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July 8 through July 14, 2024

Things hum along pretty smoothly this week, with the only astrological change being Venus’ move into Leo on Thursday. Venus loves to show off her drama and flair under this sign, making for some fun and unexpected joys to emerge! The Moon moves into Leo on Monday, bringing out our generous and caring sides. It can also bring out hidden ego desires, so be careful to think before you speak! The Moon will move through Virgo Tuesday through Thursday, calling on us to pay closer attention to detail, get organized, and make sure everyone around us has what they need. It’s also the ideal time to address health or computer issues, as these activities are ruled by Virgo. Venus will move into Leo on Thursday, encouraging us to change things up and shine a light on our uniqueness. Want to dye your hair blue? Sure, why not? Balance will be the theme as the Moon moves through Libra on Friday and Saturday, while spirituality and metaphysics will rule the day under Sunday’s Scorpio Moon.

Why Our Life on Earth Affects Us in the Afterlife, by Kristy Robinett

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

The phrase "Rest in Peace" (or R.I.P.) originated from the Latin, "Requiescat in pace," which comes from a prayer within the Roman Catholic burial liturgy that means "may he (or she) rest in peace." It is an adage we often use when we hear someone has passed away. The acronym R.I.P is appropriately how the living feel–their life, their heart, and sometimes their soul, feeling ripped apart when their loved one transitions to the other side. Death may be peaceful for those on their afterlife journey, but not so much for those living with the heartache.

Just as we all have our own unique birth story, our life, and our journey to the afterlife, and subsequent life after life is just as unique. Through the heavenly signs and symbols that our loved ones share from the afterlife, the mourner is gifted with the assurance that there is an afterlife and a tentative feeling their loved one is okay on the other side. These are reminders that there are no such thing as random coincidences, but instead well-planned, heavenly hellos. But are the souls on the other side truly at peace and are they really resting in the afterlife? That answer, according to the departed, seems to depend upon how well the living did with their lessons of living.

The Other Side can be split up into three sectors: Heaven, Hell, and the In Between (often referred to as Purgatory). Obviously, for many of us, our first choice would be heaven; however, the other two become an option as well when we take our last earthly breath and breathe in the eternal. It's not necessarily a ledger of our good deeds that determine our destination; it's our own soul-set. Create Your Heaven
Heaven is what you make of it. Take a moment and close your eyes and envision the most beautiful sunset or sunrise you've ever seen. Think of the feeling you feel when you are with someone who is aligned to you. Feel the energy of the biggest belly laugh. Imagine your favorite scent, your favorite food, your favorite memory, or your favorite vacation. Those glimpses of experiences are a tiny taste of what Heaven is like. Just as we shouldn't waste our days away waiting for summer, or for Friday, or for someone to fall in love with us, or for happiness, we also shouldn't wait for heaven to find our heaven. The more that those who have departed have shared with us, the more of an outline we can create for our heaven, and the easier it becomes to so-call "build" it.

The In Between
Fear is paralyzing. Some of the fears may not be as abstract as worry over a zombie apocalypse, but they are real and true worries and fears. Those fears start as kids with fearing our parents will die, to worries about failing a class, to fear of the boogie man in the closet. Those fears can continue into adulthood. Will I ever find love? Will I lose my job? If I lose my job will anybody hire me? Will I die before my child is grown? Will I lose my house? The fears and worries escalade as time continues and that stress does something, although most of the time not seen (especially if you have a great hair colorist!), to your soul, your spirit, and your physical body. It puts stress on your system, just as high temperatures do to ice, and can cause an eventual cave in if you don't watch it. The stress also stops the flow of what you do want in your life. By holding on to the fear, the worries, and the what-ifs, you sabotage your true wishes from ever coming true, and this can continue into the afterlife.

There is often a fear of what will happen when one passes away, and whether there's a choice to walk in to the light or to not walk in to the light. Those who have departed have described the In Between differently. Some have felt it was a lonely and fearful place. Others described it as a healing place, much like the recovery room after surgery. All have said that they never felt at home in the In Between, unlike the description from those who walked in to the light to their heaven.

The Dark Place
Just as you create your life, you can create your hell as much as you can create your heaven.

Have you ever met someone who is miserable every day, all day long? No matter what good happens they find fault in something, sometimes everything? They live within their own personal hell, a place of uncomfortable comfort for them. Some are frightened of them and for them, while others offer sympathy and comfort. It's hard for those who only see darkness to welcome in positivity or enlightenment. If they don't know what peace feels like here, how will they discover it on the other side where we are to take our lessons here and use them along our quest?

Nobody is given a map of life, but we are all given the same tools to discover our path. Some choose a less than restful path, while others choose an expansive eternity. There are those who created darkness here in the earthly plane, and most likely carried that darkness with them into their afterlife. The departed have spoken to tell me they don't get a key card to the doors of the dark place, nor do they want one.

Advice from the Departed for a Soulful Life
The souls have offered advice to those in the earthly place so they can actually live and their other side be filled with life.

