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by Jana Moreno

Many of us have forgotten that we have all the answers to all we seek, and that we can access these answers without needing to seek them outside of ourselves. Mind you, sometimes the answer does come to us from another person, but to rely solely on another person or group of people to find your own answers can create a crutch for you. So how can we find the answers to our own questions or issues without depending on something or someone outside of ourselves?

Here are Three Ways to Tune In and Get Your Own Answers:

1) Meditate on it. Simple and useful as it is, many people forget that they don't have to lament over the issue and can get straight to solving it by meditating on it. This is one of my favorite ways to tune in and get your own answers. So let's say the issue is that you had an argument with a friend that you want to resolve, and you can either save the friendship or let it go completely. Instead of going and telling your other friends about it or seeking advice elsewhere, become calm and relaxed. Open yourself, become blank and release all emotional attachment or involvement with the situation. Emotions are something one must feel and express, so it is recommended to meditate on it AFTER you have expressed and exhausted your emotional involvement in the situation first.

Then simply sit with it. Don't try to find the answer; just sit with the situation or drama that you would like to rectify without judgment. See it as it is without labeling it, judging it or making it wrong. An answer may come up immediately, or it may take a few days first. Sometimes the situation seems to solve itself. Practice this and make it a habit whenever something happens that you allow yourself to be affected by, and you will find that the answers will make themselves known to you faster and faster.

2) Ask questions. The brain is an interesting and complex organ, and it is a problem-solving machine. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are asking questions all the time, questions that the brain automatically goes to work on answering by trying to find answers or bits of information. The thing is that oftentimes we ask the wrong questions. We ask things like, Why do I always fall for the wrong kind of guy? or How come this always happens to me? The more we ask these questions either consciously or unconsciously, the more the brain goes to work, picking out bits of information that match the vibration of these questions.

Instead, ask questions such as, Why am I being affected by this? or What can be done to solve this issue? If the question is about something specific like a certain pattern in relationships, ask yourself questions like, What would it take for genuine and sensitive men to ask me out? or What needs to be done so that I can be in a rewarding and fulfilling relationship?

The trick with this is again to try NOT to answer the questions. Just ask them two or three times a day, and let your brain do the rest of the work, sifting through the information. Several things could happen:

• One: you could get an inspirational thought to go somewhere or meet someone.
• Two: you may get no inspirational thoughts, but feel yourself beginning to shift in energy.
• Three: the questions become the answer, and men start coming into your life experience!

3) Go with your gut. Our intuition is our best guide, and it doesn't always go with mainstream thinking. For example, I went to several sales seminars years ago in order to hone my sales skills, and almost everything I learned went against my gut. Instead of listening to my intuition and my emotions, which were telling me that hard selling didn't feel right for me, I went against it and it showed in my results. I was carrying certain emotions with me about hard-selling, and instead of listening to them, I pushed them aside, which made my sales calls and meetings a bit awkward for me and my potential clients. Once I gave in and listened to what felt right and what didn't feel right, I found my own unique sales style that worked best for me.

The same goes for any situation. FEEL what is right for you. If the whole world has an idea that a good friend is supposed to be and act a certain way, but it doesn't sit right with you, then listen to that. Maybe it isn't right for that particular situation, or maybe your BS sensor is going off and letting you know via your intuition. No matter what you do, the whole world is going to have an opinion on what is best for you, but ultimately you already know it for yourself. The key is to listen to yourself and follow through.

Make this a daily practice. Check in from time to time to see how you feel about certain things. Hold up an item such as a cup of coffee and see how you feel inside. It might be a very subtle feeling, but give it a go. Then hold up something else such as a phone, wallet, orange and so on, and note the different feelings coming through. This will support you in building your intuition.

In summary, you have all the answers you seek. Sometimes the answers rise from within you, and sometimes your outer world will reflect them back to you. The key is to begin relying on yourself for answers instead of asking everyone else who has never been in your shoes. If everyone is giving you different advice, it is a reflection of your inner state of being! Begin depending on yourself and tuning your own vibration, and watch how you never let yourself down.

