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October 16 through October 22, 2023

We’ll be marching to the beat of our own drummers this week, so forget about what others think and follow your instincts; it’s the best way to make the most progress! An intense energy prevails under Monday’s Scorpio Moon, but we should take care not to step on other people’s toes in our attempts to get our own lofty goals met! Pace yourself and watch out for the other guy, in the office as well as on the road. We’ll carry a more light-hearted air Tuesday through Thursday as the Moon cruises through fun-loving and social Sagittarius. Don’t worry if you don’t get your work done, as Friday’s Capricorn Moon will help you get caught up in record time! This moon is also good for weekend projects, as it will fill your day with energy and umph! on Saturday as well. Mercury moves into the karmic sign of Scorpio on Sunday and combined with an Aquarius Moon, anything could happen! Sudden changes in direction, plans upended, unexpected company, or conversations with a stranger: all are hallmarks of this unique combination!

by Leslie Morrison

Before I wrote In the Spirit of Home, I never really looked at home design as a form of magic. Pillows are pillows, right? And a sofa is just a sofa. But digging deep into the finer details of what makes a home tick from the inside out and on microcosmic levels, I began to see the shimmering threads that connected everything together.

Making a home a truly personal space involves more than meets the eye, and there are many layers that work together to make a home nurturing, peaceful, healthy, and inspiring. I have been "making rooms pretty" since I was a kid, and have spent many hours telling people what's wrong with their spaces.

Then I started to notice more and more the things that were right.

I could suddenly pinpoint what it was that felt good about a room and began my work from there. Whether it is well-placed furniture, good lighting, heartfelt treasures, or the perfect cozy chair by a comforting fire, sometimes things just work on levels we cannot see, but feel. This is where I want you to start when you decide it's time to give your home a little rejuvenation. Of course, it's beautiful when your home looks good, but how is it going to feel, and how is it going to nurture your mind, body, and spirit?

Why You Should Care How Your Home Feels
You spend an awful lot of time in your home to not care about how it feels to be there. Do you enjoy being in the kitchen? Does it inspire you to prepare food? How about your bedroom? Is it sincerely the place you feel you can rest every night, or does the clutter and dirty laundry and kid's toys and electronics make you too anxious to go to bed? You may instantly know the cause of unease or restlessness in your home, but many people do not.

Here are some easy ways to spot those problem areas in your home and find simple, long-lasting solutions that support your current self.

1. Start with the basics.
   Behind many uncomfortable rooms and spaces lies a heap of stuff that has travelled with you through time. This baggage can take many forms: old clothing that doesn't fit, items from past relationships that once made you smile but now dredge up less than joyful memories, boxes of kid's toys from 15 years ago, or maybe even a broken toaster. Make space clearing your top priority by donating or tossing out whatever you have outlived or outgrown, or anything that no longer brings you peace and joy. Believe it or not, physical items affect us on deeply psychological levels by what we attach to them. Be honest about what you're holding onto and let it go if it needs to go.

   Space clearing also means tackling those unwanted energetic patterns that might be hanging onto the walls. Burning herbs is an age-old tradition used to clear negativity and allow new energies to flow through. To make the most impact with clearing away the unseen "stuff" in your home, make sure to flex your visualization muscles and be clear as to what you want to achieve.

2. Assess your space.
   This is one of my favorite parts of the design/re-decorating process, and the one that gets you the most involved in actively creating new spaces.

   When you have successfully cleared out the old, take an honest look at the space you live in before you start shopping for new things or repurposing loved belongings. I have known many people over the years determined to keep walls in disrepair or in desperate need of a paint job. There are also those who insist on keeping furniture that doesn't fit the room it occupies, or neglecting the need for proper lighting.

   In order to make the most of your space—no matter its size, shape, geographic location, or Feng Shui orientation—make sure you know the requirements of the space first. Large rooms need large furniture to make space work and create a sense of comfortable living. Small rooms need small furniture to maximize the flow of energy through tiny areas and tight corners.

   You should also take advantage of windows and views. If you can see something pretty outside a window, make that your orientation. Avoid blocking windows with furniture (unless you are trying to hide) and keep entryways clear of objects that might hinder ease of access. Make a habit of walking around your rooms while placing furniture and see how effortless or death-defying your space actually is. Sometimes a floorplan looks good on paper, but when the family piles into its daily routine you might find that extra wide ottoman trips people up on the way to the television.

3. Take it personally
   When you get comfortable that you have successfully cleared your home or room and assessed the space for awkwardness, weirdness, or other such insufficiencies, its time to tackle the important task of ensuring that whatever new items you add are working to refresh your world and not throw you back to square one. Because you are decorating and designing in the present time and no longer living in the past, you might be pleasantly surprised at just what colour schemes, objects, textiles, or art looks good to you now. Maybe your home is still stuck somewhere back in your gothic stage and you suddenly discover yourself drawn to bright colours or soft pastels. Perhaps you have developed an affinity for chic Boho décor or lots and lots of plants, or find the irresistible urge to snatch up that painting of a smiling llama. If you are purchasing anything new, follow these intuitive and playful bursts of inspiration. They reflect a YOU that maybe you didn't even know about.

