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    • The Three Rooms: Which Room Are You In?

      by Kevin Murphy
       
      "Remember, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have, it depends solely on what you think."

      Although the Buddha is often credited with that quote, its origin doesn't really matter. Few people would dispute its message. So if most people would agree that our thoughts determine how we feel, then why are we not very good at monitoring our thoughts? The analogy of The Three Rooms can help.
      From The Three Rooms perspective, our thoughts can only be in one of three places: they can be in the past (the Past Room); the future, (the Future Room); or the present (the Present Room); and whichever room our thoughts are in determines our experience of life in that moment.
      Since our thoughts can move back-and-forth in the linear concept of time, it is imperative that we observe our thoughts. It is that act of observation that separates our awareness from our thoughts so we are no longer at the effect of them. This awareness, or consciousness, is what all the spiritual masters have urged us to connect with.
      In order to access this Divine Consciousness, we need to know where our thoughts are. That's why the fundamental question that we need to ask ourselves is "Where am I?" In other words, "Where are my thoughts?" If you can ask and answer that simple question, then you have already separated your awareness from your thoughts. Unlike the physical body, our thoughts can be in one of three places, and each place leads to a different experience of life.
      The Past Room:
      When our thoughts are in the Past Room, we continuously think of events that have caused us to feel negative emotions based on what we perceive others to have said or done to us...or us to them. We tend to dwell on those thoughts which further perpetuates the negative emotions they generate. Resentment, guilt, anger and shame are a few of the emotions we feel when our thoughts are in the Past Room.
      The Future Room:
      This is when we think about all the things that can go wrong and we focus on the worst-case scenarios. We look around at what is, and we project the image of what we don't have into the future. The feeling of stress and anxiety that this creates is what actually pushes away the very things we desire.
      When our thoughts are stuck in the Past or Future Room, we are constantly seeing the world as separate from us, so we feel the separation from our own Higher Self. That is the singular cause of the negative emotions we feel in the Past and Future Rooms.
      The Present Room:
      Instead of looking at what is, this is when we focus on what can be. There is an absence of negative thought, so there is nothing preventing us from feeling our connection to our Source. The love that we feel when we are in communion with our Higher Self is the feeling that allows us to attract into our lives that which we desire.
      If we are going to observe which room our thoughts are in, we need to better understand the thoughts that we are observing:
      A thought is a vibration that is stored as energy in a Field of Potential Probabilities, waiting to manifest.

      This field of energy has had many names. Sometimes it is called Divine consciousness, prana, or the Akashic field. Other times it is called the quantum vacuum, ether, or the zero-point field. No matter what name you apply to it, it is the Source energy that makes up all there is.
      All of the inspired ideas we receive, as well as the negative thoughts we produce, are stored in the same Field of Potential Probabilities. It is up to us to determine which ones we access based on the vibrations we are producing in any moment.
      When our emotions resonate with the same vibrational frequency as our Higher Self, we are able to interpret those vibrations in the form of inspired ideas. This is what happens when our thoughts are in the Present Room.
      When our emotions are not in alignment with our Higher Self, we are interpreting vibrations based on what we see and hear in the form of resistant thoughts. This is what happens when our thoughts are in the Past and Future Room.
      In the movie The Greatest Showman, P.T. Barnum, played by Hugh Jackman, makes a birthday present for his daughter. He tells her, "This is a wishing machine. You tell it your wishes and it keeps them safe until they come true. Even if you forget them, they are always there."
      Wouldn't that be amazing if there was a real wishing machine? Well, there is. It is the same Field of Potential Probabilities (FoPP). Your wishes are just thoughts from your imagination. They are stored in the FoPP until your vibrational frequency lines up with them, even if you forget them. If you feel negative emotions about something you are wishing for, the manifestation of that wish will sit patiently in the FoPP waiting for you to align with the feeling of the wish being fulfilled.
      Since your wish is just a thought, it will manifest if you will align with it. The only way to be in alignment with your wish is to feel as if it has already come true. The feeling is everything. When your thoughts are stuck in the Past or Future Room, you cannot align vibrationally with your wish because your thoughts are in a room that doesn't bring you joy. There is always a gap between when we make a wish and when it manifests. You must enjoy the gap, otherwise the manifestation won't come.
      The doubt caused by our own negative emotions is the very substance that prevents our wishes from being fulfilled. The irony is that if you don't feel the joy as if your desire is already fulfilled, then it can't come to pass. But if you feel the joy of it manifesting before you can see it, then you will feel the joy again once it does manifest. That is what is meant by "twice-felt." In the Past and Future Rooms, you don't feel the joy and your wish never comes true. In the Present Room, you get to feel it twice and it does come true. It's your choice.
      Kevin Murphy is a former Wall Street managing director, high school and collegiate wrestling champion, community activist, speaker, coach, and author. His book The Three Rooms, invites you to start the process of better monitoring your thoughts--while providing you the keys to transform your life by doing so. Since our thoughts affect our health, our wealth and our relationships, observing which room your thoughts are in can change your experience of life. For more info, visit:www.thethreerooms.com

