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by Tammy Mastroberte

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

My grandmother on my mom's side passed away on New Year's Day when I was only five years old. I grew up in the Catholic religion and was told she was in heaven and looking down on me. But as a child, all I wanted was to have her back.

It was 17 years later that my mother died suddenly of a brain aneurism, only three days after Christmas, and we buried her on New Year's Eve. By this time, I was 22 years old, but it didn't change how I felt. Again, all I wanted was to have her back.

However, this time it was different. I grew up with my mother talking about signs she received from her mom, either in a dream or a song on the radio. I didn't really understand it until my mother started sending me signs after she died—and she sent a lot of them.

I often shared them with friends and family members, and would always hear, "You are so lucky. I wish I got signs from my dad!" or, "Wow, that is awesome. I don't ever hear from my brother who passed 10 years ago." At first, I thought the same thing, agreeing I was really lucky, but then I realize it wasn't luck, and that we are all getting signs. It's just that nobody has ever taught us how to listen and notice them.

This launched me into creating a process for others to start receiving and understanding signs from the their loved ones, angels, guides, and the Universe itself based on what I was doing, and it's now the subject of my book The Universe is Talking to You: Tap Into Signs and Synchronicities to Reveal Magical Moments Every Day.

One of the exercises I share in the book, and with my students and clients, is to actually assign a sign to a loved one. The idea came to me after interviewing a medium for Elevated Existence Magazine. She told me her husband took his birthdate, multiplied it, and told his loved ones and the Universe to use it to let him know they were around it. And that is when it hit me...I was actually doing this without realizing it!

Here is how it played out:

My mom would send a sign, like her name (MaryAnn) or her birthdate May 9 (0509).

I would notice the sign and say hello, and be so excited I got it. I would thank her and tell other people about it.

She would see that I accepted the sign and recognized it was her, and so she would use that sign again...and again.

In a way, I was assigning her signs, and as I accepted more of them, she would continue to use them to get my attention. That is when I created my "Assign a Sign" exercise, and the best part is that you can use this exercise to assign a sign to each loved one you would like to communicate with, as well as any archangels, guides, or masters you would like to open a dialogue with in your life.

For example, if you are on a healing journey, you could assign a sign to Archangel Raphael, who is known as a healing angel, to use. Also, if you don't know who the name of your guardian angel, you could just assign them a sign to use. You could even assign a sign to your team of guides as a whole collective.

In doing this, you will begin to create a reference guide unique to you, your loved ones, and your angels. You won't need a dictionary of signs because often—especially when it comes to our loved ones who have passed—the signs are unique to you and your life. As you start to assign signs, and then recognize them when they arrive, this will help open the door to you noticing other signs being sent to you as well.

How to Assign a Sign
Here are the steps you can take right now to assign a sign to a loved one, angel, guide, or master, and this process can be repeated for each spirit you would like to work with or hear from—just do only one at a time, and repeat the process with someone new after you received the sign you asked for from each person.

Step 1: Pick who you would like to receive the sign from, whether it's a loved one who has passed on, your guardian angel, your team of guides, or Goddess Lakshmi to let you know wealth is on its way to you.

Step 2: Now pick what sign you would like to assign to them to use with you. If it's a loved one, you could choose their first name, their birthdate, their favorite flower, or something else you know would remind you of them. For example, if you dad loved squirrels you could ask him to use a squirrel to get your attention. You could also assign a flower or animal to your guardian angel, or even a number that is significant to you in some way.

Step 3: Assign the sign using this prayer:

Dear Universe, I call in my angels, guides, loved ones who have passed on and all those in my soul society—only those of the highest vibration—to be with me right now. I call upon [state the name of who you are giving the sign to] specifically because I would like to communicate with you. I would like to give you the sign of [state the sign you are giving them] to use in order to let me know you are around me, or helping me in some way. I know I may have been missing signs you have sent in the past, but I promise to be open to them moving forward, and I will accept it when they arrive. Please use it within 24 to 48 hours. I also ask all my angels and guides to help me be open to the sign and recognize it when it comes across my path. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Amen.

Accepting the Sign
The other important piece to mention— it may seem obvious—is to accept the sign when it comes. Believe it or not, it's easier said than done. So many times, people get a sign from of loved one or the Universe, and they second-guess it or question it. They wonder if it really is a sign. They call friends to get their opinions. They talk themselves out of it, and then a huge opportunity is missed.

