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Change Your Life by Changing Your Words, by Michelle Arbeau

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Imagine changing the course of your life simply by using the right words. Like Dorothy in The Wizard of OZ, who ended up safely back in Kansas by saying the magic words, "There's no place like home," you are shaping your destiny every single day through the energy of the words you speak. The words you use on a regular basis, whether thought, spoken, or written, are constantly creating your reality.

Think about some of the positive (and negative) people you know. Have you noticed that happy, successful people tend to have a positive vocabulary? Positive people exude positive energy and like all things in existence, words carry their own energetic pattern that can affect our own.

A study done in 2005 by Robert Schrauf, titled "Negative Words Dominate Language," revealed that regardless of age or nationality, each group in the study produced the same results: Fifty percent of the words we use are negative, thirty percent are positive, and twenty percent are neutral. That's a staggering statistic—but the good news is that we have the ability to change it.¹

The latest in quantum physics has revealed that at the base of an atom isn't solid matter but frozen light particles (energy). This brings scientific clout to what the metaphysical community has believed for centuries: The basis of the universe and everything in it is energy. Words are no different, and also have their own energetic signature. The words we think, speak, and write carry an energetic pattern that can interact with our own personal energetic pattern in both positive and negative ways (depending on the words and how they are used). There are many ways to measure energy, but one of the best ways, in my opinion, is through numbers. Numbers are the language of the universe; all things can be sorted, measured or counted using numbers. In fact, all numbers in existence are created using the numbers one through nine (and also zero, which is a symbol rather than a number).

Language is a gift, as no other species can speak words in a conscious manner the way that humans can. Through this conscious awareness, we are able to shape our destiny through the powerful energy of words. The key to how and what we create is in the feelings we put behind those words.

It has been said by many great spiritual teachers of past and present that there are just two emotions, from which all other emotions are derived: fear and love. Do you know which one of these two base emotions is the dominant force in your life? The answer can be found by examining the words you use.

The words you use everyday have an undertone of either love or fear (positive or negative). Examining the words you use on a daily basis will help you understand which of the base emotional patterns you're creating with.

The word love (when assigned numerical values) adds to 18 and reduces to the base number 9 (1+8=9). The 9 represents both the beginning and the end of a cycle, is the highest change pattern, and is considered the selfless humanitarian energy (as an example, the sum of the birth dates of both Gandhi and Mother Teresa is 9). Phrases such as, "Love is all there is" or, "Love conquers all" certainly ring true.

The word fear, on the other hand, vibrates to an energetic frequency of 3, the number of imagination and memory. Fears and phobias originate in the mind; we can imagine all sorts of irrational thoughts. In the negative, 3 is self-doubting and self-critical. Phrases such as, "Your mind is running away with you" or, "It's all in your imagination" support the energetic meaning of the word fear.

Now that you understand the energetic definitions of the words "love" and "fear," how do you identify with which one you create?

Grab a piece of paper and make a list of the top twenty words you use most often. Categorize them into two columns based on what you feel is their base energy: Love or Fear. Since many of us speak more negative words than positive words, it may seem at first that your list is a little lopsided.

If you do have more words in the Fear category, it's definitely time to pick new words. Negative words are like energetic junk food, and can have a strong negative influence on what you're creating in your life moment by moment.

Start changing out your negative words for a positive version by setting a goal of one word per week. Use the new word in sentences (written and spoken) as often as possible, and put it on sticky notes where it's visible to you throughout the day. These are just a couple of suggestions, but feel free to create your own strategy. It's important to find a method that works for you so that you'll stick with it. Don't expect overnight changes, but do expect over time to see your life shift into positivity with the more you think, speak, and write in the positive.

The challenge is to change your driving force from a place of fear to love—and you can start by changing your vocabulary. Words, like our mind, are tools to help us manifest what we want in life. Our feelings are the energetic momentum behind those tools, guiding the energy in a positive or negative direction. The bottom line is that the people, places, and things with which you interact should make you feel good. If they don't, that's your cue to change them.

To go more in-depth with your list and to discover the precise energetic definition of your word list, pick up a copy of The Energy of Words: Use the Vibration of Language to Manifest the Life You Desire. In it you'll find a word conversion chart to calculate a word's numerical pattern, strategies for changing your language patterns, how to create personalized affirmations that actually work, a glossary of the top positive and negative words, and many more tools to help you successfully modify your language patterns.

¹ Schrauf, Robert W. and Julia Sanchez (2004), "The Preponderance of Negative Emotion Words Across Generations and Across Cultures," Journal of Multilingual and Multicultural Development, 25:(2–3), 266–284.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2014. All rights reserved.

