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Seven Flower Magic Rituals, by Tess Whitehurst

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

You might think of a blossom as a visible auric pattern of energy, or as the crown chakra and spirit of a plant. And, like an ethereal guru from the faerie realm, each flower possesses its own unique wisdom and metaphysical teachings. Indeed, in A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle writes, "Flowers, more fleeting, more ethereal, and more delicate than the plants out of which they emerged, [are] like messengers from another realm, like a bridge between the world of physical forms and the formless."

While it may sound like a contradiction, flower magic is both highly subtle and highly potent. It's subtle in that floral energy patterns lie beneath the concrete, everyday realm of awareness. It's potent in that a flower's vibratory patterns can merge with our personal patterns in ways that infiltrate and shift every aspect of our awareness and life experience, all the way down to molecules, thought waves, and emotional states. Like water dripping on a stone, the subtlety of a flower's vibrational signature—especially when combined with a clear-as-crystal intention—can steadily and relentlessly bring about lasting change.

Considering the year round availability of ingredients like essential oils and flower essences, no time is a bad time for flower magic, but springtime feels especially right. With that in mind, below you'll find seven original flower rituals for you to play with, each of which are inspired by a color of the rainbow. Perform one, or perform them all.

1. Red/Rose: Simple Love Drawing Spell
   On a Friday when the moon is new, waxing, or full, purchase or lovingly cut two blossoming red roses and put them in water in a small vase. Place them on a tabletop or altar and sit comfortably in front of them with your spine straight. Place your right hand on your heart and your left hand on your belly. Gaze at the flowers and breathe consciously until you feel a strong connection with the blossoms. Then close your eyes and imagine that you are still gazing at them through your third eye (or the center of your forehead, just between your eyebrows). Address the roses as you say or think something like, "Gorgeous red roses, please help me manifest a beautiful new romantic relationship. Please help me to be totally open and receptive, and to magnetize a romance that is for my truest and most beautiful good. Thank you." Open your eyes and direct your palms toward the blossoms. Then, place the vase in your bedroom or in the corner of your home that corresponds with love and marriage according to feng shui. (If your floor plan is not a perfect square or rectangle, you might need more detailed instructions, but generally speaking, when you're standing at the front door and facing in towards the house, the love and marriage corner is located in the far right.) When the roses are ready to return to the earth, release them in a moving body of water or at the base of a tree.
2. Orange/Freesia: Sexual Healing Meditation
   Light an orange candle on your altar or on a tabletop. Sit comfortably in front of the candle, with your spine straight. Close your eyes and begin to breathe consciously. Blossoms have spirits, like angels or deities, and you can summon their spirits and healing properties simply by thinking about them. With that in mind, begin by summoning the scent of freesias. Imagine that you're inhaling the lovely scent, and send this imaginary scent throughout your entire body and aura. (If you don't know what freesias smell or look like, or if it just feels right to you, you might want to have one in water on your altar as a focal point—ideally orange.) Next, envision yourself sitting in the center of a giant, etheric, orange freesia blossom. Now that you've successfully summoned the spirit of freesia, request that freesia help you heal your relationship with your body and sexuality. You might want to wordlessly describe precisely the challenges you've been having, as if you are offering them up to the flower. Then, allow yourself to receive the healing you requested. Soak in the vibration of the blossom and scent that you have conjured. See this healing going deeply into every cell and pore, bathing you with orange light that allows you to release and transform negative thoughts and feelings about yourself and your sexuality. Allow it to go where it most wants to go throughout your body. Stay with this as long as it feels right. Then thank the spirit of the flower and open your eyes.
3. Yellow/Chamomile: Stress Relief Bath
   Sometimes stress can build up in the solar plexus, the area halfway between your belly and heart, and the chakra associated with the color yellow. This bath will help clear tension and stagnant energy from this chakra so that your personal power is balanced and flowing in a comfortable and ideal way. Begin by smudging yourself and your bathroom with a bundle of dried white or desert sage, and then safely extinguish. Light a yellow candle and place it near the bathtub as you draw a warm bath. Add one half cup of sea salt and one cup of Epsom salt and use your hand to stir the water in a clockwise direction. Hold three bags of pure chamomile tea in both hands and tune into the spirit of the once vibrant chamomile flowers that they contain. Say or think something like, "Spirit of chamomile, please soften my spirit and soothe my soul. Bathe me in your sunshine-yellow light of peace." Then drop them in the bath. Soak for at least forty minutes. (You might want to have some relaxing reading on hand, as well as plenty of drinking water.)
4. Green/Oak: Prosperity Petition
