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How to Connect with Your Ancestors: Bring Light and Healing to Your Family in a Few Simple Steps, by Shelley A. Kaehr, PhD

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

I'm sure we can all agree that now, more than ever, we're all being called upon to go deep within and bring forth our own unique light of peace and understanding to each other and the world around us.

Historically, I've worked on my own issues and helped clients by guiding them into their own past lives to uncover areas that need healing and transformation.

While past life regression is an amazing tool for bringing greater peace to ourselves, there's another perhaps even more powerful way to make a huge and immediate impact not only on yourself personally, but on those around you. It's what I call Genealogical Regression, the subject of my book Heal Your Ancestors to Heal Your Life.

While working with clients in more traditional past life regression over the past twenty plus years, I always have a goal of helping them find the true starting point of the particular issue or challenge they’re coming to see me about. When they experience the source event, they're able to relieve themselves of stress, trauma, and other unwanted influences discussed in my book Meet Your Karma: The Healing Power of Past Life Memories. My RELIEF method for anxiety, depression, and trauma is designed to help people access the proper source event, because unless they do, the issue will not be fully resolved. A great example would be the weeds in your lawn. You can mow over them with the lawn mower, but invariably, they'll keep on coming back and rearing their ugly heads unless you make that extra effort to dig into the roots and pull them up at their source.

So where does a Genealogical Regression come in? On occasion, I will intuitively sense that a client is not at the optimal space where a full transformation can occur. When that happens, I'm sometimes guided that the issue is not caused by their own karma or past lives, but by something that happened to their ancestors instead. Believe it or not, modern scientists now believe that as much as fifty percent of our personality traits are influenced by genetics. That means that we should not only be tuning in to our own past lives, but to the challenges of our ancestors as well if we want to create optimal healing in our lives. That's exactly when the Genealogical Regression processes in Heal Your Ancestors to Heal Your Life can help.

To give you an example of how this works, you can easily follow a few simple steps right now to practice sending light to your ancestors. All it takes is a few moments to tap in to the incredible power of your imagination and see amazing results. Are you ready to try this? Here are some simple steps:

1. Close your eyes.
2. Imagine your mother and father in front of you. If they've passed into spirit, that's fine. Just know as you're imagining them, that these are their Higher Selves, or Souls who have come to see you.
3. Imagine you can see them as happy, healthy, excited about visiting with you, even if that's not how they are in real life. Remember, our families are likely people we've been around in past lives so at times, that's why they can be so challenging. While these irritations are tough to take at times, the souls who show up to be with us during our lives could be pushing our buttons, so to speak, to help our souls gain greater learning on our life path. At this Higher Self level, our moms and dads should be seen as high leveled souls who are often our greatest teachers in life.
4. Imagine you can ask mom or dad which side of the family most needs healing at this time—your mom or your dad? Notice the first thought that pops into your mind. Notice what you notice.
5. Whichever parent that is, imagine you can tune into them and ask if it's their mom or dad's side of the family that needs this healing. Again, notice the answer that seems to come into your mind from a higher place or perception.
6. Imagine you can send a light to your mother or father, then to their mother or father (whichever most needs this healing) and then imagine that healing light can move back in time through the next generation and the next, from your parent, to your grandparent, great grandparent, great-great grandparent and so forth. Simply allow your light and intention to go back in time for as far as your imagination can carry you.
7. Feel a healing light moving through these ancestors.
8. Imagine the light is calming their energy, healing trauma, bringing much-needed love and compassion to them and all who are around them.
9. Once you feel you've gone back as far as you can go, then move forward in time by noticing your earliest ancestor filling with light. Notice that light moves down through the family until it reaches your mom or dad.
10. Take your time and notice when things feel lighter and brighter.
11. Finally imagine this loving light moves from your chosen parent and into your body.
12. Feel the light in your heart center and imagine it moves through every single cell in your being.
13. Take your time. Allow the light to lift your energy and spirit. Notice the greater level of peace you now have in light of this healing you’ve sent your ancestors.
14. Thank both of your parents for joining you today.
15. If you feel guided, go ahead and repeat these steps with your other parent.
16. Whenever you feel ready, open your eyes and come back, feeling lighter and brighter than ever before!

How did you do? Do you feel lighter? When my clients went through the longer version of this process, I know they did, and I've used this method for years to send light to my own family. If we could at least occasionally take a moment to send a quick healing to our family in a proactive way, rather than doing so only when there's a crisis at hand, there’s no telling how much lighter our planet could become. Likewise, in my book Past Lives with Pets, I discuss the fact that our pets are so loving that they can also be a tremendous source of the quality of healing light we need now more than ever. We can easily tune into their love and allow that light to extend to our family as well.

I've found that when we heal any part of ourselves, we show up in our world as a calmer more compassionate being, and therefore all people must shift according to our newly expanded light. When we volunteer to help our ancestors, we're affecting not only them and ourselves directly, but all people who will interact with them and with future generations. The gift of healing goes on and on and the benefits can be felt exponentially for decades to come.

