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by Jana Moreno

Many of us have forgotten that we have all the answers to all we seek, and that we can access these answers without needing to seek them outside of ourselves. Mind you, sometimes the answer does come to us from another person, but to rely solely on another person or group of people to find your own answers can create a crutch for you. So how can we find the answers to our own questions or issues without depending on something or someone outside of ourselves?

Here are Three Ways to Tune In and Get Your Own Answers:

1) Meditate on it. Simple and useful as it is, many people forget that they don't have to lament over the issue and can get straight to solving it by meditating on it. This is one of my favorite ways to tune in and get your own answers. So let's say the issue is that you had an argument with a friend that you want to resolve, and you can either save the friendship or let it go completely. Instead of going and telling your other friends about it or seeking advice elsewhere, become calm and relaxed. Open yourself, become blank and release all emotional attachment or involvement with the situation. Emotions are something one must feel and express, so it is recommended to meditate on it AFTER you have expressed and exhausted your emotional involvement in the situation first.

Then simply sit with it. Don't try to find the answer; just sit with the situation or drama that you would like to rectify without judgment. See it as it is without labeling it, judging it or making it wrong. An answer may come up immediately, or it may take a few days first. Sometimes the situation seems to solve itself. Practice this and make it a habit whenever something happens that you allow yourself to be affected by, and you will find that the answers will make themselves known to you faster and faster.

2) Ask questions. The brain is an interesting and complex organ, and it is a problem-solving machine. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are asking questions all the time, questions that the brain automatically goes to work on answering by trying to find answers or bits of information. The thing is that oftentimes we ask the wrong questions. We ask things like, Why do I always fall for the wrong kind of guy? or How come this always happens to me? The more we ask these questions either consciously or unconsciously, the more the brain goes to work, picking out bits of information that match the vibration of these questions.

Instead, ask questions such as, Why am I being affected by this? or What can be done to solve this issue? If the question is about something specific like a certain pattern in relationships, ask yourself questions like, What would it take for genuine and sensitive men to ask me out? or What needs to be done so that I can be in a rewarding and fulfilling relationship?

The trick with this is again to try NOT to answer the questions. Just ask them two or three times a day, and let your brain do the rest of the work, sifting through the information. Several things could happen:

• One: you could get an inspirational thought to go somewhere or meet someone.
• Two: you may get no inspirational thoughts, but feel yourself beginning to shift in energy.
• Three: the questions become the answer, and men start coming into your life experience!

3) Go with your gut. Our intuition is our best guide, and it doesn't always go with mainstream thinking. For example, I went to several sales seminars years ago in order to hone my sales skills, and almost everything I learned went against my gut. Instead of listening to my intuition and my emotions, which were telling me that hard selling didn't feel right for me, I went against it and it showed in my results. I was carrying certain emotions with me about hard-selling, and instead of listening to them, I pushed them aside, which made my sales calls and meetings a bit awkward for me and my potential clients. Once I gave in and listened to what felt right and what didn't feel right, I found my own unique sales style that worked best for me.

The same goes for any situation. FEEL what is right for you. If the whole world has an idea that a good friend is supposed to be and act a certain way, but it doesn't sit right with you, then listen to that. Maybe it isn't right for that particular situation, or maybe your BS sensor is going off and letting you know via your intuition. No matter what you do, the whole world is going to have an opinion on what is best for you, but ultimately you already know it for yourself. The key is to listen to yourself and follow through.

Make this a daily practice. Check in from time to time to see how you feel about certain things. Hold up an item such as a cup of coffee and see how you feel inside. It might be a very subtle feeling, but give it a go. Then hold up something else such as a phone, wallet, orange and so on, and note the different feelings coming through. This will support you in building your intuition.

In summary, you have all the answers you seek. Sometimes the answers rise from within you, and sometimes your outer world will reflect them back to you. The key is to begin relying on yourself for answers instead of asking everyone else who has never been in your shoes. If everyone is giving you different advice, it is a reflection of your inner state of being! Begin depending on yourself and tuning your own vibration, and watch how you never let yourself down.

Jana Moreno is an author, speaker, trainer, Inspire.fm radio host, and owner of Wisdom Ink Magazine online. Jana supports people in creating and experiencing fulfilling careers, loving relationships, boundless energy and health, financial mastery, joy, love and abundance. Jana gives talks and trainings in Malaysia, and gives sessions to people from all around the world including the United States, Vietnam, Brunei and Canada. She has been participating in this work since 2006, and provides workshops, retreats and group circles. For more of her inspiring writing, visit Wisdom Ink Magazine. To connect with Jana, check out her Facebook page and Twitter.

