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Have Your Ever Fallen for a Knight? The Tarot’s Four Knights in Love, by Elliot Adam

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

The colorful personalities of the tarot court can offer us amazing insight into the different types of people we might encounter in the realm of dating. Many of us are initially hoping to secure a relationship with someone who is serious, stable, and ready to settle down in a relationship. However, the desire for stability is more in alignment with the tarot's king and queen personalities. Although kings and queens can offer lasting security, they may not initially inspire the same fireworks as the dashing knights of the tarot court. On the quest for true love, you'll inevitably find yourself interacting with individuals who exhibit the personality traits of the tarot's four knights.

Many tarot decks will depict knights riding a horse. Knights are always in motion, ever coming and going. In a love reading, knights are passionate, vigorous, and electrifying individuals. They lack the stable nature of kings or queens… and yet, that's what makes them so attractive and exciting. However, the youthful vigor that makes knights so captivating is also what makes them resistant to being tied down. Their behavior is notoriously erratic and inconsistent. Knights usually appear very confident in themselves, even when they don't have life completely figured out yet. They are still on a quest of personal development and rarely make their relationship partner the primary focus of their life. At their best, knights are sexy, passionate, exciting, confident, vigorous, and chivalrous. At their worst, they can be inconsistent, noncommittal, or even unfaithful. Although many traditional tarot books seem to describe knights as strapping young men in their twenties and thirties, the tarot court does not necessarily adhere to traditional assumptions of age or gender. The court cards in the tarot often more accurately describe the personality traits and maturity level of the person in question. This is true for any gender identity or age group. I've spoken to many frustrated clients dealing with a partner who is chasing after a knight well into their 60s! Here is a sampling of the tarot's four knights from Tarot in Love: Consulting the Cards in Matters of the Heart. Try and identify if you've ever dated one of these unpredictable knaves.

Knight of Swords: The Knight of Swords is continually in fast pursuit of their desire. Whether chasing a love interest, a job, a deadline, or a personal goal, they give 110% to achieve their objective. In love pursuits, the Knight of Swords will initially pour all their interest and energy on the object of his affection. However, their attention can be easily diverted toward the next conquest that captures their imagination. It can come as a sudden shock when their abruptly switch gears toward a different pursuit. For the Knight of Swords, it's all or nothing. They are fiercely competitive, holding visions of glory for themselves. The Knight of Swords wants to win, conquer, and vanquish anything standing in the way of their goal. Their confidence give them great sex appeal; however, they can lack the empathy to consider how this ruthlessness might hurt others. At best, the Knight of Swords is dashing, intense, exciting, and attractive. At worst, they are self-serving, ruthless, and possesses an eerie ability to detach from compartmentalized emotions.

Knight of Cups: The Knight of Cups is the archetypal "Knight in Shining Armor." Because of their beauty, they have been blessed with many unearned advantages in life. Their dashing, romantic confidence can make you swoon, as past lovers fade into distant memory. The Knight of Cups fearlessly declares their heart with unmatched charm. It's easy to abandon all common sense when they set their angel eyes on you. Although the chemical attraction to the Knight of Cups is irresistible, they don't always translate into a substantive partner. The thrilling pleasure of their presence is also laced with the danger of possibly losing them. The Knight of Cups will quickly gallop off if they sense desperation from a lover, preferring to idealize a romance that is just out of reach. This knight secretly desires that rare person who is out of their league. At best, the Knight of Cups is expressive, romantic, confident, charming, and devastatingly sexy. At worst, they can be unfaithful, changeable, conceited, and emotionally unavailable.

Knight of Pentacles: The Knight of Pentacles can captivate you with their potential. They exude an aura of self-confidence and all the external trappings of success. The problem is, the Knight of Pentacles hasn't quite reached their full potential yet. In a love reading, the Knight of Pentacles can represent a person who attracts you with their possibilities. However, the Knight of Pentacles is usually slow to grow. The Knight of Pentacles will often step on the brakes before making a big commitment. They also harbor a secret frustration for not quite attaining the success to which they aspire. The appearance of the Knight of Pentacles will often advise you to keep your expectations in check. Beware of projecting your wants and desires on a person who is currently unable to deliver the total package. At best the Knight of Pentacles is attractive, charming, exudes confidence, and has great plans and aspirations for the future. At worst, they can be stagnant, slow to grow, and will constantly keep you waiting.

Knight of Wands: The Knight of Wands seizes each day with a spirit of adventure and vitality. They might leave you breathless after your first passionate encounter. The Knight of Wands loves physical activity, movement, and change. They will likely be athletic, enjoying sports or working out. It goes without saying that they also love sex. Their self-confident presence oozes energetic virility. The challenge the Knight of Wands presents is also what makes them so desirably attractive, this roaming spirit of adventure. The Knight of Wands will maintain their freedom for as long as they humanly can. This is not to say that the Knight of Wands can't fall in love or make a commitment one day. However, they must be at a life stage when their "wild oats" have been satisfactorily sown. Waiting for this Knight can take a very long time… At best, the Knight of Wands is thrilling, sexy, confident, honest, free-spirited, travel-loving, and open-minded. At worst, they are rebellious, non-committal, evasive, impulsive, and unfaithful.

