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July 7 through July 13, 2025

Monday opens on a high note as innovative Uranus makes a move into intellect-rich Gemini. This powerful planet will be in Gemini until November, then retrograde back into Taurus for six months before it finally re-enters Gemini where it will spend the next seven years. This is a cycle where new inventions, breakthroughs in the medical field, and sweeping changes on a global level are all possible. Though we may not notice its effects this Monday, we can be sure that new methods for communication and expression of ideas will begin to emerge. In fact, AI has been a precursor to this astrological shift, with more to come! We also have a few other things going on this week, including a Capricorn full Moon on Thursday and Saturn turning retrograde on Saturday. The particular full Moon in Capricorn will highlight physical stability, asking us to look at how our actions are contributing to the sense of well-being and financial security in our lives. If we have been neglecting our finances or health, the next two weeks are ideal for bringing those back into balance. Saturn will turn retrograde on Saturday, reminding us to evaluate our boundaries and how to use limits to achieve our goals.

3 Ways to Find Your Calm, by Angela A. Wix

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Do you feel anxious or stressed? Are you struggling with chronic pain or have trouble sleeping? Do you have looping negative thoughts and worries? Perhaps you're constantly in a time crunch, or you've recently realized your life seems to be perpetually fueled by adrenaline from an underlying sense of panic. Trauma, fried nerves, feeling wired, on edge, unsafe, overwhelmed, exhausted—this list could go on and on, but I'm sure by now you get the point. If any of this seems to be ringing a bell, you're not alone, and it's time you take a pause for a moment to find your calm.

Whether you're facing heightened anxiety and panic attacks, burnt out with responsibility and the pace of modern life, or struggling with any number of our current world challenges and traumas, finding your calm has become a vital act.

The thing about finding your calm, though, is that it's a highly individual act.

We've all heard the standard offerings: take a deep breath, meditate, think positively, exercise, drink water, cut out caffeine, get enough sleep. The list is so often repeated that it practically writes itself! But finding what actually works for you within the details of those various recommendations can prove to be more complex.

The fact is, deep breathing may actually worsen anxiety for some people, and if you have PTSD, meditation could leave you re-triggered by traumatic memories. Positive thinking can sometimes become a counter-productive, slippery slope to toxic positivity if you disregard emotions like anger, frustration, grief, or sadness that are trying to help you understand your authentic needs. Even the seemingly obvious recommendation around caffeine isn't so black-and-white, as it can actually help some neurodiverse individuals manage challenging symptoms, such as poor concentration and hyperactivity.

In the end, finding your calm is a very personal thing. The traditional recommendations might work perfectly for you, and if so, great! But if you feel like you're still exploring what does or doesn't work for you, and you'd like to find some new things to try, here are a few ideas.

1. Make a Love List
   I have a terrible memory and find it somewhat amusing that this also means I frequently completely forget what it is that I enjoy. Keeping a running list of things that I love helps me refocus when I'm lost for ways to self-soothe. I think this is a practice we all can benefit from. Even if you have an excellent memory, when we're stressed or in the low swings of depression, it can be especially difficult to think of those things that might give us a boost of positivity.Break it down! What did you love as a kid or where do you get lost in time now? Don't limit yourself. Think people, places, things, activities, shows, books, feelings, etc. My list includes everything from holiday décor and musical theater to dogs, biking, soft blankets, and the sound of fabric being cut with scissors. Keep your list handy for whenever something new is experienced or comes to mind and add to it as you go!
2. Tap into Music
   Try to think of a song that taps into a really happy time in your life. Maybe it's a wedding song, something you played on repeat in the car with your friends as a teenager, or a playlist you used to listen to during holidays with family.For me, the theme songs to Full House and Reading Rainbow are two jingles that are guaranteed to get me to pause, slow my breath, and smile from the heart. They bring to mind some of the coziest times with my family. I also get this feeling from holiday music, a favorite movie soundtrack, and an old CD that I used to listen to at night as a kid in the quiet of my bedroom as I went to sleep.

   As you consider what your selected music might be that puts you in your place of calm, keep in mind that this doesn't necessarily mean the music itself is of a calming style. The key is that it imparts a sense of happiness, peace, or pleasant nostalgia that leaves you yourself in a more centered state of mind.