Won't you join me in consciously loving our ancestors and our other planetary co-inhabitants? We're all one human family, and the soul agreement we made to share this world with each other can be so enriched by extending your amazing light to all. With that, I wish you a peaceful journey, now and always! Namaste!

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2021. All rights reserved.

Over 14 years ago, I broke up with a man I had dated for five years. I decided I couldn't marry him because he had a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality, plus he liked to play around with other ladies. Then I suddenly began dreaming of him almost daily. Now, every day I have strong emotions about him, and find myself thinking about him. I have done many things to try to put a stop to all of this. I've tried cord cutting, crystal healing, and spell work. I have used the freezing ritual and put him on ice a number of times, but none of it is working, for I find myself endlessly thinking about him. I also feel him as if he is right next to me frequently. I have never experienced anything like this before. Though I love his good side dearly, I know this man is not good for me. I want to this connection to be done and over. I never want to see him again in this or any other lifetime. Is it possible to completely sever our connection on a soul level? What can I do?

Sara

Susyn:

It sounds like you've made many valiant attempts to rid yourself of these constant thoughts of your ex. There are two possible reasons this is continuing, and a number of things you can do to resolve this matter. Since these dreams and emotions came on suddenly and you sometimes feel him near you, I wonder if he has passed. If you are somehow able to confirm that he has died recently, this would explain your sudden onset of ex-fever. It could be that the good side of his spirit has come back to you and is asking for forgiveness.

If this turns out to be the case, you might schedule a reading with a medium/channeler so you can communicate with him. It may help a great deal if you grant him forgiveness and ask him to move forward into the light. The channeler can also help you sever your connection on a soul level.

If it turns out that he is still alive, there is a spiritual reason for the phenomena you've been experiencing. Simply put, it means you still have some work to do to complete this relationship experience. Again, if you haven't forgiven him for past transgressions, you have never really moved on. It is surprising how many years can pass without giving someone a second thought, only to have their memory suddenly return with a vengeance.

Start by revisiting the five years you shared together. Write down your memories of the relationship, highlighting the good as well as the bad times. Once you have brought this time frame back to the forefront of your mind, it will be easier to accomplish emotional and soul-level clearing.

Next, write him a letter. You won't send the letter, so say whatever you want to him, whether that involves anger, hurt or fear. At the end of the letter, write that you are ready to forgive him for all that went on in the past, and ask his forgiveness for any hurt or pain you may have caused him. Finally, ask him to go away and leave you in peace. Once it's complete, burn the letter. This will take your thoughts, feelings and message into the realm of energy. Because he is connected to you on a spirit level, this is the ideal way to get your message across.

If his memory comes to you after this, his soul is deliberately trying to connect with you. Immediately, ask that he go away. You may have to do this a few times before he gets the message. I also suggest sleeping with a turquoise stone under your pillow to eliminate the dreams you keep having of him. Taking action to address your ex directly through these spiritual methods should enable you to be free of this obsession once and for all.

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Oceania:

When we're ready to let someone go, symbolic rituals like cord cutting, freezing, and detaching with love can help seal the deal, but when we're NOT ready, such activities are masked ways of sustaining a connection, just like calling someone to tell them you won't be calling anymore.

It could be that you haven't allowed yourself to fully cherish and grieve the positive side of your former relationship, so I recommend that you stop trying to get rid of your ex. What we resist persists, so turn this around and move energetically towards your ex. Imagine a mending or thawing ritual in which you celebrate the warm feelings and good memories he inspired.

If you have photos or mementos, revisit those and smile. Hug yourself and imagine you're hugging HIM. Feel yourself absorbing all the parts of him that enriched your life; soak them up and take them in! You will likely discover that you're better able to release your ex if you ritually squeeze him and hold on tight! Whatever we focus our attention on expands, so whether we're pulling someone close or pushing them away, we are strengthening our bond with them. The only way to diminish a bond is to focus on something ELSE.

A former client told me her therapy goal was to distance herself from her father. She came to every session armed with horror stories about what a negative, destructive presence he was. In time, I pointed out that she herself was holding him close by endlessly scrutinizing him and by donating time and energy to someone who really wasn't in her life that much! She argued that it didn't feel safe to stop thinking about him, as she felt she had to remain vigilant to protect herself from his influence.

It took faith and practice for her to relax and shift mental gears. A first, she had to force herself to talk about things she loved and wanted in her life. Eventually, a growing enthusiasm for her positive goals pushed aside obsessive thoughts of her father. You might try starting a collage of words and images that reflect what you enjoy most in your life, as well as things you wish to explore, study or manifest.

Daily dreams of your ex were probably not random events; more likely, something happened in 2011 that resurrected him. Perhaps you were falling in love at that time, and thoughts of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hide surfaced as an overblown warning to proceed with caution. Perhaps you just felt guilty about moving on from this man you once loved. If that's the case, it's now time to forgive yourself for leaving him, as you need and deserve more consistent love and care.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.