   But, you don't need to go out and buy new things to make your home your perfect haven. You may already be surrounded with the things you love. Sometimes all we need to get energy flowing and moving in the right direction is a little change, or maybe a BIG one. But the change is the magic, and you have the power to create and alter your personal space to be whatever it needs to be right now. And remember, there is no wrong way to decorate a home. There is only your way.

I wish you all a happy home and haven.

I am currently married but I have had a certain guy on my mind for almost a year now. He is also married. We haven't spoken in 14 years, but recently we started emailing. I have had ringing in my ears and chest pain throughout the past year, ever since we reconnected. (My doctor cleared me of any health problems.) I feel such a strong pull towards him; I feel that my life is shifting towards him. We were attracted to each other in college but never dated. I feel that our time is coming when we are supposed to be together. Am I crazy that my feelings are this strong with someone I haven't seen or talked to in 14 years? Thank you!

Traci

Astrea:

No, you're not crazy. Many people experience what you're going through when they are bored with their spouses. Instead of meeting a stranger online or via a dating service, they often turn to someone they knew before they were married.

If the other person is also married, it's safer that way for the couple involved. It might amaze you to discover how many people rekindle romances after college or high school reunions only to discover that the attraction was only in their minds because they were unhappy or dissatisfied with their current partners and situations.

Since you knew this guy in college, you already know a good bit about him. You don't have to worry that he'll do anything crazy, like show up on your doorstep and ask you to run away with him.

Since he's also married, it may be that he's also bored and feels safe talking to you. It's exciting and forbidden, and you can scare yourselves with the possibility that you could be together someday. It's natural for friends who are attracted to each other to take their relationship to some kind of romantic level whether in reality or fantasy.

Also, since both of you are already in what seem to be committed relationships (at least on the surface), there won't be a whole lot of pressure to come through on any promises.

Try not to get your heart broken. Men and women are very different when it comes to things like this. I've done countless readings for women who say they feel a deep connection with a fellow who is only doing something for fun. Remember that you have not known this man on any kind of intimate level, and that he could just be playing around and unaware of how much you're investing in the relationship. Disaster lurks here!

There is also the problem of getting caught. Do you really feel your husband would be totally forgiving if he read those emails? Leos are notoriously careless when it comes to covering up. Beware of hurting someone who used to be the most important person on Earth to you.

If you value your relationship with your own husband, I urge you to be very careful about what you're risking. Perhaps the two of you could go to a counselor to try to rekindle your feelings for each other, or maybe it's time to get a divorce and move on. Either way, you owe it to yourselves to explore that possibility with someone who can help.

Don't throw away what you have for what you feel is destiny. It's not - it's wishful thinking. I don't have to tell you that you get carried away at times, Leo. Don't paint yourself into a corner from which you can't escape.

*****

Susyn:

What you're experiencing now - as you did in college - is a powerful past life karmic connection with David. However, you have to be very careful about trying to determine what this connection is, along with its spiritual importance and higher purpose in your life.

If you are soul mates destined to be together in this lifetime, there is no way of stopping it or speeding it up. Universal timing is an interesting thing, as its main purpose is to protect us from experiencing things before we are ready.

The time period between your connection in college and your reconnection now has no doubt been filled with many lessons, karmic experiences and personal growth. This will ensure the best possible outcome for any given situation whether a life partnership with him is in your future or not.

The physical pains you've been experiencing are also an aspect of your past life together. They may stem from painful experiences you had in that past life, or mirror pains that you experienced at that time when these symptoms represented something threatening your health.

One way to gain some clarity about this relationship is to go within and begin examining your feelings. If you are unhappy in your life or marriage, this could be a wonderful distraction. This is an indicator that you have work of your own left to do, so you must aim for greater spiritual growth and wholeness before taking any actions or moving on any feelings that will most certainly affect the other people in your life and his.

I had a similar experience when I encountered a high school sweetheart many years later. The connection and chemistry were so intense and overwhelming that I also wondered if we were destined to reunite.

However, by standing still, paying attention and not moving in any direction beyond email, I soon realized that this was a gift for me, and was designed to bring out hidden aspects of myself that had gotten lost or buried over the years. It reconnected me with my youthful spirit while alerting me to the fact that we really had no future together.

It may take more time to determine where things might lead with David, so I encourage you to focus on the gifts and affirmations he is bringing into your life now without pondering the future or letting hopes and expectations rule your thoughts or decisions.

Ask Spirit to increase this connection if that is what is best for you, or to diminish the connection if it is not meant to go further. In that way, you'll either learn some very important things about yourself, or the Universe will continue to open the door wider for this relationship.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.