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January 25 through January 31, 2021

Warning, warning! Mercury will be turning retrograde on Saturday, but we’ll start to see the effects of it as early as Monday. If you haven’t done so already, back up your phones, computers and electronic devices, just to be safe! We may lean toward more spiritual and emotional stances with the Moon traveling through Cancer Monday through Wednesday, so don’t worry if you can’t seem to get much done. Just go with the flow and stay alert to any intuitive messages that come your way. Our energy will spark up again on Thursday as the Moon waxes full in fiery Leo. This is also known as a Wolf Moon, so if you feel like getting out there and howling at the Moon, now you know why! This Moon sets off a two week period of release, allowing us to let go of any old mindsets or imagined restrictions that are holding us back. With the Sun traveling through Aquarius now, that means thinking outside the box, changing your regular routine, and embracing innovative ways to get to your dreams and goals! We’ll spend the weekend under a Virgo Moon, and with Mercury going retrograde on Saturday, it’s best to lay low, try not to overthink things, and keep your opinions to yourself!

Elevating Sex into Authentic Soul Union
An Excerpt from Holy Love by Elisa Romeo, MFT, and Adam Foley

Most people believe sex begins in the bedroom, but sex begins with the energetic relationship we cultivate in our daily lives. Soul sex doesn’t start when he leans forward to kiss her but when he takes out the trash. Soul sex is not initiated when she takes off her clothes but when she lights up as he walks through the door. Talking, sitting together in silence, and going for a walk can all be forms of energetic preparation for Soul sex. Any activity can set the energetic mood, so to speak, if we are present, intimate, and in a state of unconditional love together. This may sound simple enough, yet couples rarely are emotionally available to bask in a state of absolute acceptance and unconditionality. If we cannot reach this state in our daily lives, we certainly cannot attain it in the bedroom. But we can build up to this state of being through what we like to call unconditional foreplay.

Unconditional foreplay consists of daily acts, no matter how small, done with pure love. These acts show our partners — and convince their nervous system — that they are safe and cared for. These small, yet powerful, loving acts slowly permit our partner to enter a state of receiving true love. Our acts of love are defined, not by what we do, but by how we do them.

What may look externally like an unconditional act may in truth be conditional. If we are motivated by codependency, needing approval or seeking an emotional reward from our partner, our action remains conditional, and so does our sex. The difference has everything to do with intention, with the energy underlying the act. For instance, if we buy flowers for our partner because we are motivated by the desire for approval, it is a conditional (or inherently fear-based) act. We are giving them a gift in exchange for affection; it is an attempt to purchase love. We may even get upset with our partner if they do not like the flowers or they do not give us the egoic validation we want. Conditional love has rules and expectations.

But this same act, while looking identical on the outside, can also be motivated by Soul’s unadulterated love. In unconditional acts, we celebrate our love. We do not ask our partners to be personal stewards of approval; rather, we give love freely. We do not love our partners merely because they make us feel good but because we see and champion the unique beauty of their Souls. In unconditional relationship we do not addictively chase a particular feeling but rejoice in another’s simple existence. We do not attempt to control our partner’s feelings so that we feel better ourselves; we simply love, endlessly.

If we want to elevate sex into authentic Soul union, we must start by living authentically, as Soul, in daily relationship. Our sexual issues of disconnection do not originate or heal in the bedroom but in the daily minutiae of our lives. If we want Holy Love to visit us in bed, we must nurture it outside of the bedroom. Couples often live in an ego-to-ego relationship all day long and then feel disappointed when they don’t have meaningful, mind-blowing sex at night. This leads couples to assume they have physical intimacy issues when in truth their discord is a result of avoiding emotional intimacy in their everyday interactions. The old Zen saying “How you do one thing is how you do everything” teaches us to be mindful of how we show up in all areas of our lives. If, at 5 p.m., we ask our partner in a rushed and urgent manner about the details of the bank account, at 10 p.m. the bedroom vibe will most likely be rushed and urgent. To enter an unconditional state of union, we must use spiritual information paired with real-world action.

Many of us have blocks to receiving Holy Love, especially if we were neglected, abandoned, or rejected in relationships before. Daily acts of unconditional love allow even the deepest wounds of intimacy to heal. Such acts calm our base emotional needs — such as the need for safety — while bringing down to earth the spiritual potential of Holy Love. The result is a mutual spiritual trust that deepens over time. In the words of the famed theologian Beatrice Bruteau, “Love seeks the ultimately real.” This real truth is found, Bruteau writes, by “an outflowing action of loving another person.” When we create the environment of love within our relationships, we open space for the Soul to come forth.

We do not necessarily need unconditional foreplay to have Soul sex. At times Soul may possess us with love. Soul may find a window in which our wounds are not triggered, anxiety is low, and hearts are open. But these moments are dependent on circumstance. If we wish to have a conscious and regular practice of Soul sex, we must begin by implementing loving actions in our relationship. When we see through the eyes of Soul in intimate relationship, every action (or lack of action) carries weight. Every act in relationships is either spiritual foreplay (increasing the ability to receive unconditionality) or distancing (increasing the belief in conditionality). From this vantage point, any time spent together becomes an opportunity for unconditional foreplay.

