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February starts off with the planets taking sides as the free-wheeling Aquarius Sun squares off with staid and steady Mars in Taurus. Avoiding the urge to stand your ground and decide who’s right and who’s wrong will be essential, as the lines get blurred and realities shift. So with that in mind, let’s all lean into the calm and harmonious Libra Moon that sails through the heavens Monday and Tuesday. Venus will arrive on Aquarius’ doorstep Monday, another no-holds-bar placement that will require we stay patient, alert, and open to the possibilities of finding a middle ground. With a Scorpio Moon overhead on Wednesday and Thursday, the answer to any conflicts we encounter may be to go internal, turn toward spiritual guidance and allow the Universe to take the reins. Things settle down over the weekend as the Moon skips through light-hearted Sagittarius Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. There’s an old saying that if you can’t beat them, join them, but before you take sides one way or the other, ask yourself this: “Would I rather be right? or Happy?”

Q and A with Elisa Romeo, MFT & Adam Foley
Authors of Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling Relationships

Our deepest common human desire is to be met deeply, intimately and with unconditional love. Why is it, then, that what we most yearn for is one of the most elusive things to find and sustain?

In Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling, authors Elisa Romeo and Adam Foley say that the problem is that many of us have lost connection with the authentic and unconditional part of ourselves — the Soul. How can we connect with another on a soulful level if we do not understand ourselves personally and intimately on a Soul level? How can we find a soul mate if we can’t see and feel our own Soul?

These questions are at the heart of Holy Love, which offers readers an invitation to profound growth, fulfilling love, and radical self-discovery via a groundbreaking method designed to transform any relationship into a spiritual path of awakening. We hope you’ll enjoy this Q & A with Elisa and Adam about the book.

What is the definition of ‘love,’ or as you put it, “Holy Love?”

When we speak about Holy Love, we are referring to a love that is not built upon projection. Most people think they are ‘in love’ when they are ‘in projection.’ It feels really great for a while, until the projection pops or fades, and then it can feel horrible, as if we never knew who the other person was at all. Projection is when we are incapable of seeing the other person’s personality or Soul standing before us. Just like a movie projector, we only see them through our own interpretation, which is filtered through personal traumas, beliefs and societal programs. Love is having the courage to open the heart and stay in the body while the energy of expansion melts old projections that hold deep fear and psychological landmines of misunderstanding and miscommunication.

What is the difference between someone’s personality and someone’s Soul?

The personality is the part of us that is inherent, but it is also shaped by the events and programming of our lives. The Soul is our essence — the unchanging, eternal and all-loving part of ourselves. The Soul has access to a higher and wider interpretation of our lives and is always available for guidance and healing. The Soul is our true nature and true love originates on a Soul level. People are often disappointed in their relationships because they do not feel seen and met on a Soul level. They become frustrated by the limitations of relationship but they have never understood themselves in their true nature. It is a huge misunderstanding and major part of why so many people experience unfulfilling relationships. Holy Love asks, “How can we find our Soul mate if we don’t know ourselves first, as Souls?” The book gives the clear map of precisely how to get there and finally be met in our relationships in a fulfilling and meaningful way.

You say that relationships serve as training for how to ‘become love.’ Is this true for challenging relationships and those relationships we would describe as ‘bad’ or having failed?

It is especially true with the relationships that we feel failed or would call bad. We see the ‘earth school,’ as some call it, as Love University. It is through our challenging, hard or unfulfilling moments and relationships that we get real clarity of what Love is and isn’t. This gives us information on how to grow, expand, and evolve.

You say that many of us are unprepared for Holy Love because we expect love to rescue us, when love actually is a crucible. What do you mean by that?

A crucible is a trial or test that is so powerful that we are forever transformed by going through it. Our human relationships are not built to be an on-command wet-nurse of comfort for our pouting inner child. We need to evolve our relationships developmentally so are able to view conflict as an opportunity to become Love itself. Instead of getting resentful that the mere human before us cannot always resolve all of our inner pain, we expand to more of our own potential and discover them beyond our personal demands. This is how the experience of human relationship and Love becomes a powerful, transformative spiritual path. There are few things that bring us more pain and suffering than relationships and our attachment wounds. It is the realm of relationship, which brings radical potential for spiritual growth. Love is a way to find comfort and companionship, which Holy Love does this as well. And it is also SO much more, in that it also serves as the portal to introduce ourselves to an often inaccessible, newly activated, part of ourselves, which is our Soul.

Is Holy Love applicable for single people and other relationships besides intimate partnerships?

Oh yes. Holy Love is a relational state in which we enter. That relationship can be internal with our Higher Self and the Divine, or external with another. Many nuns and monks are incredible examples of living Holy Love. Some of the most important relationships to practice Holy Love are with our children, our families, our neighbors, and, especially, our enemies. When we see someone as an enemy we are incapable of seeing their Soul. We believe this work is crucial and has the potential to bring radical peace and healing to the world. When we see ourselves as inherently connected to the “opposing team” we are much more interested in being creative with cooperation, empathy, and finding sustainable solutions.

What is Soul Journaling/Dialoguing and why is it so important?

Soul journaling is the practice of building the second spiritual relationship between your ego and your Soul. Through this practice, we learn to humble the ego and open and receive information from the wise and loving higher self, the Soul. Soul journaling is a spiritual workout just like going to the gym is for physical muscles. It is a regular practice to consistently practice raising our brain state from beta to theta, thereby building that crucial inner ‘listening muscle.’ This builds a conscious relationship with our Soul so that we can really tell the difference between projections and intuition. Another way of explaining it is being able to discern the voice of ego from the voice of Soul. If we practice this regularly, the muscle gets so strong that intuition doesn’t just happen to us when we are lucky or feeling good. We can hear our Soul when in a crisis, caught in a psychological complex or deep within a depression to help us navigate.

