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June 28 through July 4, 2021

Whew! After all the chaos in the heavens last week, we can regroup for the next seven days, as there are no astrological events on the agenda. The Moon will glide through Pisces Monday through Wednesday, bringing out our spiritual and reflective sides. We may not get much done the first three days of the week, but what we process internally will be essential before moving forward. We can get back to work as the Moon cruises through action-oriented Aries and most likely, get double completed than anything we attempted at the start of the week, making up for lost time at record speed! For those of us living in the United States, we'll celebrate Independence day under a Taurus Moon, and unlike last year, should be free to join in holiday events with loved ones freely. For the rest of the globe, this is a great weekend to tackle those household repairs or engage In activities that challenge us on a physical as well as mental level. All in all, a good week to rebalance, first spiritually and then physically.

Working with Crystals, Pendulums, and Oracle Decks
An Excerpt from Medium Mentor by MaryAnn DiMarco

There are many types of tools that people use to develop intuition.

Crystals are quite high on this list. Many of my students have a strong affinity for crystals — sometimes even specific types of crystals — long before they come to work with me. Personally, I often find myself reaching for a crystal when I’m feeling out of sorts or I need some grounding. I rarely hang on to crystals for long, because I’m so often prompted to give them away; this makes it hard to really build a collection! But they can be very useful, especially in the short term.

Different types of crystals do different things. There’s a whole area of study around what this or that crystal does — selenite cleans, for instance, while obsidian absorbs. If you’re interested in that, or if you feel called to deepen your knowledge and add crystal work to your offerings for others, you will find a range of resources — such as books, workshops, and online and in-person classes — available to you.

There’s a common saying about crystals: we don’t choose the crystal; the crystal chooses us. For our purposes, whether you end up diving into the expansive world of crystals or not, this saying has a lot to offer. It can be very useful to experiment with feeling that pull toward a specific crystal and intuiting how the energy it holds might help. I’m not saying you’ll be objectively right — perhaps you’ll intuit something that is exactly the opposite of what someone else might say, which is precisely why you’re only working on yourself at this stage. This exploration helps psychic development because the process of checking in with your intuitive knowing and divining what is best in each individual moment is instructive.

While I respect those who are well studied in crystals, I am not one of them myself. There’s little rhyme or reason to the way I use crystals. I generally gravitate toward smaller crystals that I can hold. I sometimes put one on the table when I feel some negative energy around, with the intention that the negative energy be absorbed there instead of in my body. I’ll put one in my pocket or my purse before going out, pulling it out casually in a public space and holding it in my hand. When I’m feeling particularly stimulated or like I’ve done too many readings, I’ll keep a crystal in my pocket even when I’m at home. It doesn’t happen frequently, but when I’m a little off or need extra energy, I always know I can grab a crystal to help me feel better.

Crystals can be very grounding, especially when there’s a lot of psychic energy around or the vibration just feels busy. Many of my students have this experience, too; the right crystal at the right moment can stabilize our frequency, despite the other vibrations present, helping us to stay in our center as conduits of light.

Some crystals have been cut into a symmetrical shape and hung on a chain. This is called a pendulum. Pendulums are for divination. They’re tools that help us answer questions. This tradition dates way back and is not limited to the crystal pendulums that are popular today. In my childhood, I witnessed older generations dangling a needle from thread in front of a pregnant belly to divine the sex of the baby within.

With a pendulum, different patterns of movement — such as swinging front to back or side to side, or circling in one direction or another — are associated with different meanings. Many of my students have gained a lot from the process of sitting with the pendulum, because it gives them a clear experience of what their intuition feels like. For instance, we can ask the pendulum factual questions — usually, ones with a verifiable yes-or-no answer — to see how it swings. That way, we’ll have a better sense of how it feels to land on a right answer, which will come in handy when we need to ask questions whose answers cannot be confirmed.

