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How to Select a Sport to Support Your Soul, by Cyndi Dale

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

During my life, I've often been more of a bench warmer than a figure on the field. One of the reasons is that I've always wanted to relate to a sport. If I was going to put time into getting good—or even okay—at an athletic endeavor, I wanted it to help me express my "real self."

I assume that the most successful athletes often feel this way, even if they don't talk about it. Why shouldn't you be spiritually into your sport? I mean, there is only a single Simone Biles or Tom Brady, but you can still do "you."

I'd love to see you engage in activities that will aid you in embodying your true self.

Personally, I'm firmly committed to my sports, which aren't glamorous: walking and hiking. (Let me be real. The walking occurs with the dogs. The hiking? It's often in foreign countries, which is cool, but I usually make sure there are taxis available in case I desire to skip climbing the mountain.) Because my soul is fully into my sporty endeavors, exercising doesn't feel like exercise.

Ready to see how this works?

First off, I'm going to define a few terms. Then I'll share lists of subtle elements, or basic components of reality, that can each describe the personality of a soul. You'll select the descriptors that best suit you. Finally, I'll overview several categories of sports in relation to their use of the same elements, so you can find a good match.

Let's start with some terms.

Your soul is a part of your spirit, or essence. Your spirit is your full self, which knows it is completely part of whatever you call Source. Your soul is like a slowed down version of your spirit.

Basically, your soul is that part of you that has been traveling across time to learn about love. Sure, it can incur wounds and injuries, but it is also growing and developing. Your soul has probably been incarnating for who knows how long to better understand its own unique beingness but also to enjoy this world and the relationships in it.

In relation to your soul, your body is the vessel for a soul's experience. It contains information and conclusions from your soul's experiences across time and is also encoded with data related to your ancestry, childhood, culture, the earth, and more.

A sport is an activity that involves physical exertion and skill. This focus on physicality is a vital component of movement. After all, you can't exactly call writing a sport, although it can be hard. And yet, a sport involves so much more than bodily expression—as I'll explain, it also ideally involves your soul.

This is because a sport is not only about the body; it is really about energy, which I define as energy that moves. When exercising, we're all about spending, making, and increasing our energy. BUT—there are two types of energy. And physical energy composes less than 1 percent of all of reality. The rest of all energy, 99.9999-plus percent, is subtle. Subtle energy could also be called psychic, spiritual, and quantum energy.¹

Many parts of you are made of subtle energy, to include your soul. When your unique soul is melded through your body during an activity, its subtle energy increases the health of the body—and your soul gets to exercise its own vital way of being. By selecting a sport that matches your soul's special personality, you exponentially improve all areas of your life every time you exercise.

Selecting a soul-based sport starts with figuring out the basic ideals or traits of your soul. To do so, read through the list of descriptors that relate to the different elements, or subtle building blocks, that create concrete and immaterial reality. Your soul relates to one or two elements more than others. And so, simply select the one or two lines shared next to choose the signifier that best describe you.

Soul Traits by Elements
Select one or two lines that best describes your inner self:
Fire Traits: Dedicated to passion, purification, and physical power
Water Traits: Moves with intuitive flow and according to emotional desires
Air Traits: Devoted to mental ideas, organizing systems, and workplace success
Earth Traits: Loves to build, fortify, support others, add strength, be protective
Metal Traits: Fights negativity and evil, angel of truth and justice
Stone Traits: Holder of history, provider of stability and solidity
Wood Traits: Known for cheeriness, optimism, and adaptability
Ether Traits: Transmitter of higher truths, font of insights and conscious
Star Traits: Made of fire and ether, or passion and higher ideals; doesn't fit in with normal earthlings
Light Traits: Always and only about love and healing
Sound Traits: Always and mainly about power and productivity

Next, you are going to read through the following descriptions of various sports and the elements used within each. Through this process, pay attention to how you react to the categories that include one or two of the subtle elements related to your soul. Your conclusions will help you gauge what sporty expressions might qualify as a soul-sport.

Sports Categories—By Elements
Following are descriptors of the major sports categories and the types of elements usually employed in each.

Baseball, softball: Earth, fire, and air. Souls who love these types of sports are dedicated to building and fortifying. You play "the long game" and are prone to quick bursts of energy. These types of games will help you bond with others, add to your energy reserves, and release pent up feelings and physical blocks. The mentality of this category speaks too to your natural and innate intelligence.

