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How to Connect with Your Ancestors: Bring Light and Healing to Your Family in a Few Simple Steps, by Shelley A. Kaehr, PhD

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

I'm sure we can all agree that now, more than ever, we're all being called upon to go deep within and bring forth our own unique light of peace and understanding to each other and the world around us.

Historically, I've worked on my own issues and helped clients by guiding them into their own past lives to uncover areas that need healing and transformation.

While past life regression is an amazing tool for bringing greater peace to ourselves, there's another perhaps even more powerful way to make a huge and immediate impact not only on yourself personally, but on those around you. It's what I call Genealogical Regression, the subject of my book Heal Your Ancestors to Heal Your Life.

While working with clients in more traditional past life regression over the past twenty plus years, I always have a goal of helping them find the true starting point of the particular issue or challenge they’re coming to see me about. When they experience the source event, they're able to relieve themselves of stress, trauma, and other unwanted influences discussed in my book Meet Your Karma: The Healing Power of Past Life Memories. My RELIEF method for anxiety, depression, and trauma is designed to help people access the proper source event, because unless they do, the issue will not be fully resolved. A great example would be the weeds in your lawn. You can mow over them with the lawn mower, but invariably, they'll keep on coming back and rearing their ugly heads unless you make that extra effort to dig into the roots and pull them up at their source.

So where does a Genealogical Regression come in? On occasion, I will intuitively sense that a client is not at the optimal space where a full transformation can occur. When that happens, I'm sometimes guided that the issue is not caused by their own karma or past lives, but by something that happened to their ancestors instead. Believe it or not, modern scientists now believe that as much as fifty percent of our personality traits are influenced by genetics. That means that we should not only be tuning in to our own past lives, but to the challenges of our ancestors as well if we want to create optimal healing in our lives. That's exactly when the Genealogical Regression processes in Heal Your Ancestors to Heal Your Life can help.

To give you an example of how this works, you can easily follow a few simple steps right now to practice sending light to your ancestors. All it takes is a few moments to tap in to the incredible power of your imagination and see amazing results. Are you ready to try this? Here are some simple steps:

1. Close your eyes.
2. Imagine your mother and father in front of you. If they've passed into spirit, that's fine. Just know as you're imagining them, that these are their Higher Selves, or Souls who have come to see you.
3. Imagine you can see them as happy, healthy, excited about visiting with you, even if that's not how they are in real life. Remember, our families are likely people we've been around in past lives so at times, that's why they can be so challenging. While these irritations are tough to take at times, the souls who show up to be with us during our lives could be pushing our buttons, so to speak, to help our souls gain greater learning on our life path. At this Higher Self level, our moms and dads should be seen as high leveled souls who are often our greatest teachers in life.
4. Imagine you can ask mom or dad which side of the family most needs healing at this time—your mom or your dad? Notice the first thought that pops into your mind. Notice what you notice.
5. Whichever parent that is, imagine you can tune into them and ask if it's their mom or dad's side of the family that needs this healing. Again, notice the answer that seems to come into your mind from a higher place or perception.
6. Imagine you can send a light to your mother or father, then to their mother or father (whichever most needs this healing) and then imagine that healing light can move back in time through the next generation and the next, from your parent, to your grandparent, great grandparent, great-great grandparent and so forth. Simply allow your light and intention to go back in time for as far as your imagination can carry you.
7. Feel a healing light moving through these ancestors.
8. Imagine the light is calming their energy, healing trauma, bringing much-needed love and compassion to them and all who are around them.
9. Once you feel you've gone back as far as you can go, then move forward in time by noticing your earliest ancestor filling with light. Notice that light moves down through the family until it reaches your mom or dad.
10. Take your time and notice when things feel lighter and brighter.
11. Finally imagine this loving light moves from your chosen parent and into your body.
12. Feel the light in your heart center and imagine it moves through every single cell in your being.
13. Take your time. Allow the light to lift your energy and spirit. Notice the greater level of peace you now have in light of this healing you’ve sent your ancestors.
14. Thank both of your parents for joining you today.
15. If you feel guided, go ahead and repeat these steps with your other parent.
16. Whenever you feel ready, open your eyes and come back, feeling lighter and brighter than ever before!

How did you do? Do you feel lighter? When my clients went through the longer version of this process, I know they did, and I've used this method for years to send light to my own family. If we could at least occasionally take a moment to send a quick healing to our family in a proactive way, rather than doing so only when there's a crisis at hand, there’s no telling how much lighter our planet could become. Likewise, in my book Past Lives with Pets, I discuss the fact that our pets are so loving that they can also be a tremendous source of the quality of healing light we need now more than ever. We can easily tune into their love and allow that light to extend to our family as well.

