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August 9 through August 15, 2021

It will be difficult not to get overwhelmed or take on too much as the Moon moves through expansive Virgo Monday and Tuesday. Remember, we need to pace ourselves and where possible, delegate, delegate, delegate! The Libra Moon will lighten the mood for the second half of the workweek, allowing us to flow with more balanced and realistic goals. That will be punctuated by Mercury's move into Virgo, a sign that it rules. This makes it the perfect time to brainstorm, map out a plan of action and gather missing details for any future projects that are underway. Mercury in Virgo has a way of bringing forgotten thoughts and ideas to the surface, so we may experience some "aha" moments as we recall important obligations that have fallen to the back burner, recall friends we've lost touch with (social media could reconnect us!) and go on a search for a lost item or paperwork. A Scorpio Moon will hang overhead this weekend, encouraging us to dive into creative or spiritual pursuits. And with Venus moving into Libra, a sign it rules, romance or the search for true love could also prove a fruitful pastime on Sunday.

An Excerpt from Sun Signs, Houses and Healing by Carmen Turner Schott

Everyone can benefit from healing and transforming themselves. Each of the twelve signs of the zodiac can utilize their personality traits to accomplish three things: transformation, healing, and resiliency. Let’s begin by talking about self-care and why healing is so important.

What Is Self-Care?
Self-care is making a conscious effort to take care of the body, mind, and spirit. It is not something that is done only once; it’s a routine that needs to be developed in everyday life. Self-care helps prevent burnout, reduces the effects of stress, and helps us reflect on what is important in our lives. Examples of self-care are taking breaks, healthy eating, exercising, asking for help, spending time alone, putting yourself first, setting boundaries, forgiving yourself, and enjoying hobbies.

The reason self-care techniques do not work the same way for everyone is because of the unique way the elements in our birth chart affect our ability to react to stress, heal, relax, and recharge. Self-care tips work differently for each sun sign. Those with similar elements will benefit from similar activities. Gaining a deeper understanding of yourself and thinking about what activities help you recharge are important parts of self-care.

The Benefits of Healing
We all heal in different ways, and it takes some of us longer to fully heal from past experiences. Learning to balance the body, mind, and spirit is a key factor in the healing process. Everyone has different abilities and strengths that help them bounce back after a crisis.

There are many benefits to focusing on healing. Healing helps us grow stronger by letting go of negative emotions and experiences. Healing allows us to redefine ourselves and reclaim our power. Addressing past wounds helps us transform and find greater happiness. Many of us carry unhealed trauma and emotions within our bodies that can manifest as physical illness, stress, or anxiety if unaddressed for too long.

The greatest thing about healing is that when we address our own pain, we can become role models for others on their healing journey. Greater insight occurs when we are able to identify our emotional issues, problem-solve, and discuss our experiences with those we care about. Sometimes it can take longer than expected to truly move forward from past experiences. Everyone heals at their own pace. Be patient with yourself.

Sun Signs and Healing
Each sun sign experiences change and stress, so implementing self-care techniques will benefit you regardless of your sign. With that being said, understanding your basic sun sign traits is a powerful tool for healing many areas of life. Sun Signs, Houses and Healing will shed light on your overall personality and discuss ways to overcome challenges.

In my book, I explain the basic personality traits of each sun sign. I discuss each sun sign’s challenging attributes, positive attributes, and how they approach relationships. These chapters are great tools for learning more about yourself and your loved ones. If you want to learn more about your family, friends, or coworkers, read their sun sign’s chapter.

In each chapter, I include reflection questions, affirmations, and self-care ideas tailored to that specific sign. You can use these on your healing journey. I then discuss which house that sun sign rules and how placements in that house impact us.

What Are the Twelve Zodiac Signs?
There are twelve signs in the zodiac. They are Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, and Pisces. One of these signs will be your sun sign, calculated by the month and day of your birth. This is the only planetary placement that shifts with our traditional calendar, making it easy to determine. This is why so many people are familiar with their sun sign. An important note: If your birth took place on a date when the sun is in between zodiac signs or was very close to switching signs, astrologers call this being born on the cusp. If you were born on a cusp, you might resonate with traits of both signs. For instance, if you were born on January 19, then you might have personality traits of both Capricorns and Aquarians. Typically, the sign the sun is moving into shows dominance and strength. If you’re unsure of your sun sign, your birth chart can confirm that for you.

Each astrological sign has many components that make it unique: the sign’s element, modality, ruler, and symbol.

Each sign is ruled by a certain natural element. The four elements that exist in nature are fire, air, earth, and water. Fire signs are full of energy and passion; they are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius. Air signs—Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius—are intellectual and emotionally detached. Earth signs are practical and cautious; they are Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn. Water signs are emotional and imaginative; Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces are water signs.

Carmen Turner-Schott, MSW, LISW, is a practicing clinical social worker, writer and astrologer with national and international clientele. She currently works as a Sexual Assault Prevention and Response Program Manager and has worked with victims of trauma for over 25 years.
 Carmen began her astrological work at the age of sixteen, after an experience with a glowing ball of light in her doorway. She began studying religion, astrology and metaphysics at that time. She has lectured, presented astrology workshops and eGroups for the Association of Research and Enlightenment (A.R.E) and she enjoys teaching a variety of spiritual development classes.

