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by Leta Herman & Jaye McElroy

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Who is the most significant person in your life? Well...YOU are! Even if you are in a loving relationship, the most important factor to attaining "true" love is truly loving yourself.

When you fall in love with yourself, you then share that love with others, and yes, possibly even with a significant other. But that is not mandatory for happiness. In fact, falling in love with yourself first actually attracts others to you! You become a light that others are drawn to, "like a moth to a flame."

This Valentine's Day, start to discover yourself and all of your gifts through understanding your true nature with the Five Elements. We're not talking about your personality or physical appearance; we're talking about something deep inside that hasn't ever changed since the day you were born. Picture it like gold: a metal that never tarnishes and always retains its amazing beauty. It's time to dig for gold; that beauty inside you, your true nature.

Your Energy Type is your true nature. You were born this way. Every move you make, every word you speak, the way you look into someone's eyes, how you dance, how you walk. You are expressing this true nature every moment of every day.

Your true nature is made up of all Five Elements, but in a specific order. One of the Elements is your predominant way of moving through life: Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal, or Water. And your true nature is some combination of all five (perhaps Earth/Metal/Fire/Wood/Water, for example). Your Elemental signature dictates how you walk through life. What is your combination or Elemental order?

Nature has certain governing principles or laws of movement. These correlated to the four seasons:

• Life is born in the Spring (Wood)
• Grows to maturity in the Summer (Fire)
• Dies and goes back to the earth in the Fall (Metal)
• Hibernates and gathers energy in Winter (Water) to start again in the Spring
• Each of these seasons has a transition phase (Earth), something that helps smooth out these radically different energies.

These four seasons, plus the transitions, correlate to the Five Elements.

Your energy also correlates to the Five Elements. Every living being on this planet knows how to behave like Spring, Summer, Fall, or Winter at different times, and every being knows how to transition from one season to another. It is instinctual and just comes naturally.

Let's help you find your true nature, the immutable gold that is deep inside you.

• Wood: Are you Wood, a natural-born leader, delegator, and continual project-starter? You do things that other people are afraid to do because you enjoy working for the reward of meeting and surmounting challenges. You love a good challenge: a fun, new project; a competitive team against whom to play; an interesting new business deal. You have the strength and smarts to succeed. Don't believe anyone who says you're too pushy or intimidating; you are the nicest person you know! Some people might not understand your straightforwardness, but that's the get-things-done attitude that always wins in the end. It's time to appreciate what you bring to the table and see yourself for who you really are—amazing!
• Fire: Are you Fire? A smiling, optimistic, people-pleaser who everyone wants to be friends with? You are all about love! In fact, you are the love! It's just hard because when you wear your heart on your shirt sleeves, it makes you vulnerable. You want to be open-hearted, but some people are just downright mean. You can't make them love you more, no matter how much you do for them or put them first in your life. It's time to look a little deeper at yourself. How can you explore this immense love that's inside you? When you can wake up on Valentine's Day and give yourself a big smooch in the mirrow because you're so beautiful, loving, and open, then you've finally found what you've been looking for your entire life—the love that's already inside you.
• Earth: Maybe you are Earth, a well-balanced giver, problem-solver, and thinker. You have been searching your entire life for home. You want home so badly that you make accommodations for people. You find yourself having to look away, always dissatisfied. It's time to realize, no matter who is in your life right now, your home is not them...it's you. You are the home, the home is in you. Lean back in your easy chair, put your feet up, and give yourself a huge, yummy hug. Make the home in you so warm and cozy that when you meet the people you really want in your life, they can't wait to snuggle up next to you in your comfy home. Stop looking for your true home or trying to fix your broken one. Be you. You are the abundance, you are the warmth, you are the caring. Be the home you have always wanted to find.
• Metal: Perhaps you are Metal, a quiet watcher who serves honorably those in your life that deserve your help. The most important thing to first understand is that the Five Elements aren't trying to put you into a box. You're too unique to be put into any box. You cannot be contained. You are flying your magic carpet on the wind of life. You may be a free spirit who would rather be homeless and unfettered than tied down to a life of servitude or working for "the man." But if you see that the world needs you, you can't help but take the high road, the honorable road. Because you've come to know what is important and of greatest value. That's what you've learned in life, because you know what it's like to lose. And when you lose, you learn what is more important than anything else. You understand the sublime in life. Embrace what you do have and which is most valuable in your life: You! Thrive to be alive.
• Water: Are you Water? A quirky, laid-back but bold go-getter, simultaneously taking on the intensity of life and then hibernating for long periods of time. You feel good inside. You feel right. But people are bugging you —all the time—to be and do something different. You feel patient and on the right track. You want to trust. But you're so easily swayed by others. They are trying to change your true path in life. Are you flowing on your path or do you find yoursefl taking a lot of detours? And it's so hard to make a firm decision, because making a choice rules out all the other enticing paths. The truth is, it's not the path that really matters. You matter. It's you, on your path, that counts. And once you realize that it isn't the experience itself, but the true you that takes the steps on the road that matters, you can live life to the fullest and know that you truly matter to those around you.

