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Your Intuitive Connection to Love, by Sherrie Dillard

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Love and intuition seem to go together like peanut butter and jelly, the sun and the moon and…well, like two people in love. Who at one time or another has not felt a shiver move up their spine or their stomach leap in joy when looking into another’s eyes? Have you ever met someone and instantly felt a connection with them or somehow knew what they were thinking or feeling, without knowing how you knew? These are spontaneous natural occurrences of intuition and they can be so commonplace we often take them for granted.

We all have innate intuitive ability, which can be as simple as knowing something without knowing how you know it. Yet intuition, like love, can be mysterious and compelling and can bypass the rational and logical. This is because both love and intuition have their roots in the soul —the deeper, wiser part of us. They are both powerful energies that can enhance every aspect of your life. Knowing one will gain you instant access into a better understanding of the other.

Your intuition is as unique as you. I have discovered through many years of teaching others to access and develop their innate intuitive ability that intuition surfaces in four primary ways. You may receive energy information through your thoughts, your emotions, your energy field or your physical body. These four different intuitive modalities make up your intuitive type.

If you intuit mostly through your thoughts and ideas, you are a mental intuitive. Mental intuitives are naturally telepathic. Telepathy is the ability to tune into, receive, and send thought messages to another or a group. Emotional intuitives intuit mostly through their emotions. If you tend to easily pick up on others' feelings, are empathetic and tend to be the go-to person for your friends and family who are in need of a kind shoulder, you are likely an emotional intuitive. Spiritual intuitives receive intuitive vibrations through their energy field. Those who can perceive angels and auras have an active dream life and enjoy daydreaming may be spiritual intuitives. Physical intuitives absorb energy information into their body. Do you ever feel others' aches and pains or feel flushed and warm just sitting next to certain people? If so, you may be a physical intuitive.

Once you are aware of your intuitive type, you will be able to develop and use your natural intuition with more ease and success. Your intuitive type also plays an important part in your ability to communicate, understand, and increase intimacy with loved ones.

How is this? Do you ever know what your partner is thinking or suddenly feel that a loved one is having difficulties, even though they are miles away? Do you ever dream about a loved one who has passed over and feel their presence, almost as if they are in the same room with you? Does it seem like just holding your partner's hand helps you to know her better? While these situations are often random and unpredictable, you can learn how to better tune into and understand your particular intuitive strengths.

The bond of love between two people strengthens and intensifies intuitive ability. With this in mind, not only will you get better results when developing your intuition with a friend or partner, mutual understanding and insight into one another will also increase.

The following is a partner exercise. It will give you the opportunity to develop your intuition and gain insight into a partner, friend, or family member at the same time. It will also help you to experience how each intuitive type receives energy information.

To begin, find a time of day where you and your partner can both be undisturbed for an agreed-upon amount of time. It is not necessary to be in the same physical location. You can be across town or even across the country —it doesn't matter; just make sure that your time zones are in sync.

At the agreed-upon time sit or lie down, close your eyes and begin to take long, deep, relaxing breaths. Imagine as you breathe that you are inhaling cleansing and clearing breaths and you are exhaling any stress and tension. As you settle into the natural rhythm of these cleansing breaths, visualize your partner. Use your imagination and form a picture of them in your mind's eye. Don't force it. Rather, breathe, relax, and feel your connection to them. Keep visualizing your partner and wait for them to smile or acknowledge your presence. This is an intuitive exercise so you might just "know" or get a sense of when they become aware of you. Intuitive "seeing" is not always the same as three-dimensional seeing. It might feel like you are relying on your imagination, which is good. Keep it up.

Now practice one or more of these intuitive communication techniques.

• Mental Intuition:
  Take a long, deep breath and as you exhale, imagine that you are releasing and letting go of your thoughts and mind chatter. Keep breathing and releasing; notice your thoughts without attaching any importance to them. Eventually they will dissipate.

Now imagine that your mind is expanding and encompassing your partner's mind. Tune into their thoughts. Imagine that they have a message for you. Send them a thought, such as "What would you like me to know?" or "How is your day?" Project this thought and then breathe, relax and focus on the breath. This will help to clear your mind. Stay in this calm place for a few moments and receive whatever comes in, without over-thinking or allowing your mind to stray.

