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There are a lot of astrological activities going on this week, beginning with the Sun's move into Gemini on Monday. This will set the stage for four weeks of heightened communication and the urge to learn all we can about everything! Gemini's trait of curiosity will prevail, and we're sure to learn some amazing things in the process! The Moon will dance through Scorpio on Monday and Tuesday, which could bring an intense energy with it. Let's try to pace ourselves and not get caught up in details or timelines, as this energy can have us moving at lightning speed but not making much progress. The Moon waxes full in Sagittarius on Thursday, followed by Venus' move into Gemini. Sagittarius and Gemini are fun and light-hearted signs, so we should feel a calmer and more flowing energy during the second half of the week. A Capricorn Moon prevails over the weekend, which is a good thing as Jupiter moves into Gemini and Saturn moves into Aries on Saturday. These two transitions could create a bit of upheaval but thanks to the Capricorn Moon, we should be able to traverse them with ease!

Past Lives: Some Helpful Information, by Marilou Trask-Curtin

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

A short while ago I had a phone call from a friend who had read of the upcoming release of my book Reincarnation: One Woman's Exploration of her Past Lives. Deep into the upbeat conversation she admitted to me that she had always had both a fascination and a fear of the subject of reincarnation. She also admitted, somewhat hesitantly, that she had always wanted to try a past life regression but was worried about the results she might be given—meaning that she didn't want to hear she had been a really nasty person in another incarnation. She was also concerned about the trust factor with a regression therapist and wanted information on what a session felt like, and any other details I could give her.

I was happy to oblige, and gave her information from my own experiences. Of course I alerted her to the fact that a past life regression would be different for each individual, and once she said she understood that we were off.

I began by telling her that it had been a huge step for me to begin regression sessions back in the 1980s (and this despite the fact that I had been brought into the presence of a person ideally suited for the job of leading me onto the next magical part of my spiritual journey). I admitted to my fear of finding out about my previous incarnations, but I also had to admit to a feeling of trust in the timing of the whole thing; I stated that I believed in that saying, "When the student is ready the master will appear." This trust I had in the absolute synchronicity of meeting my therapist had translated to a feeling of trust in the man and in the panorama of events playing out in my life at that time.

I then told her something I had learned after my regression sessions: a way to find clues to past lives from her present lifetime—clues often present since early childhood. It was a very simple technique and required no other person to be involved.

I told her to ask herself four questions:

1. What things deeply interested her? (Music, art, writing, any job or hobby she would be willing to do for hours and that gave her a sense of time being non-existent)
2. What time periods of history held a fascination for her?
3. What periods of history or even specific geographic locations made her uncomfortable or even repulsed?
4. What scared her? (Here would be things like fire, water, heights and so forth)

As examples I told her of my youthful fascination with ancient Egypt and medieval times. I touched on my terror of water and my almost equal fear of childbirth that had been present since I was very young. I loved writing and reading, and as a four- or five-year-old had enjoyed copying text over onto a notepad. So, it was not a surprise to me when after my regression sessions ended most of my loves and fears were echoed in my past lives.

She was amazed and said that she would begin to write out a list of answers to the four questions that very night. She admitted it was a comfort knowing that she could get a handle on her past lives by following these easy steps.

Then she wanted to know more about what a regression session actually felt like. Again, I told her I could only speak from my own experience and that a session would most likely be very different for her.

My initial regression session actually began without much warning. I had gone for an appointment with the regression therapist so that we could talk about reincarnation, ghosts, and so forth. During the appointment he told me he would like permission to regress me immediately, and that request catapulted me into something akin to both fear and fascination. Of course, I decided to take that first step and never looked back. And yes, I told my friend, there was an element of trust and also of being aware on a soul level that this was somehow the right time for me to be going through this experience.

As for what it felt like to be regressed, I have a favorite sentence for what I experienced: "It was like being awake/asleep." I was both aware and alert to my physical self being in the office of my therapist, but I was also fully living and being present in the times and circumstances I was regressed to. I had full and total awareness of feelings of sun warmth on my body, scents of flowers, cold winter winds, and so forth. I interacted with the people I met in each time period and they interacted with me. Some of it was like playing a role in a movie of my past selves, and yet also watching that story play out. It had some fearful moments but even then I had a safety net in place with my therapist who had given me instructions on how to deal with those moments. And even when I moved into the phases of a lifetime where I was transitioning to death, there were boundaries in place that made that not seem so bad.

