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June 23 through June 29, 2025

The week opens under a Gemini Moon, and that being said, we’ll be all talk and no action on Monday and Tuesday. The urge to socialize, surf the web (YouTube rabbit hole, I’m just sayin…), and explore the unknown will be a theme. Wednesday’s Cancer new Moon is the perfect time to make a wish, as it generates two weeks of new beginnings and magical happenings! Mercury will move into Leo on Thursday, which could bring out our dramatic sides and cause us to exaggerate or make promises we can’t make. Best to think before you speak, and not make any commitments you aren’t quite sure of for the next couple of weeks. Friday and Saturday unfold under a Leo Moon, which will bring out our generous and humanitarian sides. Look around to see how your loved ones are doing and if they could use your help or at the very least, a little “pep” talk! Sunday is all about getting organized as the Moon travels through Virgo, so make it a point to clear out that closet, organize those files, or declutter the garage!

3 Ways to Find Your Calm, by Angela A. Wix

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Do you feel anxious or stressed? Are you struggling with chronic pain or have trouble sleeping? Do you have looping negative thoughts and worries? Perhaps you're constantly in a time crunch, or you've recently realized your life seems to be perpetually fueled by adrenaline from an underlying sense of panic. Trauma, fried nerves, feeling wired, on edge, unsafe, overwhelmed, exhausted—this list could go on and on, but I'm sure by now you get the point. If any of this seems to be ringing a bell, you're not alone, and it's time you take a pause for a moment to find your calm.

Whether you're facing heightened anxiety and panic attacks, burnt out with responsibility and the pace of modern life, or struggling with any number of our current world challenges and traumas, finding your calm has become a vital act.

The thing about finding your calm, though, is that it's a highly individual act.

We've all heard the standard offerings: take a deep breath, meditate, think positively, exercise, drink water, cut out caffeine, get enough sleep. The list is so often repeated that it practically writes itself! But finding what actually works for you within the details of those various recommendations can prove to be more complex.

The fact is, deep breathing may actually worsen anxiety for some people, and if you have PTSD, meditation could leave you re-triggered by traumatic memories. Positive thinking can sometimes become a counter-productive, slippery slope to toxic positivity if you disregard emotions like anger, frustration, grief, or sadness that are trying to help you understand your authentic needs. Even the seemingly obvious recommendation around caffeine isn't so black-and-white, as it can actually help some neurodiverse individuals manage challenging symptoms, such as poor concentration and hyperactivity.

In the end, finding your calm is a very personal thing. The traditional recommendations might work perfectly for you, and if so, great! But if you feel like you're still exploring what does or doesn't work for you, and you'd like to find some new things to try, here are a few ideas.

1. Make a Love List
   I have a terrible memory and find it somewhat amusing that this also means I frequently completely forget what it is that I enjoy. Keeping a running list of things that I love helps me refocus when I'm lost for ways to self-soothe. I think this is a practice we all can benefit from. Even if you have an excellent memory, when we're stressed or in the low swings of depression, it can be especially difficult to think of those things that might give us a boost of positivity.Break it down! What did you love as a kid or where do you get lost in time now? Don't limit yourself. Think people, places, things, activities, shows, books, feelings, etc. My list includes everything from holiday décor and musical theater to dogs, biking, soft blankets, and the sound of fabric being cut with scissors. Keep your list handy for whenever something new is experienced or comes to mind and add to it as you go!
2. Tap into Music
   Try to think of a song that taps into a really happy time in your life. Maybe it's a wedding song, something you played on repeat in the car with your friends as a teenager, or a playlist you used to listen to during holidays with family.For me, the theme songs to Full House and Reading Rainbow are two jingles that are guaranteed to get me to pause, slow my breath, and smile from the heart. They bring to mind some of the coziest times with my family. I also get this feeling from holiday music, a favorite movie soundtrack, and an old CD that I used to listen to at night as a kid in the quiet of my bedroom as I went to sleep.

   As you consider what your selected music might be that puts you in your place of calm, keep in mind that this doesn't necessarily mean the music itself is of a calming style. The key is that it imparts a sense of happiness, peace, or pleasant nostalgia that leaves you yourself in a more centered state of mind.

3. Combine for a Calming Practice
   Combining those two details, find a practice that leaves you feeling still, centered, and happy. Look back to your list of loved things and pull out one detail that you can act on right now. Pair it with some of your music if you can, and experience it together in this moment. Pay attention to how this combination affects you.In my own experience, I paired a loved visual with a calming soundtrack. I'm very sensory sensitive, and love sparkly things. As a kid I was captivated by a small, fiber-optic tree that played a holiday song. I used to go into a dark room, wind it up, and watch it at length, absorbing the tinkling sound of "Oh Christmas Tree" set against the transition of light and color. I recently received a fiber-optic decoration and was surprised by how completely absorbed I still am by this type of visual. Set against some of my favorite music, I sat, watched, and listened in a state of peace and joy. As someone with inattentive focus and an absolutely noisy mind, it felt like magic and is a practice I now love to come back to when I need to recenter.

