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Scarcity versus Abundance
An Excerpt from Empowered, Sexy, and Free by Jolie Dawn

Let’s take a look at one of the primary blockages to experiencing true and lasting prosperity for all humans: a repetitive story of poverty and scarcity that we replay in our heads, versus one of abundance and prosperity. Most of us know what scarcity feels like, and most of us also know the good, spacious feeling of having enough (even if it’s only been for brief moments).

The trick is not to allow habits to get us stuck in scarcity. We compare ourselves to others; we judge other people for having money; we get stuck in dark loops and don’t know how to get out. We stay stuck when we use scarcity language: “I want that, but I can’t have it. I can’t go there. I can’t do that. I can’t learn that. I can’t be that.” If we habitually deny ourselves experiences because we automatically assume we don’t have money for them, we live a life of being played by money. Money does not deserve to have that much power over you and your life enjoyment. Can we agree on that?

Now before you say, “But Jolie! It’s not just a ‘story’ of scarcity. It’s real for me. The rent is due, and I am stressed. I can’t just ‘mindset’ my way to prosperity around this.” Girl, I get it. I really do know what it’s like to feel the crippling fear of not being able to pay bills and the gut-wrenching sadness of having to deny yourself the things you desire. Let me tell you, more scarcity and fear is not the path to the freedom you desire. When scarcity increases, it’s very challenging to think creatively for solutions. My invitation here is to bring awareness to automatic behaviors and responses. To breathe a moment of space between stimulus and response, between opening an unexpected bill and feeling panic. The secret of true prosperity is being able to generate it as a feeling even before you can manifest it as a physical reality. I know this practice can feel hard. But you are so much more powerful and capable than you give yourself credit for.

Maybe for you, it’s not an issue of generating enough money to pay your bills. Maybe you’ve found your path of a lucrative life and/or ample support from others. Maybe the next-level prosperity upgrade is to relax in your body, trust your money, give yourself the freedom to spend money on yourself. Or, on the opposite side of the spectrum, maybe your challenge is to love yourself enough to save for the future. No matter where you are right now, the way out is to become more aware of the repetitive story in your head around scarcity and to consciously choose a narrative of prosperity.

So many women I’ve worked with over the years have a story around their age. “I’m thirty. I should have ___________ by now.” Or, “I’m forty. I should have had this.” Whether we’re twenty-five, or sixty, or seventy, or eighty, this idea in our heads of what we thought each age was going to be like often revolves around money.

Begin noticing your language around money. Do you say things like these? “Real estate is so expensive these days!” “I could never afford a nice car!” “I wish I could wear things like that.” “I’ll never be able to make my rent this month!” “I can’t pay these bills! Life is so expensive!” Think about what you call in when you say or even think these things.

Then there is the heavy, burdensome subject of debt. Many people can’t bear to look closely at their debt because it’s too terrifying. I remember being like that — not wanting to know my credit card balances, feeling guilty about owing money, believing I had the poverty gene and couldn’t do anything about it, thinking nothing would ever change and it was just who I was, who I would always be, who my family had always been.

None of that is true. None of it! There’s always a new future and a different path available to you, if you choose.

Any thought, sensation, or emotion that makes you feel bad, contracted, or heavy when you think about money is keeping you stuck. Look back through your life. Ask yourself when you started feeling this way about money. What belief about money that’s no longer serving you are you ready to release? It might be something that helped you survive at some point, but you don’t need it anymore. It’s time to modernize, to clean up your thoughts, and to look with clear eyes at what is actually available to you — which is everything.

Shame and guilt are among the lowest vibrational frequencies in the human experience, right above death. If we think of death as a flat line, shame and guilt are low, slow, barely discernible vibrations. It’s not about good and bad. It’s about what makes you vibrate high and what makes you vibrate low. Shame and guilt make you feel bad about yourself, that you’re inherently wrong as a person. They keep you locked into scarcity. If you aren’t enough, then how can you ever have enough?

Of course, the systems in place are meant to keep you in debt, forever compounding interest and compounding shame. Plenty of people profit from the debt-shame paradigm. If you’re in debt, big or small, have you ever asked yourself how it happened? Look at student loans. It’s fucking crazy what kind of interest rates institutions get for student loans. I see my friends feeling crushed under student loan debt and filled with shame and guilt. They think they did this to themselves and they are bad, but the truth is that it’s not entirely their fault.

Our monetary system has a history of preying upon vulnerable people. Look what happened in 2008: people were given mortgages that they weren’t qualified for, until the whole house of cards collapsed. It takes conscious effort to say, “I’m not going to get stuck in feeling guilt and shame about this. I trust that I am where I need to be right now. I trust in my ability to creatively problem-solve and find a way out.”

Another low-vibrational feeling is jealousy, which is believing you can’t have what somebody else has. Jealousy has an obsessive, hoarding energy around it. Yet another one is doubt, when you believe that something isn’t even possible for you. Insecurity means you feel like you are on shaky ground. Anxiety and fear, denial and anger — they all influence the flow of energy toward or away from you.

Instead of saying things like “I want that, but I can’t have it,” think, “I could totally have it. I don’t choose it right now, but I can choose it whenever I want to.” This is you taking back your choice.

