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Back to the grindstone! It could be a bit difficult to get back up and running after all the holiday cheer, but duty calls! Make Monday all about details, gathering information and making a plan under the Virgo Moon, and then spend Tuesday restoring balance to all aspects of your world as the Moon dances into Libra. Wednesday we’ll finally be ready to move as Mars moves into grounded Taurus, making it easy to catch up and start addressing everything that piled up over the holidays. The trend continues on Thursday, but we may experience a few ups and downs on Friday when Mercury moves into unpredictable Aquarius and Venus moves into steadfast Capricorn. This could make for a lot of stop and go motion, so practice patience and when one door closes, look for an open window! The weekend flows along joyfully under the Sagittarius Moon, allowing us a little downtime to regroup, reflect and prepare for the next busy week ahead!

11 Ways to Discover Your Life Purpose Through Your Intuition, by Kris Franken

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Your purpose is so much more than your career or job; it's the way you are in the world, your natural state of being. The way you feel called to do certain types of work, collaborate with particular individuals, serve humanity, and inspire those around you is all an intuitive part of who you that you can access anytime.

Here are 11 ways to intuitively discover the purpose written in the light of your Soul.

1. Follow Your Joy
   Your Soul has come into your body in this life with a natural inclination for joy. Bliss is your natural state; when you follow what lifts your vibration into the realms of bliss and joy, you can be sure that you are listening to the pull of your purpose.Your purpose and career aren't meant to be draining or demanding; they're intended to be uplifting and fulfilling. And although there will be periods that challenge you along the way, when you're feeling satisfyingly deep joy from service and sharing your gifts, you know that you've been trusting the divine process and following your heart.
2. Listen to Love
   If you're not sure of your talents and gifts, listen to love. Love is the voice of your intuition that is aligned with the highest expression of your Soul. Love will show you how you best serve, help, create, transform, collaborate, and inspire.How do you love others? Perhaps it's through a long hug, kind words, compassionate energy, a watercolour painting, cooking a scrumptious meal, writing a poem, or practical, everyday ways. The way you love others is a reflection of how you serve the world and it matters. The world needs you to make mindful waves with an open and generous heart.
3. Sit in Stillness
   The blueprint that's etched into the fabric of your Soul cannot be felt or heard if you're rushing, hustling, or busy all the time. Make time for stillness. Create space for the wise whispers of your heart to guide you each day.This purposeful blueprint is a continuation of all your incarnations; you have been building on your talents for lifetimes! Your intuition has so much to share with you, but it doesn't use words, so it can't compete with the chaos of a cluttered mind. In stillness, you'll feel the knowing that's always present, always loving, always nudging you toward greatness.
4. Expect Miracles
   Miracles are unexpected consequences of living aligned with the flow of your own lifeforce. Your breath and interconnected spirit are connected to the One Spirit, and as you feel this and allow it to guide your life intuitively, miracles will happen at every turn.Your purpose will unfold miraculously if you give up judgments and expectations around what it should look like or what you think you must be doing. The more you hold onto specific desires that leave no room for the fullest expression of your highest purpose, the smaller the field you have to play in.
   Miracles yearn for space. Let go of your pre-planned life and open up to all that is meant for you. Let life surprise and delight you.
5. Learn How You Help
   Consider for a moment what your gift is to your community. What do others ask you for? How do you help others in a way that feels relatively easy, humbly fulfilling, and energetically abundant? The way you help others is a portal to knowing your purpose on a deep level.We all have natural gifts—our own sweet medicine—that feel genuine and freely available. These gifts have been curated and crafted by our Souls over many, many lifetimes to help others—and us—into the highest version of ourselves.
6. Show Up
   Knowing about your gifts is a blessing for you, showing up and putting them to good use is a blessing for humanity. The love, joy, peace, and service in our being will multiply when we give it to others unconditionally.Showing up isn't about hustling or marketing yourself in any way that feels uncomfortable or misaligned. It's about being available to intuitively serve in any way the Divine calls on you through those in your grassroots and/or online communities. The more you love and heal yourself, the more you surrender to the wise intuition within you, and the more you trust in the path of your Soul, the more joyfully available you will be to all those who need you.

   Each time you show up, expect an energy exchange that speaks of abundance in all areas of your life. Believe that you will always be taken care of, financially and otherwise, for that's exactly what the cosmos wishes for you, too.

7. Dance with Life
   If you're working relentlessly, expecting your diligence to provide you with an abundance of rewards, you're more likely to become burnt out than richly satisfied. While you absolutely need to show up, you also need to rest up. Have a dance break, take a trip to the markets, catch up with friends, tend to your garden, and otherwise surrender deeply enough to receive fully from the universe.If you're giving all the time, there's no space to receive. Time away from your computer or workspace will also amplify your creativity and provides the ultimate opening for insight—new and aligned inspiration—to find you.
8. Revel in Your Uniqueness
   There is no one else on earth with the same harmonious fusion of talents, gifts, wisdom, karma, and medicine. There is literally no one in the history of humankind who's got what you've got. Revel in your own kind of magic. Explore and express it, love and care for it. Learn to be inspired by others without following them on their path.This journey you're here to traverse is exclusively yours. Your uniqueness is what draws people to you. Bring your quirks to life in every way that your heart and Soul desire.
9. Expect Challenges
   The challenges you hold within yourself that have not been healed and released will show up in your life externally until you heal them. If you are dealing with self-judgment, you will feel the judgments of others until you make peace with yourself. If you feel unworthy, you will attract others who magnify this unworthy state of being until you feel completely worthy of all the abundance in the world.Welcome the challenges in your life as a gift for you to grow, heal trauma and karma, find yourself, and come home to the greatest version of you.
10. Learn to Pivot
    There are no mistakes or failure in discovering your purpose, only pivots. We all need to pivot when we come across an unexpected roadblock, be it the fallen branch of "failure," heavy clouds of confusion, or the prickly discomfort of someone else’s judgment or opinion.Roadblocks are not a sign you did something "wrong;" they are simply the universe's way of escorting you onto another path that is more aligned with your Soul. Learn to pivot in faith and grace onto a new way. Bless the blocks, embrace the ruins, hold your chin up, look to the stars, and begin again.
11. Trust the Process
    Without trust you may find it difficult to move forward. When self-doubt sneaks into your mind, come back to your heart. Your heart knows and loves all. Through your heartspace you have access to the eternal wisdom of your Soul and Highest Self.Trust that your Highest Self will always have your best interests at heart and that you can count on this expansive part of you to guide you toward the most exciting and blissful path. With deeper trust, your intuition will be clearer to recognize.

