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by Roland Comtois

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

As a medium, my heart always trembles when the plight of one's life is the pain that accompanies loss of a loved one. It often causes me to pause and reflect on the sadness. But, I'm always reminded that telling an afterlife story to the one who lives from the one who has passed is not to be evaluated, but simply experienced. If one message comes bringing a moment of peace, then maybe the person sitting before me can begin a process of stepping through their loss.

At an event, I was touched by several individuals hoping to receive messages from their loved ones on the other side.

A father desperately teetered at the junction of grief and living, wanting to hear that his beloved young son remained a part of his world. The father, in his anguish, wore his boy's favorite Red Sox jersey, hoping that this action creates an invisible signal directly to the heart and soul of his departed boy. He sat, anxious and breathless, in great anticipation of every word that was spoken. He silently prayed that a message would arrive and that the pain that has haunted him for two years will begin to ease.

Across the room sat a woman, barely thirty years old, crying uncontrollably, as she embarked on a journey that will undoubtedly cause her to confront her husband's passing once again. This is the burden associated with everyone who mourns. Hidden within her clutch against her chest was a trinket that he gave her on the day they wed. It was a token of his love. If the pink, bejeweled treasure becomes part of the conversation between us, then something in her will awaken. Maybe she will widen her perspective and realize that he is near. She said, as she sat in her husband's red, immaculate and recently polished Ford pick-up truck, "I wonder if he hears me. Will he know that I brought something special?"

As always, spirit began to seep into my sphere of knowing. They all wanted to be heard. Special messages, loved ones' names, and Purple Papers began to find their way to those in attendance.

Right in front of me sat a woman of some age. Her hair glistened with a bit of gray. Her beauty, like her love of those that have passed, is endless. She was taken back at the sound of a name that is spoken by my voice. Within seconds her bright and cheery disposition stilled in disbelief, and she screamed out, "Oh my God, that is my father’s name." The name was very unique, an old family name passed on for generations, and one that is hardly heard in our era. His name and his story reignited the emotional memories of a father who passed many, many, many years before. She admitted to the audience, a room filled with sixty other message seekers, that, "If my father's odd first name is to appear on a Purple Paper or to be announced, then I would have no choice but to venture beyond my skepticism of what exists after we die." She also confided that in her most secret place she wished that she was still her father's little girl, just as she was the day he left.

Another woman exclaimed, from the top of her lungs, "Where is he? Where is my brother?" Her desperation became her mantle; it was all she felt. What she knew and who she was, with her brother, was gone. She searched through the files of her memories, holding on to each for dear life. She was not just his sister; she was his friend. She summoned me to answer her questions. We sat together and talked. She whispered in my ear that she wanted to go back to the old places they had shared together. She spoke of her loss and her willingness to step into his message of hope. She admitted that his vision came to her late during sleepless nights. It was as if he had crossed some bridge from some place simply to hold his sister's hands.

Present in many other chairs were fathers, mothers, grandsons, brothers, and friends, all asking the same questions. Can they hear us? Can they feel us? Do they know we love them? Do they still love us? How can I connect more easily? Even for a seasoned medium, spiritual conversation and communication during grief is challenging. It requires a surrendering to the quietness beyond time, away from the hustle and bustle of life. During the search for a sign or a message, there are certain steps you must follow. Be gentle and loving to yourself as you seek messages from loved ones. Give each moment of your life special consideration and attention. This will afford you the opportunity to see the signs that are sent only to you. Don't be afraid to ask for a sign. But, you must also be fully prepared to engage when a sign is sent. Most people asking for messages and signs become masterful negotiators, asking, "Is that really from you?" When a sign comes, just accept it for what it is: a sign. You asked for it, so experience it.

What I have discovered is that in the most silent, still, quiet space within is where the message from our departed loved ones exist. Signs of spirit are everywhere. A Purple Paper with a pre-written message on it, like you will see in my book Signs of Spirit, or a blue jay sitting on the window ledge or a butterfly soaring by multiple times or a song on the radio or even a dream that takes you to some far-away place, tell the story that our loved ones remain connected to us. The voice of a loved one will first appear in your mind. It slowly transitions to your heart. A feeling of confidence stirs you. The feeling charges every aspect of your current emotion and sparks a beautiful understanding that your loved one is near.

As the father, who bravely sat in the room alone wearing his son's favorite shirt, understood that a communication began the moment he put on his son's shirt. The wife who sat in her husband's newly polished truck, understood that if she could foster the courage to ask him for a sign, then one would come. The daughter whose life was patterned after her little-known father, left her skeptical thoughts behind and looked through a newly colored lens of possibility. And, finally, the sister who lost her only friend, her nighttime dreams became a welcomed experience of love from beyond. The afterlife is a world not beyond, but really within our grasp. The connections that exist between all who we love, start here with us.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2019. All rights reserved.