I concluded by stating that I truly believed that my regressions had been a necessary part of my life journey. The time spent in these sessions brought me into great understanding of myself as an eternal and immortal being. I learned many valuable lessons about myself and my fellow humans during those months with my therapist. Most importantly, I learned that we had been taught wrongly about ourselves—that we were not bodies with souls but rather we were souls using a physical body to gain experiences in lifetime after lifetime.

This knowledge changed my entire outlook on life and death, and from that I continue to grow and learn every day of my life during this incarnation.

My friend was quiet after my explanation and then uttered a soft, "Wow."

I continued with a little more advice sensing she might like it. I admitted that I had been very fortunate because of the timing of various mentors who came into my life just after I had had a third near death experience. And then my regression therapist entering my life in the way he did and at the precise time that my soul was ready for him to appear was a continuation of the miracle of timing. He was a professional man and a certified hypnotherapist and he led me carefully yet firmly along the path I needed to follow for the next phase of my journey in this incarnation. He opened my eyes to the vastness of eternity and brought me to understanding of so many of the fears, loves, and ideals that were a part of my present lifetime. Without this knowledge I might have stumbled through my life unmindful of so many things that would have probably impeded my soul's growth. Without my regressions I knew my life would have been mostly one dimensional and devoid of a greater understanding. I will be forever grateful to my mentors and my therapist for being the lights I needed in my life.

My friend wanted to know how she could find a past life regression therapist. I told her that the first place to start might be locally. Many cities—even the smaller ones—often have a good base of spiritually enlightened people. The world has thankfully changed a great deal as it regards spiritual communities since the time I was undergoing regression sessions. Contacting one of these groups is usually relatively easy.

There are also online sources, and in this more modern time, past life readings can also be done at a distance and often without the need to be regressed by hypnosis or in an office.

I cautioned my friend to make sure that any therapist she may choose is one she has checked out. If the therapist has a website, check it out. Read any testimonials there. Call the person and speak with them on the phone. Where did they get their training? Could you have a reference or two to speak with about the therapist's work with them?

If the therapist asks for any info other than perhaps your name or phone number or email address (some may ask for a date of birth) give that info but no more. Readings can be sent as an email attachment and they don't usually require a physical address. Never give out your social security number. My therapist knew my name, date of birth, and mailing address and that was it.

Find out the cost for the session or sessions. The cost should not be exorbitant.

By the time our conversation was winding up, my friend had decided to write out her list of answers to the four questions and go ahead and seek out a regression therapist. I wished her the very best of luck as she began the next phase of her spiritual journey. I told her that I admired her courage and her open-mindedness, and she thanked me for my time and promised to order my book—for which I thanked her.

When we spoke a few months later, she told me she had found a marvelous regression therapist who was out of state and doing long distance sessions with her. Amazingly enough she had discovered a lifetime spent in ancient Egypt, and so far not one "nasty" thing had been uncovered about her past incarnations.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2014. All rights reserved.

I'm struggling with something that is deeply personal in nature. I've been married for 11 years now, and we have three children. About seven years ago, I had an affair. After a while, we broke it off because we didn't want to hurt anyone. Since then, however, I've gone from one affair to another. I feel I'm searching for something, but I don't know what it is. I hate that I'm doing this, but I can't seem to stop. I love my husband and he loves me, but I still feel like something really essential is missing. I know that being dishonest and "cheating" is wrong, but it feels like a deeper, truer part of myself - my soul or spirit - is insisting that I seek something more. I'm hoping you can help me figure out what I'm searching for and how I can find it. Thank you!
- T.

Dreamchaser:

Basically, you are seeking unconditional love. It is something you have never known, felt or experienced.

Though you are looking high and low, trying to fulfill this deep need for unconditional love, you are never going to find it outside of yourself. You think that the affairs are going to bring it to you, but they are not.

