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Creating a Magical Room for Love, by Mabel Iam

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Magic is the art of using the energies provided by nature and the universe. When blocked energy becomes free, it produces pleasure and is hence welcomed by those around you. Successfully finding the right mate is a process that has three main steps. But before you undertake these steps, you need to create the conditions that will enable you to establish a deep spiritual rapport with someone special.

You must:

• Create clear affirmations of the person you're looking for
• Create your own magical "love room"
• Invoke the man/woman of your dreams on a daily basis

When you are looking for a space in which to create a magical love room, it is essential that any such space fits your liking. It must be a place where you feel protected and comfortable. Pay attention to your intuition when choosing a magical room for love. If possible, it should be kept secret—hidden from other members of your household.

Take the necessary time to choose your magical love room, visualize it, and decide what you want in it. Think of things that are significant to you and qualities you want in your ideal mate or perfect lover. In your sacred room, you will be able to experience who you are and who you might be; to transcend your daily needs and enlighten your spirit.

Houses or rooms—just like your body—need good color, lighting, furnishing, and ornaments. Your room must reflect your lifestyle. Plus, your magical love nest needs to have objects that activate romance and sensuality. For example, the bedroom can be decorated with plants whose stems are entwined or a sculpture of two embraced lovers. But basically, your sacred room must have an altar: a small table (preferably wooden), a candleholder (preferably metal); a saucer with earth or salt, a vase with water, perfume, plants, flowers, incense, a sacred symbol or image, and candles. It is said that the preparation of the altar creates the necessary energy for a sex ritual. Setting up your sacred room is a creative process.

The way in which you use the sacred room and the role it plays in your life is deeply personal. That's why there are so many differences in the ways people go about preparing and energizing the place.

Strict rituals can be carried out to purify the sacred place. You can burn herbs or hold special ceremonies to sanctify the altar (for example, during full moons, equinoxes, and solstices). You can also burn incense and use the smoke to purify it, play a drum, or ring bells. Your practices will change as your spiritual experience improves, from formal purification and cleansing rituals to simple prayers or invocations. Undoubtedly, the best way to energize your sacred room has to do with your personal style and habits.

Here are some suggestions to energize and renovate your sacred room daily:

• Burn incense
• Play an instrument, which helps to change and heighten the place's energy
• Ring a bell
• Sing or play your favorite love songs
• Decorate your room with flowers
• Fill vases with water and place them throughout the room
• Scatter crystals and gems
• Frame and display photographs of spiritual teachers you admire
• Display sacred letters
• Create cards with words or drawings that describe your wishes and goals
• Burn colored candles
• Incorporate things that remind you of love, like snapshots of happy times

Create a sacred space in your heart that will open your life and manifest an encounter with your perfect lover.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2004. All rights reserved.

In 2000, I bought a home that used to be a church. When the pastor died in 1999, the church was converted into a house, and that's when I bought it. The house borders a cemetery that has graves that date back to 1800. Since moving into the house, we find dimes everywhere, and some are in really odd places: the garbage disposal, dishwasher, washer, dryer, bathtub, suitcases, shoes, chairs, beds, etc. We can't figure this out. Where are they coming from, and why only dimes? Also, we tried to sell the house last year in order to buy a larger home, but no one wanted it because everyone was terrified of the cemetery. Our realtor hosted an open house one beautiful spring afternoon. We had flowers, snacks, and one candle lit on our large screened in porch, where we waited to greet guests. Right after the open house started, the entire stack of real estate flyers with our house information on them mysteriously blew into that little pillar candle and went up in flames. Our realtor was pretty shaken, and needless to say, the open house was over. Could these events be messages from the preacher of the church, who was there from the 1940s until he passed away? Is it a bad idea to turn a church into a home for some reason? Any light you can shed on this matter would be appreciated. Thanks!

- Dawn

Dreamchaser:

Let's take this in the same order you presented it.

