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Why Some Souls Remain Earthbound—And How to Identify Their Presence, by Kerrie Erwin

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

When we die, most of us cross successfully into the spirit world with our loving guide, angel helpers, and, in some cases, loved ones in spirit by our sides. Once we have safely crossed to the spirit world, we are accompanied by our guide and loved ones to the life review to see how we have accomplished our spiritual lessons while on earth, and commence our karmic cycle once again. Unfortunately, this does not always go well, and some spirits become lost or refuse to cross over for various reasons.

Part of my life's work as a spiritual medium is releasing these earthbound spirits from entrapment from the earth's plane. This is called spirit rescue. This can be done easily over the phone if the client lives interstate or overseas. If I have time, I will go to the home, building, or land area with another energy worker or dowser and meet the client. Once I have located the spirit or spirits in question, I will call in my spirit team for assistance, use protection, and open a portal of light. I will tell the spirit that it is dead, command it to leave, and tell it to look into the light, as its loved ones are waiting for them on the other side. This does not take long; within seconds or sometimes minutes, the unwanted spirit will be pulled back into the spirit world where it belongs for the healing process. Once this is completed, the lost soul cannot come back and starts its karmic journey back into the spirit world. The client will generally comment how they and the area around them feels brighter, lighter, and back to normal again. Some clients may also experience tingles of energy on their skin, and see little white lights all around them with the energy shift once the clearing is done.

Why Are Some Lost Souls Earthbound?
There are several reasons why a spirit has not crossed; below are a few of these reasons.

1. An accidental death
2. A suicide (it must be noted that not all suicides refuse to cross; they are a small minority)
3. Fear; they do not want to cross over because of some illogical reason
4. Religious beliefs (e.g., perhaps they have done something bad and think they are going to hell or that God will punish them)
5. An obsessive love or greed for the material world and earthly possessions
6. They simply do not understand that they have actually died, and are trying to continue living as if they would if they were still on the earthly plane
7. There are some that may remain on the physical plane in an effort to ensure the safety of particular loved ones
8. There may be a strong connection to a particular place, person, or item
9. The earthbound spirit may think it has an obligation to stay for some reason or to deliver a message
10. The spirit may be too frightened to leave with its guardian, angel, or loved one

Where Can Earthbound Spirits Be Found?
Earthbound spirits are literally everywhere, and can be seen or felt by sensitive souls and mediums that have abilities. They generally are known to be found in homes and offices, and also around large groups of people, as they need our energy, or prana, to stay here. Examples of these locations include hospitals, railway stations, shopping malls, busy airports, schools or universities, homes where they once lived, and old theaters, to name a few. They are rarely found in abandoned graveyards or empty homes where nobody lives, except where there may have been a murder (as it is their last memory).

How Do You Know If You Have a Lost Spirit in Your Home?
If you have a lost soul or earthbound spirit in your home, it will not go unnoticed, as you will have quite a few issues. It is not just your imagination; you will feel the energy and know something is just not right. Some of the issues or problems you may encounter include:

• Your home will feel colder and unpleasant in certain areas; no matter what you do, the energy will be insufferable, heavy, and unbearable. You will be frustrated by bad luck and with things going unexplainably wrong all the time. There will be a bad or "off" smell.
• Most of the inhabitants, including any pets, will feel tired; they may have colds, flus, or other unexplained illnesses. They will also feel stuck in their lives and there will be problems in relationships, with continual fights, arguments, or disagreements because of the negative and imbalanced energy.
• The home or space will almost be impossible to renovate or sell because of constant delays and interference.
• You many also have unexplained or continual problems with electricity or water and drainage.
• There may be unusual sounds or knocks, invisible footsteps, things disappearing, and constant confusion.
• You will definitely feel the presence of something supernatural or "off," including goosebumps, chills, and the feeling that you are being watched. Some people will experience scratches on their body, or feel like they are being attacked while they sleep or wake up.
• With a poltergeist type of spirit, things may be continually moved, objects may be hidden or thrown, sounds like tapping or rappings on the walls can be heard, and doors may open and close themselves. You many hear names being called out or noises like talking or crying. This type of spirit can be a real nuisance; often it can be the spirit of a child or younger person, depending on the case.

