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by Amy Seward

Dreaming is one of the best ways for the subconscious mind to reveal messages to you. When awake we receive messages from our senses, but when dreaming, messages from beyond can be relayed to you. By resting our conscious mind, our subconscious doesn't need to battle for your attention, so dreams can play out like a movie in your mind and relay messages in the form of symbols, story lines or my favorite, past loved ones coming for a visit.

When in dream mode, our emotional side is not challenged by logic, making it easy for our subconscious to come through. During this time, it is the best way for departed loved ones to be able visit. So, how do you know if you are just dreaming of a departed loved one, or experiencing an actual visitation? A spirit visit is different from a dream for many reasons.

Dreams will be prevalent when you first wake up, but will quickly fade from your memory. A visitation is an actual visit from spirit. It may feel like a dream, but you will remember it more vividly and you will be able to play it back detail by detail, and feel the emotions within it for year to come.

After my mother passed, she came visit me a few months later. I can still see the pantsuit she was wearing, her hairstyle, how young she looked, and feel her energy. She simply walked past me and went outside the pecan tree in the back yard and faded into the light. No words were spoken, but the message was comforting. I woke up crying, full on tears and sobbing with mixed emotions of missing her and joy being with her for that brief moment in time.

During another visitation, I felt that I had fallen down and was up against a wall. I felt someone picking me up and placing me on my feet. It was my mom. In a fleeting moment she was gone. This dream came during a very dark time in my life and it was not hard to see the message she was bringing me. Basically, get back on your feet!

As we approach the holidays, loved ones memories are strong and they seem to make more visitations. Choose one night per week and ask for a visit that night. Let your loved one in spirit know by extending an invitation in your mind and speak it out loud to your loved one, as it helps to increase the energy between you.

When the appointed day comes, send out lots of thoughts of love and gratitude for that person during the day. That night, light a candle and meditate, then place the plain glass or bowl of water on your nightstand, next to a picture of your loved one and, a personal item of theirs.

Once you receive a spiritual visitation, embrace it knowing that your loved one is with you and watching over you. So instead of sweet dreams, I wish you Sweet Spirit Visitations!

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My husband and I were married for 29 years. He passed away in November of 2001. After his death, I found out that he'd had an affair with another woman, and they had a son together. I forgave him for this, but it seems something or someone doesn't want me to move on. Things keep missing from his grave. I will put them there, and when I go back, they are gone. Also, I have a three-year-old grandson who never met my husband, and he keeps saying, "Grandma, do you see that man?" when there is no one around. When I go to my husband's grave, I just feel nervous and sometimes scared. When I am there it feels as though he is looking at me. We had a good marriage most of the time, until he got really sick - then I was called everything but my name. On the last night he was alive, we spent a good couple of hours together, and we had a really nice conversation and he said he loved me. Why are these strange things happening, and why do I feel so nervous about him? Thank you for your time.

Bonnie

Dreamchaser:

Let's deal first with the things missing from the grave. I know that in most cemeteries, you pay for the gravesite to be cleaned and maintained. There is a person who goes around and cleans up all the debris from on and around the graves. The things that you put on the grave are picked up by this person. If you want to double-check, please go to the office the next time you are there and ask the caretaker if he knows what is happening to the things you leave on your husband's grave.

The next thing we need to discuss is your little grandson. Children are born with the gift to "see." Have you ever watched a baby talking to "nothing but air?" Show your grandson a picture of your husband and ask him if that is the man he keeps seeing.

Your grandson sees all sorts of spirits in the house, not just your husband. Before you jump to conclusions on this one, make sure you two are talking about the same man. You can always ask children to tell you things about the person they see, or to draw you pictures. If you encourage them, they will give you amazing details.

I find it interesting that the first details you offered us were about how you discovered after your husband's death that he'd had an affair, and a child was born from that affair. You then say you forgave him. While your questions really had nothing to do with those facts, your mention of this right from the beginning IS meaningful.

I feel you have not really forgiven your husband, and that he knows that and is waiting around for your complete forgiveness. I think you are scared of the spirit of him because you know you really are still very mad at him. He never told you about the affair, not even at the end, and when you found out, you were so stunned that it took quite a while for you to even believe it.

That is NOT something that a man who loves his wife or has a happy marriage does, at least not according to what you have always believed. The whole situation has thrown you for a big loop. You had that wonderful last day together, and you felt so loved. Then you found this out, and it cast a big proverbial shadow over everything you believed your marriage to be.

I have an idea: I think you should have it out with him. I think you should speak to the air just like you would speak to him and let him know how you feel about him dying, how he treated you at times, and especially how you feel about his affair. Really hash it out with him. You will feel better after you say it all.

Nothing is holding you back from moving forward. This is all about you and your grief. Please do not push yourself. When it is time for you, you will be able to start to move forward. You are reconciling a lot heavy experiences and truth in your head. Give yourself time to completely heal.

I wish you peace with the past.

*****

Astrea:

Losing a spouse after all those years together has to be one of the most difficult experiences to deal with. It takes a VERY long time to get over something like that. Discovering that your husband had a separate family would be a shock for ANYONE, but I'm sure it feels even worse after that person has moved on into the Light.

You've not been able to confront him about what he did to you. You don't get to discuss why he did it or what made him feel he could betray you that way with another woman. Twenty-nine years is a lifetime, and to discover he had such a huge secret from you must hurt very deeply. It's a shame it couldn't have remained a secret until you join him again in Heaven, when he might be able to explain himself.

Nevertheless, this secret does not mean that he didn't truly love you, and still loves you from where he is now. Nothing is keeping you from moving on but YOU, because even though you've tried to forgive him, you're still not truly over what happened. When you're ready, you WILL move on.

Teenagers steal things from graveyards and keep them as souvenirs. That's what's happening at the cemetery with the things you leave on your husband's grave. I see a "pack" of them scavenging weekly. Sometimes kids take things to scare themselves into thinking they'll see apparitions or "ghosts." I don't see anything magical or metaphysical going on there - just a normal bunch of delinquents getting their kicks. They do it to scare people, too. It's a game to them, and it happens in every cemetery. I've seen kids with a room full of graveyard "souvenirs."

Having your husband mistreat you while he was ill has also stuck with you, and that's why you feel nervous and unsettled at his grave when you visit. You never got over that bad treatment, and it's stuck with you like glue. It's hard to let go of that cruelty.

Since it makes you UNHAPPY to visit his grave, stop going. Your husband isn't at the cemetery or in his grave anyway; he's in Heaven having a FINE OLD TIME.

The only time his Spirit is close by is when he's with your grandson. He's watching over him, and the kiddo is still little enough to SEE him and not feel it's crazy or scary. Considering some of the things your husband did when he was alive, looking after your grandson is the LEAST he could do. It's sort of a "GUARDIAN ANGEL" job. Your husband loved his work in life, so it's natural for him to still be working now.

I wish you could see him as your grandson does. Get him to describe to you what they do together before he gets too old to do it, or gets all hung up about telling you. This is going to make it easier for you to move on and have a GOOD life. You'll be able to see your husband through your grandson's eyes as the loving, caring person he was when he was well and truly with you.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.