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    • Why Some People Are Born Aware

      Venus Cycles

      by Diane Brandon

      (Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

      This is what I thought when I was born. I have never forgotten my awareness then or the perceptions I had—and I'm not the only one. There are people throughout the world who remember their thoughts at birth.

      I call this the "Born Aware" phenomenon.

      This phenomenon may seem strange; some people even consider it to be impossible. However, for those of us with these memories, it's not at all strange, and we didn't even consider that other people might think it was odd. After all, it's our norm.

      I describe the Born Aware phenomenon in my book, Born Aware: Stories & Insights from Those Spiritually Aware Since Birth. Those of us spiritually aware since birth have always remembered what we thought at birth. We didn't need to recapture our awareness or memories after the fact through regression, hypnotherapy, or other methods.

      Unusual, Yes, But Not Impossible
      So, yes, it's unusual, but, as those of us with these memories know, it's far from impossible. It makes sense when we consider that our souls had awareness on the other side before we came into this lifetime. We carry into an incarnation on this planet the awareness we had then, which I call the Higher Soul Awareness. (There are exceptions to this, of course. Children who remember their last life are often still in the human persona from that last lifetime. This could be because many of them reincarnated so quickly that they didn't get into their Higher Soul Awareness on the other side. Ian Stevenson did extensive and groundbreaking research on children like this, and Erlendur Haraldsson and others have continued this research.)

      Born Awares, however, came into the present life in their Higher Soul Awareness and thought and perceived accordingly, remembering these perceptions and thoughts. Some of us remember back to before birth (memories of being on the other side, of being in the womb, etc.). Our awareness at birth was quite clear and mature, not exactly what many people might expect a baby's awareness to be like.

      This may prompt the question as to why everyone doesn't have these memories. And it's a great question. Some people may have awareness at birth, but amnesia then sets in. Pain can crowd out the Higher Soul Awareness and cause us to plummet into our human side. If your soul was already in your new body for the labor and delivery, you may have experienced pain during that process—and your spiritual awareness was likely obliterated and replaced by pain and a thrusting into your human side. Some Born Awares may not come into the new body (the baby's) until the birth itself and may have avoided any pain from the labor and delivery. I didn't come in until the birth had occurred, so my Higher Soul Awareness was intact. There are also instances of people being aware at birth, but not spiritually aware.

      Different from Being Innately Spiritually Oriented
      Because this phenomenon seems unusual and is relatively unknown, some people may mistake it for being somewhat aware or spiritually oriented, including those who have always felt spiritual in some way. However, it's a different phenomenon.

      There are many people who have no birth memories and thus were not born aware, yet have always felt some sort of spiritual orientation or a hazy spiritual tug at themselves. They may not remember anything before the age of one or two, or even three. However, nonetheless they always felt a sense of "otherness" and that there was something more than this physical reality and that they didn't really belong here, even if they have no clear memory or idea of where they came from (on the other side). People like this are Innately Spiritually Oriented and they lift the level on this planet.

      Their innate spiritual orientation may be a consistent pull, even though they may not have a conscious spiritual awareness until they are exposed to spiritual or religious material, which they then may absorb like a sponge. They may immediately feel a sort of kinship with such information and a strong sense of, "Yes, this is what I was feeling, but couldn't put into words." There are many, many Innately Spiritually Oriented people on this planet. They tend to be seekers and, at some point, find spiritual material that draws them like a magnet and which they subsequently seek out. They often want to be of service to others and help others and thus may work as teachers, healers, counselors, mediators, etc.

      Those Innately Spiritually Oriented often have some of the attributes that Born Awares have in common, even if they don't have all of them. They are like gardeners on this planet, preparing the ground for light-filled energies and seeding more light and positive energy into it.

      The Born Awares, on the other hand, have a conscious awareness from birth of spiritual matters and this remains intact for us. We were born with the mature, clear awareness of an adult, rather than an immature awareness. We not only know that this Earth is not our true home, but also feel like we're exiled, having to be here for some reason. The Born Awares among us long to be back home. I know that I didn't want to come here again. I have always longed to be back on the other side, which is my true home. This longing is so strong for us that some Born Awares as young children have contemplated suicide in order to go back home.

