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by Cindy Attar

Quite often in a reading, all sorts of thoughts, feelings, and pictures will come to me that I don't have time to communicate or explain during that particular live chat session. Most of this is best labeled thought energy. Let me explain what thought energy is, how we all experience it, and how understanding it can help us align with peace, love and healing.

If you have a connection with someone, whether it's a casual friendship, a deeply loving relationship, or something in between, there is always an overhead cloud of the thoughts and feelings you exchange that encompasses the two of you. Let's say you're a woman, and we're talking about your relationship with your husband. Your thoughts/feelings about him he gets on some level, whether he is conscious of that or not. Similarly, on some level, you can feel his thoughts and feelings about you. What you are sensing is what I call thought energy.

While each person is both a sender and receiver of thought energy, most people are stronger at either sending or receiving. Which do you feel you are stronger at, sending or receiving? Being empathic, I definitely am a strong and sensitive receiver. I'm so sensitive, in fact, that if the other party has a prominent presence (is a strong sender), his thought energy can hit me like a basketball on the head. I also have known people who have such a light presence that I didn't even know they were there! As a born empath, I've been aware of this ability all my life. I know how/what a person is thinking by tapping into their thought energy. This skill is what makes me a great intuitive reader for others.

Thought energy in the cloud - his and yours - can feel like it ALL originated within you. The unaware sensitive receiver (you) can easily mistake his thought energy for your own thoughts/feelings towards him. This is the source of a lot of the confusion that arises in relationships. How you feel about someone may be how they actually feel about YOU; you aren't so much feeling that way, as picking it up.

How do you know if the thought energy is yours or his? One way is to just use logic. Ask yourself if how you feel about someone makes sense given all the dynamics of the relationship. If it doesn't make sense, or it feels confusing, you may want to look more deeply. If you're left puzzled as to why you feel the way you do, take a closer look, and consider the possibility that what you feel for him is actually what HE feels for you, and you are simply picking up his thought energy.

If you are a strong, sensitive receiver in the relationship, and you want to split up and move on, but you just can't seem to detach, you may mistakenly conclude you are meant to be together. In reality, it may be that he is keeping the connection alive and preventing you from leaving by drawing you in with his thought energy toward you.

On the other hand, if you are a strong, sensitive receiver, and you have lost some of the closeness you used to have, it most likely is because he isn't as present as he was before: his thought energy is going elsewhere. Don't automatically jump to the conclusion that he has another woman. There could be all sorts of reasons he is sending his energy elsewhere. He could be focused on work or some pressing problem or issue, so it's best to just ask him what's going on.

If you are a strong sender and someone you don't want to be with keeps bothering you, you may be subconsciously keeping that connection alive by thinking about that person, either out of fear that they will keep bothering you, fear that you will hurt their feelings, fear that you will regret pushing them away when you're alone, or all sorts of other reasons. By thinking about that person, you draw them toward you.

Whenever you find yourself unable to change a pattern or end a relationship, detachment is needed. If, for example, your husband isn't as present for the relationship as he was before, then detaching will give him much needed mental space to work on whatever is troubling him, or your absence might just make his heart grow fonder and get his attention and energy to return to you. I often counsel my clients to detach, to go on with your life, or to withdraw your energy. For more information how to detach, see An Easy Way to Detach.

In summary, it's important to keep in mind that what you're thinking and feeling about someone may be mixed up with what they're thinking and feeling about you. By becoming conscious of what is happening, you can take the energetic reins and steer your course toward whatever you are desiring to create in your life.

Cindy Attar has been helping people move forward in life for many years. She has a unique way of utilizing her intuition that offers powerful insights to questions about relationships, career goals, and life situations. Cindy's gifts include mediumship: she can intuitively connect with departed loved ones and deliver messages from them. She also has an extraordinary gift for hearing animals and relaying their messages. Cindy has recently joined Kajama's team of psychics, and for a limited time, she is offering a special introductory price of ONLY $15 for email readings. She also offers gift certificates for holiday giving. Cindy has written three books, which can be found on her website, CindyAttar.com. To schedule a reading with Cindy, visit CindyAttar.com today.

