frequencies of waking consciousness (beta) to the subconscious' lower levels (theta). And when music is added into the mix during dance, the effects are even more powerful. First of all, rhythm and melody become external metronomes for brainwaves to synchronize with. They also tether the awake mind to the physical world, the here and now, while it descends into theta's murky realm of unfiltered impressions and unacknowledged or suppressed emotions. Far more potent than the nebulous images and disjointed story lines of dreams, conscious exploration of your "underworld" frees submerged feelings from their emotional wreckage and allows them to float to the surface. It also disrupts ingrained mental loops by exposing them for what they are—habits adopted as coping mechanisms, which may no longer be necessary or relevant (and in extreme cases might even be harmful). Monsters lurking in the dark are far more scary than when seen in broad daylight. Shine the sun on them and they shrivel. Acknowledge the origin of a problem and the symptoms of its repression will fade away.

      Yet not all forms of dance promote cathartic relief. The key ingredient is improvisation—spontaneous expression. This is because remembering choreography or planning movements activates the self critical functions of the prefrontal cortex, the part of our brain that makes us "human." This region monitors learned behavior, or what people expect of us, and using it only reinforces pre-existing neural pathways, the status quo. Catharsis, relief, and happiness, on the other hand, come when new pathways or ideas are allowed to form, or old ones are examined in a new light. In movement terms, this happens during "flow," when the autonomous nervous system takes over, the body moves on autopilot, and the mind is free to wander. This is why milder forms of trance dancing are referred to as kinetic meditation. They enable you to be a fly on the wall, to objectively experience your body's uncontrolled movements and the ideas it generates in the process.

      So, to return to that couch you just pushed out of the way to make room for a dance floor…

      Let me teach you one of the most popular trance dance movements I came across in Egypt—the "zikr twist." There are many more techniques in my book Trance Dancing with the Jinn; however, this is one of the easiest to do and quite effective. But first, you must learn how to stand!

      Basic stance: Place your feet a little wider than your shoulders, toes pointing forward and knees slightly bent. Straighten and elongate your spine and adjust your pelvic bones so that the tops point up. No arching. Square and center your shoulders, then push them down. No computer slump. On the contrary, you want to open your chest up to heaven. Then elongate your neck as if you were balancing books on your head and let your arms hang loose by your sides. Close your eyes and breathe deeply. Feel your chest rise and fall. Think about everything in your life you are grateful for.

      Zikr Twist: With feet firmly planted, on the first count slowly twist your upper body to look behind you over one shoulder. Allow the arms to wrap around your torso, back hand touching front shoulder and front hand reaching behind to touch the back hip. When hands touch shoulder and hip, you should feel wound up like a spring. On the second count, slowly unwind in the other direction to face front. The arms will swing out and follow in delayed motion. Without stopping, on the third count continue twisting until you can see behind you over the other shoulder. Once again, the arms will wrap around, but with the other arm on top. As before, the back hand touches the front shoulder and the front hand reaches behind to touch the back hip. On the fourth count, switch directions and face front, arms following in belated motion. As the upper body twists, the head turns from side to side. When done slowly, this movement stretches spine and neck muscles and loosens vertebrae. When done quickly, it induces trance by agitating the inner ear fluid. Never twist farther than is comfortable. If you are stiff, just swing your arms and turn your head. For a stronger sensation, tilt the head back as you twist.

      This is just one suggestion of what you can do. Select music with a continuous, fast driving beat and as few silences as possible. Lower the lights, light a candle or incense, and see where you end up. The idea is to keep dancing for twenty minutes or more, without thinking about what you are doing. Allow flow to take over and let your mind wander. Start gently and pace yourself. Close your eyes. Concentrate on the tempo. "Inhabit" the rhythm, then move any way you want to, to whatever beat you hear. Remember, you are dancing for YOU, not anyone else. No one is watching. Whatever feels good is what you should do—for as long as you want to do it. If you want to go down on your knees, dance on your back, squirm on your belly, go for it—do whatever makes you happy; that's the whole point.

      And when you are done, take time for a vision quest. Switch the music to slow and lyrical, lie down, think of a place that makes you happy and close your eyes. As Amy Leigh Mercree said, "Happiness can be a choice"—choose to be happy. Then let your subconscious guide you as to how you can make that happen in your daily life.

      Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2016. All rights reserved.

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    • Double Vision: Can Elderly Demented Visit Lucidly in Dreams?

