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February 22 through February 28, 2021

It wouldn’t hurt to keep a low profile this week, as we’ll be under the influence of a waxing Virgo full Moon. People can tend to be critical or nitpick at this time, and there’s always the danger that if you point out to someone else what they are doing wrong, three other people will point out what YOU are doing wrong! So lay low, keep your opinions to yourself and just glide along on the quiet and peaceful Pisces energy in the air. You won’t get much done on Monday or Tuesday as the Moon wades through Cancer, but don’t worry, as you can make up for lost time at the end of the week. The Leo Moon on Wednesday and Thursday will inspire you to take better care of yourself put yourself first and stay alert to emotional imbalances. Venus will move into Pisces on Thursday, adding an even more ethereal tone to your days. The Virgo full Moon on Saturday, also known as the Snow Moon, will call for a release of principles and ideal that no longer serve us. Based on what we’ve been through over the last 12 months, it’s inevitable that we are now on the threshold of new visions, new ideas, and new realities. But, it also means we’re on the threshold of new possibilities and new potentials!

Scarcity versus Abundance
An Excerpt from Empowered, Sexy, and Free by Jolie Dawn

Let’s take a look at one of the primary blockages to experiencing true and lasting prosperity for all humans: a repetitive story of poverty and scarcity that we replay in our heads, versus one of abundance and prosperity. Most of us know what scarcity feels like, and most of us also know the good, spacious feeling of having enough (even if it’s only been for brief moments).

The trick is not to allow habits to get us stuck in scarcity. We compare ourselves to others; we judge other people for having money; we get stuck in dark loops and don’t know how to get out. We stay stuck when we use scarcity language: “I want that, but I can’t have it. I can’t go there. I can’t do that. I can’t learn that. I can’t be that.” If we habitually deny ourselves experiences because we automatically assume we don’t have money for them, we live a life of being played by money. Money does not deserve to have that much power over you and your life enjoyment. Can we agree on that?

Now before you say, “But Jolie! It’s not just a ‘story’ of scarcity. It’s real for me. The rent is due, and I am stressed. I can’t just ‘mindset’ my way to prosperity around this.” Girl, I get it. I really do know what it’s like to feel the crippling fear of not being able to pay bills and the gut-wrenching sadness of having to deny yourself the things you desire. Let me tell you, more scarcity and fear is not the path to the freedom you desire. When scarcity increases, it’s very challenging to think creatively for solutions. My invitation here is to bring awareness to automatic behaviors and responses. To breathe a moment of space between stimulus and response, between opening an unexpected bill and feeling panic. The secret of true prosperity is being able to generate it as a feeling even before you can manifest it as a physical reality. I know this practice can feel hard. But you are so much more powerful and capable than you give yourself credit for.

Maybe for you, it’s not an issue of generating enough money to pay your bills. Maybe you’ve found your path of a lucrative life and/or ample support from others. Maybe the next-level prosperity upgrade is to relax in your body, trust your money, give yourself the freedom to spend money on yourself. Or, on the opposite side of the spectrum, maybe your challenge is to love yourself enough to save for the future. No matter where you are right now, the way out is to become more aware of the repetitive story in your head around scarcity and to consciously choose a narrative of prosperity.

So many women I’ve worked with over the years have a story around their age. “I’m thirty. I should have ___________ by now.” Or, “I’m forty. I should have had this.” Whether we’re twenty-five, or sixty, or seventy, or eighty, this idea in our heads of what we thought each age was going to be like often revolves around money.

Begin noticing your language around money. Do you say things like these? “Real estate is so expensive these days!” “I could never afford a nice car!” “I wish I could wear things like that.” “I’ll never be able to make my rent this month!” “I can’t pay these bills! Life is so expensive!” Think about what you call in when you say or even think these things.

Then there is the heavy, burdensome subject of debt. Many people can’t bear to look closely at their debt because it’s too terrifying. I remember being like that — not wanting to know my credit card balances, feeling guilty about owing money, believing I had the poverty gene and couldn’t do anything about it, thinking nothing would ever change and it was just who I was, who I would always be, who my family had always been.

None of that is true. None of it! There’s always a new future and a different path available to you, if you choose.

Any thought, sensation, or emotion that makes you feel bad, contracted, or heavy when you think about money is keeping you stuck. Look back through your life. Ask yourself when you started feeling this way about money. What belief about money that’s no longer serving you are you ready to release? It might be something that helped you survive at some point, but you don’t need it anymore. It’s time to modernize, to clean up your thoughts, and to look with clear eyes at what is actually available to you — which is everything.

Shame and guilt are among the lowest vibrational frequencies in the human experience, right above death. If we think of death as a flat line, shame and guilt are low, slow, barely discernible vibrations. It’s not about good and bad. It’s about what makes you vibrate high and what makes you vibrate low. Shame and guilt make you feel bad about yourself, that you’re inherently wrong as a person. They keep you locked into scarcity. If you aren’t enough, then how can you ever have enough?

Of course, the systems in place are meant to keep you in debt, forever compounding interest and compounding shame. Plenty of people profit from the debt-shame paradigm. If you’re in debt, big or small, have you ever asked yourself how it happened? Look at student loans. It’s fucking crazy what kind of interest rates institutions get for student loans. I see my friends feeling crushed under student loan debt and filled with shame and guilt. They think they did this to themselves and they are bad, but the truth is that it’s not entirely their fault.

Our monetary system has a history of preying upon vulnerable people. Look what happened in 2008: people were given mortgages that they weren’t qualified for, until the whole house of cards collapsed. It takes conscious effort to say, “I’m not going to get stuck in feeling guilt and shame about this. I trust that I am where I need to be right now. I trust in my ability to creatively problem-solve and find a way out.”