3. Combine for a Calming Practice
   Combining those two details, find a practice that leaves you feeling still, centered, and happy. Look back to your list of loved things and pull out one detail that you can act on right now. Pair it with some of your music if you can, and experience it together in this moment. Pay attention to how this combination affects you.In my own experience, I paired a loved visual with a calming soundtrack. I'm very sensory sensitive, and love sparkly things. As a kid I was captivated by a small, fiber-optic tree that played a holiday song. I used to go into a dark room, wind it up, and watch it at length, absorbing the tinkling sound of "Oh Christmas Tree" set against the transition of light and color. I recently received a fiber-optic decoration and was surprised by how completely absorbed I still am by this type of visual. Set against some of my favorite music, I sat, watched, and listened in a state of peace and joy. As someone with inattentive focus and an absolutely noisy mind, it felt like magic and is a practice I now love to come back to when I need to recenter.

   What about you?

Hopefully this brief practice will leave you with a place to start, but don't forget to keep looking for what works for you. Maybe that means exploring aromatherapy, chakra work, astrology, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), your innate body wisdom, empathic self, and the wonders of the vagus nerve. You can explore these and even more relaxation methods by checking out the book Finding Your Calm.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2023. All rights reserved.

I'm a fairly meek and mild person by nature, yet I seem to have dream rage. I tend to keep a lot of thoughts about things that happen to me and around me to myself, because I don't want to upset the apple cart. So I internalize a lot of my thoughts and feelings, which then seem to come out in my dreams. I get highly emotional in dreams and tell people exactly what I think of them and how they make me feel. Sometimes I even wake up crying because I'm so upset. Is this a healthy, appropriate way to release pent up emotions? Do feelings actually get processed when we release them in the dream state?

Thanks!

Lisa

Dreamchaser:

Venting frustration is a good thing, provided it does not physically or emotionally hurt someone else. I feel your dreams are telling you that you are TOO meek and mild in your waking hours. You were raised to be seen and not heard, to believe that women do not get angry, that we have to accept that "bad" things happen, and that anger is a "bad" thing. You are still living out that childhood training as an adult.

You need to face your own anger, Lisa. Doing this won't hurt you. I use a really simple method in my house. I get a big floor pillow or a pile of blankets, then I get a plastic bat and begin to pound away on the pillow. As I am pounding, I am verbally expressing how I feel. Most of the time, I wind up yelling, sweating and crying. It is a very healing process. I recommend it!

I also want you to look closely at WHY you hold your negative feelings in. You say you don't want to "upset the apple cart," but why? What are you scared the outside world will see in you? There is so much happening under the surface that you are afraid to look at. Once you see it and face it dead on, it will lose its power over you.

Holding in any type of emotion can lead to illness. My adoptive mother was incredibly sad and lonely most of her life. She would cry alone almost every day. She died of cancer at a very young age. My birth mother worked herself ragged her whole life, and had no time for personal attachments. She had a heart attack at a very young age, but she survived.

I'm sure both women manifested these illnesses by not honoring their true thoughts and feelings. My birth mother agrees that she created her own illness this way. She tells me all the time to vent what I feel, eat right, and maintain a good balance between work, fun and rest. If we are sick on the inside, it WILL manifest in our outer experience sooner or later. This could mean we get a simple cold, or it could mean something serious.

I'm not saying that by venting our true feelings we will never get sick. I'm saying that it is healthier on every level to express our truth.

I wish you successful venting.

*****

Astrea:

Lisa, our emotions are definitely processed in our dreams! Two centuries of psychiatric research back that up. A person can only take SO MUCH without blowing sky high. Your subconscious has relegated all the feelings you consider "ugly" to your dreams, where you feel "safe" doing what you can't do while you're awake. This often happens when we fail to set healthy boundaries in relationships. While there is nothing wrong with processing your feelings in your dreams, it doesn't solve any of the issues you're experiencing in your waking life.

In dreams you can tell people you don't like how you really feel about them. When you're awake, you're like most of us; you don't want to UPSET anyone! By letting your subconscious process your deepest feelings of anger and frustration, you release some of these intense emotions.

Is this good for you? It depends how you're processing other issues in your life. If someone is hurting you every day, wouldn't it be better to remove that toxic person from your Harmony? You must choose to either get OUT of that relationship or learn to stand up for yourself while you're awake. Sometimes we must TEACH people how to treat us better by facing our fears and letting them know our real feelings. Sometimes people don't want to learn to treat us with more respect, and then it's time to examine why we decided to be around them in the first place.

Of course, you can't divorce your family and most of us can't afford to quit our jobs so we can choose nicer employers and coworkers. I recommend you surround those people with mirrors in your mind, so that their negativity is reflected back to them. Surround yourself with White Light so that nasty people can't invade your Harmony. As you get stronger in your own resolve, those nasty people will start to remove themselves from your life, and you'll really be better off without them!

No one enjoys confronting people who seem to go out of their way to make us miserable, but we all have to learn to do that sooner or later. By making better choices for ourselves, we draw better people into our lives.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.