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    • Growing Big Dreams

      An Excerpt from Growing Big Dreams
      By Robert Moss

      The greatest crisis of our lives is a crisis of imagination. We come to a dead stop because there is a barrier in front of us and we can’t imagine a way to get around or over it. Our work space feels like it is walled with cement blocks that are closing in more tightly every day, but we can’t imagine where we would go if we quit. We can’t breathe in an airless relationship but can’t picture how to take off. We look in the mirror, when we dare, and see the age lines, the skin blemishes, maybe the thinning hair, not the beauty that we may carry inside.

      We go on repeating to ourselves the tired old stories, strapped onto us by family or past histories of defeat and disappointment. Or we cling to memories of brighter days, or that win on the high school sports field, or that sweet summer romance, or that medal for valor, or that early success that was never repeated. Either way, by nursing grief or guilt or nostalgia, we manage to go through life looking in the rear-view mirror, stuck in the past, never fully available to the present moment.

      Or we miss the moment by carrying anxiety about the future, screening mental scenarios for what could go wrong. We give ourselves a hundred reasons not to take the risk of doing something new, something that would take us beyond the gated communities of the mind into the wilds of creative adventure.

      Conscious of it or not, we go around repeating our negative mantras. I’m too old. I’m not pretty enough. I don’t have the money. People always let you down. People don’t change. I’m so tired. You don’t think you do this? Pause for a moment. Take off the headphones. Listen to what’s playing on your inner soundtrack. It may be a song. “Am I blue?”

      I confess there are days, between snowstorms in a northeastern winter, when my mood can slump and go the color of the dirty gray ramparts of ice on the curb in my small, gritty city. And more days like these in the shut-up times of the pandemic. I don’t want to get out of bed even to walk the dog, who is waiting for me patiently. I may be stirred back to life by a dream or a cheering message from a loved one or hopes of an ocean beach vacation or a foreign adventure. But when I find it is still hard to rise above a low, lethargic mood and dump those negative mantras — My legs hurt, I’m played out, I can’t walk on the ice — I call in one of the greatest life coaches I know.

      I know him from his most famous book. Maybe you do too. His book is titled Man’s Search for Meaning. His name is Viktor Frankl. He was an existentialist — which is to say, someone who believes that we must be authors of meaning for our own lives — and a successful psychiatrist in Vienna before Nazi Germany swallowed Austria in 1938. He was a Jew and a freethinking intellectual, two reasons for the Nazis to send him to a concentration camp. For several years he was in Auschwitz, the most notorious of the Nazi death camps.

      In the camp, every vestige of humanity was taken from him, except what he could sustain in his mind and his heart. He was in constant pain, reduced to a near skeleton with a tattooed number on his arm, liable at any moment to be beaten or killed on the whim of a
      guard. He was there to be worked to death. He watched those around him shot or pummeled or carted off to the gas chambers every day.

      He made an astonishing choice. He decided that, utterly deprived of freedom in the nightmare world around him, he would tend one precious candle of light within. He would exercise the freedom to choose his attitude. It sounds preposterous, if you don’t know the story of what unfolded. When people tell us we have a bad attitude in ordinary circumstances, we are usually not grateful. The suggestion that we can choose our attitude when the world around us seems cold and bleak or we have suffered a major setback, even heartbreak, sounds cruel. But let’s stay with Viktor Frankl.

      When the light went out in his world, he managed to light that inner candle of vision. Despite the pain in his body and the screams and groans around him, he made an inner movie, a film of a possible life in a world where the Nazis had been defeated and Hitler was a memory. It was an impossible vision, of course, an escapist fantasy. There was no way he was going to survive Auschwitz.

      But he kept working on his inner movie, night after night, as director, scriptwriter, and star. He produced a scene in which he was giving a lecture in a well-filled auditorium. His body had filled out, and he was wearing a good suit. The people in the audience were
      intelligent and enthusiastic. The theme of his lecture was “The Psychology of the Concentration Camps.” In his movie, not only were the death camps a thing of the past; he had retained the sanity and academic objectivity to speak about what went on during the Holocaust from a professional psychiatric perspective.

      This exercise in inner vision, conducted under almost unimaginably difficult circumstances, got Viktor Frankl through. One year after the war ended, in a good suit, he gave that lecture as he had seen himself doing in his inner movies.

      What do we take away from this?

      First, that however tough our situation may seem to be, we always have the freedom to choose our attitude, and this can change everything. Let’s allow William James to chime in: “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

      Second, that our problems, however bad, are unlikely to be quite as bad as the situation of someone who has been sent to a Nazi death camp. That thought may help us to gain perspective, to stand back from a welter of grief and self-pity and rise to a place where we can start to dream up something better.

      Third, that we can make inner movies, and if they are good enough it is possible that they will play in the theater of the world.

      If we take Viktor Frankl’s example to heart, we see that choosing your attitude can be an exercise in creative imagination that is much more practical and original than trying to edit your inner soundtrack (though that is worth trying) or telling yourself that you can’t afford the energy of a negative thought (you can learn to use the energy of any strong emotion, including grief and rage).

      Would you like to make your own life movies, in which you enjoy the satisfaction of your deepest desires? Are you willing to grow a vision of bright possibility so rich and alive that it wants to take root in the world?

