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Creating a Magical Room for Love, by Mabel Iam

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Magic is the art of using the energies provided by nature and the universe. When blocked energy becomes free, it produces pleasure and is hence welcomed by those around you. Successfully finding the right mate is a process that has three main steps. But before you undertake these steps, you need to create the conditions that will enable you to establish a deep spiritual rapport with someone special.

You must:

• Create clear affirmations of the person you're looking for
• Create your own magical "love room"
• Invoke the man/woman of your dreams on a daily basis

When you are looking for a space in which to create a magical love room, it is essential that any such space fits your liking. It must be a place where you feel protected and comfortable. Pay attention to your intuition when choosing a magical room for love. If possible, it should be kept secret—hidden from other members of your household.

Take the necessary time to choose your magical love room, visualize it, and decide what you want in it. Think of things that are significant to you and qualities you want in your ideal mate or perfect lover. In your sacred room, you will be able to experience who you are and who you might be; to transcend your daily needs and enlighten your spirit.

Houses or rooms—just like your body—need good color, lighting, furnishing, and ornaments. Your room must reflect your lifestyle. Plus, your magical love nest needs to have objects that activate romance and sensuality. For example, the bedroom can be decorated with plants whose stems are entwined or a sculpture of two embraced lovers. But basically, your sacred room must have an altar: a small table (preferably wooden), a candleholder (preferably metal); a saucer with earth or salt, a vase with water, perfume, plants, flowers, incense, a sacred symbol or image, and candles. It is said that the preparation of the altar creates the necessary energy for a sex ritual. Setting up your sacred room is a creative process.

The way in which you use the sacred room and the role it plays in your life is deeply personal. That's why there are so many differences in the ways people go about preparing and energizing the place.

Strict rituals can be carried out to purify the sacred place. You can burn herbs or hold special ceremonies to sanctify the altar (for example, during full moons, equinoxes, and solstices). You can also burn incense and use the smoke to purify it, play a drum, or ring bells. Your practices will change as your spiritual experience improves, from formal purification and cleansing rituals to simple prayers or invocations. Undoubtedly, the best way to energize your sacred room has to do with your personal style and habits.

Here are some suggestions to energize and renovate your sacred room daily:

• Burn incense
• Play an instrument, which helps to change and heighten the place's energy
• Ring a bell
• Sing or play your favorite love songs
• Decorate your room with flowers
• Fill vases with water and place them throughout the room
• Scatter crystals and gems
• Frame and display photographs of spiritual teachers you admire
• Display sacred letters
• Create cards with words or drawings that describe your wishes and goals
• Burn colored candles
• Incorporate things that remind you of love, like snapshots of happy times

Create a sacred space in your heart that will open your life and manifest an encounter with your perfect lover.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2004. All rights reserved.

My father keeps harping on me for not believing in Satan. He is Roman Catholic, and Satan is a big part of his religion. I told him that I choose to praise the Creator and enjoy the Creation instead, but would like to say something he would believe so he can free himself from worrying about evil all the time. Can you help?

- Dorota

Dreamchaser:

As your father is zealous in his Roman Catholic beliefs, you're not going to be able to change his mind about them with some magical statement.

Besides, it's important to recognize that his beliefs are probably just right for his soul at this time in this life. He may not be meant to see things your way in this lifetime. He also has free will, and could choose to never see things your way. Just because he does not see things as you do does not mean that he is not being just as true to himself as you are.

It's very hard to watch people who do not "live on the same plane" as we do.
We naturally want to change them, and believe that doing so would change the world for the better.

We want to shine a light on how their fear, doubt, lack of faith, and reliance on outside sources of support and guidance are limiting their experience of life. Despite all of this, we must respect their choices and their personal spiritual paths.

In my line of work, I often find myself telling a client the same thing month after month, year after year. I just keep repeating the truth. Eventually, most of those clients will have a "Eureka moment" when they finally hear that truth and filter it into their consciousness and being. It is great fun for me to watch when that happens.

You need to just continue radiating YOUR truth. The best way to lead is by example. Live your life with a great sense of responsibility for your actions. Be the best person you can be. In time, he will see by your actions that you are living a "good" spiritual life. Let your actions speak for your truth.

Above all, recognize that your father is standing very strong in what he believes to be important, and give him some credit for his convictions. Respect his right to believe whatever he wants to believe, even if you do not agree with it.

Now it's time for a brief history lesson. Before the Crusades, there were the country dwellers. These people were later renamed "pagans" by the Crusaders. They were persecuted for worshipping in the Old Ways.

One hunting method that these country dwellers employed involved tying antlers to their heads. They would then move very slowly into a herd so they could easily hunt game. When they killed an animal, they would give thanks to the "God of the Hunt." He was depicted as half man, half deer; he had cloven feet and antlers (horns).

The Crusaders took this "God" and turned him into a vile and evil creature. Basically, everything the country dwellers did was retooled into something that was considered "evil." The Crusaders also gave this pagan god of the hunt a new name: the devil.

I wish for you what the Crusaders lacked: acceptance of ALL belief systems.

*****

Astrea:

"The Book of Enoch," one of the apocryphal texts left out of the Bible, can offer us an enlightening view of all the angels, including Satan. Though it's just another book of stories, it helped me view this subject in a new way.

Your dad might never read it, but I highly recommend that you do so you have some ammunition when this Satan discussion arises. If your dad is open-minded enough to read it, it would help him understand that Satan is just a character in a story designed to explain the nature of good and evil.

What can you say to your dad so he's not so obsessed with evil doings? I suggest you try this: Who IS this devil, anyway? Where is he? Does he have an office? Is he evil, personified? Where is the proof of that?

Jesus was a person in history; we know he lived, walked, taught and died here. Where is the devil's existence recorded in history? Remind your dad that there is no proof that the devil ever existed.

The only satanic force in the world is the evil we allow into our own hearts and minds. If we "rebuke" Satan as St. Michael the Archangel did, he shouldn't be a bothersome part of our lives at all.

No doubt there IS evil in the world, but it is created by MAN. Satan is an EXCUSE. You're probably too young to remember when people said, "The devil made me do it" and people actually accepted that. Doesn't that sound SILLY?

People do what they do because they WANT to do it. There are evil people on Earth, and there always will be, but they are evil on their own!

I don't know why some Christians are so fixated on Satan. I wish they would realize that sending him so much energy by worrying about what he's up to is just plain foolish. My daughter-in-law is a fundamental Christian (and a real challenge for our family!), and even SHE agrees with that. She says you have to "close that door" to keep Satan out of your life.

Ever since my Daddy accused her of being "a devil worshipper because you talk about him so much'" she's lightened up on that subject. You could try saying THAT to your dad.

Ask him to replace his Satan talk with God talk for a week, and if he manages to do it, ask him if he feels better about life. I'll bet he does! By speaking of blessings and focusing on the divine instead of talking about Satan and wallowing in negativity, his whole attitude on this subject may change.

While it's admirable that your dad wants to fight Satan, as a Roman Catholic, he's got a whole pantheon of saints and angels to do that job for him, so if he really believes in all of that, he shouldn't EVER be worried!

You're brave to try to change his mind. If you manage it, I'm sure the whole family will benefit from the blessings that follow.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.