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Demeter and Persephone: Sacred Mother, Beloved Daughter, by Katalin Jett Koda

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

As we approach the Spring Equinox, we feel the warming air and are inspired by the natural beauty of rebirth after winter. The story of Demeter and Persephone powerfully captures the unfolding of the seasons, welcoming in new light. This myth is a tale of the deep connection between mother and daughter and also the story of maidenhood and innocence and its passage into maturity and fullness. The cult of Demeter and this particular myth was so important that it formed the crux of the Eleusinian Mysteries, a famous and secret religious rite of initiation practiced in ancient Greece between 1600- 1100 BCE.

Although lost to history and forever shrouded in mystery, it is thought these sacred practices provided initiates a direct experience to help at the time of death and give entrance to a blessed afterlife. As we dive into the story of the great mother goddess Demeter and her daughter, Persephone, we also connect to the profound mysteries of life. Using this story as a guide and inspiration, we find a way to access our own processes through the themes of mother-daughter relationship, familial love, loss, grief, death, fear, and rebirth. These personal inspirations work as collective dreams to heal not only ourselves, but also our loved ones, our community, and our world.

The Story of Demeter and Persephone
Demeter is the ancient Greek goddess of grain, agriculture, and harvest. In deeper antiquity she was known as Gaia, the life-giving earth mother who nourished and fed the people. Along with providing all the plants, foods, and vegetables, she also gifted mortals the ability to cultivate wheat. She taught humans how to plant the seed, grow the plants, care for and cultivate, harvest, and finally how to ground the wheat into flour to make bread.

Demeter has a beautiful loving daughter named Persephone, who was also known as Kore or maiden. They are incredibly close as mothers and daughters can be when girls are just beginning to mature into womanhood. Meanwhile, Hades, the Lord of the Dead and Underworld has been watching Persephone and developed an incredible love and passion for her.

One day Persephone wanders off picking flowers of roses, crocuses, and irises. Hades has left out a alluring narcissus flower growing out of a cleft in the earth. As Perspehone wanders further away from her mother, she is enchanted by this flower. At the moment she reaches for the beautiful flower, the crack in the earth widens and Hades appears on a chariot and snatches her. She screams, but the only ones who hear her are the sun and the moon.

Persephone is abducted and taken down to the Underworld to become Hades' wife and, eventually, the magnificent Queen of the Underworld. In one of the main versions of the myth, Persephone is not only abducted, but also raped by Hades.

Meanwhile, Demeter is left on earth, searching desperately for her daughter. She cannot find her anywhere and begins to wander the earth, until she reaches the town of Eleusis. Old and desperate, she is taken in by some parents. She helps to care for their son and to return their favor, she puts the child in the fire each night, to make him immortal. Horrified, the parents ask her to leave and she fiercely threatens them. To spare their life, they agree to Demeter to build her at temple.

From her newly built temple, Demeter hides and allows the beautiful plants and growing things to die. Everything withers in her sorrow and rage for the loss of her daughter. Winter, death, and famine descend upon the land. The humans are starving, until finally the gods intervene. Hermes is sent to the Underworld to bring Persephone home to her mother. However, upon his arrival to the land of the dead, he is amazed not to find a weepy sorrowful daughter, but instead a radiant and glowing Queen. She loves her new home and is helping the spirits of the dead cross over. Hermes requests her to return and Persephone is torn.

Finally, Hades gifts Persephone six pomegranate seeds, the food of the dead. She eats them and returns to her mother, Demeter. Demeter is so overwhelmed with joy and exuberant love that spring begins to blossom in Persephone's return. However, because her daughter has eaten the six seeds, she must return to Hades each fall. During this time of lament, Demeter again causes the earth to wither and die and be reborn in Persephone's arrival come spring bringing with her the renewal of hope, harmony, and beauty.

Persephone: Abduction or Willing?
When I first heard this story in sixth grade I was immediately intrigued. I loved the explanation of the seasons, and there was something alluring about Persephone's descent. Eating the seeds of the dead and having to return each year made sense to me, in a deep, archetypal way. Similarly, my own eleven-year-old daughter is fascinated with the story (I leave out the rape version) and also, with the eating of these seeds; this ingesting of something that connects you to a place this is mysterious, unseen, forbidden even.

The word "Hades" means "unseen," as well as "death" and "abode of the dead." Originally, Hades is just the locale of the Underworld, a place where the dead live. Only later in history does Hades become personified as a dark, alluring, handsome, and destructive man who seduces, abducts, or rapes Persephone, depending on the version. As myths communicate on several levels at once, Hades can also be seen as the dark times in our lives, initiations perhaps when we are dragged into the Underworld against our conscious will. In this way, innocence is lost and we enter the dark night of the soul. This may be in the form of any kind of loss, grief, or deep pain.

