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Interdependent Happiness, by David Pond

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Happiness isn't what it used to be, but then again, we are not what we used to be, either! We are evolving and realizing more of our human potential. That is not an easy statement to back up with all the evidence of collapse and chaos that has been with us since the start of the century. But what is really going on? In the big picture we are evolving into the oneness of the family of humanity. We're not there yet (far from it), but the handwriting is on the wall: we are going to have to solve our global problems as a global family. It is humanity itself that must rise to save humanity. The interconnectedness of our issues is becoming apparent at all levels: economic, environmental, energy, and food issues are all forcing us to deal with situations outside of ourselves that are impacting our own well-being.

The wound of humanity is rooted in our lack of understanding of the interdependency of all life and thus far, humanity has demonstrated a tremendous lack of humanity towards humanity. We have been like cells in the same body fighting each other. Imagine your hand sneaking up and attacking your face! We need our visionaries to help us awaken to a larger understanding of how interconnected all of life is.

Happiness in difficult times is hard enough to come by, but in this evolving global community, our happiness is ultimately interdependent within the world in which we live.

Is Being Happy Politically Correct In Tough Times?
These are tough times. Isn't it rather trite to focus on happiness in such times of suffering? Tacky? Politically or spiritually incorrect? The question gets raised in discussions of happiness. The truth is that happiness is harder to come by at present because of all of the disruptive influences, but it is a wonderful tonic for these times!

We are just starting a Saturn opposite Uranus Cycle that will happen five different times from November 2008 through the summer of 2010. This last occurred 1964-66 and was, as now, a time of tremendous upheaval of the status quo. The news here is to not look for solid ground for quite awhile, so if your happiness is based on waiting until things settle down again, you're in for a long wait. It is better to find fleeting moments of happiness during these wild and crazy times. There is a great affirmation of this intention:

"I do not need things to go right in order to be happy.
I do not need people to behave themselves for me to love them.
I am free!"

Wouldn't it be great if we could sustain this liberated state? But it is most often a fleeting moment, like a whistle on the wind: there for a moment and then gone, swallowed up in the chaos of our times. This is unconditional love and happiness that doesn't require everything to be just right with everyone around you for you to feel good. When we quiet ourselves to what we think we want and need, the pure joy of being will surprise you by its ability to take delight in that which is already there and free.

Hexagram #22 from the I Ching¹, Grace, teaches the path of clarity within, quiet without: "This is the tranquility of pure contemplation. When desire is silenced and the will comes to rest, the world-as-idea becomes manifest. In this aspect the world is beautiful and removed from the struggle for existence." This is the world of art, beauty, nature, the fleeting moments that they are, allow us to temporarily set aside our worries and bathe in the sweet glow of existence. This is grace.

Compression of Time
From all accounts our experience of time is going through a rapid acceleration. Those who interpret the Mayan Calendar and its teachings tell us that the acceleration of time that we are now experiencing is going to continue and double many times over before 2012. Saturn rules time and Uranus has just obliterated our old understanding of time, so it is best to let go of your old concepts of how long things take to happen, or how much you can get done in a given period of time, or how long it takes to accomplish something. Carrying an old attitude about any of these examples of time would certainly lead to acute frustration. You have to let go of control and breathe. It's like driving in Naples: if you try to play by the rules, it just doesn't work; you have to surrender to the flow and go with it.

From my book, The Pursuit of Happiness,"This quickening of consciousness is leading to increased intuition for many and to increased anxiety for just as many, depending on how skillfully you are handling it. This increased energy is a doorway to heightened awareness. Breathe into it and ride the wave to increase intuition, rather than trying to quell the wave, which only creates anxiety."

Breath
Breath is too simple and too free to be respected for the amazing resource it can be for dealing with anxiety and pressures concerning time. Practice saying to yourself, "I release and let go of that which is outside of my control" as you breathe deeply into your belly and slowly exhale. Imagine the feelings of a smile breaking over your face and breathe those feelings of a smile deep into your entire being. As you slowly breathe out, send your smile as your energy contribution back into the collective. You are now a planetary light worker.