I have been unemployed for three years. I left a good paying job with decent benefits because I was treated horribly for over 13 years, and I couldn't take the mental abuse anymore. Now I can't find a new job because my reference is saying bad things about my work ethic. This has led to health problems like kidney stones in February and a car accident in May. What can I do to get all this negativity out of my life? I am beyond stressed out! I feel hopeless and helpless, and overwhelmed with medical bills, legal fees, and regular living expenses. My husband is becoming very aggravated with me. I feel like I have a spell on me. Please help! I have been having vivid dreams, and I even think I had a premonition about the car accident. Is Spirit trying to help me through the dreams?

- Donna

Dreamchaser:

I would like for you to re-read your question, please. As you tell it, you are being picked on by everyone (including the Universe) because you feel like you have a spell on you. There is not one area in your life that is going right, and now your husband is upset as well.

Is this how you look at your life? Is this how you talk to everyone around you? Are these the stories you tell over and over? Is this the tone of the emotional state you are in every day? If so, it's no wonder your life is crap!

As everyone here knows, I am a huge fan of the movie and book entitled The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, which explores the Law of Attraction and how to get what we want by focusing on it. That is a very simplified description - the important thing is that this really does work!

I tried it and it worked for me. I was an incredibly angry, negative person for a very long time. I blamed everyone else for my troubles. I saw myself as a complete and total victim of everyone and everything.

I had no money; I had no love; I felt sick a lot of the time, and I had no future. When I realized that everything in my life was a result of my own thinking, everything changed for the better.

You think negatively all the time. You not only worry about your problems, you worry about things that haven't happened yet, or that might happen some day. You also focus on the past and how you feel wronged. You focus on bad health, pain, suffering, sorrow and despair. Now you are focusing on your marriage and how it may fall apart.

Hear this, please: you are creating more and more misfortune in your life by focusing on nothing but all the bad things that happen to you. The good news is if you change your focus, you will change your life.

I know it works, for I personally have experimented with this process and my life is drastically different now. I also have friends and clients who have said the same thing.

The only way your life is going to change is if you take control of your thoughts, feelings and habits.

Spirit can't help you unless you ask for help. Spirit is not giving you omens and warnings; Spirit is throwing you a lifeline and begging you to PLEASE change on an inner level, which will empower you to change your outer experiences.

You have the power: it's is as simple as changing the way you think, and The Secret will show you how to do that.

You CAN have a good and happy life, Donna. I wish you healing on all levels.

*****

Astrea:

It can be really difficult to get back to a normal feeling life after such an awful accident. To have the people at your old job insult you by telling other businesses not to hire you would naturally create even more stress.

Sometimes husbands aren't great at understanding our need to talk things out, which of course means even MORE frustration for you.

You ARE under a spell, Donna, and you put it there yourself by adopting the belief or attitude that everyone is against you. I know it may seem like that right now, but the truth is that other people don't have time to make you the center of their universe.

I don't mean to sound harsh: I'm only trying to point out that the others you speak of are too selfish to go to great lengths to try to make you miserable, for they have more important things to do.

Negative people get negative outcomes. What you need to focus on is how, for every job those people caused you NOT to get, the Universe will open another pathway for you and close one for them. For every unkind word they say about you, three will be said about them.

Choose to stop being part of the negative karma others have around them. Release all of that and be free. If you can stop being angry and feeling like everything and everyone is against you, that won't be your experience anymore.

Instead of trying to hurt you, every person, animal and entity in your Harmony is trying to help you, and not just through your dreams. You have people working for you in every part of your life to counteract all the negativity you've been experiencing. Your Angels are always with you; they are keeping you going and keeping you alive.

The only person who is stuck in a negative rut is YOU, and you're keeping yourself there with this why me? attitude.

You wrote that you had a premonition about your accident, yet it still happened. When you have strong intuitions or premonitions, you have to listen to them and DO something about them instead of passively accepting that this must be your fate.

The next time you have a premonition about a life-changing event, say it out loud to someone - ANYONE. Then say out loud that you refuse to become a victim. Speaking out loud about the bad stuff we intuitively sense often prevents it from happening. It's a mystery to me how that particular tactic wards off disaster, but it works.

While you truly have my sympathy for all you've been through, I know you could be doing more to change your life by thinking less about what's being done to you and becoming more proactive about creating what you want.

If you choose to think positive thoughts, your life will become abundant with positive experiences. If you allow yourself to think negative thoughts, then negativity will come your way time and time again.

Banish the negativity and begin to live in happiness again. You can do it, but only if you really want to.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.