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Two major astrological events will happen this Friday, but before they do, we'll have a few days to prepare. Monday and Tuesday's Leo Moon will have us reaching out to others to make sure they have all they need, as well as reviewing our requirements to ensure all is in order. Our mantra should be fairness and balance in all we do, say, and think. The Moon will move into Virgo on Wednesday, making the next three days all about organizing and focusing on details. Our worlds have gotten a bit out of order, so taking the time to restore and review is essential. If you didn't back up your computer, phones, and electronic devices last week, now is the time! Friday heralds the first eclipse of the year, as the Virgo Full Moon creates a lunar eclipse. For the next two weeks, we'll release things in our physical world that no longer serve us, be it outworn clothing, old paperwork, or general clutter. A few hours later Mercury will turn retrograde, where it will spend the next three weeks asking us to take a closer look at our current paths, do more research and if needed, revise our plans. We all know Mercury can throw a few wrenches during this cycle, but if we keep in mind it's to keep us from moving down the right path, we'll be more open to letting go and allowing a different picture to emerge.

4 Reasons There Is No Such Thing as a “Bad Match” in Astrology, by Desiree Toby Antila

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

We have all heard it before: "I can't date them, because they are a Gemini." More and more, people are generalizing the sun signs of others before giving them a chance. We have heard time and time again that Trine and Sextile couples are the most desired matches, but are they? Today, many couples are looking for their equal and someone who challenges them to be a better version of themselves. Just because one person wants a companionship that is "easy" does not mean that that is what everyone desires. Some of us prefer to have a partner that ruffles our feathers and acts as a mirror for us to see ourselves for who we truly are—someone who pushes us to reach a higher state of self-actualization.

In my book, Sun Signs in Love, I state that "There is no such thing as a bad match in astrology, and to base that belief on simply looking at sun signs is like judging a book by its cover. You are not destined to fail because you have some more 'difficult' aspects in your synastry. All relationships are difficult, and all relationships have beauty and lessons to be learned. Astrology is meant to be used as a device to assist bringing you and your partner clarity in areas of opportunity and to show the splendor between your unique compatibility."

Astrology acts as a tool for us to better understand our partner through by understanding how your elements blend, your modalities collaborate, and how your love aspect vibes. Through those three mediums is how you get a deeper understanding of how to utilize the effective parts of your relationship and how to strengthen the areas of opportunities. Each relationship and couple are completely unique, being comprised of several variables. Astrology gifts us a way to untangle the knots and allows us to understand our partner on a new level creating space for compassion.

Continuing with this theme, here are four reasons why there are no "bad" matches in astrology.

1. Chart Types
   There are two types of charts you can use when looking at compatibility—synastry and composite. A composite chart reveals a relationship's astrology by using the midpoints of two birth charts while a synastry chart helps one understand a relationship's compatibility by overlaying two birth charts. Both are great ways to understand the energy of a match, but I personally prefer synastry. I find that synastry charts hold more information and personalization into not only how each of the individuals feel about the relationship, but also how the energy flows between the two. Synastry charts are downright juicy. In my book I quote, "Synastry between all of the planets is crucial to understanding the overall vibration between individuals. Synastry is defined as a way to determine a couple's likely compatibility and dynamics through comparing their natal charts by overlaying them on one another." There is so much complexity and beauty in each synastry chart, and there is always strength and beauty to be found in every single match—making your unique relationship chart the first reason why there is no bad match.
2. Aspects
   When people are denoting a "bad match" in astrology, they are most likely to be referring to the aspect. The stereotypical "unfavorable" aspects are square, semi-sextile, and quincunx matches. The ones that can go either way are the conjunct (same sign) and opposing signs. However, after conducting hundreds of synastry chart readings and observing astrological relationships for over 20 years, I kindly disagree. It is an astrological fact that when there are too many trines in a chart, things become so easy that the energy becomes lazy. Just as in life, there should be a natural ebb and flow to everything, and of there is too much ebb or too much flow the relationship becomes unbalanced. In Sun Signs in Love, I dive deeply into all seven aspects and how they can meld their energies for harmony. For example, Quincunx couples have quite literally nothing in common astrologically. They do not share an element, a modality, or polarity. However, Aries and Scorpio (a quincunx match) share ruling planet Mars, making their physicality a way for them to connect. There is always a way for the signs to connect through the stars—you just have to find a way to get there. There is beauty, strength, and opportunity in every aspect, even the "good ones," making aspects the second reason why there is no such thing as a bad match.
3. Elements
   After the aspect, the element is the next reason people will brush off a potential love match. You will hear things like, "I can't date a water sign; they are just too emotional for me." Most people will say that and then not even realize that they themselves have a stellium in a water sign. Yes, blending some elements can be tricky, but if done correctly makes for magnificent combinations of love. An example of a delicate blend is water and fire. If there is too much water it puts out the flame, too much fire it evaporates the water, but with just the right amount, you find a nice steam. Finding balance between all four of the elements when being combined is another key to a harmonious partnership. Even the trine pairs (same element) must be careful when combining their equivalent element because too much of something is never a good thing. As I note in Sun Signs in Love, "When water meets water, there is no resistance, causing things to flow into a stream of enlightenment. However, too much water can create a flood that drowns all life around." Being conscientious and respectful of the power that each element harnesses is crucial. Furthermore, learning how to successfully blend them makes you an unstoppable combined force, which is why your elements are the third reason why there is no bad match in astrology.
4. Modality
   Learning how to communicate with you partner is one of the hardest, if not the hardest, things to do in a long-term partnership. However, astrology offers a way to assist in understanding your partner's communication style through the methods of modality. In my book I state, "Modality is defined as a way in which something occurs, is experienced, or is communicated." Traditionally, cardinal signs have a more direct way about their communication, fixed signs are more introverted and methodical, while mutable signs are the mavens of communication and the chatterboxes of the zodiac. Astrology states that square, opposed, and conjunct couples are a more "difficult" love match, yet they share the same modality, making their communication style similar in fashion. Wouldn't you consider that to be a good thing? I certainly do. For example, Gemini and Virgo are square to one another and while their elements may not blend as easily, they are both of mutable modality and share Mercury as their planetary ruler—the planet of communication. Have you ever met a Gemini and Virgo couple? They connect through conversation in the most beautiful fashion. In my Gemini & Virgo chapter of Sun Signs in Love, it says, "Gemini enjoys how the virgin charms them by firing up their mind in such fascinating conversation. They banter like two evenly talented opponents in a heated tennis match—with a new winner every time." This makes modality the fourth and final reason why there is no such thing as a bad match in astrology.

