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by Leta Herman & Jaye McElroy

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Who is the most significant person in your life? Well...YOU are! Even if you are in a loving relationship, the most important factor to attaining "true" love is truly loving yourself.

When you fall in love with yourself, you then share that love with others, and yes, possibly even with a significant other. But that is not mandatory for happiness. In fact, falling in love with yourself first actually attracts others to you! You become a light that others are drawn to, "like a moth to a flame."

This Valentine's Day, start to discover yourself and all of your gifts through understanding your true nature with the Five Elements. We're not talking about your personality or physical appearance; we're talking about something deep inside that hasn't ever changed since the day you were born. Picture it like gold: a metal that never tarnishes and always retains its amazing beauty. It's time to dig for gold; that beauty inside you, your true nature.

Your Energy Type is your true nature. You were born this way. Every move you make, every word you speak, the way you look into someone's eyes, how you dance, how you walk. You are expressing this true nature every moment of every day.

Your true nature is made up of all Five Elements, but in a specific order. One of the Elements is your predominant way of moving through life: Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, or Water. And your true nature is some combination of all five (perhaps Earth/Metal/Fire/Wood/Water, for example). Your Elemental signature dictates how you walk through life. What is your combination or Elemental order?

Nature has certain governing principles or laws of movement. These correlated to the four seasons:

• Life is born in the Spring (Wood)
• Grows to maturity in the Summer (Fire)
• Dies and goes back to the earth in the Fall (Metal)
• Hibernates and gathers energy in Winter (Water) to start again in the Spring
• Each of these seasons has a transition phase (Earth), something that helps smooth out these radically different energies.

These four seasons, plus the transitions, correlate to the Five Elements.

Your energy also correlates to the Five Elements. Every living being on this planet knows how to behave like Spring, Summer, Fall, or Winter at different times, and every being knows how to transition from one season to another. It is instinctual and just comes naturally.

Let's help you find your true nature, the immutable gold that is deep inside you.

• Wood: Are you Wood, a natural-born leader, delegator, and continual project-starter? You do things that other people are afraid to do because you enjoy working for the reward of meeting and surmounting challenges. You love a good challenge: a fun, new project; a competitive team against whom to play; an interesting new business deal. You have the strength and smarts to succeed. Don't believe anyone who says you're too pushy or intimidating; you are the nicest person you know! Some people might not understand your straightforwardness, but that's the get-things-done attitude that always wins in the end. It's time to appreciate what you bring to the table and see yourself for who you really are—amazing!
• Fire: Are you Fire? A smiling, optimistic, people-pleaser who everyone wants to be friends with? You are all about love! In fact, you are the love! It's just hard because when you wear your heart on your shirt sleeves, it makes you vulnerable. You want to be open-hearted, but some people are just downright mean. You can't make them love you more, no matter how much you do for them or put them first in your life. It's time to look a little deeper at yourself. How can you explore this immense love that's inside you? When you can wake up on Valentine's Day and give yourself a big smooch in the mirrow because you're so beautiful, loving, and open, then you've finally found what you've been looking for your entire life—the love that's already inside you.
• Earth: Maybe you are Earth, a well-balanced giver, problem-solver, and thinker. You have been searching your entire life for home. You want home so badly that you make accommodations for people. You find yourself having to look away, always dissatisfied. It's time to realize, no matter who is in your life right now, your home is not them...it's you. You are the home, the home is in you. Lean back in your easy chair, put your feet up, and give yourself a huge, yummy hug. Make the home in you so warm and cozy that when you meet the people you really want in your life, they can't wait to snuggle up next to you in your comfy home. Stop looking for your true home or trying to fix your broken one. Be you. You are the abundance, you are the warmth, you are the caring. Be the home you have always wanted to find.
• Metal: Perhaps you are Metal, a quiet watcher who serves honorably those in your life that deserve your help. The most important thing to first understand is that the Five Elements aren't trying to put you into a box. You're too unique to be put into any box. You cannot be contained. You are flying your magic carpet on the wind of life. You may be a free spirit who would rather be homeless and unfettered than tied down to a life of servitude or working for "the man." But if you see that the world needs you, you can't help but take the high road, the honorable road. Because you've come to know what is important and of greatest value. That's what you've learned in life, because you know what it's like to lose. And when you lose, you learn what is more important than anything else. You understand the sublime in life. Embrace what you do have and which is most valuable in your life: You! Thrive to be alive.
• Water: Are you Water? A quirky, laid-back but bold go-getter, simultaneously taking on the intensity of life and then hibernating for long periods of time. You feel good inside. You feel right. But people are bugging you —all the time—to be and do something different. You feel patient and on the right track. You want to trust. But you're so easily swayed by others. They are trying to change your true path in life. Are you flowing on your path or do you find yoursefl taking a lot of detours? And it's so hard to make a firm decision, because making a choice rules out all the other enticing paths. The truth is, it's not the path that really matters. You matter. It's you, on your path, that counts. And once you realize that it isn't the experience itself, but the true you that takes the steps on the road that matters, you can live life to the fullest and know that you truly matter to those around you.

