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by Richard Webster

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Whenever I conduct a workshop on mind reading, my students are pleasantly surprised to find that they're already good at reading minds. In fact, they began doing it when they were babies. As a baby, you would have recognized the expressions on people's faces, and knew if someone was likely to be friendly or not. As you grew, these skills continued to develop. Today, a casual glance is likely to tell you if someone is happy, sad, angry, or tense. You unconsciously observe people's body language all the time. You can, for instance, tell if someone is nervous but is trying to conceal it. People's posture tells you how they're feeling. Someone who is standing tall and straight with head up, feet apart, and arms by the side is feeling confident. Someone who is standing with his or her arms and legs crossed is likely to be feeling uncomfortable. If you happen to walk into a room after two people have had an argument, you'll be able to feel the atmosphere, even if the people concerned are trying to act as if nothing's wrong.

Of course, while you're gaining information from other people, they're learning about you. All day long, you're subconsciously revealing your thoughts and emotions. If, for example, you dislike someone with whom you work, you'll unconsciously and telepathically transmit your feelings to the other person. There's bound to be emotion attached to these thoughts, and this ensures the other person cannot fail to receive them. The same thing applies to thoughts of love and affection; your feelings will be subconsciously picked up by the object of your affection. These are common examples of an old saying: "Where your thoughts go, energy flows." This shows that it pays to be careful what you think about.

Have you ever tried to contact someone at the exact moment they were trying to contact you? Do you sometimes know exactly what someone is going to say before they've said a single word? Have you ever thought of someone you haven't spoken to for a long time, and then been contacted by them shortly afterwards? Incidents of this sort show that you can, and do, send and receive thoughts. These are all perfectly natural abilities that enable you to understand others and get along well with them. People who lack these abilities find it hard to function well in society. In actuality, you're reading minds in almost every communication you have with others. You use your powers of observation, along with memories, emotions, and reason, to work out what the other person is thinking about.

You may even have done some of this deliberately. When you were at school you might have stared at the back of the head of the person sitting in front of you willing him or her to turn around. Once you'd achieved success, you may have continued doing this with other people in your class. You may have willed someone to contact you when you had no other way of contacting them.

To develop your mind reading skills you need to find a partner who is also interested in the subject. Ideally, you need someone who is prepared to suspend disbelief and act on his or her intuition. With practice, you'll be able to work with almost anyone, but it's important to take your time and choose your first partner carefully. Hopefully, you already know someone who'd be willing to work with you. Like-minded people tend to attract each other. I met someone by chance at an airport, and after getting to know each other, we conducted a number of experiments together. You can also meet people at new age stores; psychic development classes; or the mind, body, spirit sections of public libraries. Even today, many people find it hard to talk about their interests in telepathy and other psychic subjects. Be brave, and make a few comments when you're with a group of people. You're likely to already know a number of people who share your interests in the paranormal.

You'll find it helpful to do one or two warm-up exercises before starting more serious work. You should start every exercise with confidence and a sense of expectation. Many people destroy their psychic perception by feeling anxious and trying too hard. Allow yourself to feel calm, relaxed, and grounded. Most importantly, retain your sense of fun. Laughter and a light-hearted approach can enhance your intuition.

One preliminary exercise that I enjoy involves you and your partner sending bursts of energy to each other. To do this, your partner should stand facing away from you. Stand about ten feet behind him or her and gaze at your partner's back. Close your eyes and visualize energy coming from every part of your body and collecting in your heart. Once your heart feels overflowing with energy, open your eyes and raise your right hand high in the air with your fingers extended. Take a slow, deep breath, and as you exhale, lower your arm so your fingers point directly at the center of your partner's back. As you do this, visualize all the energy gathered in your heart shooting down your arm and into your partner's back. The whole process from lowering your arm and firing the energy should take only a second or two.

Your partner is waiting to receive this energy. As soon as it is received, he or she needs to do something to let you know that the energy was received at the moment you sent it. Your partner might turn around, raise both hands in the air, say something, or do anything else to let you know the experiment was, or wasn't, a success.

You may not experience success when you first try this, as it might take time for the other person to feel the transfer of energy. However, once your partner has become familiar with the sensation, he or she will sense it every time. You should swap roles once your partner has successfully received the energy.

In this exercise, you're sending energy from your heart. Once you've gained experience at this, you can experiment by sending energy from your solar plexus, head, or any other part of your body, to see if your partner can differentiate between the different energies.

This exercise also works well with a group of people. Everyone stands in a circle facing inward. The person who is chosen to start the exercise looks across the circle and chooses the person he or she will send energy to. He or she gather as much energy as possible, looks the chosen person in the eye, raises his or her hand in the air for a moment, lowers it and shoots the energy at the person's heart.

As soon as this person receives the energy, he or she fires the energy at someone else. This continues until everyone in the circle has received energy at least three times. After this, everyone will feel ready to carry on with their experiments in telepathy.

