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by Tammy Mastroberte

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

My grandmother on my mom's side passed away on New Year's Day when I was only five years old. I grew up in the Catholic religion and was told she was in heaven and looking down on me. But as a child, all I wanted was to have her back.

It was 17 years later that my mother died suddenly of a brain aneurism, only three days after Christmas, and we buried her on New Year's Eve. By this time, I was 22 years old, but it didn't change how I felt. Again, all I wanted was to have her back.

However, this time it was different. I grew up with my mother talking about signs she received from her mom, either in a dream or a song on the radio. I didn't really understand it until my mother started sending me signs after she died—and she sent a lot of them.

I often shared them with friends and family members, and would always hear, "You are so lucky. I wish I got signs from my dad!" or, "Wow, that is awesome. I don't ever hear from my brother who passed 10 years ago." At first, I thought the same thing, agreeing I was really lucky, but then I realize it wasn't luck, and that we are all getting signs. It's just that nobody has ever taught us how to listen and notice them.

This launched me into creating a process for others to start receiving and understanding signs from the their loved ones, angels, guides, and the Universe itself based on what I was doing, and it's now the subject of my book The Universe is Talking to You: Tap Into Signs and Synchronicities to Reveal Magical Moments Every Day.

One of the exercises I share in the book, and with my students and clients, is to actually assign a sign to a loved one. The idea came to me after interviewing a medium for Elevated Existence Magazine. She told me her husband took his birthdate, multiplied it, and told his loved ones and the Universe to use it to let him know they were around it. And that is when it hit me...I was actually doing this without realizing it!

Here is how it played out:

My mom would send a sign, like her name (MaryAnn) or her birthdate May 9 (0509).

I would notice the sign and say hello, and be so excited I got it. I would thank her and tell other people about it.

She would see that I accepted the sign and recognized it was her, and so she would use that sign again...and again.

In a way, I was assigning her signs, and as I accepted more of them, she would continue to use them to get my attention. That is when I created my "Assign a Sign" exercise, and the best part is that you can use this exercise to assign a sign to each loved one you would like to communicate with, as well as any archangels, guides, or masters you would like to open a dialogue with in your life.

For example, if you are on a healing journey, you could assign a sign to Archangel Raphael, who is known as a healing angel, to use. Also, if you don't know who the name of your guardian angel, you could just assign them a sign to use. You could even assign a sign to your team of guides as a whole collective.

In doing this, you will begin to create a reference guide unique to you, your loved ones, and your angels. You won't need a dictionary of signs because often—especially when it comes to our loved ones who have passed—the signs are unique to you and your life. As you start to assign signs, and then recognize them when they arrive, this will help open the door to you noticing other signs being sent to you as well.

How to Assign a Sign
Here are the steps you can take right now to assign a sign to a loved one, angel, guide, or master, and this process can be repeated for each spirit you would like to work with or hear from—just do only one at a time, and repeat the process with someone new after you received the sign you asked for from each person.

Step 1: Pick who you would like to receive the sign from, whether it's a loved one who has passed on, your guardian angel, your team of guides, or Goddess Lakshmi to let you know wealth is on its way to you.

Step 2: Now pick what sign you would like to assign to them to use with you. If it's a loved one, you could choose their first name, their birthdate, their favorite flower, or something else you know would remind you of them. For example, if you dad loved squirrels you could ask him to use a squirrel to get your attention. You could also assign a flower or animal to your guardian angel, or even a number that is significant to you in some way.

Step 3: Assign the sign using this prayer:

Dear Universe, I call in my angels, guides, loved ones who have passed on and all those in my soul society—only those of the highest vibration—to be with me right now. I call upon [state the name of who you are giving the sign to] specifically because I would like to communicate with you. I would like to give you the sign of [state the sign you are giving them] to use in order to let me know you are around me, or helping me in some way. I know I may have been missing signs you have sent in the past, but I promise to be open to them moving forward, and I will accept it when they arrive. Please use it within 24 to 48 hours. I also ask all my angels and guides to help me be open to the sign and recognize it when it comes across my path. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Amen.

Accepting the Sign
The other important piece to mention— it may seem obvious—is to accept the sign when it comes. Believe it or not, it's easier said than done. So many times, people get a sign from of loved one or the Universe, and they second-guess it or question it. They wonder if it really is a sign. They call friends to get their opinions. They talk themselves out of it, and then a huge opportunity is missed.