She has been researching astrology, transformation and healing for the past 25 years. She founded the Astrological Self Awareness Center in 2005 and later changed the name to Deep Soul Divers Astrology. She has a passion for researching astrology, specializing in the eighth and twelfth astrological houses and their effect on trauma, healing and resiliency. She has self-published five astrology books, “The Mysteries of the Eighth Astrological House: Phoenix Rising,” “A Deeper Look at the Sun Signs,” “A Practical Look at the Planets in the Houses,” “Astrology from a Christian Perspective,” and “Astrology Awareness: A Compilation of Articles.” Visit her online at www.8and12houses.com.

My mom passed away about four months ago. It was very sudden. Since then, I have developed an obsessive fear of dying. Every day, I think I'm going to die. I'm only 22 years old but I think I'm going to have a heart attack or seizure. I fear that I'm going to suffocate and die a painful death or suddenly just stop breathing. Maybe my heart will suddenly stop beating. Sometimes I wonder if I am already dead and I have to shake myself to make sure I can still function. I have been put on anxiety and depression medication to help me cope. I'm writing to you in hopes that you can somehow help me. Thank you.

Yolie

Susyn:

When we experience the loss of a loved one, especially a parent, it touches us on every level of our existence. Because the passing of your mother was very sudden, you ran smack into the reality that we are powerless over when, where, and under what circumstance our time on earth will end. The type of shock you are in can defy all attempts at reason; even people who are young and healthy often suffer from an immobilizing fear of dying.

One thing to note is that as we grieve, we go through certain stages. Many of them can be tracked by time, which makes it easier to know what to expect next. For example, when a loved one dies or we lose someone in our life we cared deeply for through something like divorce or the breakup of a relationship, the cycles we move through typically last about three months each. It appears that you entered the second cycle of this transition about a month ago, which may be when your fear and feelings of depression began to grow.

The first three months of a loss are about managing. As we walk through the shock, trying to bring the deceased's affairs into order and awaken each day surprised to realize they are gone, we are in a state of animated suspension. About the time we arrive at the three-month mark, the reality of our loss sinks in, which can make it difficult to concentrate, keep up with daily obligations, and feel anything but sadness or despair.

At the six-month mark of a loss, the pain becomes more manageable. The loss does not diminish but we should be able to return to a sense of normalcy. Also note that between the three and six-month cycle, an urge to create typically arises. Because we have been reminded that our lives here on earth are short and could be over at any time, projects and ideas we've put on the back burner will start to demand expression.

As you near this stage of your grieving cycle, I encourage you to find a creative project you can immerse yourself in. If nothing comes to mind, you may want to start gathering pictures and memories of your mother and work to create a DVD or album that somehow honors her life. This is one of the most healing activities you can take up.

On a final note, your concerns about dying have nothing to do with reality. They are centered in the fact that the experience with your mother has naturally traumatized you on a deep level. If you still feel you need professional help, I recommend finding a therapist who specializes in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy, which is ideal for clearing PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), which is essentially what you are experiencing.

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Oceania:

I'm so sorry for the unexpected loss of your mom. Your obsession about dying a horrible death is your way of staying close to her and avoiding grief. Grieving can be intensely painful, but it's temporary. Time heals emotional wounds just as it heals physical wounds! There's no stopping the healing process, though we CAN manage to slow it down.

When we avoid grief, we sentence ourselves to chronic low-grade unhappiness. Anxiety and depression are two ways of NOT feeling. During depression, we shut down our emotions; with anxiety, we transform them into general nervousness. We worry about everything and anything, especially hypotheticals, to avoid experiencing emotions like anger or sadness over a specific event that has occurred.

Your fears about the future have a common theme: loss of control. I think your mother's death caught you unaware, and that this led you to dread unexpected change. Of course, we would all be wise to remember to expect the unexpected in life.

Once you allow yourself to wail and sob over the loss of your mom, you'll begin to heal. Allowing yourself to feel angry over your powerlessness will help you feel stronger. Survivors sometimes feel guilty about living life to the fullest when their loved one can't do the same, but you will honor your mother's memory by embracing your ongoing gift of life and making the most of it.

In my experience, the first three months of grieving are the hardest. Once you turn that corner, things should begin to lighten up. Waves of grief come less frequently and with less intensity then. The first year without a loved one is particularly poignant as you face each season and holiday without them. Since you're still in the thick of this, I recommend you find a grief support group, for it's helpful to be with people who understand how you are feeling.

In the documentary The Wild Parrots of Telegraph Hill, the following metaphor for life is presented: Picture a river becoming a waterfall, then continuing as a river when it hits bottom. As the river tumbles over the edge of the cliff, it separates into a spray of tiny droplets. These drops of water are like our individual egos, feeling separate as we pass through life. Death is ONLY the death of our ego as we rejoin the river and become something greater again.

You have lost your mother in the physical realm, but she's waiting just around the corner and remains alive and well in your heart and mind. One quality of grief is that it feels like it will never end, but I assure you it will. One day you'll feel good as new again - perhaps even better.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.