      Advantages and Disadvantages
      I hasten to add that being born aware is not all bad. Yes, we often don't like being here, and, yes, there are some definite, strong downsides (such as feeling different, feeling isolated, out of place, homesick, etc.). However, at the same time, our experience of being here is hugely enriched by our spiritual awareness. Our memories of the other side, no matter how vague or gauzy, feed us and inspire us. We tend to be naturally aware of spiritual agency in our lives, as well as spiritual purpose, along with other positive benefits. So being born aware is really a mixed bag. We're neither here nor there, with a foot in both worlds. In essence, we're like hybrids.

      Given that this phenomenon is so different and unusual, why does it exist at all? Why are some people spiritually aware since birth?

      Allowed to Be Born Aware
      I strongly feel that those of us who have been spiritually aware since birth have been allowed to be this way—not just for our own experience, but also for what this phenomenon can show and teach others. This may be why we have been allowed to be this way (and we have indeed been allowed to be this way). What further illustrates this is that many of us born aware tend to feel that we're here on assignment.

      Inherent Lessons
      This phenomenon has inherent lessons for others. If you've ever doubted that there's another side or afterlife, or if you've ever felt down and worried about what might happen after you die, the Born Aware phenomenon can allow you to feel relief. I guarantee you that there's an afterlife. The other side is beautiful and so much nicer and more enjoyable than being here. There are many different things that we do on the other side, and it's all beneficial. There's beauty and love and purpose there. We don't feel down there. Instead, we feel inspired and loved and uplifted.

      This is just one of lessons that the Born Aware phenomenon can teach us. One thing that most of us spiritually aware since birth tend to know is that there is purpose to everything that happens on this planet, the bad as well as the good. Most of us, born aware or not, tend to know that good things will often come out of difficult experiences. If you think of your own life and some of the difficult and painful experiences you have had, you will usually be able to see—in retrospect—some of the good that came out of those unpleasant experiences. You may have had new insights. You may have strengthened in some way. You may have gained more compassion. You may have had something new to then teach others. You learned—through experience—that good can come out of bad experiences. Being aware of universal purpose can help to take the pain out of some negative events. Those of us born aware innately know that everything has purpose. We tend to look for what the higher purpose is whenever we hear of difficult events on this planet, especially when there are mass negative events. We know implicitly that something good will come out of them in some way.

      Whenever we hear of a terrible event, whether a huge earthquake or terrorism, those of us spiritually aware since birth automatically shift into our Higher Soul Awareness and look at the event from a higher spiritual perspective in order to chew on what its higher purpose is.

      The Higher Soul Awareness
      Which brings us back to the Higher Soul Awareness itself. It's vastly different from our human persona. It perceives from a higher perspective. It transcends our human side and is not weighed down or contaminated by the problematic aspects of our human side (our fears, our wants, our self-interests, our mindsets, our beliefs, our cultural conditioning, etc.), which can blind us from perceiving objectively. The Higher Soul Awareness takes us back to our soul's awareness on the other side (even if it's not completely intact) and allows us to view things from a higher and more expansive spiritual point of view.

      The Higher Soul Awareness models objectivity, as well as a higher spiritual perspective. It's certainly one aspect of the Born Aware phenomenon that others can learn from, and it brings us many benefits. We can also learn how to groom the Higher Soul Awareness (which I share in Born Aware).

      Everyone and Everything Is Connected
      Another reason why some of us have been allowed to have these memories may be that we were born with the innate awareness that everyone and everything is connected. We remember this from the other side, so it's not just a cognitive awareness, but a memory. We tend less to see differences and tend, instead, to see kindred spirits. We view others and everything as connected to us. Our hearts are open to others—not just humans, but also animals and plants and nature. We love re-experiencing that beautiful oneness through an open heart connection to others while we're here. It reminds us of that soul-inspiring and delightful inter-connection we had on the other side. Having the awareness that everything and everyone are truly connected is an important insight, one that the world could benefit from. This awareness can serve as an excellent counter-balance to all the division and prejudice and condemnation we see in our world. We truly are all connected, in a loving, positive, mutually supportive way.

      So why are some people Born Awares? It's not just for our own benefit. (And remember that there are downsides to being this way.) It's also the way we are supposed to be—at least in this lifetime—because there is purpose to it, not just for our own experience, but also for the lessons implicit in it for others.

      Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2017. All rights reserved.

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    • Double Vision: Psychic Bonds to Former Lovers

      57Grateful

      In a continuing quest to understand energy and how psychics read it around you, I am wondering how much a person contributes to keeping a past love around them in terms of energy. I am often told that I still have a very strong connection to my last lover, and that relationship ended three years ago! I am still having a hard time getting over it, however, and am wondering if in continually thinking about him, I’m keeping him in my energy. Or am I thinking about him because he is keeping me in his energy? Would my trying to forget about him move him out of my energy field, or is he around me because he hasn’t gotten over me either? How much of this is conscious, and how much is subconscious? And will we remain in each others’ field of energy until we can come to some kind of closure, or are we meant to come together again to work something out?

