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by Roland Comtois

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

As a medium, my heart always trembles when the plight of one's life is the pain that accompanies loss of a loved one. It often causes me to pause and reflect on the sadness. But, I'm always reminded that telling an afterlife story to the one who lives from the one who has passed is not to be evaluated, but simply experienced. If one message comes bringing a moment of peace, then maybe the person sitting before me can begin a process of stepping through their loss.

At an event, I was touched by several individuals hoping to receive messages from their loved ones on the other side.

A father desperately teetered at the junction of grief and living, wanting to hear that his beloved young son remained a part of his world. The father, in his anguish, wore his boy's favorite Red Sox jersey, hoping that this action creates an invisible signal directly to the heart and soul of his departed boy. He sat, anxious and breathless, in great anticipation of every word that was spoken. He silently prayed that a message would arrive and that the pain that has haunted him for two years will begin to ease.

Across the room sat a woman, barely thirty years old, crying uncontrollably, as she embarked on a journey that will undoubtedly cause her to confront her husband's passing once again. This is the burden associated with everyone who mourns. Hidden within her clutch against her chest was a trinket that he gave her on the day they wed. It was a token of his love. If the pink, bejeweled treasure becomes part of the conversation between us, then something in her will awaken. Maybe she will widen her perspective and realize that he is near. She said, as she sat in her husband's red, immaculate and recently polished Ford pick-up truck, "I wonder if he hears me. Will he know that I brought something special?"

As always, spirit began to seep into my sphere of knowing. They all wanted to be heard. Special messages, loved ones' names, and Purple Papers began to find their way to those in attendance.

Right in front of me sat a woman of some age. Her hair glistened with a bit of gray. Her beauty, like her love of those that have passed, is endless. She was taken back at the sound of a name that is spoken by my voice. Within seconds her bright and cheery disposition stilled in disbelief, and she screamed out, "Oh my God, that is my father’s name." The name was very unique, an old family name passed on for generations, and one that is hardly heard in our era. His name and his story reignited the emotional memories of a father who passed many, many, many years before. She admitted to the audience, a room filled with sixty other message seekers, that, "If my father's odd first name is to appear on a Purple Paper or to be announced, then I would have no choice but to venture beyond my skepticism of what exists after we die." She also confided that in her most secret place she wished that she was still her father's little girl, just as she was the day he left.

Another woman exclaimed, from the top of her lungs, "Where is he? Where is my brother?" Her desperation became her mantle; it was all she felt. What she knew and who she was, with her brother, was gone. She searched through the files of her memories, holding on to each for dear life. She was not just his sister; she was his friend. She summoned me to answer her questions. We sat together and talked. She whispered in my ear that she wanted to go back to the old places they had shared together. She spoke of her loss and her willingness to step into his message of hope. She admitted that his vision came to her late during sleepless nights. It was as if he had crossed some bridge from some place simply to hold his sister's hands.

Present in many other chairs were fathers, mothers, grandsons, brothers, and friends, all asking the same questions. Can they hear us? Can they feel us? Do they know we love them? Do they still love us? How can I connect more easily? Even for a seasoned medium, spiritual conversation and communication during grief is challenging. It requires a surrendering to the quietness beyond time, away from the hustle and bustle of life. During the search for a sign or a message, there are certain steps you must follow. Be gentle and loving to yourself as you seek messages from loved ones. Give each moment of your life special consideration and attention. This will afford you the opportunity to see the signs that are sent only to you. Don't be afraid to ask for a sign. But, you must also be fully prepared to engage when a sign is sent. Most people asking for messages and signs become masterful negotiators, asking, "Is that really from you?" When a sign comes, just accept it for what it is: a sign. You asked for it, so experience it.

What I have discovered is that in the most silent, still, quiet space within is where the message from our departed loved ones exist. Signs of spirit are everywhere. A Purple Paper with a pre-written message on it, like you will see in my book Signs of Spirit, or a blue jay sitting on the window ledge or a butterfly soaring by multiple times or a song on the radio or even a dream that takes you to some far-away place, tell the story that our loved ones remain connected to us. The voice of a loved one will first appear in your mind. It slowly transitions to your heart. A feeling of confidence stirs you. The feeling charges every aspect of your current emotion and sparks a beautiful understanding that your loved one is near.