You hold the keys to your future and the gold of your gifts. Go within and trust what you intuitively feel to be the next step for you.

If you'd like to explore your intuition, instinct, and insight more deeply, you will find an abundance of spiritual rituals, scientific exploration, journal prompts, and much more in my book, The Call of Intuition: Learn to Recognize and Honor Your Intuition, Instinct and Insight.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2020. All rights reserved.

I have fallen in love with a friend. We met a few years ago when we both had other partners. (I was married and he had a live-in girlfriend.) A few months ago, my husband and I separated, and we now are in the process of getting a divorce. H. has been without a girlfriend for almost three years now. We got together as friends, and have acknowledged that there is a very strong attraction between us. We have seen each other a few times, and each time we're together, everything makes sense and feels so right. I have been using the Law of Attraction to attract him into my life by wishing to have a lasting romantic relationship with him. However, lately he's pulling back and is saying he's not sure what he wants. When we're together, he acts like he wants me, but when we're apart, he wavers. How can I manifest this relationship with him? I am full of longing to be with him and I believe that we're destined to be together.

Astrea:

I firmly believe that thought becomes reality, and that we can influence that reality by lining up opportunities and making wise choices. However, there is something that bothers me about using the Law of Attraction in relationships: it's one-sided, while relationships by nature involve more than one person. Unless he is also using the Law of Attraction for the same purpose, you can't go very far with this.

If he's everything you want and you are indeed destined to be together, he will want you too. Does he know about and work with natural spiritual law? Is he spiritual enough to discuss this with you and apply it to your relationship?

I think it would be much more beneficial if you made him aware of what you're doing to try to be closer to him. There isn't anything mean or sinister about wanting someone to love you.

If you two can agree on what it is you want, then you will both be focused on the same outcome. If you want something more or different from what he wants, then you're trying to force someone to meet your terms, which isn't what the L of A is about.

It's important to respect the whole picture here. Both Yin and Yang are present. The man you describe is very sensitive to balance, which is one reason he pulls away.

If you really want a permanent relationship with him, you're going to have to develop more sensitivity to other people's needs and desires. This energy has to extend to others - not just to him.

Start by listening more and being quiet in conversations. When we listen well, other people are encouraged to talk, which leads us to greater understanding of how to best please them.

I recommend you change your request to the Universe. Instead of trying to manifest only what you want, include wanting what is best for others and will make them happiest too. In your visualization work, include this man as the person you wish love and happiness for most of all.

While using the Law of Attraction to wish for a lasting romantic relationship with a certain friend can't hurt, you can't manifest this all by yourself: Your friend has to want the same thing. So far, it seems you two are heading in the same direction.

His pulling away lately suggests that he is sensing that you are trying to make things happen on your own schedule. You both want a relationship, but you want it to be set and settled sooner than he does. That's a Virgo/Scorpio challenge, but if you work with it, you can both end up with what you want.

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Susyn:

Though you seem to be sure of your feelings for this friend and he has shown you many signs of being interested in you, it sounds like things have shifted and thrown you both into confusion. Many times when two people who are bound to others come together and feel a powerful attraction for each other, they interpret it to mean that they are meant for each other.

Unfortunately, it often happens that when one person leaves a marriage or relationship out of a desire to be free so they can pursue this new connection, the other party will begin to pull back. This can happen for a number of reasons and be very disheartening.

If you are specifically leaving your marriage for the purpose of being with your friend, the knowledge of this could be throwing him into a panic. If you are pushing for more than he is ready for or comfortable with, the possibility exists that he could pull back permanently or become hot and cold to the relationship.

Knowing that you will soon be free to pursue a committed relationship can frighten off anyone who doesn't feel as clear about what he wants as he once claimed to be.

You must be sure that your reasons for leaving your marriage are based on what you want for yourself and not dependent on having someone waiting in the wings. If a relationship with this friend wasn't an option, would you still be leaving your marriage?

If the relationship with your friend is as strong as you state, his reaction may only be temporary. Since he won't give you a commitment, I recommend you act independently and make your own plans. It would be wise to distance yourself from your friend while you finish the divorce process.

You mention that initially he had a live-in girl friend, but has been alone for the last three years. You might assume that this is because he was waiting for you, but it could also indicate that he has commitment issues in general.

It's possible that the attraction you both felt at first was enhanced by the fact that you were unavailable. Even when you are divorced, you must limit the time you are available to him to recreate that initial attraction and give him the time and space to get past his fears of commitment.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.