      My name is Dee, and my birth date is Sept 12, 1965. My father-in-law is dying of dementia, and he has been visiting me in dreams for about six months. He is completely bedridden, can do nothing for himself physically or mentally, and is rarely lucid. The dreams are progressive. Dream #1: We are partying at his house with his departed wife, my husband and two youngest children. Dream #2: It was just him and me, and he was very happy, enthusiastic and loving. Dream #3: It was just him and me again, and he was trying to climb a ladder. Dream #4: It included him, me, my husband, and an old dark-haired lady. He was clearly telling us goodbye, and that he was happy to be going when he was going. When he stood up from his wheelchair to sit on the bed, he fell and the old woman caught him. He was very happy. Dream #5: He told me he wanted an entertainment center with a stereo in his room at the nursing home, because he was bored with the TV and he was going to be here for a while. He’s been fighting death for a long time now, for (his waking self) is afraid to die. Do you believe (as I do) that he is communicating with me in these dreams, and if so, how can I help him to peacefully transition to the other side?

      Dreamchaser:

      It is common knowledge in spiritual circles that people who have any type of illness that causes them to be unconscious or delirious frequently leave their bodies. Certainly, dementia and Alzheimer’s are diseases that make people leave their bodies. It’s the same with comas.

      It has been reported that people in comas can understand what is being said around them, which shows that even though the mind appears to be “shut down,” that person is cognizant on some level of what is happening. I think that people who are suffering like this often choose to leave the physical dimension and explore other realms of experience.

      I have no doubt that your father-in-law was visiting you in those dreams. To you they were just dreams, but to him, they were very real experiences. After he got sick, he began to interact with people and live his life on another plane.

      If you read this column frequently, you know by now that when we sleep, our souls leave our bodies and go where they most need to go. Your soul often hung out with him. You two got along well and so it seemed natural for you to “keep him company” while you were sleeping.

      You can’t, however, help him transition to the other side. He will do that himself when he’s ready to pass. He is already being made aware of his circumstances, and he knows full well the status of his health. When it’s time, he will just cross over to the other world. He is already quite familiar with that realm, so in many ways, dying will be easier for him than it is for most people.

      What you can do for him is just continue to allow yourself to go to him in your dreams and keep him company. When you visit him in person, you can also tell his body, as it lies in the bed, that you enjoy the dreams you two share. The part of him that is conscious and aware will then know that you know what is happening.

      Because of his adventures on the other side, he is becoming less and less afraid to die. I think his fear, by the way, was not so much about what would happen to him, but what would happen to all the loved ones he will leave behind, for his natural instinct is to take care of everyone around him. You can rest assured, however, that he is losing his fear about death.

      Have you bought him an entertainment center yet? You might take him his favorite music and play it, or read a book to him while he’s there. Do, however, turn off the television. When you hear a message like this in your dreams of him, please honor it, for he is trying to communicate with you.

      I wish you both peace.

      *****

      Astrea:

      The conventional explanation for what you’re experiencing with your father-in-law is that you are having “wish fulfillment” dreams. Because you would so like to be able to communicate with dad when you’re awake, your subconscious is creating those scenes in your dreams to ease your mind and prepare you for his passing. You wish he could talk to you in real time, so you dream that it happens, and that’s all this is.

      Do I believe that? Not for one second! I know from personal experience that people in the condition your dad’s in communicate with us just like he’s communicating with you.

      I also understand his fear of letting go. Though his body is worn out, he resists moving on. I feel that in part this is due to some guilt he feels about his family. Maybe he didn’t spend enough time with your husband and his other children. Maybe he was mean to them a time or two. Whatever it is, he is now afraid of facing the consequences for it in the afterlife.

      Many people experience this, and helping them cross over is very hard. Unfortunately, this is one of those things you can’t do for another person; he’ll have to find the strength to cross over on his own.

      What you can do is reassure him that he will go right to heaven. Every time you see him, tell him that, even if you don’t think he can hear or understand you. Even when someone is far gone, they have lucid moments.

      If he has done anything that you or your husband think he may feel bad about, let him know he is forgiven. Tell him this out loud when you visit him. Eventually, he’ll feel better about moving on.

      His will is very strong; that’s what’s keeping him stuck in this worn out shell. If he is a religious person, read to him about the kingdom of heaven. Make it sound attractive so he won’t be so afraid. Even though his mind may not be able to consciously grasp the words, his spirit will.

      This is a simple act of kindness that you can do for him. Also, remind him that even though he moves on, you’ll never forget him, and you’ll continue to think of him.

      As strange as these dreams may seem, he is indeed interacting with you in another realm. Your husband may be having dreams with him too, but he may not remember them because of his strong feelings, or he may not feel the need to share them.

      During the last year of her life, my grandmother communicated with me regularly through dreams. Ten years after her death, she still comes to me when something important is about to change in my life. I hope your dad is able to do the same for you; I have a feeling that he will.

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