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by Leta Herman & Jaye McElroy

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Who is the most significant person in your life? Well...YOU are! Even if you are in a loving relationship, the most important factor to attaining "true" love is truly loving yourself.

When you fall in love with yourself, you then share that love with others, and yes, possibly even with a significant other. But that is not mandatory for happiness. In fact, falling in love with yourself first actually attracts others to you! You become a light that others are drawn to, "like a moth to a flame."

This Valentine's Day, start to discover yourself and all of your gifts through understanding your true nature with the Five Elements. We're not talking about your personality or physical appearance; we're talking about something deep inside that hasn't ever changed since the day you were born. Picture it like gold: a metal that never tarnishes and always retains its amazing beauty. It's time to dig for gold; that beauty inside you, your true nature.

Your Energy Type is your true nature. You were born this way. Every move you make, every word you speak, the way you look into someone's eyes, how you dance, how you walk. You are expressing this true nature every moment of every day.

Your true nature is made up of all Five Elements, but in a specific order. One of the Elements is your predominant way of moving through life: Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, or Water. And your true nature is some combination of all five (perhaps Earth/Metal/Fire/Wood/Water, for example). Your Elemental signature dictates how you walk through life. What is your combination or Elemental order?

Nature has certain governing principles or laws of movement. These correlated to the four seasons:

• Life is born in the Spring (Wood)
• Grows to maturity in the Summer (Fire)
• Dies and goes back to the earth in the Fall (Metal)
• Hibernates and gathers energy in Winter (Water) to start again in the Spring
• Each of these seasons has a transition phase (Earth), something that helps smooth out these radically different energies.

These four seasons, plus the transitions, correlate to the Five Elements.

Your energy also correlates to the Five Elements. Every living being on this planet knows how to behave like Spring, Summer, Fall, or Winter at different times, and every being knows how to transition from one season to another. It is instinctual and just comes naturally.

Let's help you find your true nature, the immutable gold that is deep inside you.

• Wood: Are you Wood, a natural-born leader, delegator, and continual project-starter? You do things that other people are afraid to do because you enjoy working for the reward of meeting and surmounting challenges. You love a good challenge: a fun, new project; a competitive team against whom to play; an interesting new business deal. You have the strength and smarts to succeed. Don't believe anyone who says you're too pushy or intimidating; you are the nicest person you know! Some people might not understand your straightforwardness, but that's the get-things-done attitude that always wins in the end. It's time to appreciate what you bring to the table and see yourself for who you really are—amazing!
• Fire: Are you Fire? A smiling, optimistic, people-pleaser who everyone wants to be friends with? You are all about love! In fact, you are the love! It's just hard because when you wear your heart on your shirt sleeves, it makes you vulnerable. You want to be open-hearted, but some people are just downright mean. You can't make them love you more, no matter how much you do for them or put them first in your life. It's time to look a little deeper at yourself. How can you explore this immense love that's inside you? When you can wake up on Valentine's Day and give yourself a big smooch in the mirrow because you're so beautiful, loving, and open, then you've finally found what you've been looking for your entire life—the love that's already inside you.
• Earth: Maybe you are Earth, a well-balanced giver, problem-solver, and thinker. You have been searching your entire life for home. You want home so badly that you make accommodations for people. You find yourself having to look away, always dissatisfied. It's time to realize, no matter who is in your life right now, your home is not them...it's you. You are the home, the home is in you. Lean back in your easy chair, put your feet up, and give yourself a huge, yummy hug. Make the home in you so warm and cozy that when you meet the people you really want in your life, they can't wait to snuggle up next to you in your comfy home. Stop looking for your true home or trying to fix your broken one. Be you. You are the abundance, you are the warmth, you are the caring. Be the home you have always wanted to find.
• Metal: Perhaps you are Metal, a quiet watcher who serves honorably those in your life that deserve your help. The most important thing to first understand is that the Five Elements aren't trying to put you into a box. You're too unique to be put into any box. You cannot be contained. You are flying your magic carpet on the wind of life. You may be a free spirit who would rather be homeless and unfettered than tied down to a life of servitude or working for "the man." But if you see that the world needs you, you can't help but take the high road, the honorable road. Because you've come to know what is important and of greatest value. That's what you've learned in life, because you know what it's like to lose. And when you lose, you learn what is more important than anything else. You understand the sublime in life. Embrace what you do have and which is most valuable in your life: You! Thrive to be alive.
• Water: Are you Water? A quirky, laid-back but bold go-getter, simultaneously taking on the intensity of life and then hibernating for long periods of time. You feel good inside. You feel right. But people are bugging you —all the time—to be and do something different. You feel patient and on the right track. You want to trust. But you're so easily swayed by others. They are trying to change your true path in life. Are you flowing on your path or do you find yoursefl taking a lot of detours? And it's so hard to make a firm decision, because making a choice rules out all the other enticing paths. The truth is, it's not the path that really matters. You matter. It's you, on your path, that counts. And once you realize that it isn't the experience itself, but the true you that takes the steps on the road that matters, you can live life to the fullest and know that you truly matter to those around you.