It's no small thing to interject some light into these troubling times, and light workers the world over are grounding a new vision of a higher way to live on our planet together. "Together" becomes the emphasized word for where we are heading.

Awakening Into We
I call these times "Awakening Into We" because collective issues are increasingly pressing in our individual lives. Finding personal happiness without dealing with these collective issues would be pretty much impossible during these times other than for fleeting moments of grace. This is revealed through the current astrology transits of the outer planets, which deal with collective transpersonal issues to begin with. They are all in the collective social signs of Capricorn, Aquarius, and Pisces. To find your personal way in this era you will need to accommodate for the collective issues impinging upon you. Without accommodating for these collective issues, you would personalize everything, believe that the trouble is all yours, and have a heck of a time!

Let's consider these collective issues through the elements:

• Collective Earth: Pluto will be in Capricorn until 2023. (The last time this occurred was 1763-1778 during the beginnings of the American Revolution.) The great Earth era is upon us, with the buzzword of the next fifteen years being "sustainability." Pluto leads to upheaval and transformation: all that is not sustainable is threatened with upheaval. Our entire economy will have to go through an upheaval leading to a transformation. This isn't easy, but is necessary for the planet. Non-sustainable economies won't survive. Our entire economy has been based on consumerism, not sustainability, and we are all revamping our ravaging appetites for more and more stuff, and now feel fuller with less and less stuff. It is not your climate change problem, it's ours. It's not someone else's responsibility to take care of the environment for future generations, it is ours.
• Dissipative Structures: Ilya Priogene received the Nobel Prize in chemistry in 1977 for his work with dissipative structures. The principle goes far beyond chemistry: a system will grow, reach critical mass and then begin to dissolve, and from out of the chaos a greater level of order will emerge. This principle of dissipative structures is an apt description of what is going on with our business and social policies that can't adapt to meeting the true needs of the people. Yes there will be endings; endings of that which isn't working anyway. And out of that chaos a higher order will emerge.
• Transition Towns: Transition Towns first started in Kinsale, Ireland in 2005 and have spread internationally, including Ketchum, Idaho here in the United States. These are towns that have acknowledged that we've reached peak oil, climate change is happening, and environmental issues of how to move away from that which is not sustainable and eco-friendly must be taken charge of at the community level. They are giving thought and planning for the transition as the old systems deteriorate and collapse; they want to already have energy self-sufficiency and eco-friendly economies in place. This is evidence of a new order growing out of the collapse.
• Collective Air: Neptune, Chiron, and the North Node are all in Aquarius, with Jupiter joining in for 2009. Aquarius is the sign where the "I" becomes part of "We" at the collective mind level. We are all cells of perception in the greater global brain and collective intelligence that is made up of all our individual minds.From The Pursuit of Happiness, "This is the evolutionary step for humanity, to unite together as one global intelligence. Humanity can solve these great puzzles before us, but not simply with our individual minds. Each of us is only operating on a mere fraction of the mind's potential and it could be that we only need this minimal amount for our individual lives. The 85% of our mind that we are not using is the collective mind, the Universal Mind of Humanity that we are cells of consciousness within, and as we unite with each other, we access that greater global intelligence through our intuition."

  Synergy is a process in chemistry when two chemicals come together and their combined effect is greater than 1 + 1 would suggest. With synergy, 1+1 = more than 2. This happens in good conversations at the mental level when ideas get activated that neither person had before the conversation. This is how to access the unused portion of our brain. We are not going to solve our collective problems with 1 + 1 = 2 type of thinking. We need to come together synergistically, activating more of the global brain than was previously drawn on.

  The global brain is awakening and is experienced by us as a quickening. To stabilize and align with these growing energy surges, there is probably no greater tool than breath work. Even the simplest technique of breathing deep into your belly and slowly exhaling for several breaths can have an immediate and beneficial impact on your ability to align with intense energy. Then start paying attention the increased subtle nudging in consciousness that is your intuition.