In the particularly sensitive passage from girlhood to womanhood, when girls enter puberty, this loss of innocence is so often connected to sexuality and exploring that, being subjected to it, or seeking out validation. In Thomas Moore's examination of the myth he suggests that Hades is the dark subterranean undercurrents that our children, our daughters, are drawn to or fascinated by. Whether we chose to participate or not, certainly we can all remember the strange allure of illegal activities, forbidden films, sexual encounters, drugs, and other mind altering experiences.

In more ancient versions of this myth, long before it became the Rape of Persephone, Persephone chooses from her own willingness to enter the Underworld. According to Charlene Spretnak's research, "...prior to the Olympian version of the myth at a rather later date, there was no mention of rape in the ancient cult of Demeter and her daughter," (Spretnak, pp. 105 - 106). In her reclaimed version of the Persephone and Demeter myth, Spretnak offers the new-old perspective in which Persephone willingly and determinedly descends to the Underworld in a yearning to help earth-bound spirits cross over to the light.

Persephone as Dark Mother
As we peer even further into the twilight of ancient history, we find the Persephone's role as the Queen of the Underworld is far less the story of a young maiden, and much more a powerful, fierce, fearsome even Goddess of death, dissolution, and rebirth. In this way, Persephone is akin to the dark mother archetype found in other cultures such as Ereshkigal, Inanna's dark sister of the underworld, or Kali, the fearsome yet benevolent goddess archetype of India who both devours flesh and yet also grants boons to her devotees. Kali spends her time in charnel grounds, intimately connected with the dead. Is it possible that a more ancient version of Persephone was the ruler of the Dead, in equal nature as Demeter?

In Homer's Iliad, Persephone is "grim," and in the Odyssey, she is "dread" or the "awesome one." It seems the associations of the dark mother goddess, that which is connected to death, blood, menstruation, also become forbidden as well as fearsome. Persephone is not necessarily such an innocent Maiden after all, but instead a complex feminine archetype. And her abduction by Hades may have a much deeper meaning, one that indicates a more shamanic story behind the myth. If we are to view Hades not as just a Greek lord, but instead as Death itself, loss of ego, dissolution—the shamanic perspective—we find new ways to relate to this myth and bring it into the contemporary connection in our own lives.

Myths are not only stories, but reflections of societal shifts and changes. As the ancient story of Persephone and Demeter passed down through the ages, Spretnak suggests that "evidence indicates that this twist to the story was added after the societal shift from matrifocal to patriarchal...the story of the rape of the Goddess is a historical reference to the invasion of the northern Zeus-worshippers." (Spretnak, p. 107) Along with other myths worldwide we see a distinct change over many hundreds of years from empowered, dark, fearsome, wild, raging, beautiful Goddesses transformed into diluted versions, weakened, subjugated, softened with the time and blunt force of the rising patriarch.

The Grieving of Demeter
After Persephone enters the Underworld, whether by force or by choice, the loss of her daughter evokes such profound grief within her mother Demeter's heart. This depth of experience was central to the Thesamorphia, an ancient woman's grieving ritual inspired by the story of Demeter and Persephone. Later, it is believed that in the memory of her sorrow Demeter herself established the Eleusinian mysteries to bring the central connection to death and life to the initiates. Sorrow is the winter of the heart; the death of something that we love dearly. True loss is both stark in its reality, knowing that a beloved person or time will never return and never happen again.

Professor of religious studies Christine Downing recounts, "All of us who are mothers know...how intimately the cutting fear of loss, the searing pain of loss, are interwoven with our mothering." (p. 39) In my own life, I have experienced the deep mourning that accompanies motherhood. After the profound loss of my first daughter, who stopped breathing a few days after birth, I felt completely numb for an entire year. I recall being in Kathamndu, Nepal, in a shell-shocked state, unable to sleep for weeks. I watched a woman next door dressed in complete black slowly chopping down the dead grass with a small scythe. This repetitive motion was like the song in my heart at that time, forlorn in the wake of death and loss. After a year, there was a natural turning, when the grieving, as if some mysterious time clock ticked over into a new phase and the sorrow made way for beauty and rebirth.

In the myth we also see that Demeter attempts to turn her mothering instinct toward the baby boy, tending to him and also putting him in the fire to make him immortal. Moore remarks that, "the myth shows us that there is a difference between human mothering and divine mothering. The latter has a broader perspective and is a deep form of the maternal impulse." (p. 45.) In Demeter's loss, she seeks to continue her role as mother. Similarly, women (and men too) often seek out a way to mother perhaps after a loss or in the sorrow of being unable to have children of one's own. The connection between human and divine is a constant reflection of our own mundane lives and the grace of divinity that sparks within. Children are the embodiment of this dance; on the one hand they are so naturally born to us and on the other our love for them is so strong it mirrors our own connection to the divine.