When you feel as if your concentration and focus is wavering, send a warm thank you to your partner. Take a few deep breaths and imagine that any negativity and stress is being released through the out breath. Breathe in love, fill yourself with its warm refreshing current and send this cleansing and clearing energy to your partner. Open your eyes and write down whatever you received.

• Emotional Intuition:
  Before you begin, it helps to first become aware of what you are feeling. You might want to put words to your emotions. Are you in a good mood, frustrated, tired, happy, or maybe a combination of different emotions? As you put words to how you feel, imagine that you can release these feelings through calm breathing. Keep breathing relaxing breaths and exhaling your emotional energy.

When you feel calm, take a long deep inhale and exhale through your heart. Keep breathing in this way, cleansing inhales and exhales through the heart. Imagine that the energy of your heart expands and encompasses your partner. Feel your partner in your heart energy and feel what they feel. Are they happy, serene, having a good day, irritated or fatigued? Keep breathing and feel what they are feeling. When you feel as if you have become aware of as much of their emotional energy as you can at this time, breathe and send them love. Imagine that as you inhale, warm waves of love move through you. You can send this love to your partner. Imagine love filling your partner. Breathe and allow your partner to move out of your heart energy and into their own space as you move into yours. Open your eyes.

• Spiritual Intuition:
  Imagine your partner. In your mind’s eye see them sitting or lying down and notice anything you can about them. Go to them. Spiritual intuitives often have the natural gift of being able to energetically transport themselves to distant locations. Keep it simple and trust your energy wisdom to take you to them. As you draw close, imagine that you can perceive the energy that surrounds them. Use your imagination and tune into their energy field or aura. These waves of energy will appear to you in different colors, hues and levels of vibrancy. Again, don't over-think this. Just activate your higher knowing through intent. You may be able to observe your partner's angels or spirit guides: just allow this to happen. They might even have a message for you to convey to your partner.

Take in what you are experiencing, relax into the energy and imagine your partner completely surrounded by a bubble of white light. This light is loving and protective. Now return to your own physical space and imagine that you too are surrounded by white light. Come back completely into the body and open your eyes.

• Physical Intuition:
  If you are a physical intuitive you might want to hold a photograph of your partner or one of their personal objects. Intuiting information through the energy imprint of a photo or personal object is called psychometry. Physical intuitives have a special knack for being able to receive intuitive information in this way. Close your eyes and breathe. Imagine white light healing energy moving down through the top of your head. Move this healing energy through your entire body. Notice any place in your body where you are tight or tense. Breathe into these places and release any tension through the exhale. Continue this process until you feel relaxed and stress-free. Now, imagine your partner. Use your imagination to do this. Intend to become aware of what they are experiencing. You might have the most success with this if you now tune into your own body. Move your awareness through your body and imagine that you can experience what your partner is experiencing. Are you stressed, anxious, relaxed, or full of energy and stamina? Go to any place in your body where you feel tension or stress and imagine sending warm love to this area. Release the stress and continue to breathe. Are there any unusual aches and pains; do you feel a headache, or light and full of life? Keep tuning in and send healing wherever it is needed. When you have experienced all that you can for now, allow your partner to move their energy back into their own body. You can do this through simple intent. They are now in their body and you are in yours. Take a few deep breaths and move white light healing energy through your body. Feel your body fill with energy vibrancy and love. Send this same energy to your partner.

When you are ready open your eyes.

Love is a potent life-force energy that is not restricted by time, space or condition. It has no barriers and there is no power in this world that is stronger than it. With love, two people become one. Develop your intuitive connection to love and allow its powerful presence and mystery to unfold in your life.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2010. All rights reserved.