   Tiny green oak blossoms might look diminutive, but they pack quite a magical punch. Find a blossoming oak tree and then spend some time with it, like you would a respected and beloved teacher or relative. Gaze at the blossoms and leaves, notice the curves of the branches, and watch the tree as it moves in the breeze. As you do this, breathe consciously and relax your body as much as possible. When you feel really tuned-in, gaze again at a single blossom, or let your gaze wander from blossom to blossom (the important thing is that you are focusing on the energy of the blossoms). Energetically communicate with the blossoms exactly what you'd like help with by visualizing/imagining/feeling how you'd like to feel with regards to finances and money. For example, you might want to conjure up the feeling of paying all your bills easily and effortlessly, or the feeling of making large deposits in your checking account. Having fresh cut flowers on the table might be a symbol of luxury and abundance to you, so you might want to picture that—whatever feels like it tunes you into the energy of abundance. Once you communicate this to the flower through your inner vision, silently request that the blossom help you shift your energetic pattern into one of prosperity. As a gesture of thanks, pour a bottle of beer or cider around the base of the tree. Then place your hands on the trunk or hug the tree to further solidify your energetic connection. Finally, thank the tree once more and walk away.
5. Blue/Baby Blue Eyes: Simple Creativity Potion
   Acquire or make a bottle of baby blue eyes flower essence. (A brand called FES makes a baby blue eyes essence, which you can find at many health food stores and metaphysical supply shops, or you can order it online. Of course, if you make it, you'll want to first locate instructions for doing so safely and effectively.) Add seven drops of the essence to a mister of rose water, and mist yourself and/or your creative workspace to enhance your self-expression and sense of playful experimentation.Bonus: this potion can also be used to support the emotional healing process of your inner child or actual child.
6. Indigo/Morning Glory: Psychic Activation Ritual
   Visit a blossoming blue dawn morning glory at sunrise. Relax, breathe deeply, and allow yourself to gently align with the energy of the plant. As the sun starts to peek above the horizon, imagine that there is one morning glory blossom located at your heart chakra (in the center of your sternum) and another at your third eye (the area in the middle of your forehead just above your eyebrows). In your mind's eye, see/feel these indigo flowers opening lovingly to the energy of the sunlight. Briefly peek at the brightness of the sun and transfer this brightness to your forehead and heart. Say or think the words, "My heart is awake. My third eye is awake. My heart is open. My third eye is open. I love. I love. I love. I see. I see. I see. I am a clear channel of psychic information and healing. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Blessed be. And so it is." Finish by visualizing a very bright sphere of protective indigo light completely surrounding your body and aura. Thank the plant, thank the sunlight, and walk away.
7. Violet/Lilac: Aura Brush
   Stand in front of a blossoming lilac and make psychic contact. Relax your body, breathe, and appreciate the beauty and aliveness of the plant. Silently/energetically communicate that you'd like support with clearing your aura (the energy sphere of light that surrounds and encompasses you) and chakras (the wheels of light that lie along your spine), and that you'd also like support with generally balancing and harmonizing your energy field. When you sense that the time is right, gently and lovingly gather a small bundle of blossoms, following your intuition about which blossoms to snip. Silently and profusely thank the plant. Then, starting at the top of your head and using brisk, light, downward strokes that finish with a little downward/outward flick (as if you are flicking debris off your aura and onto the ground), use the lilac bundle to brush your entire aura. There is no need to touch your skin with the flowers, as you are cleansing your invisible energetic field rather than your physical body. Imagine that the flowers are whisking away any and all negativity while harmonizing and balancing your chakra system. Follow your intuition about how long to concentrate on any given area of your body and aura. When you get to your feet, thank the blossoms and plant again and release the blossoms near the base of the plant.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2013. All rights reserved.

I'm in a relationship that I used to be excited about, but now I find myself no longer interested. My boyfriend has many wonderful qualities, but he is often very negative. I'm also just not sexually attracted to him anymore. However, I am grateful, because without him, I wouldn't be able to have my current lifestyle. He works very hard while I pursue my acting career. In fact, he pays for everything. I should note that I recently left a good job to move a very long distance so we could be together. I know that a loving "soul mate" relationship must be created, and that it takes work for both parties. For quite a while I was really trying to be romantic, to communicate, to restore the romance. I do love him, but I'm afraid I'm just no longer "in love" with him, and worst of all, I don't really want to be anymore. I imagine us parting somewhere down the road, and I'm okay with that! I know with this attitude our relationship definitely isn't going to work, and I do want to have a successful relationship at last. Can I find a way to make myself want this nice guy? I really believe we make our own happiness or unhappiness, and I take full responsibility for my life. On the other hand, maybe he's just not the "right one" for me? Thank you!