   What about you?

Hopefully this brief practice will leave you with a place to start, but don't forget to keep looking for what works for you. Maybe that means exploring aromatherapy, chakra work, astrology, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), your innate body wisdom, empathic self, and the wonders of the vagus nerve. You can explore these and even more relaxation methods by checking out the book Finding Your Calm.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2023. All rights reserved.

My family and I recently moved from the house we lived in for six years into another house. While I very much love this new house, I'm finding it difficult to feel really comfortable here. I'm happy that we have moved, but for some reason, it just doesn't feel like home to me. Is there something I can do to create that sense of home, or do we just have to wait until we're more settled in?

- Mandy

Dreamchaser:

This "discomfort" in your new home has a few causes. First, you really did love the house you just moved from. You may not have loved the structure, but you loved all that happened in it. It was full of happy memories. The house you live in now is a great house for your structural needs, but it is empty of those treasured family memories.

Also, your new house is "haunted." Every house you enter has spirits in it, but that is because you can sense energies that most other people can't see or feel. Actually, ALL places are haunted; we just may not know it. Every place on earth holds the energy of whatever was there before. So in moving to a new place, you are now sensing NEW energies that are unfamiliar to you, which you may not yet have made peace with.

These energies are not negative, they are just new. I suggest when the house is empty at some point, or when everyone else is in bed, you make yourself comfortable in the middle of the living room. Lie on the floor or sit on a floor pillow or whatever you want to do.

I want you to then ask God/ Universe/ Spirit - whatever name you prefer - to protect you and only allow Love and Light in your house and around your family. Then just allow yourself to get very quiet and FEEL the energy of the house and the land that the house is built on. Allow yourself to get acquainted with the energies of the beings that inhabit your house with you. They are more than anxious to "introduce" themselves to you.

As you do this, you will actually feel changes in vibration, temperature, your mood, your thoughts, etc. Once you "meet" them, then you will feel more at home and comfortable around them.

Another thing you should do to make the house feel like home is to let IT help you decorate it. A lot of the things you had in your old house that looked great there don't look so great in the new house. They don't feel right. Spend a little money here and there, and see what "calls out to you" when you are out in stores. The house has its own vibe and needs its own energies to shine through.

I know this sounds a little silly, but try it. Walk from room to room and look at the walls and the furniture and the layout and see what comes to you. For example, while I never liked brown in the past, when I moved into my current house, I felt the urge to decorate it in browns, and it now has a warm, happy feeling.

I wish you and yours a warm, love-filled home.

*****

Astrea:

It's normal to feel out of place in a new place, for it takes a while to become comfortable. The noises it makes are different, the wind sounds different when it touches the roof, and the sun comes through the windows at a different slant. It's normal to miss the memories of our prior home too, but it's time you moved on in your heart so you can really LOVE your new place.

Try this simple rite of purification to bring peace and love into your new home. If you honor the Goddesses, be sure to include Hestia, Brigid and Freya. Set aside a whole weekend for this ritual.

Take off all your jewelry before you start, even your wedding ring, and place the important pieces you wear daily on a white plate, then place the plate on your altar. Also, wear something white as you do this ritual.

Sprinkle the floors with salt and rosemary, and while you do this, visualize all negativity and discord that could ever enter your new house being swept away. Burn several scented white candles to purify the air and encourage peace and contentment. Place rose quartz crystals in the south windows to invite more love into your home. Think about all the love, contentment and peace now filling your life here. That evening, vacuum up the salt and rosemary, and burn the bag in a fire-safe container outside. As the smoke rises, ask the Goddesses to bless your house and your family as you live and work there.

Sunday morning, it's time to bless your yard. Invite the magical beings of Earth and Air into your life by decorating a small wooden birdhouse with the astrological Sun signs of each member of your family. You can add birds, stars, spirals, or whatever else you like. Hang ribbons of red, green and gold in sets of three from the new Spirit House. Let the Garden Spirits know that their new home is ready by waving a stick of burning incense over the roof and all around the sides of the house. Make sure some of the fragrant smoke enters the house too.

With these two easy rituals, you can count on all the GOOD Spirits who have dwelt with you in your OTHER home to feel welcome in your new house. Home is where you and your family are, and if this house is what you wanted, this house is going to feel like home in time.

Give yourself PERMISSION to stop grieving for your old home. The memories you'll make in this new house will be just as vibrant and happy as the ones in your old house. Blessings and benevolence will be yours.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.