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What a Difference Your Life Purpose Can Make, by Ronelle Coburn

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Recently, one of my students said, "I wish I could have known you from before."

I was puzzled and asked, "Before? Before what?"

"Before you were living your Life Purpose so fully," he replied.

"I don’t know if you'd believe it even if you could see it," I said, shaking my head.

"Well, somehow I think it would be very interesting," he said sheepishly, his eyes twinkling and his lips grinning wryly under his handlebar mustache.

I moved recently, and my passport disappeared into the chaos (along with my car stereo faceplate, my partner's flight log book, and his favorite fishing reel). I keep randomly taking five minutes to search anywhere I can just in case it chooses to reveal itself. So much of my stuff is still jumbled up in boxes, and while rifling through one of them I came across some stray photos that must have been in a bottom drawer somewhere. And there it was, the picture of how I was before I began living my Life Purpose, the one mapped out in my fingerprints. I picked the photo up and took a good look. There she is, in a puffy-shouldered pink sweater with a pattern of darker bows across the chest, slumped so far down in a chair that her hands and elbows are supporting her by leaning on her lap. Knees together, head tilted down with eyes gazing sideways at something to the left of the camera. A wallflower succeeding at invisibility who doesn't feel at all comfortable or confident. She looks wilted, frightened, unsure, depressed, and flat-out miserable. I can tell the picture was taken during one of my college holidays, at my grandparent's house, when they were still alive. The table is laid out in the background and an antique lamp I now have in my office is also in the background. There is no one else in the picture. Despite the family holiday setting, the young woman looks desperately alone.

What a difference getting on purpose makes!

Twenty years later I am a successful business artist with my own business, trainings, public speaking events, private clients, and lots of travel. I meet thousands of people each year, and work with an average of five hundred as private consultation clients and students. I am confident about myself and make my living from my own creative self-expression, and I love getting up every morning to get the honor of stepping into others' lives with them and help them see their own highest potential by decoding their destiny—their Life Purpose—for them from their fingerprints. I get updates from clients about what they're up to and how helpful their sessions were for them; I simply love supporting my students along and getting the absolute privilege of seeing them take on their challenges, step into their own purposes over time, and simply blossom. And now, I'm the author of my first book, called Destiny at Your Fingertips, which I wrote for those who are tired of wondering what their purpose is and who are ready to find it out in order to live it.

It's been many years since I was depressed every moment of every day of my life. The road to inhabiting my Life Purpose was not an easy one. It takes effort to step into your Life Purpose and embody it over time, evolve into it. People are often surprised when they learn what I went through, because I was completely clueless about my purpose and resisted it tooth and nail until my life just stopped working entirely, especially my career and my health. I had to change…or either be physically ill the rest of my life, unable to work, and spend my life wanting to die. This is not an exaggeration. I spent the first thirty years of my life with a critical voice inside my head telling me I did not deserve to exist, want, or need anything, and that I should just get it over with. I even had a name for this habit of thinking—the "suicide tapes" I went through both a huge career crisis and a financial crisis, and finally found my purpose the hard way, the way most of us do. Once I started down this path I took a deep breath and haven't looked back; my life has just gotten better and better. Now I can't imagine living any other life than the one I've got. I know where I belong in the world and how to use my talents to make a contribution only I can make.

What would it mean to you to be able to know who you are, what direction your life wants to take, and what you need to do about it to get there? Can you imagine what it would be like to have an instruction manual for your life, available at all times, that you could consult at any time when making a decision or taking an action? How much would it be worth to you to know how to use your will power to begin taking conscious steps to make your Life Purpose happen? So many people are seeking the purpose of their life these days, probably in higher numbers than ever before. Humans have been asking, "Who am I? Why am I here? What is my life about?" for as long as we can all remember. But there has been no clear and definitive answer to these questions…until now.

Your fingerprints are formed five months before you are born and do not change. They go far beyond identifying you physically: they tell you who you are, what your enduring unchangeable transpersonal psychology is. We call this your Soul Psychology. It's the state of conscious awareness you want to live in where life feels best to you. It's your Zone of Fulfillment, your direct "aha!" spot. There are many misperceptions about what Life Purpose is—most of which are really about your changeable values, principles, beliefs, and goals. Wanting to buy a house or lose weight or find your life partner are all important goals, but any one of these is not your Life Purpose. Promoting peace, loving everyone, serving the world, and your personal spiritual belief system are essential to your well-being, but the fact that you can change what you believe indicates that these things are not your individual purpose either. Your aptitudes and skills are often mistaken for your purpose, but just because you're good at cleaning toilets doesn't mean that doing this all day gives you a deep sense of fulfillment. Your destiny is more specific than any of these things, and often isn't anything you even start off thinking you're good at or in which you're interested.

One of my clients is a life coach with a specialty in Attention Deficit Disorder. She wanted to make a training video and travel around the country to interview a bunch of authorities on the topic, but couldn't figure out how to raise the high quantities of money it would take to do this. When we had our session together we found that her fingerprints denoted that she is supposed to be doing her own creative self-expression in the spotlight as an authority. After our session she had a "eureka!" moment when she realized she's supposed to be the star of her training DVD. She then produced it in on a shoestring budget, in one day, and within a year was working on two more and spreading the word about her work. She is helping more people with ADD understand themselves and their special talents, and is being contacted and consulted as the expert she truly is. One year after our appointment she stopped to see me at the conference where we'd met the year before to show me what she'd accomplished. It was a wonderful moment for both of us and it was remarkable to me how different she looked, how bright and energetic she was compared to the previous year. She was the star she was born to be, and owning it was helping her to help more people and to do so more easily than she'd originally imagined. Finding this aspect of her purpose helped her become aware of her potential and to step into it with conscious awareness more quickly than she might have otherwise. Wow.