If you are wanting further insight into what makes your astrological love match wonderful and special, I encourage you to grab a copy of Sun Signs in Love for a deeper dive into all of the magic that synastry has to offer. As I say in the book, "The intent and takeaways of [Sun Signs in Love] are to find seeds of wisdom to make your love stronger, to understand yourself and your partner on a deeper level…" I hope that is what you find—a way to create more compassion and understanding for your partner. Because let's face it: relationships are hard. No matter where you are in your love story, finding love and obtaining it is always a challenge. However, if used in a constructive and positive manner, astrology is here to make love a little easier.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2022. All rights reserved.

I have always had the ability to see orbs of lights. When I was a kid, I would occasionally see them out of the corner of my eye, and then when I would turn and look, they would be gone. As I got older, I began to see them more often, and after a while, I could stare at them and watch them. They became so clear I could see the glare from them on the walls they were in front of. Recently, I began seeing black orbs too. They look sort of like little balls of oil, and don't glow like the light balls do. I also see shadows of things moving, and I will wake up because I hear someone talking to me, but then when I'm awake, there is no one there. I know that spirits show up as orbs in photos, but I've never heard of someone seeing orbs like that with their bare eyes. Am I nuts, or would you say I have psychic ability? These experiences seem to be getting stronger, but I'd like to find a way to control them and put them to good use. Thanks!

- Steve

Dreamchaser:

First and foremost Steve, you are NOT crazy. What you are seeing is absolutely real. You are able to see past the veil that separates this world from the Otherworld, where you can see different types of beings.

You did not mention that you are capable of seeing mists/fogs and changes in the colors of things around objects or other people. You are most definitely "psychic." You have always "just known" things, but you have always attributed this to just good old common sense.

The white or lighter colored orbs are of course ghostly beings. You know that. They can be attached to the land, to the building, to something in the building, or any combination of the above.

Since you can see through the veil, you can see the orbs. Since spirits are made up of energy, forming orbs of light is easy for them to do. That is an easy form for them to take when they want to travel in THIS world.

You are not the only person who can see orbs. Some people see them all the time, everywhere they go, but this is something that most people do not talk about for fear of how others will perceive them.

I have never seen black orbs with my own eyes, so I can't personally speak to that matter, but I can tell you what other people have reported. There have been many documented sightings of "black orbs," which are apparently unidentified flying objects. Some witnesses have reported hearing an engine type sound attached to these black orbs, and some have mentioned seeing them mixed in with orbs of light.

I know that this sounds far-fetched to quite a few of you, and to be honest, I have some trouble wrapping my head around it at times as well. That doesn't change the fact that there COULD be life on other planets and in other galaxies/ universes, and beings from other planets could have made their way to us, and be visiting Earth on a regular basis.

We have all heard the alien abduction and UFO stories. If we start to research things however, we discover more and more unexplainable events. For example, can someone please explain Denver Airport to me? Can someone please explain the night over Phoenix with ALL those UFOs flying around, which was even on the news?

The black orbs you're seeing are unexplained objects. They could be alien spacecraft, as most who see them and research them say they are. They could be some type of unidentified spiritual being. What I can tell you for sure is that they are not going to harm you. I suggest the next time you see one, you ask it to tell you what it is, and then listen to your thoughts.

I wish you clear vision in this crazy world.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.