I have a question concerning wishes. Is it possible to speed up our original life plan by making "wishes?" If so, do we have to do so on a conscious level? I've noticed that when I make a wish for something, my life starts to change. I then wonder if I'm fulfilling my destiny - if I felt called to make that wish because it's part of my life plan - or if I am changing my destiny by nudging it in a new direction. I guess what I'm really asking is if we can change our destiny/life plan based on our desires after we incarnate, or if our desires are always guiding us to fulfill a set higher plan. Thanks!

- Maggie

Dreamchaser:

Every once in a while I get a question like this that I am so happy to answer in this public forum. You see, I do a lot of research of all kinds, and am always trying to learn something new, for I know my clients expect me to have some answers.

I used to think that we had a set purpose or destiny, and we had to find it and fulfill it. In my studies, however, I have learned that we have many options and many different choices.

In its own way, your destiny will find you. You will meet who you are supposed to meet and go where you are supposed to go. In the mean time, you can do whatever you want. You can make whatever choices you want, be whatever you want to be, and be with whomever you want to be with, and your "destiny" will still find you. If you look back over your life at its different twists and turns, in hindsight you will see that this is true.

Often we forget there is a whole web of activity happening all around us that we can't see. There is a whole host of beings that are working to help us clear a path and put us where we need to be. When you make a choice, the universe can and will shift according to that choice. Everything that is working for you and around you will shift according to the path that YOU choose.

One of your lessons in life is to learn how to become one with the Universe. You are to learn how to manifest and how to choose what you really want according to what is truly good for your soul. You will see your life change when you change your mind.

When you start asking for things or start consciously trying to manifest things, your life will change. Those forces working around you will move things so that you are in alignment with what you want. If you choose to move to another country, of course everything is going to have to shift to accommodate your new life. After you make a big decision like this, things will adjust accordingly.

I suggest everyone reading this article watch a movie called What the Bleep Do We Know. It will explain all of this to you not only from a metaphysical standpoint but from a scientific standpoint as well. Scientists have proven that our thoughts create what happens around us, and this movie explains how that happens in a simple way. We literally create our worlds with what we THINK. You are starting to learn that.

Don't worry if your world changes completely. Your soul knows its job and your soul will do its job. You just wish for whatever you want and live your life. Another good movie about manifesting is The Secret. I highly recommend both of these films.

I wish you an incredible life journey.

*****

Astrea:

I may be the wrong psychic to ask about Destiny, because I don't believe in it! I believe in choices and consequences, and that our job here on Earth is to be happy.

However, because of Free Will, sometimes our choices aren't the best, and we have to live with the consequences. Since we're not God, our highest Destiny (if such a thing exists) escapes most of us. Thus we have reincarnation, and get the chance to revisit and correct our mistakes one incarnation after another until we are Enlightened.

I believe that life plans are made consciously as we go. I don't know anyone who has ever made an "unconscious wish." Wishes are wants, and to want, you have to know you want something.

While we create our own paths, no matter how careful we are, there are seemingly random events that happen to everyone. Illnesses, others' choices and even death are things that no one can plan for. Like dances, life plans are temporal and change with our changing wants, needs and desires.

As for wishes, there is nothing like visualization for manifesting what we want. One of my psychic friends taught me this in the early eighties. At the time, I was driving around an old beater and needed a reliable car. One day when I was whining to her about the beater, she said, "You're not seeing the new car in the driveway. You have to SEE it to OWN it."

I took her at her word and began to imagine a little red sports car in my driveway. Three weeks later, one of the girls working with me had to give up her fancy car. It was the cutest, best car I ever owned - a bright red Toyota MR2. I drove him from 1984 until 2004. Of course, after that I had to begin to visualize how the heck I was going to earn the money for those car payments, but that worked out too.

Wishes can also be classified as prayers, so when we wish for something, Someone hears us. People who say that sometimes the answer to a prayer is 'no' don't get it. Our wishes can come true if we concentrate on doing what it takes to MAKE them come true.

What does this have to do with Destiny? Maybe nothing, maybe everything - but positive visualization, wishing and prayer WORK. Of course, you can't just sit in a room wishing without taking inspired action to make your wish come true, but even THINKING about having positive people and things in your life will help bring them to you.

If that is working towards your Destiny, great. Just remember that our job is to do everything we can without hurting anyone else, and to just be happy. So wish away, for even the act of wishing will put you in a more positive frame of mind to manifest whatever you want and need.