Oracle cards are also great for yes-or-no questions, though they work for open-ended questions as well. I love working with these decks! Sometimes, on those rare occasions I bring them into a reading, I don’t even ask a question; I just pick a card for someone (or have them pick a card, if it’s an in-person reading) and use it as a springboard for the rest of the reading. It provides a central theme, a way to organize the input coming my way. Near the end of this chapter, I have exact, step-by-step instructions for how to do this on your own.

My dear friend Gabrielle Bernstein’s Super Attractor deck is one of my favorites — I just love the fresh, bright energy Gabby brings — and I also love the whimsical, multilayered artwork on Kyle Gray’s cards. There are many great decks out there, so I encourage you to shop around. I highly recommend that if you’re buying a deck, and especially if it’s your first, you don’t necessarily go for the most famous, the “best” according to someone else, or the one someone else once used on you. Instead, focus on the way the deck makes you feel. Which deck pulls you? Which catches your eye, your attention, your energy? Follow that pull. Consider the possibility that, like crystals, the decks are choosing you. As you work with identifying and responding to this intuitive pull, flexing it like a muscle, you’ll get better at using it to pick an individual card from your deck, too.

Working with cards is a major avenue of study, and most decks come with a book or other material to help you sort through their meanings. Your intuition plays a large role as well. I’ve been told (though I never saw her do it) that my grandmother used to read playing cards like Tarot — she was operating on intuition alone. In fact, playing cards and Tarot come from the same cultural roots. It’s absolutely fine if you don’t know what you’re doing and are relying entirely on intuitive hits, but be humble, and don’t get overly serious about it — remember, this is exploratory, and the main goal is to figure out how your intuition signals you and how to respond.

Finally, we come back to the actual Tarot. I never did learn to use the Tarot properly. But if this is your calling, please go study it! My student Madeline has been working with Tarot for years, and she probably has loads to teach me at this point about the ins and outs of what each card means and how the different positions in a spread work together. At this point, Madeline is incredibly proficient at Tarot. In terms of accumulating knowledge, she’s done her work. Yet I continue to instruct her about how to translate that through her own intuitive knowing, because that’s well within my sphere of knowledge. She knows the literal interpretation of each card, as well as its placement, and I help her understand the message in between — the reason she’s drawing the card, specifically, right now. This is purely psychic work, and it piggybacks on the more intellectual study Madeline does with her Tarot teacher. The Tarot signals something, and Madeline fleshes it out with her imagination, bringing herself into the work and expanding upon the Tarot as she provides readings for others as a psychic medium. If you’re like Madeline, your guides will tell you, and if so, I highly encourage you to bolster your intuitive work with this tool by seeking out the more practical knowledge of qualified Tarot teachers.

MaryAnn DiMarco is the author of Medium Mentor: 10 Powerful Techniques to Awaken Divine Guidance for Yourself and Others.  An internationally recognized psychic medium, healer, and spiritual teacher, her work has been featured in media outlets like The New York Times, The Dr. Oz Show, Women’s Health, Elle, and Redbook. Visit her online at www.MaryAnnDiMarco.com.

Excerpted from the book from Medium Mentor: 10 Powerful Techniques to Awaken Divine Guidance for Yourself and Others. Copyright ©2022 by MaryAnn DiMarco. Printed with permission from New World Library.

Some years ago, I was briefly involved with a guy I truly believed was my soul mate. At that time in my life, I was very responsible. For example, I always paid my bills as soon as they arrived. Then I broke up with my boyfriend and it was extremely painful; he kept me strung along thinking we might reconcile yet never offered me the the love and understanding I needed in order to patch things up. He made noises about his being a coward and avoiding things, including talking with me about our issues. I was emotionally tortured for years as I it took me a long time to realize we would never reconcile and I had to give up on thinking the two of us were meant to be. I am over him now though I still desperately wish I had not experienced the agony of that heartbreak. My issue now is this: after we broke up and I was devastated, I seemed to change a lot. I became far less responsible, often paying bills late or not at all, which of course damaged my previously perfect credit. It was like I was avoiding the bills, avoiding responsibility, and avoiding facing things. It was sort of like I had taken on my ex-boyfriend's character flaws. Does that sound crazy? Does that sort of thing happen? Or was there just something about the breakup that changed who I am? Is it a coincidence that it made me more like him? I can't explain why I started being less responsible, yet I did, and at times I feel powerless to force myself to be the way I was before. Even though I'm over the guy now, I haven't morphed back into the person I was before. Do you have any wisdom for me?