The Gift of Gold on Valentine's Day
Are you unapologetically being you? Are you living authentically? Find your true nature, embrace it, believe it, feel it...and you will realize you are already the amazing, beautiful, caring, and worthy person that matters most in your life. Now you can go out and offer the present of you, like something made out of shining, untarnished, beautiful gold, to your special Valentine. And it can't hurt to buy the best box of chocolates, too (even if you eat them all yourself!). Enjoy!

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2016. All rights reserved.

I had a disturbing dream that I hope you can help me interpret. I dreamed that my husband went missing for a few days, and then he was found dead. He had committed suicide by jumping off a cliff. I didn't find him but I was called to identify him. He was lying face down in a pool of water and long grass. He still had his work uniform on, and this detail really stood out from the others. My father-in-law was in the dream too; he was the one who phoned to let me know that my husband had been found dead. I remember this dream as clear as day. I woke up in the middle of the night in lots of tears. My husband and I did have a big argument before we went to bed that night; I'm not sure if that had something to do with the dream. Thanks!

Rachael

Astrea:

Death in a dream rarely means death. In most dreams, death signifies change or a need for change. Dreams prepare us for our destinies. Often the object of a dream (in this case your husband) can represent a different person or the need to take a new and different attitude about something. Like the Death Card in Tarot, it represents spiritual awakening or a change of mind or circumstances.

It certainly isn't unusual to dream of the demise of someone after we've had an argument with them. Our subconscious minds can find all sorts of ways to bump someone off who annoyed us right before we fell asleep.

Dreaming of your husband committing suicide is unsettling, but since you had an argument that night, it's not surprising. In your dream, you wanted extreme change to happen, but you didn't want to be responsible for causing that change, so he killed himself instead of you taking bold action.

From your description of your dream and your reaction to it, my guess is that you argued about money and/or other material things. When we dream of a death after an argument with someone, it often indicates that person is being inflexible abut financial matters.

In your dream, your husband leaves you in the most terrible, irreversible way possible. This is even worse than being abandoned, for you are left behind to deal with and take over every aspect of your shared lives forever. You felt abandoned after your disagreement, and your subconscious mind came up with this dramatic symbol for how you were feeling.

When we're upset, it's common to dream of abandonment in various ways. In lighter dreams, we may get lost from one another, while in heavier dreams, death is a powerful symbol for our intense emotions.

In your case, I think your Guides and Angels were giving you one of those It's a Wonderful Life experiences via your dream. You were seeing what your life might be like without your husband in it. This was to make you appreciate what you have with him more, not to frighten you. This dream was designed to make you more tolerant of him in the future.

I don't think your husband is planning on checking out on you that way or dying anytime soon, so I doubt you have to worry about that. You seem to have a strong, well-developed personality, so I have to assume he does too and that your argument was just a bump in the road of marriage.

He needs to listen to your opinion more and keep a more open mind. You need to be more patient when you explain your views to him. Those are the changes your dream was trying to indicate to you.

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Susyn:

Our dreams are where we work out our greatest fears. They also lead us beyond our anger or upset to the truth of how we really feel. In this case, it seems your subconscious was responding to how angry you were about the argument by illuminating how important your husband is to you. The fact that he was found dead, presumably by his own hand, suggests that he too may have been upset by the argument.

I do not believe this dream was a premonition or a harbinger of things that will actually come to pass. Instead, I feel the events in the dream are symbolic of other issues.

You do not go into detail about the nature of the argument you two had, but if it was work or money-related, that could explain why your husband was found in his work uniform and why this stood out to you in the dream. You might have felt he was not living up to his potential at work or that he was taking actions that might actually cost him his job, hence the appearance that his death was caused by his own choices.

This dream might also be a sign that your husband needs to change jobs. The demands of his current job may be too much, and could be contributing to the arguments the two of you are having.

Your father-in-law's presence in the dream speaks to family ties. It could be that you are noticing a lot of similarities between father and son.

Upon closer investigation, some of the images in your dream might reveal certain aspects of your husband or your life together that only you would be able to connect. You may want to write this dream (and others of this nature) down in more detail. Then you can look at each aspect of the dream as a separate factor and try to connect it to circumstances in your life. When you make those associations, you may then be better able to interpret the dream as a whole.

Keep in mind that our dreams fulfill a wonderful purpose in that they can alert us to deeper feelings, troubles or concerns we have been unable to address consciously. Because the two of you argued before you had the dream, this could be the reason it seemed so intense, and why it continues to linger in your mind.

I'm sure that once you awoke, you discovered your feelings of anger had dissipated and the two of you made up, which could have been the greater purpose of this dream. Also, if you feel that certain aspects of his work ethics or job need to be addressed, you'll be able to see what they are more clearly now, and help him make some important changes.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.