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A Ritual for Closure (When Closure Can’t Be Found), by Courtney Weber

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

"Will I ever find closure?"

The search for closure: after a loss, hurt, or disappointment, a person grieves. Alongside that grief is a nagging, cloying feeling that follows us around. We move through our days trying to function with the weight of our loss on us, and so often we find ourselves confessing to others, "I just want closure."

As a Tarot reader, "Will I get closure?" is one of the most common questions I am asked.

The identity of closure is as varied as the people who crave it—it is subjective, unique to the person that wants it. There is no objective meaning of closure.

For some, closure is an answer to a "why:" Why did they die? Why did they leave? Why did the community fall apart? For others, it's being witness to "karmic" retribution: The chance to see someone suffer in the way that we suffered at their hands. And for some, it's an understanding of a greater purpose to the loss: The pain is too thick, the loss too potent for it to be random chance. There must be some greater, destiny-aligned reason for the lost to have taken place.

But truly, few of us will ever get closure in the way that we want it. We may never have the chance to directly ask our former lover why they left…or be able trust an answer even if we did get it. Sure, the person who hurt us may suffer greatly at some point…but will we be there to witness it? We could get a hundred different readings on the grand destiny of purpose of someone's passing away too young…but would that only confuse us further?

Even if we can get an honest answer out of the lover, be witness to the hurt of someone who harmed us, or have the Gods physically and fully appear before us to give us the exact truth of the destiny of someone's untimely passing…would that truly obliterate our suffering?

No. We would still suffer. We would still grieve.

Having closure is a crucial part of a person's healing process. Unfortunately, seeking closure outside of ourselves can delay our healing. If our own closure is dependent on getting "the truth" from another person, witnessing what we feel is righteous retribution, or having a full-on manifestation of a god who can tell us what we want to hear, we are unlikely to ever have it.

Closure comes from within. If we want to have it, we must create it.

This is especially true when a situation doesn't allow for true closure. Let's say a friend ghosts you. You don't know why they suddenly vanished from your life, and you can't ask them as they've blocked you on social media and don't respond to your texts. When you ask your mutual friends for insight, they simply shrug. Eventually, you'll need to accept that, unfair as it may be, you won't get an answer as to why they stopped being your friend. If you want closure on this situation, you'll need to create it.

A pre-practice (consider building this exercise into your spiritual practice, e.g., doing this work during a visit to your altar, during a bedtime meditation, or on an intentional walk through the park or woods):

Describe the closure that you seek. Don't put it in the form of a question, nor try to justify why you want this information. This work is about exploring what closure means to you, not defending your reasons for wanting it.

Your closure descriptions may look like this:
"I want to know why they ghosted me."
"I want to know what they think of me."
"I want them to understand how deeply they hurt me."

Now, include a "because" with each phrase. Try to be as honest with yourself as possible.

"I want to know why they ghosted me…because I was a good friend and deserved better than that."
"I want to know what they think of me…because I need to understand why they left." "I want them to understand how deeply they hurt me…because if they knew how deeply they'd hurt me, they'd be sad and sorry and would suffer in the way that I suffered."

If you struggle with a "because," try creating a fantastical one:
"I want to know why they ghosted me...because ghosts are already aplenty and we don't need any more and they know that boo."
"I want to know what they think of me...because the parallel-universe me already knows and I feel left out."
"I want them to understand how deeply they hurt me…so they'll turn back time and undo the hurt they did and we'll be friends forever."

Whether concrete or fantastical, offer these closure descriptions to your higher power(s) or spirit allies, with the intention, "I crave understanding." Make note of dreams, synchronicities, or other revelations that come to you in the following days. You may find that different facets of understanding come your way.

The following is a follow-up exercise that may prove helpful. In my book, Sacred Tears, I provide an exercise for exploring a story without an ending. Here is an abbreviated version.

Here, devise three different stories for why your loss happened:

1. A realistic version
2. A possible, but highly unlikely version
3. A fantastical version

For an example, let's stick with the friend ghosting situation:

1. Realistic version: "They ghosted me because they got super busy with work."
2. Possible, but highly unlikely version: "They ghosted me because they decided to hitchhike across the country without telling anyone and are currently writing a memoir."
3. Fantastical version: "They ghosted me because they were eaten by an ogre."

Write each of these endings on three separate pieces of paper. In your ritual space, or during your Magickal working time, one at a time, embrace each piece of paper to your chest. Focus on embracing the possibility. Then, one by one, destroy the pieces of paper.

Now, on a new piece of paper, write down the truth you know about the situation, as well as what you do not know about it. Example: "Someone I once called a friend does not call or speak to me. I do not know why someone I once called a friend does not call or speak to me."

Hold this piece to your chest and embrace it as the only truth you have, which is in the not-knowing. Repeat the following:
"I know this truth. I accept this truth. I will never know the full mystery of this truth. I accept that I will never know the full mystery of this truth."

This working may need to be done several times, even years later. Closure doesn't happen in one ritual. It's not a snip and release of something that held us back. It's more of an unwinding of a tightly wrapped wire around an object. It takes time, and work. But creating our own closure is a brilliant step toward healing.