Spring and Rebirth
At long last, with humans starving, the earth dead and withered, the messenger Hermes is called to retrieve Persephone and bring her back to her sorrowful mother. The reunion is incredibly joyful between Demeter and Persephone, so much so that wondrous Spring is the result. The magical, wonderful experience of daffodils and crocuses poking up through dark soil enchants us. We watch the tiny green leaves unfurling on naked bare branches, the parade of flowers that follows, humming along the sound of hatchings and buzzing with great anticipation of the return of new life, Spring. This meeting is the symbolic unifying of deep knowledge and conscious creation.

However, with this incredible meeting comes the wisdom and knowledge gained from the time spent in the Underworld. As Hermes discovers, Persephone is not unhappy as Queen of the Dead, but instead radiant and glowing. Before Persephone leaves the Underworld, she eats pomegranate seeds. Eating the food of the dead binds her to this place and she must return every year, which creates the continual cycle of seasons. In ancient times, pomegranate seeds were a natural form of contraception known to women. The pomegranate thus symbolizes the sacred mysteries of women and the Divine Feminine that were accessed through the initiations of the Eleusinian Mysteries.

Earth as Sacred Mother, Beloved Daughter
In much of the reclaiming goddess work, as well as many indigenous cultures, the earth is our Mother. Naturally our bodies are extensions of the earth and, like all creatures, we are born of a mother and belong to a physical woman as well as the earth. Yet, in today's world where we are often cut off from our bodies and from the earth, I can't help but wonder how our own view of our personal mother is connected to our view of the earth. Do we treat our mothers with disrespect and simultaneously expect her to care for us endlessly? How is the contemporary views of mother, in which we hold lofty expectations like no other role on earth affect our connection to Earth as Mother?

We can be inspired by the myth's unfolding between Demeter and Persephone, between mother and daughter. When we view our Earth in this sacred dance, we find a rich relationship between sorrow and joy; winter and spring; birth and death. Our culture has forgotten the power that lies in the fallow field, the quiet dark, the richness of grief. To reclaim our sorrow and weep for our earth, not only as mother, but also our daughter is to reclaim the power to nurture her and assist the necessary rebirth that must happen in the wake of too much development, too much fire, too much outward expression.

To welcome our descent into the Underworld, as sacred daughters is to meet the dark and transform that which is painful, the spirits that are lost and bring them to the light. That is Persephone's sacred work, which she embraces with no hesitation. In a world where rape is common, sex trafficking is the most under-reported crime on the planet, girl children are being murdered for their sex, child brides are married off to men who are decades older than them, we need this power and strength of Persephone. We need to descend the Underworld, willing or not, and bring our daughters to the light: to reclaim our rightful expressions, to nurture and love and celebrate our daughters.

Inspired by the myth, might we also view the earth as well as ourselves as Sacred Daughter? As I witness my own daughter, now eleven, growing into the early stages of that long-winding road traversing girlhood to womanhood, I am inspired by her girlhood determination, power and beauty that is about to blossom. I also know the statistics of girls losing that brilliant budding energy and lessening themselves academically and otherwise to fit in with the norms. I believe in the path to empower that budding strength of ourselves as Daughter as well as our daughters; to honor and celebrate the Spring vitality that rises up with so much potential and beauty.

The sacred work of reclaiming continues. We can reclaim our own first menarche or moontime through ceremony as found in my book, Fire of the Goddess. We can seek out organizations such as Girl Rising to support girls around the world. We can empower our daughters at their first period, or moon time to reconnect with the mystery and wonder of birth, death and rebirth. We can revisit the ancient myth of Demeter and Persephone and discover our own connection to the earth as sacred mother, as beloved daughter; the time is ripe for a divine reunion and powerful unfolding with the breath of Spring to support our work.

Resources:
Girl Rising: Educate Girls, Change the World. http://girlrising.com/
Downing, Christine. (1999) The Goddess: Mythological Images of the Feminine. NY, NY: Continuum.
Koda, Katalin. (2011). Fire of the Goddess: Nine Paths to Ignite the Sacred Feminine. Woodbury, MN: Llewellyn Inc.
Moore, Thomas. (1992) Care of the Soul: A Guide for Cultivating Depth and Sacredness in Everyday Life. NY, NY: HarperCollins.
Spretnak, Charlene. (1992). Lost Goddesses of Early Greece. Boston: Beacon Press.
Strong, PhD, Laura. (2001). The Myth of Persephone: Greek Goddess of the Underworld. Retrieved from http://www.mythicarts.com/writing/Persephone.html

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2016. All rights reserved.