Another low-vibrational feeling is jealousy, which is believing you can’t have what somebody else has. Jealousy has an obsessive, hoarding energy around it. Yet another one is doubt, when you believe that something isn’t even possible for you. Insecurity means you feel like you are on shaky ground. Anxiety and fear, denial and anger — they all influence the flow of energy toward or away from you.

Instead of saying things like “I want that, but I can’t have it,” think, “I could totally have it. I don’t choose it right now, but I can choose it whenever I want to.” This is you taking back your choice.

Jolie Dawn is the author of Empowered, Sexy, and Free and creator of the Dare to Prosper Challenge, the largest women’s prosperity meditation gathering online, attended by women in more than fifty countries. She specializes in helping women awaken their prosperity consciousness, embody their deepest truth, and reclaim personal freedom and creativity. Visit her online at joliedawn.com.

Excerpted from the book from Empowered, Sexy, and Free. Copyright ©2022 by Jolie Dawn. Printed with permission from New World Library.

I grew up with cats, so I'm familiar with their behavior in general. For the past three years or so, I've had a cat that is unlike any other cat I've ever met. She meows constantly, seems very restless, and does other strange things like she's trying to communicate with me. For example, it's like she will do tricks for me to try to get my attention. She'll roll over on her back, stare back up at me, and when I look at her, she'll flip over, stand up and start meowing earnestly again. Recently a friend met her for the first time, saw all of this, and announced, That cat was definitely human in a past life! Do you think that's possible? Can we be reborn as animals? If so, is my cat a tortured human who is trapped in a cat's body and trying desperately to tell someone who she really is? I love your column!

- Jess

Dreamchaser:

Many people assume that humans can become animals, but it just doesn't happen. Humans have never and will never incarnate into the body of an animal. Animals evolve and become humans, but the reverse is never true.

Just because your cat can communicate this way doesn't mean she was human - it just means she is very smart! She is a thinking, living being and has learned how to get you to pay attention. I can understand why your friend would make a comment like that about your cat, because she does seem to be so much more interactive than most cats.

Your pet is what witches of old called a familiar. A familiar is a spirit in the form of a cat. Your cat is your living animal totem. She's there to help you with big decisions, emotional dilemmas, and sticky situations. She's also there to bring you joy and make you laugh.

When you're feeling bad, she will come over to you, lay near you, suck up your negativity and go lay down somewhere and sleep it off. That is what she and many other cats do for their life's work. She is a fabulous friend and a very helpful teacher.

You need to learn to listen to her. I have found the best way to hear an animal is to put at least one of my hands on the animal's back or side to let the animal know, I am here. Get quiet and I will listen. Then I usually close my eyes or look into the animal's eyes (most cats do not like this), and just listen to the thoughts that enter my head.

That is how all guides speak to us - they use our own thoughts to communicate what we need to hear. When she starts acting up to get your attention, she has something she really wants or needs to say.

Cats and dogs are obviously the most available animal totems people might have as pets. They are so common that they are often overlooked as the great teachers they are. Cats teach us about things like independence, how to bounce back after hardships, unpredictability, curiosity, healing, cleverness, love, and the ability to fight when cornered.

They also show us how to meditate. I don't know about you, but if I'm lying down and one of my cats comes and lies down beside me, that purring puts me into a very deep trance.

Your cat is a special being sent to you by Spirit for you to have as a helper, teacher, guide and friend. Pay attention to her - she is very wise.

I wish you and your cat purr-fectly happy and fulfilling lives!

*****

Astrea:

I have several cats who exhibit this exact same behavior!

Your kitty is not a human trapped in a cat's body. Of that I'm sure, as animals don't incarnate as human beings. I've never known a human who was an animal before, or an animal who was a human before. In my opinion, it's impossible.

When we were little, our parents might have said, Be careful or you'll come back as a WORM! but it doesn't happen that way. Humans are humans, and cats are cats.

Of course, since my opinion is just my opinion, I took your question to some experts. I discussed the matter with Mars, my big orange Tabby, and he says he would NEVER reincarnate as a human with only one life, and that no other self-respecting feline would either.

Little Schmetz, our baby black kitty, says that he's looking forward to experiencing all nine of his lives. (I hate to inform him that because he was an impound cat, a couple of those have already been spent!)

Trixie, the most human-acting of the bunch, says With nine lives of my own, what good would one human incarnation do me? I agree. It doesn't seem like a very good trade to be human and not a cat in my house!

To them, it's better to be a cat instead of a silly human. I'm reminded of a sign I saw at my vet's one time: Dogs have masters. Cats have staff!

We have a different thought process than our animal friends. We have moral judgement and free will. Those two things are uniquely human - our darling pets don't possess those qualities.

We may personify their actions, and they may seem human, but that just comes from paying attention to the kinds of things that please us, that get our attention or the response they're looking for.

They want us to be happy, and they want food and a nice place to stay. Beyond that, they're cats. They'll hunt and stalk and eat and sleep and sleep and sleep. I believe they love us, but there are people who would argue even THAT point with you.

Highly evolved animals can seem very human, and they can love us and share our love with others. As human as they may seem, however, they're only our animal companions and pets.

That doesn't mean, however, that they can't communicate with us! Mine talk to me. In my dreams, they even speak to me in words sometimes. The ones who have crossed over visit me in dreams too, and they assure me they're waiting for me on the other side.

I love them and like to believe that they think like I do too, because then they seem like even greater companions.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.