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October 11 through October 17, 2021

We could find ourselves more interested in socializing than working on Monday as the Moon moves through Sagittarius, but later in the day, it transits into Capricorn and will bring out our productive sides for the next three days. Ideally, we'll want to tackle as much as we can by Wednesday, as things will start to go a bit sideways when the Moon moves into Aquarius on Thursday. We can pretty much write off the rest of the workweek after that, as constant interruptions, unexpected work, and a sudden shift in direction are all aspects of this Aquarian Moon. The weekend will prove much calmer when the Moon travels into Pisces and slows outer movement. Going internal and pampering ourselves will be the theme. Jupiter goes direct on Sunday, and as the third planet to resume forward motion this month, a sense of order and peace will move us through the rest of October. Remember that Jupiter is all about expansion, growth, and gifts, so practicing gratitude and asking Spirit for direction will go a long way once this planet starts moving forward again!

5 Ways to Reset Your Life with Tarot, by Melissa Cynova

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

"I've only known for ten years that 'No.' is a complete sentence."—Jane Fonda

If you consider the Self as a skeleton, and all of the wants, needs, and that which you hold dear to be the skin on your bones and the muscles and sinew that helps us move, you start to have a picture of what it is to be a human. You begin with this plain and simple person. You are happy. You are a combination of your genetics, your soul, and your environment. It's pretty idyllic for a bit, as you start turning into yourself. You read books, you listen to music, you turn like sunflowers to those things that light you up. In short, you build yourself.

The problem comes when other people start flinging things at your developing self and screw it all up.

These words usually (not earlier, if we're lucky?) start hitting us at about the time we find our anger and more complex emotions. They label us as wrong, and the image of "right" is handed to us. These labels stick in us like thorns. They cover up the skin that we're building and make us wish to be not-us. We wish to be different, even when we're still unfinished. We change course to please others, and that which pleases us gets left in the background.

The thorns have lots of different names. Ugly. Stupid. Fat. Weird. Bossy. Difficult. Different.

All of these names mean the same thing: You are not enough. You are not smart enough. Pretty enough. White enough. Feminine enough. Right enough. You need to change the everything about yourself so that you match up to these arbitrary standards that move around when you're not looking.

It took me approximately thirty-six years to pull most of the thorns that I'd accumulated over the years out of my skin. At 44, I've only just stopped bleeding.

I wrote a book about pulling out the thorns. Tarot Elements: Five Readings to Reset Your Life breaks down our complex selves and histories into five distinct sections and readings. The Earth reading talks about our Home. The Air reading, our Mind. Fire is our Body, Water our Heart, and Spirit our Soul. I thought it would be easier to reset your entire life if you take one part at a time, you know?

There are five tarot readings in the book that help you take yourself apart, remove the things that make you bleed, and move forward from right here and now.

It's not easy to look at your life so closely. To forgive the you from the past or to change habits. It's not easy to decide that this life right here is not the one you want. In order to find the correct path, you have to turn around and go back a bit. To forgive and bless Yester-You so that you can truly see that you tried. That you really truly tried your best, and that the opinions of others Are. Not. True. Sometimes you need to take a few steps back to get a good view of what's really going on in your life. Is it good, or is it comfortable? Are you happy, or just less annoyed than usual?

For example, there is a difference between a house and a home. A house is a place where you live. A home is a place that lives with you for the rest of your life. If someone asks you where home is, do you think about your parents' house? Your grandparents'? The apartment you had after college? If your answer is anywhere but the home in which you now live, the Earth reading is for you. This reading helps you look at your life objectively and see what might have become furniture for you. Have you gone through your storage area lately? How about under the bed? Do you really need all of those sheets? What if you donated them to an animal rescue place? You'd have more room and make some animals happy. These are the benefits to squinting at your life and getting a bigger picture of it.

The Air Reading asks you how bored you are, really. Do you like your job? Do you feel like you belong? Like you're challenged? Do you feel excited about doing the work and being a part of that environment? In my experience, being bored causes people to get into trouble, and being dismissed causes people to spiral into anger and depression. I never suspected that my job was the problem until I was in my forties. I would always blame myself for the problem and try to make it work. When I couldn't and I left (or was asked to leave) I'd go to a job that suited me a little better and damn—what a difference.

The Fire reading asks you to look at your body in the same specific and calculating way that you will look at your heart and soul. What is sticking to you that doesn't belong to you? Which habits and behavior patterns are getting in your way? Can you meet yourself exactly where you are and move home from here? This is not a beauty magazine reading to tell you how to get thinner thighs in thirty days. Your thighs are just fine the way they are. This is about becoming okay with where you are today, forgiving and thanking yourself in the past, and making a plan for the future. There is no shame or blame here. There is only walking away confident.