My husband passed away unexpectedly several months ago. He was only 38 years old, and he died of a sudden heart attack. We have two children, a five-year-old girl and a three-year-old boy. I've had some strange experiences since he died, such as the lights flickering on and off right when I was asking him for a sign. The strangest thing, however, has been the way my son is acting. For example, one day he walked up to me, took my face in his hands, and said, You complete me! Not only is this strange coming from a three-year-old, but this is EXACTLY what my husband used to do and say. He has said and done some other things too. For example, one day I was deep in thought and feeling sad about my husband's passing. In my mind, I kept saying to my husband, Where are you? How could you leave me like this? My son was watching TV nearby, and just as I was thinking this, he suddenly turned around and said, I'm right here, honey. Now my son never calls me honey, but my husband always did. Do you think my husband is trying to communicate with me through our son?

- Robyn

Dreamchaser:

I am truly sorry for the passing of your husband. Death may be fabulous for those who are going through it, but for the folks left holding the proverbial bag, it's a different story. For the record, you are doing GREAT.

Your husband never actually left. He did cross over on the contingency that he could come back anytime he wanted. The angels that were there to greet him and show him the way assured him that he would be able to do that. If he had not been given that assurance, your husband would have remained earthbound. That is how passionately he felt about continuing to look after you all. As a result, he spends large amounts of time around you and the kids.

Your son is still young enough to see and hear beings from the Otherside, including his father. Ask your son if he sees Daddy around or if he talks to Daddy. I'm sure he will tell you that he does!

When he turns around and says those things to you, he is doing what a typical three-year-old child does: He is mimicking what he hears from grown-ups. Your husband is there in spirit, and when he says that phrase, your son turns around and says it too. Your boy is just copying what his daddy is doing. Your husband spends a lot of time with your daughter while she is sleeping. He comes to her in her dreams a lot.

You keep asking your husband to give you signs. If you got any more signs, your house would look like a construction zone! Trust me when I tell you that the flickering lights, the phone ringing, the stuff the kids say, the way animals act, etc. - all of that is your husband showing you that he is still very much around.

He will always be around, but he will not always be as active and as present as he is right now. He wants to make sure that you and the kids are going to be okay. When you start to live more on your own and need him less, he won't reach out to you as often, but he will ALWAYS be there for you if you call out to him. You just have to speak his name or think of him and he will be there.

He can advise you now in the form of your own thoughts. If you need his help, ask him your question and then just let the answer come to you. He will either pop it into your head in the form of something you think you thought, or he will be instrumental in making sure someone comes your way and gives you the answer or the help you need.

I wish you endless unconditional love!

*****

Astrea:

Many times when death is unexpected, the person who dies feels the need to stick around for a while, just to make sure their loved ones are all right and able to carry on. This is exactly what's happening with your son and his dad. The two of them are certainly adept at this sort of communication. This is possible because your family has a strong karmic connection. Be happy for that - it's a gift!

Your son is completely accepting of this connection because he's little and he doesn't know there is supposed to be a gap between us and those who have Crossed Over. Unless you help him keep this gift going, as he gets older it will fade and he'll be just like every other kid. Personally, I think that would be a shame, but some children don't want this sort of experience, and some parents can't accept it.

It seems your little guy is delivering messages from his father word for word, without interpreting or altering them in any way. This is not that unusual with very small children, and if he keeps relaying messages in this manner, he should be able to retain this skill.

While many children can perceive spirits, your son was born with special ability, and if he keeps it up, he will be able to help others connect with their loved ones in Heaven when he gets older.

At some point, you'll have to help him understand that not every spirit that comes through to him is going to be nice, and that he has the power to choose who he will and will not interact with. This isn't something you need to worry about now, however, as small children have great instincts and extra spiritual protection. If something frightens him, he'll let you know it.

Not every family gets a chance to talk this way, but you all have such a special connection - you may even be able to keep it going for a while. This situation is wonderful for you because you now have a direct line to your husband. While your son is young enough to relay messages, make the most of this time by saying everything you wish you could have told your husband before he passed away.

Your family needs to stick together right now - that's why your husband keeps coming through. It may be that he wants to reach you, or you or the children are drawing him near. Whatever the reason, this is happening so that you can heal any guilt, worries or sorrows left from his passing, and he can do the same.

When we're unable to say good-bye to someone we love, it's a divine blessing to get a second chance!

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.