--L

Dreamchaser:

I think you have "reality-itis." This relationship was fabulous when you were long-distance, but now that you have quit your job and moved, you are dealing with the full reality.

This happens so often with long-distance relationships. We meet someone and talk on the phone or on the internet. We are open and honest and speak freely. We meet for short periods of time to eat, drink and be merry. Long distance relationships are full of loving moments, after which we go back to our respective homes with a "love hangover." We think that this relationship is everything we could ever want, so we do all we can to move closer to each other.

This is when the bumps and flaws become apparent. Everyone's real personalities come out. Reality has finally set in.

If you are not physically or sexually interested in a man anymore, it is going to be next to impossible to make this into what you say you want. Your gut instincts are telling you the truth. You are not in love, and you probably never were - you just really wanted to be. You now know that you are not going to be together for the long haul.

"It" is either there, or "it" is not. We can't force ourselves to like or love someone. You don't want to talk to him half the time, and you definitely don't want to be intimate with him. What kind of relationship can you expect to build when you feel this way deep down in your core?

I'm sure the fact that he is paying for your lifestyle is making you hesitant to leave him. It's natural for you to really like the fact that you can do whatever you want while someone else picks up the tab. I'm sorry to tell you that the free ride is now over, my friend: it's time to get back to work.

Do yourself a favor and start to figure out where you want to go from here. You were not happy in your old life, so you do not want to go backwards. If you want to stay where you are now and pursue your acting career, that's fine. However, you need to either find your own job and move into your own place, or ask him about just being "roommates" for a while.

You can't continue to allow him to pay all the expenses for both of you given how you feel about him. That's just wrong; it will create bad karma for you, and you know it. He is just as dejected as you are about the way things are. You are not THAT good of an actress - he knows things are not great beneath the surface, but he has no idea what to do about it. Thus you both just continue on like things are fabulous when they absolutely are not.

You are constantly reinventing yourself, and it is time to do it again. At least you're now in the area of the world you really wanted and needed to be in. That is one blessing to come out of this whole relationship experience.

I wish you happy new horizons.

*****

Astrea:

As long as you're only thinking about yourself and your own needs, you can't make yourself love your boyfriend again. It certainly seems the loving relationship you once had is over. Both of you are just going through the motions now. He lets things go on and on because he still feels he is in love with you. You let things go on and on because you don't want to give up your acting dreams and support yourself. Perhaps that's enough to keep you together a while longer - stranger things have certainly happened with couples.

It's interesting that both of you were born so close to the cusp of your signs. While you're a Cancer, you have a LOT of Leo influence in your chart. This Leo is the part of you that wants to break and run and find someone new and exciting, while the Cancer part wants to hold on to the security you've found. He's a stable, caring Virgo, but the Libra in his chart makes him voice his negative feelings like resentment now and then. His free Libra spirit hates being used.

He can feel that you're no longer in love with him and that you don't feel you will always be together. He knows he's being used, and while he's no longer in love with you the way he once was, it's natural for him to ignore or deny that to himself. When he is negative, that repressed awareness is coming up. Usually Virgos can hide their feelings from others, but since he is about at his limit in this situation, it sneaks out now and then.

You say that you did all you could to be romantic, caring and considerate, and I believe you! It's sad, but the two of you have just grown apart. If you can live this way, that's fine, but it's not what EITHER of you truly wants.

You are no longer in love with your "very negative" boyfriend who creates the "lifestyle" you want to enjoy while you "don't work and pursue your acting career." I know that you know that you sound awfully shallow, like an ungrateful sponge who is just using him to get what you want in life at his expense. As long as you are using another person and not giving anything back but resentment, the Universe won't reward your efforts.

If you want to stay with him and rekindle your love, the two of you should IMMEDIATELY get into some kind of couples counseling. There isn't any excuse in the whole world for not doing that. The success of this counseling will depend on how receptive the two of you are to change.

You can indeed choose to love anyone you want to love, but once you've decided the love is gone, it's very difficult to get it back again. Often, however, love dies simply because we allow resentment to build over time. Unless the people involved in the relationship can learn to GIVE to each other the way they did in the beginning again, it's silly to try to stay together.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.