Falling for a knight can be passionately exhilarating. However, finding lasting happiness with one can only happen when you accept the stage they are at in life. Knights cannot be "waited out," guilted into submission, or pressured into doing your will. In fact, these behaviors will only seem to drive them further away. If you enter a relationship with a knight hoping to "make them" into a more consistent king or queen, you are likely to be disappointed. You must believe and accept what the other person is showing you, not the elusive potential that they promise to live up to in the future. However, if you find yourself exploring a liberating "knight phase" in your own life, a relationship with another knight could open your world to previously unknown levels of passion, excitement, and adventure.

For more in-depth card meanings for any relationship reading, check out Tarot in Love: Consulting the Cards in Matters of the Heart.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2023. All rights reserved.

My girlfriend left me about 2 1/2 months ago. I hadn't really learned anything when she broke up with me the first time. I expected us to just get back together, but then she started seeing another guy. (I was so emotional about our break that I pushed her away when we got back together again.) I feel she is my soul mate, and when she told me she was seeing someone else, I started doing some things to change my life, like moving out on my own and getting a new job and seeing friends more, things I should have done a long time ago but didn't. I'm wondering if my spirit guides prompted this experience in order to help me move forward with my own life this way, if certain events take place just to wake us up. I have also not given up hope of winning my love back, because my gut just tells me to hang in there, don't give up. So I am not giving up, though it hurts so much to keep hoping. Do you believe that the emotions I am feeling are because I am meant to get back with Charlotte - that they're being generated by Spirit, and that I just needed to experience the other emotions so that I would learn?

- D.

Dreamchaser:

Thank you for sharing this with us. I really believe that no matter how it comes about, positive change is a good thing. I know that sounds obvious, but you REALLY needed to make some changes. You are finally starting to live the life that you are supposed to be living and taking responsibility for your own actions.

I have no doubt that your Spirit Workers (God, angels, guides, etc.) are working on your behalf and moving things into your path to make you FINALLY step up to the plate and act like a grown-up. Not only did you make physical life changes (like moving, new job, etc.) but you are also making mental and emotional changes. You have stopped blaming other people for your problems or mistakes - or at least you do it much less than you used to. You are making great headway, and it is important that you know that you have LOTS of help from the Otherworld. For the record, "everyone" is very proud of the progress you have made so far.

Breakups are notorious for making us make changes in our lives. Women lose weight, drastically change their hair, buy a new wardrobe and things like that. Men lose weight, buy a sports car, change jobs, move - essentially things just like you did. Sometimes this happens because a part of us saying, "If I was different, maybe she (he) would still love me." In any case, positive change is always a good thing, no matter what the original cause or motivation.

I do not believe that we have just one "soul mate." I think we have at least five in each lifetime. We are human and we have free will. We often make the wrong choices in life and run away from someone who is important to us. If we only had one chance at true love, a large majority of the global population would blow it early in life by making a bad choice. So even if Charlotte decides to not come back, you are not doomed to never love again. You will get another shot at love.

So often people tell us, "Just let her (him) go." That is very easy to say, but very hard to do. If you are not ready to let go of Charlotte or the hope of reconciliation, then you do not have to at this time. I am not going to tell you to ignore your gut instincts; I spend half my life telling my clients to listen to their gut. When it is time, Spirit will bring you what you need, and you will know it.

You had to learn about true, unselfish love. Now you fully realize what it is like to lose someone. You will not treat women the same after this. You will be more tender. So you will be better for this pain you are going through now.

I wish you true solace.

*****

Astrea:

We all have Guides and Angels with us as we make right and wrong choices in our lives. It sounds to me like there is much singing and dancing going on with your Guides and Angels, not because Spirit caused you to change your life, but because YOU GREW UP and began to make right and positive choices for yourself.

You're not changing your life for CHARLOTTE, you're changing it for YOU, and They are overjoyed. Guides and Angles can do very little unless we cooperate with Right Thinking and Action. Since you and your girlfriend broke up, you have taken the time to look at your life and decide what really is important to you.

You speak honestly and from your heart about what happened to ruin the relationship you had with her. Why she is seeing the other person, and why that's had such an effect on you is pretty obvious, but it was HER FREE CHOICE to get involved with someone else. You have somehow found the PEACE in your own Heart to keep going with Hope. Bravo for you, to be able to put your feelings into words! This is a rare talent that Charlotte will begin to appreciate more and more as your lives together continue.

Some people never do this! Honestly! They drift through life on the SURFACE of things, selfishly never seeing what the OTHER person wants or needs. As soon as you began to see yourself as the person you really want to be, you made the changes that would CREATE THAT PERSON you ARE.

I also believe that you have made the conscious choice to feel as you feel for Charlotte, so that a soul mate situation can develop. We can welcome that soul mate situation, but we are also responsible for CHOOSING who we develop that sort of relationship with. If you and Charlotte can work through this (and I see you doing just that!), things will work out for the two of you.

I'm sure your Guides and Angels appreciate that you're doing what They want you to do to create your own happiness. They can't MAKE us do a THING. As much as They want us to use Them and listen to and heed Them, our Free Will is at work all the time to skunk them!

We create the situations from which we take our lessons. Your Guides and Angels tell me that if you had been listening to them, you and Charlotte would never have broken up in the first place! They DO see you back together, once she realizes how you have grown over the last 90 days as a person. People make mistakes, and they get forgiven. You and Charlotte have LOTS of Guides in Spirit working towards a happy ending for you two. They see it, and I see it too!:) Thanks for sharing your Heart with us!

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.