The dimes are from Spirit. Spiritual beings will often leave us money to show us that they are there, want us to be prosperous, and are helping us with our earthly ventures. They leave the same type of coin over and over so that we will KNOW it is not "coincidence." I personally find pennies everywhere.

The beings that are dropping these dimes are a hodge-podge group, so to speak. You have some spirit guides following you, and you have loved ones from both sides of the family in heaven who want to say hello. You also have the pastor and the souls that are in the cemetery.

Speaking of the souls in the cemetery, you have always respected them and not feared them, and thus, some of them will choose to come around your house and family to visit and basically just hang out. None of these beings thinks that you should sell it and move, because you are the perfect caretaker for your property.

For example, you "just know" if something is wrong and exactly who to call or what to do to fix it. You take pride in its history, and you keep the property up nice. I cannot stress enough how appreciative and protective those souls are of you and yours.

Personally, I do not feel it is a bad idea to turn a church into a home, though I imagine that each person has his or her own view on this issue. If the church has served its purpose to the community, I think it would actually make a fantastic home, because it would hold many years' worth of good energy for the family that moves in.

That truly is "hallowed ground." Because it is such a blessed, spiritually pure environment, the beings that enter into that space are also of a high spiritual nature. As I'm sure you can imagine, no dark being would be drawn to a place that has so much positive, loving energy flowing from it. Those sort of spirits would just move on down the street to another house.

Also, it's because of this strong spiritual energy that the beings that do come around you can so readily interact with you and affect the environment of your home. I think some places on earth are more prone to being "haunted."

My kids and I stayed at a bed and breakfast in upstate New York one summer evening. My son was around 10 years old at the time, and he got scared and ran and jumped in my bed. My daughter jumped in my son's empty bed because she felt someone stroking her head as she lay on her side. Then my bed started to vibrate at a high rate of speed.

So as you can see, these sorts of things can happen to any of us and in all sorts of places. I hope you can find a way to embrace the spirit friends in your home, and be grateful for their presence.

*****

Astrea:

It's not a bad idea to turn a church into a home, as long as it isn't being occupied by some mischievous or jealous spirit. That pastor has latched on to your family, however, and has no intention of letting go of you OR leaving.

This pastor chose you and your family as "replacements" for his congregation. He LOVES you and doesn't want you to move out; that's why he's pulling so many stunts to keep y'all there.

He purely ADORES your energy and that of the rest of the family. I honestly don't know how you will EVER get rid of that place unless he can find someone he likes as much as you to live there.

He has chosen to stay earthbound with you because he's tickled PINK with what you're doing to the place. He even wishes HE had thought of some of your ideas.

The dimes are so interesting to me. "Silver" is one of the oldest ways to ward off evil. I'm SURE that over the years, that pastor left hundreds of dimes all over that property. There are dimes there for every grave you can see in the cemetery. There are dimes there for every person he counseled during his forty-year service. You could find a dime a day for the rest of your life.

Now dimes have become his sign to let you know he's still around and "looking after" the place. It never occurs to him that he might frighten anyone. You could TRY a ritual to "send him into the Light," but he doesn't want to leave.

Your only hope is to find a similar family to take over for you. Even then, your pastor is going to be somewhat disgruntled. He is going to give ANYONE a hard time about moving in, and your family a hard time about moving out.

Try not to get too attached to your breakables, and don't buy anything expensive until after you move. Once he knows you're totally serious about leaving, he'll start pitching fits again like he did at your open house. Until he finds people he likes as much as he does you, you won't be able to sell the place.

I do have some good news for you: The right family is nearly there. Sometime before August, someone from that family will approach you with stars in his eyes and fall in love with the place, cemetery and all. The pastor will be suspicious at first, but he'll be drawn to this family as he was to yours. By September, you should be able to leave the new people there in relative "peace."

All my life I've wanted to do what you're doing: find a school or a church and turn it into my home, but I've never figured out how I would afford the utility bills. The cemetery would be a bonus to me - all those interesting dead people to "talk" to if I was bored! Your place even has a built-in spiritual mentor.

Hey - your church home isn't in Texas, is it? 🙂

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.