Elisa Romeo, MFT, and Adam Foley are the authors of Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling Relationships and cohosts of the Holy & Human Podcast.  Together, they help individuals awaken and deepen their soulful nature within relationship. Visit them online at holyandhuman.com.

Excerpted from the book from Holy Love: The Essential Guide to Soul-Fulfilling Relationships. Copyright ©2022 by Elisa Romeo, MFT, and Adam Foley. Printed with permission from New World Library.

The first time I saw my daughter in my dreams was during my freshman year of college. I always wanted to name my daughter Maya, and when I called this little girl by that name in the dream, she responded. Once in a while, I see a guy in my dreams who has wavy hair. I was never able to see his face, but he seemed to be my lover. In another recent dream, I saw Maya again. She was giggling, and I just marveled at how cute she was. I also felt the presence of the guy with wavy hair by my side. What do these dreams mean? Do you think I'm dreaming of the future? (I don't know either of these two people in real life - yet!)

Koituri

Astrea:

Often when we dream of someone for many years without meeting them, it's because there are obstacles in the way. For example, one or both people may be married or unavailable when these dreams begin, or they may be living at a far distance from each other.

Sooner or later, those dreams come to fruition when both people are available for a lasting, fulfilling relationship, for when we are meant to connect with someone during this incarnation, the Universe will find a way to put us together.

Since this is pure psychic information, most of my clients who experience these dreams end up meeting that certain someone, having the child they see, or otherwise having their vision of the future come true. We may not always seek psychic input during waking hours, but psychic dreams are a way of life for most of us whether we believe it or not.

I always tell people to follow their best instincts in these matters. Dig deep into your emotional psyche and learn what you need to learn. Don't be hesitant or afraid to find out. This usually works out well if the dreamer tunes in on as deep a level as possible. If you are keeping up with writing in a dream journal, you're doing exactly that.

Recording your dreams is so valuable. For one thing, your records can be used as proof to the other person, who may have been having the same dreams but been unable to remember them. When both parties remember such dreams, it sure makes things easier when they finally meet.

Remember that the people, places and things in our dreams don't always perfectly reflect their physical counterparts. The people you dream about can enter your life looking very different from your dream people, but when you do meet, you'll know it right away.

Also, dreams often tell us more about ourselves than they tell us about others. For example, dreams tell us how we can change and grow in positive ways in all areas of our lives.

It may be that this daughter you're dreaming about is a reflection of yourself and some changes you're making in your life. I can't say for sure that she is NOT your future daughter, for it very well could be that Maya will come when the time is right. Since we all look somewhat different in dreams than we do in real life, you will have a daughter but she may not be the exact copy of the person you're dreaming about now.

This goes for the guy, too. I'm sure that you are dreaming of your future soul mate, and that he will also come to you when the time is right.

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Susyn:

Our dreams can be very powerful, and often hold important messages for us. Thus when we have recurring dreams, we are wise to pay extra close attention to what they are trying to convey to us.

Your dreams could be one of three types: They may be prophetic, memories from a past life, or your psyche's way of processing and presenting your greatest desires to you. When a dream appears as real as the ones you describe, it is often a mix of the three.

If your dreams are of a prophetic nature, they are offering you a glimpse of the future and the loving partner and daughter that are destined for you. The specific images you are seeing and the emotions they evoke suggest a wonderful future ahead. Though you may or may not end up with a guy with wavy hair, when the time is right, you will have the loving relationship and daughter you have seen in these dreams.

You may also be witnessing a lover and child from a past life. This could portend that they will be joining you in this lifetime as well, thus affirming the prophetic aspects of the dreams which imply that as they were with you in the past, so they will be with you in the future.

Until this man and daughter come back into your life, there are other important aspects of this dream to take into consideration. They may come to you in your dreams as a representation of your goals and what you are striving for.

Often the people who appear in our dreams are mirror aspects of ourselves. Your daughter Maya may be reminding you to be carefree, joyful and childlike. She could be reflecting an aspect of your inner child that you should honor and engage with in a deeper way. The partner you dream of could also be reminding you to set high standards for your life.

There are two ways you can gain more clarity and insights into these dream. One way would be to have a personal reading with a psychic or dream interpreter, who may be able to confirm the past life and/or prophetic aspects of these dreams. This type of professional may also be able to channel your as yet unborn daughter to learn more abut the timing of her arrival.

The second way to gain more insight is to do some guided meditations about these dreams. Sit in silence, light some white or purple candles, and quietly go over the details of the dream you want more insights into. Though your future partner must be here on the earth plane, your unborn daughter dwells in the spirit world, so you may be able to call her in to chat with you.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.