As the father, who bravely sat in the room alone wearing his son's favorite shirt, understood that a communication began the moment he put on his son's shirt. The wife who sat in her husband's newly polished truck, understood that if she could foster the courage to ask him for a sign, then one would come. The daughter whose life was patterned after her little-known father, left her skeptical thoughts behind and looked through a newly colored lens of possibility. And, finally, the sister who lost her only friend, her nighttime dreams became a welcomed experience of love from beyond. The afterlife is a world not beyond, but really within our grasp. The connections that exist between all who we love, start here with us.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2019. All rights reserved.

When We Feel Called to Go to a Certain Place

For the past three years, I've felt an urgent need to go to England. I have the feeling I just "have" to get there. I don't know why or how I will make this happen, but I know I have to go. A couple of nights ago, I even dreamed I was put in a support group for others who were trying to fulfill their urge to go to England. Some had their trips planned out, while others were still in the stage of trying to figure out how to make this happen. Do other people get this type of urging to go some place in particular? Why does this happen? I have a house, husband, child, pets, career, etc., so it's not easy to just take off for Europe, especially when I have no idea why I feel so compelled to. Any thoughts?

- Lori

Dreamchaser:

I do believe that everyone experiences an urge at one point or another to travel to some place that makes no logical sense. I personally have a compulsion to go to Ireland. I am sure that the reason we have these pulls to these various places is because we had past lives there.

I personally have had quite a few lifetimes in what is now Ireland. I have had past life regressions that placed me there quite a bit. I even have Irish blood in me in this lifetime.

You have had many past lives in England, and you are drawn there because you spent so much time there. You have had so many things happen to you (as a soul) in England. You experienced love, happiness, families, work, dramas, deaths, etc., all in that one country. I feel you had at least 22 lifetimes that you spent in England alone. That is a whole lot of living, so it should not surprise you that you are drawn there.

You also have a lot of what we might call unfinished business in England. I find it fascinating that you dreamed that you were running a support group. That is showing you that you need to get there to do some work for your soul. You definitely have some unresolved issues there.

I know it is very hard for you to be in this position at times. You are a normal mother and wife, and you have normal obligations. Yet you feel this intense longing for a place and a time that you are not familiar with in this lifetime. That longing really is your soul wanting to continue with the lessons that you need to learn in England. They started there, and they will be completed there, either in this lifetime or another.

This is more common than you might think. We really do carry stuff from life to life to life with us. Our human, logical minds can't fathom this concept, however; it is hard to conceptualize unfinished work from prior lives needing to be completed in THIS life. I think if you start asking people around you if they are drawn to a certain place or time period, however, you will be surprised at how many say yes. Try it!

There is this wonderful thing called the Law of Attraction. It is one of those indisputable Universal Laws like gravity. If you think about or focus your attention on something, that is what comes to you. Period.

I want you to spend at the very least 15 minutes a day thinking about packing your bags, going to the airport, saying goodbye to your family, getting on the plane, and heading off to England.

I wish you a safe and productive trip to England very soon!

*****

Astrea:

Wanting to explore someplace new is something everyone experiences from time to time, but feeling COMPELLED to go somewhere is almost always something from a prior life. Something in this life triggered this need in you, but it stems from one or more of your past incarnations.

When a person has lived in a different place or even in a different country in a different time and body, sometimes something that person sees in this life will trigger a past life memory or a need to finish some karma they brought into this lifetime. Of course, the location the person is drawn to isn't always the most convenient, nor is the timing.

Don't think you're crazy - I hear about people being drawn to places every day in much the same way you describe. This is a very common experience among souls who have been separated by space but not by time. Someone to whom you owe a karmic debt or who owes you a karmic debt is probably living in England, and that's why you feel the compulsion to go there now.

It's not just romance like you see on television - it could be any kind of a relationship you experienced in the past. The need to repair an old hurt or fix a relationship from long ago will linger from incarnation to incarnation. Whether this person was a partner or a relative doesn't really make any difference.

To discover the reason you're so drawn there NOW, you should go. I actually SEE you going there within the next calendar year, so start saving up and try to go in mid-summer, when the weather is pleasant.

One problem Americans often encounter is the fact that we're living in a relatively new country. Certainly with England being as old as time out of mind, it's been there (and maybe you, too) a whole lot longer than anything in this country.

Since the history if that country is far older and richer, don't get lost in possibilities before you go. Find a time period that appeals to you or an area on a map that jumps out at you. If you tried to go through every museum in the country, it could take years! If you study beforehand, it will save you tons of time and add so much to your trip.

Find someone to keep the kids and the pets, and go visit England this summer with your hubby. The flights are much cheaper from August to October and from April to June.

When you get to the location you need to be, you'll feel it, and you won't have to ask anyone about it. Just like you know you should go there, you'll know why when you arrive.