Jana Moreno is an author, speaker, trainer, Inspire.fm radio host, and owner of Wisdom Ink Magazine online. Jana supports people in creating and experiencing fulfilling careers, loving relationships, boundless energy and health, financial mastery, joy, love and abundance. Jana gives talks and trainings in Malaysia, and gives sessions to people from all around the world including the United States, Vietnam, Brunei and Canada. She has been participating in this work since 2006, and provides workshops, retreats and group circles. For more of her inspiring writing, visit Wisdom Ink Magazine. To connect with Jana, check out her Facebook page and Twitter.

I recently lost my husband of 30 years. He died at the young age of 56 of brain cancer. I felt him through all of the services, but no longer hear or feel him. He promised he would always stay with me. Why can't I hear or feel him? Thank you for you answer.

Elizabeth

Susyn:

By the time you read this letter, you should be able to hear and sense your husband around you again. You see, it seems there is a specific pattern that unfolds when a loved one passes over. I have seen this numerous times and can assure you that there is nothing to be alarmed about.

When someone dies, their presence is often felt strongly right after their passing. This typically continues up until the time of their service. Once a service has been held, people often report that the spirit of their loved one seems to go away.

This lasts about six weeks. Though I can't explain why this happens, I had the same experience when my mother passed away. I felt her spirit strongly during the week between her passing and her funeral, and held a number of conversations with her during this time. After the funeral, things went quiet.

I have attempted to channel loved ones after their passing, and can't seem to receive any reception until a month and a half have passed. In one instance, a client's father came to me during this phase, but could not speak to me. Instead, he wrote messages on a piece of paper that I was able to see. My client was not able to talk directly with him until after this cycle was complete.

My sense is that when spirits cross over, there is a sort of initiation and healing that they must go through. As we process our own grief and shock here on the earth plane, they are going through a similar set of changes. Once this is complete, they are able to communicate with us once again.

You may also want to note another series of cycles that occurs when we lose a loved one. At the three, six and nine-month anniversary of their passing, we tend to move to a different level of grieving. At these intervals, you may notice your sense of pain and loss accelerating. This is a normal occurrence. It is helpful to keep these timeframes in mind as you move forward through the grieving process.

Your husband is near you and will always remain close. As I mentioned, by this time, you may have begun to feel his presence again. Watch for signs to come from the most unusual places, in the form of animals, smells, discovered personal items and memories that seem to appear out of nowhere.

You may be ready to schedule a channeling session with a medium to speak with him, as the time of silence should have passed by now. I wish you well as you recover from this loss and transition into a new relationship with your husband, one that bridges the gap between the human and spirit worlds.

*****

Oceania:

I believe your husband has been with you all along. You felt his presence strongly when he first passed because the two of you were close in the same way that a mother is almost inseparable from her newborn infant. Given that he was recently reborn, your husband is like the infant in this particular situation.

In another way, YOU are the child and he's the wise parent watching over you. He was very close to you following his transition, comforting and reassuring you as you adapted to the big changes that resulted from his passing, including the loss of his physical presence. That was an adjustment for both of you!

As a baby becomes a toddler, parents allow and encourage a bit more independence for the sake of the child's personal growth. When parent and child are out in the world, let's say at a park or playground, there's a stage where the young child stays close by the parent's side, even clinging physically. A little later, the child begins to wander off, looking back at the parent from time to time. Visual contact alone provides the comfort now; the child no longer needs to be in constant physical contact to feel loved and secure.

You're a toddler in your grief now. Your husband has backed away some to nudge you forward and to encourage your autonomy, but you can rest assured that he's always around. With time, you will learn to perceive and enjoy his subtler signs and communications.

You'll be with your husband again someday, but for now, you're still in Earth School, Theater, Lab, Nature Retreat! You still have lessons to learn, creations to manifest, mysteries to solve and simple pleasures to relish. You can't dive back into life if you're clinging to him, so wander off a bit with confidence that your husband is still there, just at a greater distance.

You have more living to do! You might look into personal coaching to explore your next life purpose. Up until now, you've been focused on your marriage and more recently upon caregiving. Now it's time for you! Develop your gifts, read, study, learn and allow yourself to enjoy friendships and new forms of companionship. You are hereby authorized to live your life to the fullest, guilt-free.

Begin by pampering yourself. Your husband would want that! Get a massage, a new haircut, new outfit, try a new hobby, go on a spiritual retreat or plan a small trip. If you are still grieving, consider a bereavement support group. From time to time, when you least expect it, your husband will make his presence known.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.