In my work with people, this type of extraordinary thing happens all the time. Learning your Life Purpose sheds light on your life; it gives you a larger and more compassionate viewpoint for own life and the lives of others. You appreciate what you're yearning to step up to and can better stop and acknowledge yourself as you choose to shape your life, rather than be driven by it. It gives you the encouragement, empowerment, and direction you need to determine your own life and face your challenges, rather than drifting along and taking the path of least resistance.

If you're ready to know your own personal destiny, your own Life Purpose, the life you ultimately would love to wake up and live, it's just waiting for you. All you have to do is translate it, and discovering your Life Purpose from your fingerprints isn't hard to do. What are you waiting for? Every minute of your finite life is precious. Why not find out how to wring every ounce of meaning out of it you can?

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2008. All rights reserved.

I have done all sorts of spiritual studies from acupuncture to hypnosis to psychology, but I haven't found the right path for me. I have done volunteer work, paid work, and been self-employed, but after a while, I always lose interest. What I want is to just be a free spirit with no ties, to just play and travel and explore other cultures. My husband says that to do what I want to do, a person needs money, which I don't have a lot of. (He makes a decent living, but to travel the world would be expensive!) I feel lost and without direction, like I need a really good challenge. Do you think I just haven't found my niche, or do I need to pick a career path even if it's not so challenging so I can do everything else I want to do?

- Ina

Dreamchaser:

I do not believe that everyone has a destined career path. I don't think that sitting at the same job for 35 years and then retiring with a gold watch works for everyone. While it may be hard to believe, there are some people who love the structure of a secure, steady, 9-to-5 job, for they love the comfort of knowing what to expect every day.

Then there are people like you and me. I have worked so many different jobs in my life: I was a commercial diver, an accountant and now a psychic - and those are just the respectable jobs! I also picked cotton, painted trim and shutters, laid concrete, etc.

I think it's normal for people like us to move on rather frequently. I have been working at Kajama longer than I have worked at any other place in my entire life, and I don't feel the need to move forward right now. That doesn't mean that as I evolve, I won't move on to something new again someday.

You are not broken, lazy or shiftless. You know what you like and you know what you want, you just need to figure out how to manifest that, because your belief system about money is in conflict with the dream in your heart.

I know I've been mentioning this in every column, but that's because it works! I recommend you watch The Secret on DVD. If you watch this and work its teachings, you can manifest what you want along with the money or whatever else you need to get it.

I also recommend you read a book entitled The Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks. It will teach you how to carry The Secret forward and apply it to your everyday life. The ONLY reason you are not able to fulfill your dream of traveling the world is because you don't believe that you can do it.

You say that you are lost and without direction, that what you want to do isn't feasible. Well, I have a challenge for you: Find a way to both travel AND work. For example, I can take my laptop with me and continue to work anywhere I can find an internet connection.

A friend of mine travels to awesome spots all over the world, and takes pictures that he sells on his website, in galleries, and also to magazines. He gets to fulfill his love of travel AND get paid.

Travel agents have to go to various places to check them out before they can recommend them to clients. People work on airplanes and cruise ships and trains. There are just so many jobs you could have that would allow you to travel, but first you need to believe that you can make this YOUR reality.

While you watch The Secret, allow yourself to dream. Then if you ask the Universe to help you, I know you'll find a way that makes you happy.

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Astrea:

Since your husband doesn't make enough money for you to spend all your time traveling and exploring, it would be a good idea for you to get a job that will give you the money you want in order to do that. (If only all husbands were able to instantly fulfill our every desire!)

Unfortunately, your man is right! To do what you talk about doing is very expensive, and if you're not independently wealthy, well, Honey, you'll have to work for your fun money. Anyway, nothing is more rewarding than being able to support your own dreams, hobbies and activities.

Wanting to do exactly as you please without any strings or ties comes from the Gemini Ascendant in your astrological chart. That Rising Sign causes quite a few people to quickly tire of MANY things, not just their jobs. It's hard to focus your Pisces concentration with that Gemini Rising influence!

Your Pisces Sun longs for stability, while your Gemini Ascendant just wants to have lots of fun. This inner struggle is probably what has kept you from finding something that can hold your interest long enough for it to be an actual career.

Since your Pisces Sun also longs to help others, perhaps your Gemini creativity can steer you into teaching, coaching, or something like art therapy. This would give your creative side a chance to bloom, while your restless side would get to do new things all the time.

Teaching would also give you lots of time for travel once you build up your bankroll a little. School holidays are great times to take off, and most travel agencies offer discounts to teachers who have those times free.

If you feel you don't have the patience or dedication for teaching, a career in public relations or artist representation would also give you the opportunity to travel a lot. Of course, you could always go to school and become a travel agent, which is a job that pays well and includes lots of free trips. This seems like a natural choice for you.

The reason you've never been able to find your niche in the metaphysical world is because you don't like it enough to dedicate the time it would take for you to prosper in a field like that. It's just not your THING.

That's perfectly fine! Not everyone is suited to be a hypnotherapist or acupuncturist. That sort of work can be a real drain on your energy because it's all about OTHER people's needs and desires, not your own. It's great that you learned those skills, but I think if you really wanted to do something where people lean on you all the time, you would be doing that by now.

At some point, everyone wishes that they could find the perfect job. I wish finding it was as easy as WANTING to find it! If you look deeper into your true nature, I'm sure something will jump out at you.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.