• Collective Water: Uranus is in Pisces until May of 2010. Uranus is the great liberator, liberating us from whatever is standing in the way of our awakening. In Pisces, we are dealing with the collective emotions of humanity. Again from The Pursuit of Happiness, "Deciding whether to feel these emotions or not is a bit like the fish deciding whether or not to get wet—we are all in the same ocean of emotion. Most of us feel a lack of skill at handling our own emotions, so opening up to others and processing their emotions may seem overwhelming. It may be that we are only overwhelmed because we mistakenly identify collective emotions as our own. Still, in learning to skillfully deal with these collective issues that we feel anyway, we awaken to the heart of humanity and compassion is born."

We had the great fortune of attending the Dalai Lama conference on compassion last spring in Seattle. One of the highlights was the interfaith panel discussion with His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu as the centerpieces of this exquisite discussion. It was really quite amazing to witness these two senior religious ambassadors in their interactions on stage. They were as light-hearted and playful as two young boys together, both truly happy souls and happy to be there, yet these two have both witnessed as much suffering in their lives as anyone. Their happiness was a demonstration of their teaching, a return to the innocence of being, born out of deep compassion for the suffering of others.

This might seem counterintuitive to some, who would question how is it possible for happiness to be an appropriate response to suffering. With this belief, it might seem wiser to shut yourself off from the suffering around you if you really want to be happy. The conference on compassion taught that we are all interconnected whether we want to be or not, or whether we know it or not. Thus, when we try to shut our self off from other people's pain, we feel it anyway, as a background emotion that remains nebulous and unnamed, felt but not acknowledged. When we allow ourselves to open our hearts compassionately to another's plight, actually share in the feeling, and then bless the emotional energy and send back healing love, this is the doorway to the innocent heart displayed by the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu.

Although this teaching is simple, it would require an awakening to the mindset of interdependence; our individual well being and happiness is interdependent on the happiness and well being of all others. This would require an evolutionary step for humanity.

Compassion comes from feeling the suffering of others and having a desire to alleviate that suffering. Suffering is a heavy word and many would shy away from anything at all connected to that word for fear of getting pulled down into it. A technique that can be helpful in skillfully opening to the emotions of others is to "Feel it, bless it, and lay it on the lap of the Divine," and this can be a helpful technique for following through on living with compassion. Be open to the emotions of others, but don't hold onto these feelings; keep them moving through you. Feel the emotions, bless the energy, and then send back love and healing energy.

The Collective Impact is a Two-Way Street
We have been focusing on just how much each of our individual lives are becoming impacted by the growing influence of the collective. But it is not just a one-way street. The collective is made up of all us individuals, and this is our part in the process. Ask yourself, if the collective is made up of all us individuals, are you pleased with your contribution? The energy, thoughts, and emotions that come in are just how it is; what you do with them is up to you. As each of us does our own work of processing, healing, and loving, we send out a little bit of happiness that makes the air just a little bit sweeter for others to breathe.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2008. All rights reserved.

Lately my three-year-old son Isaac has been talking about a little boy he calls Jugger. He says the boy comes to visit him at night when he's sleeping. Isaac says Jugger always wants him to come and play, but Isaac tells him he can't because he's sleeping. Yesterday I was putting Isaac's shoes on him when suddenly he said, I can't, Boy! I asked him who he was talking to, and he said, That boy who just ran outside. He wants me to play with him, but I told him we're going to a different park. It's kind of scary. I'm wondering if this is a spirit guide for Isaac, or just a spirit who likes him. Do you think it's anything to be alarmed about? I don't discourage or alarm Isaac - I simply ask questions about what he's experiencing. I just want to make sure he's safe, and I'm hoping you can ease my worries. Thanks so much! Isaac's date of birth is 2/11/04.