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    • Psychic Advice: Am I My Older Sister's Reincarnation?

      wishfulthinking

      My mother had a baby girl back in 1967. She was born in June of 1967, and she died in 1968, right after her first birthday. At that time, my mother was pregnant with me. My sister died on a Tuesday at 11pm, and I was born on Tuesday, July 30 at 11pm. My mother said when she was giving birth to me, she was seeing my sister in front of her. Could you please tell me what you think of this situation? I really need some answers.

      Thank you!

      Amanda

      Dreamchaser:

      First, you are not your sister reincarnated. What happened is actually a pretty simple thing to explain. Your mother was very distraught over the death of your sister. She mourned her greatly. She kept her things and refused to let go of her. On a spiritual level, your sister was still around your mother at the time you were born.

      I feel when someone holds onto a spirit that tightly, the spirit sometimes chooses to stay earthbound or at least visit frequently. Your sister appearing at your birth was simply her way of saying to your mother, “Now you can let go of me.” I think your sister still popped in to visit after you were born, but your mother was able to let go of that vice-like grip she’d held on her.

      As I have said a few times in this column, as souls we choose what body, life, family, situations, etc. we’ll come into before we are born here in the physical. It is all part of our soul’s path, and a way to learn our lessons.

      I believe you, your sister and your mother had connections on the other side. Each of us has a pack of souls with whom we go from life to life. The three of you already knew each other because you are all in the same pack of souls; and you already knew on a soul level what was going to happen. You decided that you would incarnate when you did so that you could help your mother cope with the death of your sister.

      I think it is time to let go of the past and to step out from under what you feel is your sister’s shadow. I know your mother did not mean to do this to you, but she has always wondered if you might be your sister. It has confused her ever since you were born.

      I also realize that saying you should let go is easy, but doing it is hard. Let it start slowly. Get a journal and keep it at your bedside. Every night before you go to sleep, I want you to write a quick journal entry about your day. I want you to write how you feel and what happened. I want you to make it all about you, your world, your feelings, your thoughts, etc.

      Make a commitment to writing something for 30 consecutive days. At the end of 30 days, go back and reread what you wrote on day one after writing your next entry. On the next day, read day two’s entry after writing what you feel for that day. Continue in this pattern.

      It will help you begin to realize who and what you really are in this world. You are an incredible woman. I wish you self-awareness and acceptance.

      *****

      Astrea:

      I don’t see how you could be your sister reborn, despite the interesting coincidences surrounding your birth. People wait in celestial incarnations to be born again with the same families, loved ones and friends. Usually, it takes at least 50 to 100 years to regroup and make the decision to return to the earth plane to be born into a human family again.

      Usually, we “wait” for the rest of our “Ka-Tet,” or karmic family to join us in heaven so we can decide what we’re all going to do in the next incarnation together. It’s sort of a “team effort,” so one individual soul rarely has that much control. Certainly one personality can’t supplant another’s, especially if that person is already growing and getting ready to be born here.

      We absolutely can choose to return to the same family, but a baby who dies that early in life is usually coming to bring the mother or father a life lesson. Sometimes the energy is wrong between that couple for the baby to come to them. Sometimes it’s not exactly the right time for a child to come to the family. Sometimes the child is an angelic spirit who changes his or her mind after being born, and returns to an angelic life.

      You are your own person, your own spirit, your own soul; you have been since you were drawn into this incarnation by your parents. The reason your mother saw your sister’s face was simply because your sister was helping you get here. That’s all. She was comforting your mother at a very stressful time, and trying to let her know that, this time, everything would be all right. As comforting as it might be to your mother to believe her lost baby returned to her through you, it’s not the case.

      If you’ve been trying to “live up” to your sister all your life, I urge you to stop doing that now. You are not a “replacement” for anyone. You’re an individual with your own heart and your own mind and your own feelings. You’re unique to yourself and your family. Your personality is all you and no one else is in there with you!

      Trying to be that child who went back to heaven before she had a chance to grow old, suffer and die isn’t your path; you have your own path. While your sister might be a guardian angel for you in this lifetime, if that’s her angelic “assignment,” you have your own life to live.

      I can see how hearing this all your life could be confusing to you! It’s time to give up on that wishful thinking of your mom’s, and to be yourself for yourself and your family.

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