If you ask for a sign, and you recognize it when it comes, then be sure to say "yes" to it. Accept it, celebrate it and be grateful for it, and you will open the door to more.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2020. All rights reserved.

I know my boyfriend is my soul mate; I can just feel it. However, every time we start to grow closer, I feel like we are pulled apart. I don't know what is going on. I've been told that someone he had a relationship with in the past is very jealous and has tried to use witchcraft to separate us. I tried to tell him about this but I don't think he believes me. I know something is wrong. How do I fix it? I don't want to lose him after waiting my whole life to find him. He has a hard time letting me go also; when we break up, we always get back together because we don't really want to be apart. Can you help?

Starjean

Susyn:

While witchcraft and black magic can be used to keep people apart, I do not feel that is the problem here. Even if that were happening, your love for each other should be strong enough to deflect any negative energy that comes your way. The only way someone could use witchcraft to break you apart is if you fear and believe that to be happening, for fear gives your power away.

There must be a deeper reason why the two of you keep running into blocks just when you start to get really close to each other. On both of your parts, there are issues from the past that are causing you to back up at certain points. That's the reason you can sense that something is wrong but canít quite figure out what it is.

Your boyfriend may still wrestle with issues from the relationship you mentioned. Perhaps his exís jealousy caused him to pull away. If so, you will want to make sure that you do not engage in the same behaviors that caused them to breakup.

You may also have old issues that get triggered in certain situations that cause you to doubt the relationship or fear that it is being interfered with. There are a number of things you can do to strengthen your relationship and build more trust between the two of you.

First you must keep in mind that trust is the most important aspect of your relationship. It can be hard to trust another person when they pull back or are influenced by an ex. Trust in yourself and your feelings, and always give your boyfriend the benefit of a doubt. This will strengthen your connection.

Second, keep a daily journal about your relationship. Recording each day's events will help you identify patterns and determine what is preventing you from growing closer. It will also help you maintain healthy boundaries and act authentically instead of succumbing to doubt.

Third, the relationship may be out of balance. Be sure that the give and take between you is equal. For example, if you are doing all the calling, texting and planning for the two of you, step back and wait for him to take the lead. If you over-nurture him or seek him out when he needs time alone or you feel he is drifting away from you, it will only make him move further away. If you focus on your own needs and desires to create better balance, it wonít be long before he turns his focus back on you and your relationship.

These actions should help clear some of the blocks youíve been experiencing and move this relationship forward in healthy, authentic ways.

*****

Mata:

The art of seduction is in many ways the art of casting a spell over someone. For example, you wouldn't show up for a date in what you wore to exercise that morning, free of makeup and with your hair all disheveled. We all try to project a certain energy and image when we are trying to win people over.

While such attempts may yield a temporary lover, for a relationship to be really satisfying and stand the test of time, it must be true, by which I mean it must be founded on a connection between who you really are and who the other person really is. If we try to go against nature by pretending to be someone we're really not in relationships, by trying to force connections that just don't want to happen naturally, or by trying to break up people who really belong together, our efforts may seem to work for a while, but eventually, the truth will prevail.

Which brings me to my point: if you are meant to be together, you will be together regardless of what some ex-girlfriend may desire or attempt to do. If your love is strong and deep, it will withstand whatever storms come your way.

What you can do is work with the Universe by redirecting any negative energies you receive toward the creation of what you desire. This is an opportunity to talk to your boyfriend about this pattern you've observed, get clear about how you both really feel, and, if you determine that you both really do want the same things in love, begin to work together to forge such a deep and lasting love that nothing could keep you apart.

If you keep going through the same pattern of experience in this relationship, it's a sign that there is some issue or obstacle that needs to be worked through and overcome. Instead of blaming your problems on outside forces, you two would be wise to look deeply at any healing or growth you need to undertake in order to fulfill your dreams for a loving, lasting bond.

If you're worried about someone else using black magick against you, then you obviously believe this is possible. This is wonderful, for your belief in magick will empower you to use white magick to counter any such measures and make your relationship deep, strong and satisfying. I recommend you use creative visualization and spiritual rituals that resonate with you to bless your bond and make it as wonderful as it can possibly be.

Since what we sends out comes back to us, we are wise to ignore all we don't want and focus on what we do. Work on yourself, work together on this relationship, and use your divine creative power to fulfill your dreams for love.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.