- Karen

Dreamchaser:

You can rest assured that your son is safe; Jugger is not a threat to him in any way. Isaac can see all kinds of beings from the Otherworld, and Jugger is just a spirit who has befriended him. They like to play together. Jugger is also protective of Isaac, and would probably tell him not do things that could hurt him.

I know first hand how strange it feels to have a child who can see beings that you can't see. I have often written about my son's imaginary friend named Joseph. My son is now sixteen years old, and sometimes he still sees Joseph. Further, he always FEELS his presence.

To get more information from your son, you might try playing games with him. For example, I would hand my son a piece of paper and some crayons and ask him to draw what he saw, and he would draw the same figure over and over. It was a man in a long brown robe-like garment with lots of colors around his head and upper body.

I would also point to myself and then to him and say, I see me and I see you. Who do you see? He would point to me and to him and also to other beings that I couldn't see.

Please be aware that your son can't choose what he sees and what he doesn't see at this time. At some point, he will probably see beings that scare him, but that doesn't mean they are out to harm him in any way. Don't let this confuse you. Not all spiritual beings are pretty ñ in fact, some do look really scary. Sometimes ugly but benevolent beings might scare your boy, and beings that are not from The Light may also come near him to check him out.

When this happens, his guardians will protect him. If he should talk to you about his fears, just remind him that he is very special, that he is always protected, and NOTHING from the Otherworld can physically hurt him.

I used to have this little song I wrote about chasing away the bad guys and how nothing bad could come into in my son's room. I would spin in circles like I was shooting magical protection out of my fingertips. It seemed to work for him. If you're creative, you'll find what works for you and Isaac.

The most important thing you can do for your son is what you have already been doing: You need to treat him like he's a normal child. You need to always believe what he says, no matter how crazy it sounds. He needs to know that throughout his life, he can come to you with whatever he needs to talk about.

Sometimes you are going to be the only person he can confide in, and since he is so incredibly psychically gifted, he is definitely going to need a good confidante. Continue to treat this sort of thing as normal.

I wish you both wonder-full interactions with ALL beings.

*****

Astrea:

It's wonderful that you can allow your son to explore his psychic abilities at this early age. That takes a good deal of courage and faith on a mama's part. Of course, you did this too as a little girl - he gets his ability from you.

I went through the same doubts and worries with my own son, but he grew up to be able to use a knife and fork like everyone else, and can communicate with living people as well as those who have crossed over.

Lots of good things come from being psychically aware, so it's great you're not discouraging him. It's an advantage he'll have all his life if you can keep the faith and an open mind. Being able to see Beyond the Veil is a skill that comes in handy for me every day.

One of the reasons I'm sure your boy is in no danger is because the children who come to him are young like he is. It's difficult for children who die at an early age to accept that they're no longer here with their loving families, so they often latch on to living children who are close to them in age.

It's easy for these spirits to be with him because he treats them like he would anyone else. It makes them happy in the time they have before they move on to Heaven. Your family triggers good feelings and reminds these children of their own loving families.

Since your son is so open to everything, he accepts Jugger to be just as real as the little boy living down the street. He can't tell the difference, and at this point, he doesn't really need to. When I was little, sometimes there were so many young spirits around that I felt like I was in some kind of psychic orphanage.

There is no reason for you to worry about your kiddo, because the Universe protects small fry from bad entities. If we ever do deal with evil entities, it usually happens during adolescence, when our physical bodies are going through so many intense changes.

Evil Doers sometimes hone in on hormonal imbalances, and they can create neuroses and psychoses that plague some people for the rest of their lives. Of course, most of the time, evil doesn't make a dent in our psyches because we are naturally given over to the Good. As we get older, however, all sorts of things can influence us. Most people just block out ALL psychic awareness instead of trying to make sense of it.

I'm so happy that you're encouraging your son to keep in touch with his natural psychic gifts. Perhaps he'll choose to help those little spirits cross over into the Light, and will be able to keep doing so all his life. It can be a burden and an awesome responsibility for a little kid, but he seems to be handling things so far. Of course, it can be a joy, a pleasure and a blessing too.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.