Can you pull those thorns out? It's hard. After a while, they become like layer of armor that protects us from the world and all of the bad things in it that might be pointed at us. Carrying these insecurities and anxieties with us keeps us from trying too hard, or for trusting too easily. They work really, really well—until you notice something.

The thing about armor is that yes, it keeps everything away from you. But it also keeps everything away from you. If your thorny armor is keeping you from living your most authentic life, it's not worth it anymore and it's time. Time to bleed a little and heal a lot.

Then it's time to move on, unburdened.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2019. All rights reserved.

My son's father passed due to cancer. A few days after his death, he came into my dream. I was so happy to see him that I gave him a big hug. I do not remember him talking. He stayed there with me for few seconds and then walked away and disappeared. He was carrying something with him but I don't remember what. My son had the exact same dream. He was socializing with his father and then all of sudden, he left. My son awoke crying. I would like to dream of him again; can you help?

Lucia

Susyn:

It is not uncommon for someone who has passed to make contact with their loved ones for a few days afterward. Typically, the living can see, feel and hear them either in their dreams or in an awake state. This usually continues until the time of the memorial service.

After that, there is typically a six to eight-week period of limbo wherein the living can't seem to feel their presence or connect with them. This seems to be a transition period when both the living and the person who has passed are adjusting to the shock of the changes that have occurred.

After that, the spirit's presence may again be sensed. You mention that your son's father came to both you and your son a few days after his passing, and now you would like to connect with him again. If the six to eight week period has passed, there are some things you can do to attract more experiences with him.

You don't mention your sonís age, but if he is old enough, you may want to include him in these rituals. Typically, the younger a child is, the more in tune they will be with the spirit world. If your son is old enough to process, remember and describe his dreams, the two of you may benefit from trying to connect with his father together.

Start by setting up a special place like an altar where you can meditate and connect with your sonís father. You can place a picture of him and some of his personal possessions or objects that he liked in this space. Place two white candles on the altar. If you wish, you can also put some incense on it.

Pick a special time each day to sit at the altar. During this time, you can meditate on your departed loved one and then sit quietly and wait for messages from him. During this time, you can also ask him to come to you in your dreams or present any questions you may have for him.

It may take three or four sittings before you begin to sense his presence. Remember that the more you practice this ritual, the clearer his messages will become.

You can also try to program your dreams. To do this, make a request each night before you go to bed, asking that you be open enough to connect with your sonís father in your dreams. Your son can do the same.

Keep in mind as you perform these rituals that spirits can come to us in a variety of ways. You may experience certain smells that are connected with him that seem to come out of nowhere or turn on the radio or television and hear or see one of his favorite songs or shows. These are signs that he is near and sending you a message that he is okay.

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Mata:

I'm so sorry for your loss. I do want to reassure you that regular contact with a departed loved one is not only possible, it's fairly common. I know of a number of people who regularly enjoy dream visits with someone they love who has left this world. Others sense the presence of their loved one around them and carry on telepathic conversations with them. Still others have mastered the art of astral projection and regularly travel beyond the physical to interact with the departed.

I enjoy regular dream visits with my own deceased father, but I do need to note that I can't always control when this happens. It's a bit like calling someone on the phone; sometimes they are available to talk, and sometimes they aren't. There are things you can do that will help you to have many more visits with your departed husband, however.

The main thing is to spend a lot of time in an altered state of consciousness. Unfortunately, given the demands of daily life, for many people this is simply impractical. As a newly single mother of a young son, finding time for this may be your greatest challenge.

I think the most powerful thing you could do is begin to attempt to master astral projection, for even if you don't get out of your body, if you are able to get into the deep trance state essential to this practice, you will be in the ideal state for interacting with your son's father.

Basically, you want your body to be soundly asleep but your mind to be awake. This is not as easy as it may sound. The easiest way to get into this state is to essentially overindulge in sleep. One trick is to set your alarm for a couple of hours before you actually have to get up and allow yourself to hit the snooze button over and over again.

Most people find it is best if they have already had a full night's sleep before they begin this snooze and wake cycle; some find that it is easier for them to keep falling back into dreams if they are still somewhat tired. You'll have to experiment to find what works best for you.

It is also powerful to pray with all of your heart for the dream visits you desire, and to work with the law of attraction to manifest them. You could also sleep with something of your husband's such as his shirt. (If it still smells of him, all the better.) Every time you awaken, think of him and hold that object close as you drift back off to sleep.

If you make the time for this practice, I am confident that you will soon be having all sorts of interaction with your son's father.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.