Basketball: Fire and metal. You like moving like quicksilver and are dedicated to keep the "other" (not your own) team from scoring, like metal types do. Engaging with this and similar team games highlights your ability to block out negativity while creating awesome gains.

Bicycling: Air. Everything you do in cycling is about air—moving air, posing in air, and moving speedily through the air. Any type of bicycling will clear dysfunctional beliefs and keep your thinking smooth and fit, tasks your soul excels at.

Canoeing: Water, and either metal or wood. Canoes propel through water, and you excel at encouraging intuitive and emotional flow. In a wood canoe, or while carrying the canoe through forest portages, you indulge your ability to plan and execute goals with optimism. If you employ a metal canoe, you are strengthening your innate ability to defy negativity and expand higher thoughts.

Dance: Sound and air; sometimes star. Dancers defy the ground, as if flying. So do you, following an internal or external source of music to empower you and higher ideas. If your dance style is highly unique, you probably own star traits, faculties that are extraordinary to you.

Football (American): Also covers rugby and Lacrosse. Earth. Earth is about protection, fortifying, and moving slowly. This and similar games will increase your ability to hold the line while meeting goals. This category of sports will also bolster any warrior attitudes and resilience.

Golf: Air and wood; possibly also light. Whoosh! The ball flies over the green. Of course, the elements involved are air and wood. What occurs in the mind of the golfer but how to maneuver through woodsy areas with a sense of optimism? Visualization, a capability of light, is also vital to most golfers. During golf, your soul can accelerate loving thoughts with positivity and optimism.

Hiking/Walking: Earth or stone; possibly light, water, or wood as well. The elements of hiking and walking are dependent on where they are executed. For instance, when on solid earth, you are activating your grounding strengths. In the mountains or on sand, you cultivate your stability as a stone or protective being.

Other elements depend on your location. As shared, my personal sporty love is hiking. When I traverse lakes, I am exploring my intuition and soothing my emotions. In the desert, I am also absorbing light or love. Via the desert, I fill my soul in with the smiles from the wood element.

Horseback riding: Light and sound. Horses are incredible beings, says anyone who knows how to blend with one like a centaur by connecting through light, or love, heart-to-heart. No matter the gait, you let your soul activate your sound element. And the best riders know how to "horse whisper," or use psychic sound to earn a horse's trust.

Martial Arts: Ether and air. All martial arts, ranging from Tai Chi to karate, ideally activate your own and a partner's higher consciousness, which is related to ether. These practices depend on employing higher truths while you entrain body and soul.

Running or jogging: Always accesses air and sound, and possibly also earth, light, stone, or wood. Running is always an air activity, aiding you in cleaning your mind of negativity by encouraging mindfulness and mindlessness. Performed in syncopations, running also activates your abilities to employ the sound element, creating a percussion of rhythm for soul expressions.

The other elements stimulated depend on the location of your running. Are you running in relationship to the ground? You are building strength. On a gravel path or mountain road? You are getting in touch with your stone-based powers. Jogging in the sun? Your soul can focus on what you dearly love. In a forest? You are increasing your woodsy or merry nature.

Skiing or Skating: Water and air, possibly other elements. Think of it. Water skiing involves standing (or trying to) in the water. While performing this heroic and ballet-like sport, you are restoring balance to your emotions and mind, cementing them together—an innate skill if you have a water soul! Snow skiing and skating incorporate the same soul strengths, except the water is frozen. If you are winter skiing in a lot of light, you are also in an ideal position to reflect on what you love. If you are cross-country skiing, the movements are rhythmic, empowerment sound strengths.

Soccer: Earth, sound, and air. Soccer is performed in a grounded manner, which activates your instinctive power and strength. It is also highly rhythmic and sequenced, which brings out your ability to self-empower through sounding. Of course, soccer is also a running sport. As an air activity, it helps your soul cleansing your mind and move you into a natural timeless, mindful state.

Swimming: Sound and water. Swimming is rhythm and fluid. Sound is empowering, and with every stroke, you are getting in touch with—and balancing—your intuition and emotions.

Tennis: Air and earth. This is typically a singular sport, and a mental game for the player. Your soul strength, however, comes from the earth—the ground from which you spring. Tennis will aid your soul in releasing fears so you can draw power from the earth and your soul.