For a very long time now, I have had the same recurring dream. It usually takes place in the home I grew up in. A thief is trying to break in. It is raining heavily outside and the night is also stormy, so much so that some of the doors and windows are on the verge of breaking down under the wind. This never actually happens, however. Those doors and windows also seem to be very old so there are holes sealed with tape, etc. I try to buckle them against the great gusts of wind but fear they will eventually give in. The thief never manages to break in but I am in great fear that my family members and our belongings are in great danger. I have never been able to figure out what this dream means. I have also tried to confront the thief in my sleep but was not successful, for it's not easy to guide a subconscious mind. I am currently in great turmoil both professionally and healthwise; I'm feeling completely lost about where am I am going. I was born March 23, 1978, in Kolkata, India.

Dola

Susyn:

Our dreams are often a direct reflection of what is going on in our lives. However, the issues they represent are often presented as an allegory, which can make them difficult to interpret. When we have dreams of a certain house - especially the house we grew up in - the house is often a symbol of our own selves. Let's look at each aspect of this recurring dream and how it reflects a certain aspect of your life.

First, a thief is trying to break in; this is usually a sign that we feel unprotected or vulnerable. Though the intruder never actually breaks in, you may feel like others are trying to take advantage of you or use you in some way. In effect, this dream is telling you that you need to set stronger boundaries and pay closer attention to what you give and receive from others.

The severe, threatening storms may indicate that you do not feel safe or protected on a spiritual or personal level. These storms represent a threat over which you have no power. Metaphysically, they suggest that you feel disconnected from your spiritual source.

The unstable doors and windows in your dreams also reflect the fear that you are not protected. Notice that these edifices never actually give way. What this suggests is that there are areas of your life in which you have become weak or ineffective. As you discover what they are, you can take direct action to create positive change.

When we have a repeating dream, we are receiving a message that change is strongly needed. Though you are under threat in these dreams, nothing bad ever actually happens. However, if you ignore these dreams, the problems driving them will continue, which could eventually cause you trouble in real life.

You mention that you are in great turmoil and feeling lost in regards to your health and your profession. I feel that these dreams reflect the way you feel about your life at this moment. Because a thief and raging storms are always present in these dreams, I sense that the changes you need to make are spiritual in nature.

It may be that you are powerless to change certain health issues or your work situation. When we reach such a place of powerlessness, we must learn to surrender our lives over to Spirit so our circumstances can be transformed in magical ways.

Regular meditation can help you reconnect with Spirit and find a way to turn things around. If you faithfully practice meditation one or more times each day, you'll soon receive direction on how to resolve the issues that are causing you to have this recurring dream.

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Oceania:

Important dreams recur until we are able to hear their message. Since our minds often disguise situations in order to make them more bearable, this can be tricky. As you explore the possible meaning of your dream, remember that you are safe here and now; whatever the dream represents happened in the past, and you survived it!

The appearance of your childhood home suggests that this issue dates back to that time in your life. The house represents your physical body and boundaries. The woman inside the house, trying to shore up the windows and doors, is your inner self or soul.

A thief is someone who crosses others' boundaries and takes something that isn't his. I think someone was violating your physical, emotional or sexual boundaries, or at least trying to. The thief could have been a parent or some other adult, a bullying child or a stranger.

The storm represents conflict. Given the violent wind, I suspect there was yelling or arguing. The rain suggests emotional upheaval and tears. Like the doors and windows, you almost broke down - but you didn't! You were strong and you survived. That holes in the doors and windows had been sealed up with tape suggests that you had some outside support but not much, for tape isn't much of a protective barrier.

You fought back in your dream but also feared that you'd eventually give in. It's as if a younger you is still trapped in the past, worrying about the outcome of this traumatic situation. In a visualization, visit the girl holding up the windows and doors during the storm and let her know that she survived the conflict and grew up to become wonderful you, so she can relax and let go now.

It's okay that you've been unable to confront the thief in your dream state, for you can do so when you're awake. Imagine him tied to a chair and say everything that comes to mind. If you prefer to write it down first, go ahead and then read it out loud. You say you are currently in upheaval both professionally and health-wise. Confronting your thief will lead to empowerment, confidence and greater success in your waking experience.

It may help you to realize that, in a way, YOU are playing the role of thief. You successfully upheld your boundaries and survived the trauma, but instead of celebrating your triumph, you live in fear of the next potential crisis. In this way, you are robbing yourself of serenity in the present moment. Know that you are safe and will be able to handle whatever comes your way as you move forward to create positive change.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.