There are an almost unlimited range of tests that can be conducted. I found using five cards, drawings, or objects the ideal number to start with. The choice is not too large, and both the sender and receiver know what the five objects are before the test begins. In my classes I often use five soft animal toys that I kept in a box. The receiver sits with his or her back to the sender. The sender mixes up the animals in the box, and then, without looking, removes one of the animals. The box is closed again to make sure the sender ignores the other animals. The sender focuses on the randomly chosen animal, thinking of its shape, color, and any other distinguishing features it may have. He or she then sends the thought of these to the receiver. This is repeated five times, and the results recorded. After this the roles change to give both people an opportunity to be both sender and receiver.

The advantage of this simple test is that virtually everyone experiences at least some degree of success. This provides motivation and encouragement as my students progress on to more challenging experiments.

The ability to read minds can be practical and useful in everyday life. I hope you enjoy experimenting with it.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2015. All rights reserved.

I recently met a man I felt an instant and intense connection to. I had a sense of knowing that this person was going to be part of my life. We spoke several times and learned we have lots in common, but since we met once in person, he hasn't contacted me again. I feel upset about this, like I've lost a special friend - maybe even a soul mate. Until I met him, I thought I would never want to have another love relationship, but meeting and talking to him have made me rethink that position and what I want from life and love. Could that be his purpose in entering my life - to awaken me to love in general, so I can meet someone else? Or is it possible that the two of us will indeed connect in the future? If we're not meant to be, why would I have that sense of knowing?
- Kyle

Dreamchaser:

We humans often get confused about the whole soul mate thing, so here is a quick run-down:

We do not get just one soul mate; we get approximately five per lifetime. The Universe/God/Spirit does not want us to be without love if we desire it. If for some reason a relationship with a soul mate doesn't work out, we won't be doomed to live without love forever. Instead, the Universe will bring us another soul mate. We are not limited to just one shot at true love in each lifetime.

The second misconception people have is the belief that once we meet a soul mate, nothing will ever break us up, and we'll live together happily ever after. This is so wrong.

The Universe may bring us together, but after that, free will and personal choice take over. We CHOOSE what happens in every relationship, and long-term connections require lots of hard work and open communication.

Just because you meet someone like this guy doesn't mean he is going to choose to allow you into his life, or that he will even choose to allow LOVE into his life. Obviously, this man has some big fears that have caused him to back away. That's his choice, and since we have free will, the Universe has to allow that choice.

When we meet a soul mate, our minds do this meld thing between the past and the present. Your soul remembers this person, so a part of you is very excited and happy to see an old friend.

Your logical mind knows that you have never met this person before, however, so your head warns you to go slow, get to know him better before giving your heart away, etc. As a result, you experience a constant battle between your head and your heart/intuition.

This guy came to show you that you could choose to fall in love again. You are the one who has been holding love off - it hasn't been staying away from you by itself. Love is an energy that spreads over EVERYONE.

As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. You have now changed how you look at romantic love, so romantic love has changed for you. This man helped you do that by coming into your life.

At this point, it doesn't really matter if he comes back or not. Your heart has opened back up, so you are on your way to new love. I know you think you want him and only him, but if you close yourself off to other possibilities, you will really limit the Universe's ability to help you find fulfillment. Stay open to all possibilities now that your heart is open to love again.

I wish you much love and happiness.

*****

Astrea:

There's an old saying about people coming into our lives for a reason or a season, but I don't buy it. We invite people to come into our lives because we think they might prove to be good lovers or friends. Just because we find them exciting or interesting doesn't mean there is some mysterious connection or divine intervention at work.

We want to be around certain people because we like their company: when our vibrations interact, they strike a pleasing chord. It's also human nature for us to want everyone to like us and feel affection for us.

Sometimes we get lucky in relationships, and end up truly liking each other. Other times we misjudge someone and project onto them the qualities we want them to have. Then we are eventually disappointed, and feel foolish for investing so much of ourselves in that relationship.

Sometimes our relationships are indeed based on karmic connections from past lives, while at other times, we attract new souls into our experience in order to learn some life lesson.

Right now, it's popular to believe that people come into our lives for some deeper reason, something beyond our simple desire to experience however that person usually makes us feel. If that person doesn't return our interest, we end up suffering and struggling to figure out what went wrong.

With cyber connections, often there is lots of evidence that the other person will be a wonderful partner, right up until the day we meet. If that person then treats us very differently in person than they have online, we naturally become sad and confused by their actions.

We have to accept that sometimes, people looking for love online will either outright lie or simply tell us what they think we want to hear in order to get what they think they want. Sometimes the other person has high hopes and is just as innocent as we are, but upon meeting us, they are turned off by our appearance, mannerisms or a lack of chemistry.

Loving, caring individuals will try to get past that by hanging in there and looking for the positive. Immature, self-centered and insensitive people who are just out for a good time may drop all contact and never see us again if they don't think we're perfect for them at first sight.

This is the kind of person you encountered here. He misrepresented himself online - he certainly didn't seem like someone who would pull a hit and run meeting like he did. The world has many mean, insincere people in it - don't let this one discourage you from looking for someone with whom you can create true love!