Remember this: Closure does not have to include "approving" of what happened to us. It's not automatically saying, "Water under the bridge…never happened." It's also not necessarily saying, "It's okay. I'm over it."

Closure is an act of acceptance: acceptance that we lost, that we were harmed, that some things will never come back, that some answers will never be known. It happens on our terms and under our own definitions. But it does not happen when we place it in the hands of other people or in specific circumstances.

To find closure, we must create it on our own. And once we do, we are one step closer to peace.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2024. All rights reserved.

I'm a practicing psychic and am wondering if I will ever find true love. I am already reluctant to come out of the closet with certain people, for as you know, society in general is critical, fearful and skeptical of anything psychic. While not all of society is like this, a good majority rejects anything dealing with psychic phenomena. I try to always be honest in my dealings with others, but as soon as I reveal what I am and what I do to earn money, I get shunned by men. It can be really painful, and it causes me to doubt myself and my attractiveness. If I can't be up front about who and what I am in an intimate, loving relationship, then who can I be up front with? I would like to marry one day, but I can't be sure if I will ever find a man who will accept me for me. Reading for myself about this is tricky; I'm unable to get clear answers because I can't get out of my own way. I will be 40 next year. Am I destined to be a spinster? I'm a Sagittarius.

Lynx

Astrea:

You're in a situation that many professional psychic readers have experienced. Telling someone you've been dating or that you're beginning to date that you are psychic really does cull out the losers in a hurry, for no one who is going to misbehave wants to be with someone who can read them. Many people also have the big misconception that psychics are mind readers. Oh! If only that were true!

People who read for others for a living are notorious for not being able to get out of their own way. Discernment is sometimes the most difficult of all psychic skills to develop. Forty is the age when most of us achieve discernment these days. Be happy you haven't made a dreadful error before.

I want to take this opportunity to say that waiting until you are 40 does not mean that you'll be a spinster! From one Sagittarius to another, I can tell you that I goofed up plenty before I was your age, and being psychic didn't seem to help me in my own romantic relationships.

Does being psychic exact payment? Of course it does. It can make us more aware of others, but it usually doesn't make us that much more in tune with the people we LOVE. This is why I never read for my family or closest friends. (Sometimes they insist, but they're usually very sorry they did!) There are personal, private things they don't want YiaYia to know, and I respect that and butt out!

It might offend my pals in law enforcement to know that I think having a relationship with a psychic is sort of like having one with a police officer. People who enter relationships with us feel obligated to behave or risk being found out.

Coming out of the closet is a good analogy too. Though some of my gay friends might take issue with this comparison, it is nevertheless what it feels like when you have to admit to the person you're in love with what it is you do for a living. There's no way I know to put someone at ease who has recently discovered that you're reading for a living. Either they can take it or they can't. Most people can get used to it, and the ones who reject us because of it aren't worth being with anyway, for they have things to hide!

Sagittarius, I know you'll find that person you're seeking in the next year. How do I know? I'm psychic! I also know that the 40th year is the most important year of a Sag's life when it comes to relationships.

That person will manifest for you sometime shortly after the first of the year, so you can start looking forward to a loving, lifelong relationship with someone who is honest and upright enough to be with you without fear of what you might discover.

*****

Susyn:

I agree that it can be challenging to be a psychic, especially when it comes to the dating scene. I carried these same ideas for years myself, and it seemed that any potential relationships ended almost immediately once a man discovered what I did for a living.

It is important that you remain true to yourself and continue to make your living in a profession that feeds your soul. Trust me: the man you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with will not have a problem with your career choice.

For years, I tried different methods to bypass what I thought was the problem. I tried dating men who also worked in the field of metaphysics, but to no avail. I found different names for my career, such as metaphysical consultant or counselor. The men I connected with were still put off by my work, even though I had created, literally from scratch, a lucrative and rewarding career.

Over time, I came to discover the truth: that what I did for a living was not the problem. The reason I couldn't find a long-term relationship had less to do with my work and more to do with my approach. This proved to be true when I found my life partner, a nuclear physics engineer, whose own career is based in science, fact and tangible proof. Never in my wildest dreams did I believe that we could form a partnership, but we could not be any closer or happier.

First, let go of the idea that your career is what is preventing you from having a loving partnership. When we truly fall in love, there is nothing about us that can put the other person off. The key is learning to create enough attraction and connection to experience love first, before we reveal too much of ourselves.

Because of your past experiences, you may be sending out defensive energy or setting yourself up to fail before you even get to know the other person. Though I donít recommend you hide what you do for a living, you may be going into details too quickly or revealing more than you need to at the start.

If you are serious about finding a life partner, I recommend a book called The Rules by Ellen Fein. Though it is slanted towards finding a husband, this book contains some basic truths and information about men that we women need to know. Once I read this book and started practicing these tenets, never again was anyone I dated uncomfortable with what I did for a living.

Give it a try. It will shift your awareness, affirm that your career is not what is preventing you from having a loving relationship, and give you tools to make the most of your dating experiences instead of limiting them.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.