If you ask for a sign, and you recognize it when it comes, then be sure to say "yes" to it. Accept it, celebrate it and be grateful for it, and you will open the door to more.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2020. All rights reserved.

I have a coworker who is a bully. She has caused problems for others in my department, and recently I caught her slandering me. I had my boss help me confront her, after which she blabbed to everyone about what I had accused her of saying. (I had told only my boss.) Now she wants a letter of apology. I tried the freezing tool Susyn recommended but it hasn't helped. What should I do?

Susyn:

It sounds like this coworker is not your only problem. If others have had trouble with this bully yet your boss still repeated what you said to her, your boss may be making things worse, for now she may feel she has control of the situation and can do whatever she wants. If your boss refuses to appropriately deal with this troublemaker, you may have to freeze him as well. When a negative person has a great deal of power, it can take two or three freezings for the spell to be effective. However, because this situation appears to involve a number of people, more action may be required.

There is great power in numbers. If you can speak with the other people she has troubled and join forces with them, you may be able to write a group letter to your bossí supervisor. If you and your coworkers don't feel comfortable with this approach, you can each perform rituals to disarm this woman. For starters, you might have everyone who has been affected by her try the freezing ritual.

It does not sound like you or your coworker plan to leave the company soon, so here are a few rituals you can try in the office to create more protection around you. You can also share these with others who are looking for a solution.

Start with color therapy to deflect this personís energy. Indigo, yellow and white can create an invisible barrier around you and add to your protection. You might wear clothing or gemstones in these hues, put flowers on your desk, or place objects in your desk drawer to generate a deflective aura.

The color indigo encourages clarity of thought and speech. It will protect you from saying too much or giving away information she can later use to attack you. Yellow represents personal power; it will create an aura of confidence around you that will make her think twice about bullying you. White will surround you with spiritual protection and strengthen your intuition so you can move with wise awareness when around her.

I would also recommend you place a mirror in your drawer or carry one in your purse to reflect back to others any negative energy they send your way. When you sense that she is targeting you or preparing to cause trouble, stop and visualize a mirror in front of your power chakra, which is located in the stomach area. This will send any negative energy she aims at you back to her tenfold.

Metaphysically, the Universe is offering you an important lesson through this experience. Once you've learned how to speak up for and protect yourself, her antics should subside.

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Mata:

Since some of your coworkers have also had problems with this bully, her behavior is obviously not about you. Knowing this should make it easier for you to not take her behavior personally.

Letting go of your personal feelings about what this person has said and done will lift you above ego and empower you to transform this situation with love and wisdom. It would be wise to let go of needing to look like you triumph over her, for any such desire is a sign that she is dragging you down to her level. In fact, if you truly want to be free, you may have to let her think she has won.

Instead of trying to win this battle, focus on winning the war. By this, I mean strive to lift yourself above all of this drama so you can attract a higher quality of people and experience.

Once you are no longer angry or upset with her because you're not taking any of this personally, you might be able to find your way to feeling some compassion for her. People who are angry and aggressive aren't happy; they are simply externalizing their own fear and pain. This woman is clearly not at peace in her own life and is making enemies right and left; can you imagine how miserable it must be to be her?

Once you feel some compassion for her, your goal is to show her kindness regardless of what she says or does. If you find this difficult, this article by Alan Cohen may inspire you to see the situation in a different light.

If you attempt to kill this bullying with kindness, you may or may not begin to bring out some of this woman's better traits, but you will certainly lift yourself into a higher level of experience. It is essential to be sincere, of course, for what you send out will come back to you. Remember: fighting a bully will lead to more fighting, while making peace with a bully will lead to more peace.

One thing that helps me a great deal is to always remember that what we say about other people is what they believe to be true about us. If this bully calls someone else a liar, people think of her as a liar. The more she talks trash about others, the more despised she becomes.

Similarly, the kinder you are when talking about her, the more you will shine through as a wonderful person. Eventually, nothing bad she says about you will stick. In fact, if you have had nothing but good things to say about her and others, your boss and coworkers will leap to your defense if she or anyone else ever tries to attack your character again.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.