      Then you want to learn to use your imagination. The word imagination comes from the Latin imago, or image. Imagination has been defined as the faculty that clothes the forces at play in the inner world in images so we can perceive and interact with them. Phantasia, from which we derive fantasy, is the Greek word for imagination. It means “making visible.” The act of making visible makes it possible for humans to communicate with beings that are more than human. “Phantasia was the organ by which the divine world spoke to the human mind,” Robert Johnson observed in Inner Work:

      From my experience I am convinced that it is nearly impossible to produce anything in the imagination that is not an authentic representation of something in the unconscious.

      The whole function of the imagination is to draw up the material from the unconscious, clothe it in images, and transmit it to the conscious mind. Whatever comes up in the imagination must have been living somewhere in the fabric of the unconscious before it was given an image-form by the imagination.

      This book will help you connect with your inner imagineer and become scriptwriter, director, and star of your own life movies, choosing your preferred genre and stepping into a bigger and brave story.


      ROBERT MOSS is the creator of Active Dreaming, an original synthesis of modern psychology and shamanism, and offers workshops on dreaming, creativity, and shamanism throughout the world. He is also a bestselling novelist, journalist, and independent scholar. More information at MossDreams.com.

      Excerpted from the book Growing Big Dreams. Copyright © 2020 by Robert Moss. Printed with permission from New World Library.

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    • Double Vision: Are Non-Visual Dreams Out of Body Experiences?

      Many times in my dreams I can't see myself or anything else but I know that I am there. For example, last night I dreamed that I could only feel air. I had a sense of awareness, but nothing more. Is this an out of body experience? Also, there are certain times in my dreams when I see myself in some other body, as another person. I find all of this very confusing. Can you help?
      Anamica

      Astrea:

      For centuries, shamans and mystics of various cultures have sought out of body experiences. You are experiencing the same kind of thing without deliberate effort or control - yet. With practice, you can learn to create the right state of mind for inducing a conscious OBE.

      Out-of-body experiences typically involve sensations of floating or perceiving the body from outside of it. The sensation of air that you describe is pretty common in the realm of the OBE. An OBE can occur during sleep or while falling asleep, and often it is associated with near death experiences. Some anti-depressants have also been found to mechanically induce OBEs.

      Astral projection and out of body experiences are not exactly the same things. Out of body experiences usually occur spontaneously, without any planning or expectations on our part. Often, as in your case, they go beyond any expectations we may have of being in such a state. During an OBE, we travel to other dimensions where a sense of physicality isn't as natural as it is in awake or dreaming states.

      Most times, having an OBE is exciting, mystifying, and a bit frightening because it comes over us without much warning. While it's dream-like, it isn't the same as having a regular dream. During an OBE, we have the overwhelming sense that whatever we're experiencing is REALLY HAPPENING; we're sure we aren't dreaming or in an altered state of consciousness, though in many ways, we are, of course!

      During astral projection, many of us are able to visit face to face with our Guides and Angels. If you've been longing to reach a point in your spiritual growth that includes astral projection, you're certainly on the right track now; the OBE's you're having can lead to some amazing Soul Growth.

      Recognizing what is happening to you can carry you a long way toward gaining control of what's going on. As usual, with anything spiritual, it takes time according to your own learning curve to be able to use new skills in purposeful ways.

      As long as you stay out of the altered states induced by drug or alcohol use (including cigarettes), you can learn to mentally create the right state of consciousness for astral projection once you get a handle on these spontaneous OBEs. The biggest hurdle is to overcome any FEAR involved, but then, that is true for lots of mystical practices.

      *****

      Susyn:

      Dreams often deliver their messages in mysterious ways as the subconscious strives to gain access to the conscious mind. There are different types of dreams, and each has a specific purpose.

      Dreaming of flying (being surrounded by air) or being in the body of another person does suggest an astral projection experience. Another common aspect of these types of dreams is when we experience a sense of falling and, upon landing, wake up with a jolt.

      Astral projection can be difficult to control. If you're interested in developing the art of astral projection, you can open the door to conscious flight by practicing guided meditation before bedtime.

      Upon retiring for the night, you may want to visualize a place, person or time in history that you would like to visit. Astral projection can also be accomplished while you are in an awake state, and this will offer you more control over your out-of-body travels.

      We can also have dreams in which we appear to inhabit the body of another person, or do not see ourselves as present in the dream. Many dream theorists claim that all the people who appear in our dreams symbolize aspects of ourselves. For example, if you found yourself dreaming of a certain movie star or famous person, this theory suggests that you are relating to or trying to embrace some of the characteristics of those people.

      When I conduct dream interpretations, I consider all possibilities from all angles. I have clients who find themselves visiting people they knew long ago, but they see them in their present state or location. Upon further investigation, the higher purpose of these dreams is almost always to simply reconnect with that person in a direct way. It doesn't matter if they admire aspects of that person or carry unresolved issues involving them; something is calling them to reconnect.

      To discover if these dreams are forms of astral projection, premonitions, or designed to help you process old feelings and issues, you'd be wise to start a journal and record all of your dreams in it. Then you'll be able to identify various patterns from which to draw the significance of these experiences.

      As you do this, your dreams will become richer and clearer, and you'll start to develop a greater ability not only to decipher them, but to direct them in a positive, purposeful manner.

      Astrea:

      Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

      Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

      While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

      I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

      As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

      I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

      You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

      Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

      A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

      You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.

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