1. Spend more time with good thoughts.
2. Let go of what isn't working.
3. Be kind, including to yourself.
4. Find time each day to find your inner peace.
5. Bring joy, love, and laughter to each experience.
6. Forgive yourself for failures.
7. You can start over on any day, at any time.

Death is not a wall, death is a doorway. Lessons aren't punishment, but enlightenment. We first must be able to find our peace here on earth so we can rest in peace in the afterlife.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2018. All rights reserved.

I am very empathic, and think I have the ability to "assume people's emotions." When someone loves me, I love them, and when someone is sad, I become sad. At times it's hard to differentiate my own feelings from others' feelings. I've just started to realize that in the past, I have gotten into relationships only because I felt the attraction the other person was feeling, and eventually, my own true feelings would emerge. I'm now in love with a girl, and am worried that perhaps this relationship is entirely based on how SHE feels. I don't think it is, but I can't tell the difference. Any advice? I'm thinking about leaving her until I figure out what is really going on in my own heart.

- Antony

Dreamchaser:

Since my daughter is a very powerful empath, I know the struggle you go through separating your emotions from someone else's. It can be an incredibly difficult process. Unless someone is an empath or has close ties to an empath, this may sound silly. I, however, fully understand your plight here.

I suggest that you go with your first idea. Explain to her that you are an empath and tell her exactly what you told us. Explain that you have gotten into relationships because of the love you felt from the other person, and then things turned out to be one-sided. Tell her that you need some time away to determine what you actually feel for her.

At that point, you should immediately picture yourself in "The Bubble." I know I have written about this numerous times in this column, but it bears repeating.

My bubble is made out of purple water. It completely surrounds me, and I am in a state of suspension inside of the bubble. My energy can get out, but no one else's energy can get in and affect me.

When I'm giving readings, I pretty much stay in this bubble. It preserves my energy and keeps me strong and whole for the next client and the one after that, etc.

So pick your favorite color and material and create a mental bubble of your very own. Imagine yourself stepping into this bubble and it sealing up around you. Just stay in this bubble the entire time you are away from this woman.

If you do that, her energy can't get to or affect you in any way. Whatever you feel will be solely YOUR feelings. That way you will be able to determine what is coming from you versus what is coming from her.

As a matter of fact, this works with ANY situation. For an empath, a bubble can be INVALUABLE. When you get to feeling too much energy from the world, situations or a person in particular, step into your bubble. It will really make your life much easier.

As you stay in your bubble, you are going to get clearer and clearer about your feelings and your relationship with this woman. You will also be able to analyze her actions and feelings, and really get a good grip on what is what in this relationship.

If you eliminate all that outside energy, you will be much better equipped to deal with the deeper reality in this situation. I suggest you stay in this bubble and out of contact with this woman for at least two weeks. That will give you both time to figure out what you really want.

Frankly, I think she needs this time as much as you do, for she has been carried away on waves of your psychic energy too.

I wish you calm clarity.

*****

Astrea:

Being empathetic is part of the human condition. When our friends love us, we usually return that love, and when they're sad, we are too.

What you describe isn't any different from what the rest of us feel - it's what you're doing with it that is blocking you from achieving a fulfilling relationship with this girl you say you "love."

You say that in your other relationships, eventually you would realize that the person you "love" because she "loves" you isn't the person you want to be with. It sounds to me like what actually happens is you get swept along with the other person's desires.

A true empath doesn't get carried away like that, and while he might UNDERSTAND and FEEL the emotions of the other person, he would not internalize them and take them on himself.

Empaths delve into other people's hopes and fears to try to help those people get in touch with their OWN feelings. They take on those people's feelings while maintaining their own emotional integrity. It takes years of study and practice to do that, and it doesn't just "happen" to them.

A true empath would not feel romantic love for another person because that person feels it for them. They would help that person work through their misplaced feelings of love in order to move on.

A true empath would never entertain such a thought as reciprocating love from another, and would absolutely know what was going on. To take advantage of another in that way would be a horrible betrayal of the empath's gift!

What YOU are in this situation is CONFUSED. You say "I'm now in love with a girl, but worried that the love is based on what SHE feels." Well, are you in love with her or not?

It certainly sounds like you tend to think you're in love, then become bored and dissatisfied, and instead of taking responsibility for your own feelings, you blame this "empathy" you have for others. While that is a very creative excuse for breaking up with someone with whom you've become disinterested, it's still an excuse.

What you're actually doing is not empathy. It's a passive aggressive attempt blame the other person for the break-up. You say you're "thinking of leaving her" because you're confused. Face it, friend - you're thinking of leaving her because you WANT to leave her.

Own up to that and tell the girl you're unsure of your own feelings. It really doesn't have anything to do with her. If you can uncover your own HONEST feelings about this situation and share them with her, perhaps she'll wait for you to sort things out.

If she loves you, I know she'll try!

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.