The Gift of Gold on Valentine's Day
Are you unapologetically being you? Are you living authentically? Find your true nature, embrace it, believe it, feel it...and you will realize you are already the amazing, beautiful, caring, and worthy person that matters most in your life. Now you can go out and offer the present of you, like something made out of shining, untarnished, beautiful gold, to your special Valentine. And it can't hurt to buy the best box of chocolates, too (even if you eat them all yourself!). Enjoy!

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2016. All rights reserved.

My 14-year-old niece has been visited by a boy who appears to be around eight years old. He has been around since she was four years old. He has never said anything to her. He has tried to approach her on a few occasions. She says that an old woman came into the picture a few years ago, and she takes him away with an angry look on her face like she is upset with my niece for noticing them. This is starting to really scare her. Now he is everywhere, even in school. I really want to help her but I don't know how. There are cases of bi-polar disorder and OCD in my family, but her pediatrician doesn't believe she has a mental disorder. For some strange reason, she is terrified of priests and she refuses to go near them. This is getting out of hand and I'm desperate to find help for her. If she goes to a psychologist, they won't believe it's paranormal and I'm afraid she'll get worse if she's told it's all a hallucination and she is mentally ill. How can we tell if this is a ghostly encounter as opposed to a psychological disorder?

Astrea:

First you all have to get together and send that poor little boy into the light, and the YiaYia, too. He's been stuck between here and there for many years now, maybe 200 or more. He didn't speak when he was alive - that's why he doesn't speak to anyone who sees him now. He is desperate to leave the Earth Plane and sees your niece as a miracle of hope.

The YiaYia is a manifestation of his imagination; it drags him away to wander the in between space eternally. There are easy, safe rituals to send him into the Light. Personally, I use the prayer to St. Michael the Archangel, ring the bell, close the Book, blow out the candle and have a nice trip, goodbye! Warn your niece to expect to miss him for a while, for they've been together a long time.

Ruling out the possibility of mental illness in any teen is tricky, but your niece's case is pretty clear. Her generation is the first in the family to feel safe in revealing what is going on between them and those from Beyond the Veil. Their communication with spirits is going to be so much more natural than was the case with our generation.

Here is how you can help: Supply the tools she needs in order to process what is happening within her. If she's not keeping a journal of these experiences, have her start now. If you can, buy her an inexpensive laptop to use as a notebook so what she's experiencing stays in one place - on that laptop.

Always let her know that you accept everything she says as true so she doesn't have to convince you; you just need to know what's going on so you'll know what other tools to get for her. By skipping the painful you have to believe me part with you, she can approach her growing powers with a clearer head.

Her fear of priests is normal, for I'm sure she went up against the Judges in a number of past lives. She senses an old danger from priests. Maybe the priestly outfit scares her too, the way some kids are scared of clowns. She's not possessed by a demon (even though the poor kid probably thinks she is at times), and the people she sees can't and won't hurt her. In fact, she can help them.

Finally, you can call on medical doctors or open-minded psychologists who believe that what is happening to your niece is within the range of possibilities. Take your time and find a mental health professional who can guide your niece toward peace with her psychic ability.

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Susyn:

You pose an interesting question. As a psychic, I do wonder how often paranormal activity is dismissed as an illusion or hallucination.

New terms for various disorders (such as Bi-polar, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)) continue to be created in an attempt to cover a select set of symptoms or behaviors. I have often found that clients who have been diagnosed with some mental disorder are really suffering from a haunting, possession, or the attachment of a discarnate spirit.

Psychological disorders are presumably caused by chemical imbalances or traumatic experiences that skew the patient's perceptions. In your niece's case, you don't mention any basis for tying her experiences to a mental disorder.

Your niece noticed this boy at a young age, which suggests the presence of a poltergeist, earthbound spirit or familiar spirit from a past life who longs to be near her. Sometimes when a twin dies in utero, the spirit of the twin can visit the surviving twin in childhood. You might want to question her parents to see if this is a possibility.

Before children reach the age of 5 or 6, it is very common for them to see spirits no one else can see and to recall their past lives in vivid detail. Your niece's aversion to priests could have originated from a traumatic past life experience. After a point, these memories diminish, so even if a small child has an invisible playmate they see often, these experiences will tend to fade away as they grow older.

There are a number of ways to determine if this is a paranormal event, and there are actions your niece can take to rid herself of an unwanted spirit if need be. You might encourage her to visit a psychic or even a priest or minister in order to determine the identity of this boy spirit and get more peace and clarity. In other words, it's time to seek spiritual help.

If this little boy is a discarnate spirit, a good psychic will know how to send him towards the light and help him cross over to the other side. If that is not effective, a priest can perform the rites of exorcism to alleviate this haunting.

It's a good idea to get some help for your niece now to prevent psychological problems in the future, for if she continues to encounter spirits and have psychic experiences that others consider crazy or impossible, she may begin to doubt her own sanity.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.