I've found that when we heal any part of ourselves, we show up in our world as a calmer more compassionate being, and therefore all people must shift according to our newly expanded light. When we volunteer to help our ancestors, we're affecting not only them and ourselves directly, but all people who will interact with them and with future generations. The gift of healing goes on and on and the benefits can be felt exponentially for decades to come.

Won't you join me in consciously loving our ancestors and our other planetary co-inhabitants? We're all one human family, and the soul agreement we made to share this world with each other can be so enriched by extending your amazing light to all. With that, I wish you a peaceful journey, now and always! Namaste!

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2021. All rights reserved.

My former lover and I were both born in 1987. He committed suicide in May of last year because of his lover betraying him. A few days ago, he appeared in my dream, saying that he'll come back to me but in another body. Is it possible to reunite with a past lover by having him walk into the body of someone who is ready to leave this world, and take that body over? (This would of course happen with the permission of the soul that is leaving the body.) I will be waiting for your reply!

V.

Susyn:

What your former lover proposes in your dream is an interesting idea, but I do not believe it to be probable. It is very rare that a spirit exiting the body will give another spirit permission to enter it, so while I suppose it's possible, it's highly unlikely.

There are spirits who will take over another's body without their permission. These entities are often referred to as discarnates; they are ghosts who have left their earthly bodies through death and refuse to move into the light. You would not want him to return under these circumstances, as he would have to steal someone else's body to do so!

Your former lover was involved with someone else when he took his own life, so it seems a bit strange that he would commit to come back to you. Suicide victims often become earthbound either because they really did not mean to kill themselves or were emotionally distraught when they did so, which certainly seems to be the case here.

Sometimes it is hard for us to accept that a loved one has passed no matter what the circumstances of their death might have been. We try hard to imagine a way around death, but of course, there isn't one. Even if this dream was an actual visitation from your former lover and his intentions were good, he may have promised you he would do something he can't actually do. I would take this dream as a sign that he is able to connect with you from the spirit world, but I would not expect him to return to you in a different body.

Watch for more signs from your former lover. Because he was able to reach out to you in his dreams, he may also try to connect with you by other means. Spirits can make clocks stop or start, turn television channels, knock things over and evoke memories through objects, songs or animals that bring them to mind. Given the way your former lover's life ended, his emotional energy field is still disturbed. I recommend that you pray for peace and acceptance for him, and send him positive thoughts and affirmations.

If you receive any more messages that imply he is trying to return to you, you may want to contact a psychic channeler to get to the heart of the matter. You'll want someone who is able to receive clear messages and help you communicate directly with your ex-lover. Your psychic may also feel that your lover needs to be directed towards the light so he can complete his journey in the spirit world, in which case the psychic should be able to help him move forward to his next big adventure.

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Oceania:

Your proposition reminds me of the film Meet Joe Black. When the angel of death yearns to experience life as a human being, he takes over the body of someone who has just died in a traffic accident. (I think Brad Pitt does a great job of portraying two different souls in the same body.) While anything is possible in this universe of endless possibilities, the most likely explanation for your dream is that you're still grieving for your ex and have now entered the bargaining stage, where wish-fulfillment dreams are quite common.

During bargaining, we manufacture scenarios that will magically undo our loss. Some are really far-fetched. For example, maybe our loved one had to escape from some bad guys, so they cleverly faked their own death and will return as soon as it's safe to do so. The reason we love such stories despite their unlikely themes is because they satisfy the bargainer in us. Soap operas are rife with tales of presumed-dead loved ones who return in miraculous manners.

In both Cast Away (a film starring Tom Hanks from the year 2000) and Pericles (a play written by Shakespeare around 1608,) a spouse is presumed dead at sea but actually washes ashore and stays alive for years until fate reunites them with their loved ones. In an equally unlikely scenario, you have conjured up the notion that your ex will return by borrowing a body from someone who has just died.

I think it would help your healing process to remember that we tend to idealize our exes. We feel the bittersweet pain of missing their good qualities and delightful quirks, while we sweep their character defects right under the rug. The fact is that you and your ex broke up for a reason. He moved on to someone else, and when that lover betrayed him, he did not return to you. All of this suggests the two of you were no more compatible than he and his most recent lover turned out to be.

Your ex committed suicide, which means he likely suffered from a mood disorder like bipolar disease or clinical depression. Those who suffer from these serious, challenging mental illnesses do not typically make good partners unless they are firmly committed to treatment that helps keep them stable.

Dwelling on reconciliation with your ex is a canny way for you to play it safe and avoid loving and losing again. You might chat with me here or meet with a live counselor to process your grief; by doing so, you'll come to know that you are equipped to endure and heal from this painful loss.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.