Do you get the gist of what we're doing? Whenever you want, go ahead, and analyze other sports according to your soul aptitudes.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2023. All rights reserved.

Is it natural to want to do bad and hurtful things to someone you once loved post-breakup? I recently ended a relationship and as much as I try to forgive and forget, random urges come over me to say and do hurtful things to him. Sometimes I act on those impulses. Afterwards I always feel bad yet I keep going through this same cycle as if stuck in limbo. Is there something I can do to stop myself from thinking and acting on these thoughts?

Taylor

Susyn:

It's common to feel anger and resentment after a break-up, and for these feelings turn into actions we later regret. Our level of spiritual development often dictates how we respond to the loss of a close relationship. Initially, it's a good idea to journal about your feelings of loss and resentment. Committing them to paper will help you process the pain you are feeling. Reviewing specific incidents that you still feel angry about can help you put them in perspective.

Whether your feelings are justified or not, there are ways to get beyond them. Keep in mind that anger is a cover-up for fear, and that in the end, you are only hurting yourself when you act on urges to retaliate.

Once you have your feelings in written form, you can burn the pages as a spiritual ritual to release the hold they have over you. You may also want to freeze your ex, which won't him but will minimize the emotions that rise up when you think about him. You can find the instructions for the Freezing Ritual at Kajama.com under Spiritual Tools.

Next I recommend a practice called Corralling Your Thoughts. This will help you let go of the past and refrain from acting on any thoughts of doing hurtful things to him.

It works like this: When your ex comes into your thoughts, stop immediately and say, I will not think about this now; I will think about it tonight at 9 p.m. Continue this practice throughout the day whenever he crosses your mind. Then at 9 p.m., allow yourself 15 minutes to think about him - no more, no less.

At the end of the fifteen minutes, if he comes into your thoughts again, you must wait until the next night at 9 p.m. to think about him. If you miss the time the next night, you will have to postpone those thoughts until the following night. After three days, reduce the time to 10 minutes, and after six days, to five minutes. This will help you gradually reduce the time you are thinking or obsessing about your ex, and minimize your concerns about him.

These practices can help as you move away from a relationship that obviously was not healthy for you. If you are without a relationship at this point, it's time to open yourself up to finding new love. However, as long as you are focused on your ex, you will be unable to find the ideal partner with whom to build a strong, healthy relationship, for to build a brighter future, you must first break free of your anger and resentment from the past.

*****

Mata Maya:

As the Buddha taught, holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. Though you may want to hurt your ex, the person your hate is hurting the most is yourself. By holding on to pain instead of letting it go, you are keeping yourself stuck in an endless cycle of suffering.

While it's perfectly natural to feel the way you do, the pain these thoughts cause you is a sign that your thinking is not in harmony with the peace and happiness you desire. You feel bad because your inner being is urging you to think loving thoughts in order to manifest loving experiences.

These thoughts and feelings are a sign that you are still wounded and need more healing. Your anger is a primal reaction to feeling hurt. When you have these hateful impulses, you might picture yourself as a wounded, cornered little animal lashing out at that which you perceive to be the cause of your pain.

As you picture this, instead of saying to yourself, I am so angry, remember to say to yourself, I am in such pain. This will help you shift toward a more sophisticated, constructive perspective on what's happening on an inner level, which will facilitate a faster journey to healing and new happiness.

Next, recognize that what you do to others comes back to you; what you wish for others you draw to yourself. When you keep in mind that what you wish for another, you wish for yourself, it becomes much easier to stretch toward forgiveness, to shift from wishing your ex a lifetime of loneliness and misery to praying for him to find new love and happiness.

I am sure you have been similarly upset in the past. If you think about it, you will see that it was only when you started to let go of your anger and resentment toward the individual involved that you began to feel better about your own life and began to move into new and better circumstances. Whenever you find yourself thinking hateful thoughts, stop and remember that you are cursing yourself, and begin to send out positive thoughts and wishes instead.

Finally, you would be wise to remember that you wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't really want to be with you. Everything happens for a good reason whether we can see it at the time or not. If you realize that you have been set free from the wrong relationship so you can end up in the right one some day, perhaps you will eventually be able to thank your ex for making it so clear that he was not the right one for you.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.