      Roseanne

      Dreamchaser:

      First and foremost, I want you to understand that the situation you’re in with this man is very common. I can’t tell you the number of people I talk to on a daily basis who still feel someone elses’ energy, even if they haven’t spoken to that person in a very long time.

      What you are calling energy, we might just as well call emotion. You two have ties that stem from past lives. You are members of what I call the same “soul family.” You were with each other in some form in every life you have lived as humans. Some lifetimes were pleasant and fulfilling, and some were not. You both have emotions left over from either one or more past lives.

      The strong emotions from those past lives are making the ties that bind you in this life really strong. Things are unresolved not only in this life but from past lives as well. That is why your souls are still so enmeshed.

      I have no doubt that he still feels you as well. You can still feel each others’ touch, smell each other and hear each others’ voice in the form of your own thoughts. You are very real to each other.

      However, remember that men are physically based; they get turned on by what they see, touch, taste, feel, etc. They can turn off their emotions but never their bodies. Women are emotionally based. We get turned on by what we feel in our hearts. We can turn off our bodies but never our hearts and emotions.

      So he can walk away from these feelings and carry on with his everyday life. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t have these feelings, it’s just that it’s easier for him to ignore them than it is for you. You find yourself “continually thinking about him” because you’re much more aware of your feelings, especially those that have yet to be resolved.

      If you really want to be free of him, I can give you an exercise to try. I want you to lay down on your bed, the floor, the sofa, or any place that is comfortable and feels safe to you. Then I want you to picture him in your head.  Get a really clear picture; see the details of his face, his hair, and so on.

      At that point, picture the silver cord that binds you two together coming out of his navel and reaching across the miles to your navel. Mentally picture yourself with a big pair of shears and then cut that cord. Call to Michael, the Archangel, to guard the cut ends and to help that cord stay cut.

      Then when you do think of this man, actively exhale and push him out of your mind. In a matter of days, you should start to feel the connection start to dissipate. Do not do this unless you are really ready to let him go, however.

      I wish you wholeness.

      *****

      Astrea:

      You’re right; constantly thinking about an ex will keep him in your energy and in your heart. Three years is a long time to do that. It takes a lot of your energy away from you to keep on loving him.

      You’re being told that he is still in your energy because you are consciously working very hard to keep him there. Virgos have a very difficult time releasing old loves.

      It isn’t your subconscious and it certainly isn’t him. If he spent one tenth of the time thinking about you that you do thinking about him, you would probably be back together now. He has moved on with his life, however, and is in a whole new place. The Jim you knew from three years ago is not the Jim he is today.

      Trying to forget him is not forgetting him. Forgetting him isn’t the point, anyway; forgiving him for hurting you and forgiving yourself for allowing that is the point.

      We have all chosen the wrong people at some point in our lives; that’s how we learn what we don’t want in relationships. Virgos are so hard on themselves when it comes to forgiving themselves for a mistake in judgment. While three years is not unusual in Virgo time, since you’re talking about it and asking about it, I’m betting you’re ready to move on.

      Here is a ritual that may help you leave Jim behind and get on with your love life:

      Buy three scented candles: one blue bayberry, one red cinnamon and one white vanilla. Cast your circle, call in your corners, and invite the appropriate deities in to witness and help with your release. You may also invite your guides if you’re close to them. When you’re releasing an ex, it’s good to have a lot of help!

      Light the blue candle and say, “I release the need to feel sadness about Jim.  What is done is done. I forgive him for any sadness he caused me and any pain I caused myself and him.”

      Light the red candle and say, “I release the need to feel that I will never have physical passion with anyone else like I had with Jim. I forgive him for stirring that in me and then leaving me, and I forgive myself for thinking that it was my fault that he left.”

      Light the white candle and say, “I welcome new, authentic, pure and joyous love into my life, and by forgiving Jim and myself, I welcome it into his life too. I am free of all pain and cleansed by white light and joy. I wish us both a happy life.”

      Take a deep breath and let it out slowly as you feel all the pain and resentment leave your physical body and your spirit. Do this three times in all. Blow out your candles in the order you lit them, release your corners and open your circle. Be born anew into a life that that is ready for big authentic love!

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