Jolie Dawn is the author of Empowered, Sexy, and Free and creator of the Dare to Prosper Challenge, the largest women’s prosperity meditation gathering online, attended by women in more than fifty countries. She specializes in helping women awaken their prosperity consciousness, embody their deepest truth, and reclaim personal freedom and creativity. Visit her online at joliedawn.com.

Excerpted from the book from Empowered, Sexy, and Free. Copyright ©2022 by Jolie Dawn. Printed with permission from New World Library.

I'm trying to sell my aunt's house, as I'm the closest living relative who is able to take something like this on. (She was widowed at a young age, and her only child preceded her in death.) She spent the last thirty years or so living alone in her house, and she rarely left it. She passed away last fall, and as soon as I went into her house to begin to clear it out and prepare it for sale, I definitely felt a strong sense of her presence. I believe she is still there, and based on the reactions of other people (like the real estate agent I hired, and some repair people who came in to fix the place up) they can sense something too. Everyone freezes right inside the door and looks around as if they are looking for another person. Now I'm wondering if ghosts can try to prevent the sale of their former home by creating a certain atmosphere or something, and if so, what I should do. Thanks for your advice!

- Bethany

Dreamchaser:

Of course ghosts, earthbound spirits, or spirits who pass back and forth between this world and the next can prevent the sale of a house. Every single building we walk into has an auric atmosphere, which is composed of the energy traces or memories of everyone who was ever there. Sometimes houses are inhabited by non-physical beings who don't want to leave yet.

Your aunt is one of those beings. She has chosen to stay here on this side for a while. She doesn't want to leave her house because she was comfortable there. It was her sanctuary and her haven when she was in this world, and she sees no need to leave it now if she doesn't have to.

The angels who meet us to take us to the Light always tell us that we have a choice. We don't have to go to the Light if we don't want to at that time. They will wait for us. My own father stayed earthbound for over three years. It won't harm your aunt to stick around, though apparently, it IS harming your efforts to sell the house.

You don't have to sage the place, because she's not a negative spirit - she is just keeping residence there. Here is what I suggest you do: Visit the house alone, and go to the room your aunt loved the most in life. Call out to her and tell her that you want to talk to her. (When you do this, make sure you call her by name.) Imagine that she is sitting in the same room with you, and tell her the following:

Aunt, because I love you, I have to tell you that you are dead. You have a Light near you, and there are beings in that Light that are waiting for you. This is no longer your house - your true home is through the Light.

I need to sell this house and settle your estate. I know that you would want a nice family with kids living in the house, filling it up with joy and laughter again. You don't have to go to the Light, but you really should. If you want to stay here, you have to be quiet and stop creeping out everyone who comes in the door. Thank you.

That should help. She will understand that she is dead, and she will understand what you are saying and trying to accomplish. Hopefully, she will then back down some.

She's not trying to sabotage your efforts or hoping to prevent the house from selling - I promise you that! She just considers it her house still. She also doesn't fully understand that she's dead now, so you may want to emphasize that point.

She may hang around a while longer just to see what is going on and what you are doing to and with the house. She may run off bad prospective buyers as well. Just know that your aunt will be fine, and that the house will sell.

I wish you peace with this peculiar situation.

*****

Astrea:

A ghost can CERTAINLY keep a house from selling! I'm sitting in a 100-year-old house because its spirits don't want me to sell it, so I know what you're up against. There are lots of stories about departed spirits preventing the sale of their former homes, or trying to prevent the new people living there from enjoying themselves.

Fortunately, I love my house so it doesn't bother me, and I can live in it even though I have to fix, replace and repair things constantly. Since you don't want to live in your aunt's house, you have to find some way to move her on into the Light.

This is also important for her own sake, for by releasing her former home, she can go on to a new Celestial Incarnation, where she'll wait for the rest of her Karmic Family to join her.

Your aunt has yet to move on from her home because it takes about a year for a person who has been in one place on earth that long to let go of their earthly surroundings. Wood is the best ghost conductor I know, and I'm sure your aunt's house is full of it.

In the basement is all the discarded energy, while the attic holds treasured energy. This living space is filled with her energy, and it will be for a long time to come unless she decides to move on.

Over the past few years I've discovered a number of ways to help a person move on into the Light. The most common is this:

Assemble a Bible, one white candle, and a bell. (You can use the jingle bells from a Christmas hat, it doesn't have to be anything fancy.) Inscribe your aunt's full name on the candle and light it. Open the Bible to the 23rd Psalm and read it aloud. Ring the bell.

Then say St. Michael's Prayer: St. Michael, Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the Devil, may God rebuke him. We humbly pray, and do thou O Prince of the Heavenly Host, by the Power of God, cast into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls.

Then add, Take with Thee our Sister ________ (your aunt's full name), and lead her into the Light of God. Amen. Close the Bible, ring the bell, and blow out the candle. This should take care of things.

People who get very attached to what they have and what they own often become earthbound. My relatives come and go regularly around here, but since I have lived in this house my whole life, they rarely meddle. It's still unsettling when they do, but I'm used to it.

I hope that my Nanny, who lived next door, visits the awful neighbors who bought that house on a regular basis. After my cousin sold the place, she must have decided to stay and make as much trouble for the new occupants as possible, for they call the place Our Amityville House!

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.