O.

Susyn:

This phenomenon is more common than you might imagine. When someone bonds with another on a deep level and then loses them through a break up, divorce or death, they can subconsciously take on the traits and behaviors of the missing person.

Metaphysically, we feel loss on many levels: emotionally, spiritually, physically and intellectually. Heartbreak can manifest in many ways. Where you were once responsible, there is a part of you that feels this is no longer important. In fact, when we lose a loved one, many things can seem to lose their former importance.

Even though you have come to terms with the breakup and believe that you are over him, your subconscious is attempting to find ways to stay connected. By mirroring his irresponsible behavior, you may be subconsciously trying to hold on to him.

When we put our heart and soul into a relationship, we freely give our energy to another person. If the other person doesn't reciprocate, we can feel like some part of ourselves has been stolen. When we then hang on to the past, it's usually because we are trying to reclaim the energy we once gave away so freely.

As a Capricorn, you feel deeply and give freely. There is another trait important to Capricorns that you once possessed but have now lost, and that is extraordinary responsibility. Until you can restore that part of your life, this situation will haunt you.

It's time to make a new commitment to yourself. Being truly happy means doing the right thing for you. Getting your finances in order, taking an inventory of your bills, and making a plan to regain your sense of balance may seem difficult, but it must be done eventually.

You will be amazed at how quickly your joy and self-esteem return once you begin to address the behaviors that aren't really a part of who you are or who you want to become. If you find it impossible to make a start, ask a trusted friend to help you, or look for a support group for getting out of debt.

As you concentrate on eliminating the uncharacteristic behaviors that have arisen since your breakup, your subconscious attachment to the past will start to dissolve. Once you reclaim who you really are, you will find it easier to move toward a bright and promising future with someone else.

*****

Oceania:

When we explore what's behind our emotional pain, we inevitably uncover hidden treasures. You have not yet morphed back to your old self because you have not yet discovered those gifts or lessons! I suspect they have to do with Anger and Commitment. It's certainly time to commit to yourself in a way this man couldn't.

The fact that you were emotionally tortured for years over someone with whom you were briefly involved leads me to look beyond your ex to explain your personal metamorphosis. To feel so attached to someone so quickly - to the point of calling them a soul mate - suggests that the dynamic between you felt familiar.

As a child, you probably coped with your parents' shortcomings by hoping they would change. That's a valid coping mechanism for children, but once we reach adulthood, it's more useful to see reality clearly and recognize people's limitations. While it felt devastating when he gave just enough to keep you hopeful yet never followed through with what you needed, it's important to note that you volunteered for this torture.

I'm reminded of a phenomenon called learned helplessness, which occurs when someone is repeatedly subjected to pain they can't escape, or when they have no control over their circumstances for an extended period of time. When the situation finally improves, the person doesn't take advantage of their new freedom to create positive change because they have learned to be helpless.

In a recent television interview, Diane Sawyer asked kidnapping victim Jaycee Dugard why she didn't leave her situation when escape became an ongoing possibility. Jaycee answered: It wasn't an option. On a smaller scale, you remained in an unfulfilling relationship when you could have walked out the door.

Your ex strung you along, misled you, and withheld love and understanding. You say you took on his character flaws when you avoided your responsibilities and stopped paying your bills on time. From what you wrote, it's easy to see that this man was not good partner material, yet it seems like you are punishing YOURSELF for the demise of the relationship by messing up things that are truly important to you.

Depression is sometimes called anger turned inward. Redirect your anger towards firmly maintaining wise boundaries so that you no longer allow hurtful treatment from anyone, including yourself. Turn self-destruction into self-preservation! You are not helpless. Reclaim your life one step at a time. Become the person you hoped your ex would be by exercising steadfast, loving commitment to creating the life you want to live.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.