You need to find this divine love inside of yourself. Finding personal unconditional love inside of yourself is a matter of knowing you are enough just the way you are, that you don't have to change or become more or better or anything like that. You have worth and value just because you are who you really are, not because of what you do or don't do.

What you want is that higher power/Christ Energy - whatever term you want to use. It is available to everyone, but each of us must find our own way to access it. It is called many things, but in essence, it is the spirit of unconditional love.

Sadly, very few people actually find it, but practically everyone will try one way or another to chase after it.

You know you are walking on a tightrope here. It's only a matter of time before you lose everything you value most in your life. You will lose your family, and you won't gain anything as wonderful in return.

You want people in your life to show you unconditional love because you do not have it inside of yourself FOR yourself. Unless you find it inside, you will be on an endless search for it, and move from man to man, relationship to relationship.

I recommend you take one day a week if possible, or at least 15 minutes a day, and do something just for you that demonstrates love for yourself. You are always doing for everyone else in your house. Do something just for you. That is a good way to start.

I also recommend you buy a book called Living Through the Meantime by Iyanla Vanzant. It's sort of a workbook, and it will really help you get to the crux of your issues with love and self-worth.

Now we need to address the negative stuff you feel about yourself. Guilt and self-hate are huge soul eaters. They are like termites of the soul. You feel elated when you meet a new man and start a new relationship, but very soon the shine wears off and you get to feeling bad again.

Then you look at your family and feel deep guilt. As the excitement starts to wear off the new relationship, it peters out, and then you start the cycle again.

Having these affairs only makes you feel good in the moment. What you're looking for in these affairs is a way to be truly happy. That's what your soul is seeking. I think that is why you came here looking for answers.

Get that book and take some time for yourself so you can figure out things you REALLY love to do.

I wish you TRUE peace and contentment.

*****

Astrea:

I don't think you're looking for someone to tell you what you're doing is wrong, or to judge you for doing it, either. You've already decided and judged yourself.

Trying to soothe yourself with the idea that some "message from Spirit" is causing you to have affairs isn't going to help you stop. While it's easy to give in to the feeling that this is "bigger" than you are, and something you seek because you are SUPPOSED to, that doesn't make it right. What you are doing is wrong TO your husband and bad FOR you.

If in a past life you were part of a harem, or a prostitute or a priestess, and the behavior is still in your spirit, it might explain your compulsion to keep having these affairs. When I look, I can't find ANY connection like that for you, however.

If you try past life regression with someone who knows their stuff, you may find a recurring theme in your past lives that sheds light on this. Otherwise, you're just having affairs because it's become a compulsion. Perhaps you feel the need to misbehave because you need to keep guilt alive and well in your life.

From your question, I can tell that you are an intelligent, caring woman. It's okay to be bored in your marriage. It's sad, but it happens all the time. It is NOT okay for a woman who is responsible for three children to have affair after affair with ANYONE, especially these days.

Even if your husband was a horrible person, he wouldn't deserve to be treated this way. Your children deserve the best you can give them, and you do too! Of course you love your husband and you don't want a divorce. You don't want to put him, your children or yourself through that trauma.

One PROBLEM is you don't feel fulfilled in your relationship with him, and I don't know how you can change that, since he doesn't fulfill you in a "soulful" way.

You say you broke off the affair seven years ago because the two of you didn't want to hurt anyone. Well, YOU are hurt! You're STILL hurting yourself with these affairs as surely as if you were obsessed with any other kind of self-destructive behavior.

You've made cheating your lifestyle all these years, so it's become a HABIT. Like smoking or drinking alcohol, bad habits can be extremely hard to break.

You're not searching for authentic love - you're giving in to an addiction.
Because you KNOW it's wrong, it's VERY wrong for you. No matter what it takes, you have to stop.

I'm not qualified to diagnose such a thing, but from what you say, it sounds like sex addiction is your real problem. Based on what I was able to read about it, this can be caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain or some trauma you suffered in childhood.

That sort of problem requires professional help, so get into therapy before it's too late.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.