The Gift of Gold on Valentine's Day
Are you unapologetically being you? Are you living authentically? Find your true nature, embrace it, believe it, feel it...and you will realize you are already the amazing, beautiful, caring, and worthy person that matters most in your life. Now you can go out and offer the present of you, like something made out of shining, untarnished, beautiful gold, to your special Valentine. And it can't hurt to buy the best box of chocolates, too (even if you eat them all yourself!). Enjoy!

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2016. All rights reserved.

For months there have been two or three people controlling my thoughts to get me to feel the way they want me to. They want to punish me or make me think twice about what I'm doing versus what they want me to do. There are thoughts forced into my mind constantly. I can't think for myself and if I try forcing the thoughts away they just get quiet for a while. How can I force these people out of my mental space?

S.

Astrea:

Telepathic messages are picked up by people with various types of psychic ability. Often Empaths will experience people intruding on their thoughts as you describe.

Most of the time, other people drift in and out of our minds or we only get vague impressions from them. We may pick up on their thoughts, but we perceive them with feelings and impressions instead of images or voices. I don't know of anyone getting the winning lottery numbers from something like this, but I do know that numbers are common things to see in this way.

It isn't good for you to feel helpless, especially since no one can punish you except YOU. Please try to grasp this concept! You can choose to stop hearing these voices, but you may need some help.

If you have people in your life you can trust to take this information in the right way, ask them to meditate and pray with you so you can get rid of these telepathic intruders right away. The sooner this is over, the better you will feel.

Also, think about what you did to open the door of your mind and let these intruders into your Harmony. Go back in time to when these voices began. If they seem to be growing stronger or more troubling, it may be high time to get rid of them altogether.

You can quiet them for a while now, and with time and effort, you can learn to quiet them permanently. You simply have to find the strength to close the door you opened in the past. Once you discover when, why and how this all began, you shouldn't have any trouble quieting these entities once and for all.

Most telepathic people must learn to shield themselves from other people's thoughts, but in this case, you've allowed them to take control. If these are living people you know in real life, just tell them to stop. If they are other-worldly people, then you have to get them out of your head.

One way to do that is to replace their voices with the voices of your Guides and Angels. Your Angels can battle these intruders and get rid of them for you, but you have to ask them to do it. Though our Guides and Angels can't force us to take particular action, they can force other beings out of where they don't belong.

You would also be wise to consider that these experiences could stem from a change in any kind of medication you've been taking. If you or your doctor made any prescription changes at about the time this began to happen, talk to your doctor about changing your dosage. If this is altogether a spiritual condition, you might seek support and guidance from a spiritual helper like a healer or spiritual counselor.

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Susyn:

This problem is more common than you might imagine. We are bombarded via television, radio and print advertising with commercials, messages and propaganda trying to influence our opinions. We also have ministers, teachers and family members around us who may be trying to influence or control our thoughts for various reasons.

It sounds like there are some people in your life who would like to direct your thoughts, and that you know who they are. In this case, it should be relatively simple to block their attempts.

First, keep in mind that every time you mention others' attempts to control you, you actually give them more power to do so. As long as you believe that they have the ability to do this, you keep the door open and allow this behavior to continue.

I recommend you begin with a daily or hourly affirmation. Each time you feel others' energy coming at you, simply block it with the statement, I am in control. No one has influence over my thoughts or actions unless I allow it.

Next, it would be a good idea to freeze these individuals using a few simple household items. Gather together a white candle, a brown grocery sack, some table salt, and some sandwich size Zip-loc baggies - one for each person you feel is trying to control your thoughts.

To center your mind, light the white candle and take some deep breaths. Tear off a small piece of the brown paper sack and write the name of one person on it. Concentrate on this piece of paper and say aloud, I ask the Universe to freeze all thoughts and controlling behavior emanating from this person, and return those thoughts to them tenfold.

Then fold the paper three times, drop it into the baggie and sprinkle some table salt into the bag. Next, fill the bag two-thirds full with water, seal it, and place it in your freezer. Repeat this ritual with each person you feel is attempting to control you. Within 24 hours (after the bags of water have frozen solid), you should feel better and more in control of your own thoughts.

If these are people with whom you are in regular contact, you can also visualize a small mirror in your solar plexus chakra area when you are with them. When you feel attacked, focus on the mirror and let it symbolically reflect their words and energy back to them.

You can also carry a piece of turquoise or lapis lazuli with you at all times, as these stones are known for their protective powers.

These three methods should help you sidestep any influence these people attempt to wield over you and eliminate the telepathic problems you've been having.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.