What is the most important thing you hope readers will take away from Holy Love?

I think the most important thing is that humans are made to do this work. It may seem intimidating at first, but our nature is Love. Becoming conscious of ourselves as Love is our spiritual birthright. Ultimately, it takes more energy to not become Holy Love. We spend unconscious energy resisting our authentic selves everyday. With Holy Love, we become aware of how and where we are doing that, so we can spend less energy resisting our true nature and more time enjoying the benefits of being conscious of who we are as Love. We don’t need to do anything to awaken. We just need to stop our addiction and habitual programming to unawakening. Then we naturally find ourselves in Holy Love.

Elisa Romeo, MFT, and Adam Foley are the authors of Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling Relationships and cohosts of the Holy & Human Podcast.  Together, they help individuals awaken and deepen their soulful nature within relationship. Visit them online at holyandhuman.com.

Excerpted from the book from Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling Relationships. Copyright ©2022 by Elisa Romeo, MFT, and Adam Foley. Printed with permission from New World Library.

The first time I saw my daughter in my dreams was during my freshman year of college. I always wanted to name my daughter Maya, and when I called this little girl by that name in the dream, she responded. Once in a while, I see a guy in my dreams who has wavy hair. I was never able to see his face, but he seemed to be my lover. In another recent dream, I saw Maya again. She was giggling, and I just marveled at how cute she was. I also felt the presence of the guy with wavy hair by my side. What do these dreams mean? Do you think I'm dreaming of the future? (I don't know either of these two people in real life - yet!)

Koituri

Astrea:

Often when we dream of someone for many years without meeting them, it's because there are obstacles in the way. For example, one or both people may be married or unavailable when these dreams begin, or they may be living at a far distance from each other.

Sooner or later, those dreams come to fruition when both people are available for a lasting, fulfilling relationship, for when we are meant to connect with someone during this incarnation, the Universe will find a way to put us together.

Since this is pure psychic information, most of my clients who experience these dreams end up meeting that certain someone, having the child they see, or otherwise having their vision of the future come true. We may not always seek psychic input during waking hours, but psychic dreams are a way of life for most of us whether we believe it or not.

I always tell people to follow their best instincts in these matters. Dig deep into your emotional psyche and learn what you need to learn. Don't be hesitant or afraid to find out. This usually works out well if the dreamer tunes in on as deep a level as possible. If you are keeping up with writing in a dream journal, you're doing exactly that.

Recording your dreams is so valuable. For one thing, your records can be used as proof to the other person, who may have been having the same dreams but been unable to remember them. When both parties remember such dreams, it sure makes things easier when they finally meet.

Remember that the people, places and things in our dreams don't always perfectly reflect their physical counterparts. The people you dream about can enter your life looking very different from your dream people, but when you do meet, you'll know it right away.

Also, dreams often tell us more about ourselves than they tell us about others. For example, dreams tell us how we can change and grow in positive ways in all areas of our lives.

It may be that this daughter you're dreaming about is a reflection of yourself and some changes you're making in your life. I can't say for sure that she is NOT your future daughter, for it very well could be that Maya will come when the time is right. Since we all look somewhat different in dreams than we do in real life, you will have a daughter but she may not be the exact copy of the person you're dreaming about now.

This goes for the guy, too. I'm sure that you are dreaming of your future soul mate, and that he will also come to you when the time is right.

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Susyn:

Our dreams can be very powerful, and often hold important messages for us. Thus when we have recurring dreams, we are wise to pay extra close attention to what they are trying to convey to us.

Your dreams could be one of three types: They may be prophetic, memories from a past life, or your psyche's way of processing and presenting your greatest desires to you. When a dream appears as real as the ones you describe, it is often a mix of the three.

If your dreams are of a prophetic nature, they are offering you a glimpse of the future and the loving partner and daughter that are destined for you. The specific images you are seeing and the emotions they evoke suggest a wonderful future ahead. Though you may or may not end up with a guy with wavy hair, when the time is right, you will have the loving relationship and daughter you have seen in these dreams.

You may also be witnessing a lover and child from a past life. This could portend that they will be joining you in this lifetime as well, thus affirming the prophetic aspects of the dreams which imply that as they were with you in the past, so they will be with you in the future.

Until this man and daughter come back into your life, there are other important aspects of this dream to take into consideration. They may come to you in your dreams as a representation of your goals and what you are striving for.

Often the people who appear in our dreams are mirror aspects of ourselves. Your daughter Maya may be reminding you to be carefree, joyful and childlike. She could be reflecting an aspect of your inner child that you should honor and engage with in a deeper way. The partner you dream of could also be reminding you to set high standards for your life.

There are two ways you can gain more clarity and insights into these dream. One way would be to have a personal reading with a psychic or dream interpreter, who may be able to confirm the past life and/or prophetic aspects of these dreams. This type of professional may also be able to channel your as yet unborn daughter to learn more abut the timing of her arrival.

The second way to gain more insight is to do some guided meditations about these dreams. Sit in silence, light some white or purple candles, and quietly go over the details of the dream you want more insights into. Though your future partner must be here on the earth plane, your unborn daughter dwells in the spirit world, so you may be able to call her in to chat with you.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.