This is regarding my sister, who passed away a year ago. She committed suicide because she was depressed about her wedding getting called off twice. When she first died, I had dreams about her; now not so much. I keep wondering if she is happy now or if she is sad about leaving us. How can I know if she has crossed over and is at peace? Relatives have dreamed of her as a bride. Is this just our imagination, or is she showing herself like this because she wanted to get married before she died? I pray for a sign from her. Is she not coming back and talking to family because she feels guilty? Are souls who commit suicide punished? I wish I could talk to her; I would probably ask her to stay with our family forever. When I talk to her picture, I feel she is talking to me like when she was alive. I am not sure if this is really her talking to me in my mind or if I'm just imagining it. I know these are a lot of questions, but please help: you guys are the only ones helping us to solve these mysteries.

M.

Susyn:

Losing a loved one is always difficult, but it's especially so when they take their own lives. Often their spirits come to us through dreams or signs, which offer confirmation that they have made it to the other side. Though there may appear to be lapses between the times we can sense their presence, they are always near.

I am sure that your sister is sad about leaving you, but I do feel that she has made peace with what happened and is now happy. The burdens and disappointments of her recent life were simply too much to bear. Now that she is in the spirit world, she has more awareness of why things turned out the way they did.

Your sister comes dressed as a bride to identify herself and perhaps to communicate the reason she felt she could no longer stay on the earth plane. Her perception of life and of being married has changed because things are different where she is now. I feel that she hopes that appearing in a bridal gown will let you all know that she is finally at peace.

It can be difficult for a spirit to make their presence known if the people they are visiting are too wrapped up in their own emotions and grief. Though you may not be aware of them, your sister sends many signs to you and your family. When we search for signs or look too hard, we can miss the obvious. You may be feeling guilty about not being able to stop her from taking her own life. She does not want anyone to blame themselves, as this was her choice.

When you talk to your sister's picture, I'm sure she can hear you. The conversations you two have are very real even though the messages are exchanged mentally instead of physically. You can trust what you hear and believe what she says.

I encourage you to watch for other signs that your sister is around. Perhaps a favorite song of hers will come on the radio, someone will use phrases specific to her, or you will smell scents that remind you of her. When this happens, she may be trying to send you a sign to pull out her picture so you can have a telepathic chat.

Souls who commit suicide are not punished, nor are they blocked from reaching out to connect with their loved ones. There is a difference between suicides and those who die natural deaths, however: much to their surprise, suicides still have to find spiritual ways to work out the issues that caused them to give up on life.

Please know that your sister is happy and doing well, and is never far from you and your family. Even though she may not visit in your dreams anymore, you can still call on her whenever you like, and emotionally connect with her much as you did when she was still in the land of the living.

*****

Oceania:

I'm so sorry for your loss. I encourage you to seek support through individual counseling, a bereavement group, or an online community like pos-ffos.com. As you dig deeper into this healing process, you may discover that your questions are intellectual exercises that are keeping you from grieving. You may believe you'd feel better if you knew all the answers, but we often have to live with not knowing some things, for not all questions can be answered.

What WILL make you feel better is grieving: acknowledging and expressing all of your feelings, even the irrational ones. Feelings aren't right or wrong - they just are. You may feel guilty because you're wondering if you could have helped your sister, or find it hard to enjoy YOUR life when she chose to end hers. I'm sure you also feel sad and mad. You may understand that her act was not personal, but it's still normal to feel like she gave up and abandoned you.

Most of us survive life's disappointments. Those who turn to suicide have usually been struggling with mental illness for some time, and have rigid, unrealistic beliefs. To endure life's unexpected twists, we must remain flexible and humble while keeping our sense of self strong and our self-worth intact. As is often said, life is what happens when you're busy making other plans!

I don't believe anyone is punished for committing suicide. I'm confident your sister is at peace and is receiving the healing and wisdom she needs to move forward. I know she wants the best for you as you continue your earthly journey. I also believe she IS communicating with you as you speak to her picture, so tell her everything you're feeling and listen for her replies. She has found compassion and forgiveness for herself, so while she's not in a place of feeling guilty, she is sorry for the pain she caused you and others.

I drew a tarot card to represent each of you. For you, it's IX, The Hermit, a card about individual strength and walking a path of integrity. For her, it's XIV, Art, which follows the Death card! The meaning of this is rebirth and creating something new from the old. I asked her if there was a message she wished to give you, and drew the 10 of Cups, Passion! It is the most vibrant card in my deck, full of huge tropical flowers bursting into red, orange, yellow and purple blossoms.

There is a golden winged Lion in the center of the card. I don't know if either of you is a Leo, but Leo's message is surely to live large and let your light shine. More than any other card in the deck, this one is about being open to receiving life's gifts, which I think is a lovely message from her to you!

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.