I'm 29 years old and have a big problem: I'm stuck in a sort of limbo. I was in mental health treatment for 20 years and on medications that damaged my body, mind and spirit. I was abused and abandoned. I never knew love for most of my life. My first understanding of gentleness came through my domestic partner three years ago. I have been re-examined off of medication and tested completely within normal limits. I have no mental health issues aside from post traumatic stress disorder, mild anxiety, and delayed social development due to a lack of exposure to people. No need was found for the damaging treatment I received for 20 years. I am blocked from moving forward due to emotional/physical scars that will not heal. I'm upset with those who did this to me, and I don't understand why. I have no legal recourse due to the statute of limitations. I'm crushed that I can't make this right. I'm poor and have a lot of medical problems I can't afford to treat. I'm too sick to work and may never be able to. I want to heal but I just can't seem to keep my head above water. I can't get how this could be moral, let alone legal. My soul knows to move forward but subconsciously I can't due to the unresolved past. How can I resolve this so I can move on? Any help would be welcomed.

- Steph

Astrea:

Refuse to be discouraged and take comfort in knowing that things are finally getting better for you. Soon you can begin to follow your holy calling to help others, which is why all these terrible things happened in the first place.

In your celestial incarnation before this lifetime, you must have agreed to let these awful things happen to you. You wanted to understand completely what it is to suffer like that so that you could help others heal. The Light is a holy calling, and it's on you as much as your own skin. Don't deny this gift.

Certainly what was done to you was immoral, illegal, and just plain wrong. As I read your letter again, I was struck with a feeling that you haven't exhausted all your legal avenues. Even if you can't file criminal charges against the people who did these awful things to you, maybe you can take civil action and hit them where it will hurt them the most - in their wallets.

Of course, money is not going to take away all your pain - you must discover what will within yourself.

A common therapy is to confront those who have done us wrong. If you choose this as part of your recovery, do it in front of a witness like a friend or police officer. Confronting wrongdoers sometimes helps us find peace and forgiveness. Even if you can't forgive them, please stop blaming yourself for what happened.

If you don't feel ready for confrontation, write them a letter spelling out exactly how they caused you suffering. Tracing the chronology of all you went through will also help you recover your strength and energy.

Even though it may be very hard for you to trust anyone involved with the medical profession, do not stop therapy! What happened to you is too extreme for you to resolve it alone. You are going to need lots of support as you grow stronger and learn to trust your own judgment.

There are other people who are suffering from past hurts just as deep as your own. Those people need your help. During the next five years, I can see you and your therapist writing a best-selling book about your personal experiences and your healing journey. This will bring you not only a big financial reward, but also the peace your soul is longing for.

Others will begin to come to you for help with their own healing, and you will find a sense of purpose for your life that will make you happy beyond your wildest dreams. Open your life to the God-force that is so strong in you. Your survival depended on that holy force, but now it can be the source of your happiness.

*****

Susyn:

I'm sorry for all the difficult experiences you've been through, and can understand your anger and resentment for the way you've been treated. You are correct, however, when you say that you must resolve and move past these experiences in order to heal and create peace and happiness for yourself.

First of all, I would continue to look for someone who may be able to help you legally. Even though the statute of limitations has elapsed, there may be lawyers who would accept your case on a contingency basis, especially if these events happened when you were a juvenile.

In the mean time, there are a number of ways to stop the feelings of fear and powerlessness that tend to consume your days. I imagine that your ability to trust has been greatly damaged, so it's time to find a spiritual group or practice through which to work on that particular issue.

Buddhism has many ways to help you restore and reconnect your inner spirit. The Nichiren sect of Buddhism focuses on restoring one's power, changing one's karma, and in the process, releasing the past. You may want to research groups in your area and find one that can provide you with simple chanting practices. These have worked like magic for many people, myself included.

Keeping a journal and working with a therapist will also help you clear the past and let go of your anger. This is essential, for as long as your past haunts you, it will continue manifesting as health problems or a feeling of hopelessness.

Keep in mind that we all have karmic destinies to experience in this lifetime, and as difficult as they may seem, these events are designed to make us stronger. Often when these situations occur, the person involved will find themselves becoming an advocate for others, so you may want to seek out a support group and focus on helping other people who have suffered. In this way, you can turn your hardships into valued assets instead of just lamenting them.

You could also pursue an astrological or psychic reading on these experiences, as this could give you a powerful new perspective on them or answer your questions regarding why you had to go through all of this. These types of readings will also give you information about your future so you can relax and not concern yourself about anything like this happening to you again.

Finally, rest assured that things will improve from here on out, for it sounds like you have finally reached a place where you are ready to release the past so you can move into a much brighter, happier future.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.