Types of Lost Souls

1. Earthbound Souls
   These are spirits that go back to a familiar place that they once knew while alive, such as the home in which they lived. In most cases, they do not understand that they are actually dead, and because of this they have no desire to pass over. Imagine what it would be like when they find someone else strange, living in their home! In some cases, I have found that they have a very strong intelligence and do not want to pass over.
2. Wandering Spirits
   Wandering spirits are earthbound spirits that are lost and like to follow people around. Some of these spirits can come from accidents or other sudden deaths. These types of spirits not only follow ordinary people, but also younger mediums or psychics—these people seem to attract these lost souls because of the light in their aura. This light or energy we have as mediums can act as a beacon of warmth to lost souls living in a very grey world.
3. Residual Hauntings
   This is an interesting type of supernatural experience, as it is not an actual spirit but a recording of specific energy. As everything on the planet is made of energy, energy cannot be destroyed. It is believed that in a location where a person or persons released a large amount of energy or in which heightened emotions were experienced, the energy embeds itself, leading to a type of recording of the events. This in turn keeps going on, or repeating itself, like a loop that creates a ghost effect. These are known as residual hauntings, and are very common in historical places. This is the most common type of haunting that mainstream paranormal researchers will recognize and study.
4. Interference Energy
   Interference energy is like a portal or small tornado vortex which creates a spiritual opening to another dimension. If left open it can work as an open door to unwelcomed guests or spirits from the astral world. This can be easily dealt with by being closing the portal; once closed, the property will be restored to its natural energetic balance.
5. Demonic Energy
   As with everything in the world, there is always evidence of light and dark. Sometimes earthbound spirits are not confused but rather are simply malevolent and can wreak havoc and chaos in our lives and the home (especially if they are summoned). I have seen a few cases of this dark type of energy occur when untrained people use Ouija/spirit boards, which can open doors to other dimensions. (Ouija boards are excellent tools in the right hands, but can be dangerous as they can also stimulate poltergeist activity.) Dark energy is also very active at murder sites, jails, or homes/places that have been involved in a horrendous crime. This paranormal activity is not good, but is easy to remove when working with the light and prayer, as light energy is more powerful than dark.
6. Spirit Orbs
   Have you ever noticed tiny orbs of light darting around certain places? You don't have to be a psychic to see orbs—you just need to be aware that they do exist and can appear all around us. Once you are aware of such phenomena, then it is possible to see them (especially with a camera, as they will be picked up more easily by the lens). Orbs are actually spirit life-forms with their own intelligence that travel around; they are believed to be the human soul or life force of those that once inhabited a physical body here on earth. Sometimes, depending on the size of the orb, if you look closely, you may also be able to see a tiny face inside. Different types of Spirit Orbs include:
   • Ghost Orbs: Ghost orbs are bigger, thicker, darker, and denser in appearance than spirit orbs or nature orbs. They appear to have a thicker texture but are harder to see and are not as common as spirit or nature orbs. They are evidence you have a lost soul in your home or space.
   • Spirit Orbs: Spirit orbs are usually lighter and brighter and can vary in shape and size. Some appear as tiny pin pricks or can be as large as an apple or an orange. They are beautiful to look at, and some people call them angels. When you look closely you can often see little faces. Spirit orbs are our loved ones or friends from the other side, or healing guides or spirit doctors. These orbs are totally harmless and capable of continuing a full spiritual existence on the other side with full mental and emotional faculties intact, unlike the ghost orbs. They are to let us know their love is eternal and that they are watching over us.
   • Nature Orbs: Nature orbs seem to accumulate in large groups and, as the name indicates, you will find them out in nature. These elemental spirits are incredibly healing, and there are four types: salamanders, sylphs, earth spirits, and undines. Each is different but all co-exist in harmony and are active anywhere on the planet where there is an abundance of grass, flowers, trees, water, or other wildlife. They dislike human interference such as the dumping of garbage, and can become disruptive if we make too many changes to or destroy too much of the surrounding natural environment. I always seek permission from the nature spirits if I want to make changes to my landscape in my own garden. It is also a good idea to make a tiny fairy garden in your yard, as the nature spirits will always heal sick plants if you place them there. Place a birdbath with water in your garden to increase harmony and bring in good fortune.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2023. All rights reserved.

I have been dating this guy for a year and a half now. He won't get into a serious committed relationship because 11 years ago, his girlfriend died suddenly in his arms. He has never overcome the loss. He has dated here and there, but I am the first woman he has dated for a long period of time. Since I have been seeing him, I have had bizarre incidents happening to me. When I get frustrated with the relationship and decide I'm going to move on, my cell phone acts up such that when I try calling my friends, my phone ends up calling him even though I can see my friend's name in the phone as the contact. This has happened numerous times. I got a new phone and the problem continues: every time I start planning to move on, my phone keeps dialing him. I also have had problems with meeting new guys; I keeping hitting road blocks. Every time I meet someone new and we set up a date to meet for the first time, they disappear. That has happened several times. (This never happened to me before I met him.) One last thing: this summer, he gave me a small music box that just sits on my dresser. I never touch it. Several weeks ago, I was going through a box on my floor next to my dresser when all of a sudden, this music box let out four little notes. It hasn't been touched since the summer. I'm a little confused as to what may be going on. I mentioned all of this to him. In my heart I feel it's his girlfriend trying to push me to him, yet he keeps pushing me away from anything too serious. He tells me he loves me but is afraid of loss. He tells me she was a very sweet, kind and warm person. I don't know if this is all coincidence or what to make of it. I don't know what to do. I feel she wants him to move on and be happy, but it's not me with the problem. Could this really be happening?

Sherri

Susyn:

Is your boyfriend working on his own to heal and resolve this trauma? It's easy for someone to cite all sorts of reasons they are not ready to make a commitment; it's another to use their fears as a wall to keep people at bay. If he is actively working on this issue through therapy or treatment for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PSTD), there there is hope for your future together.

I would not be at all surprised if his girlfriend's spirit is trying to push you two together, though as you say, you are not the one who is hesitating. I've had similar experiences with dialing one number and having it call someone else, which can seem quite maddening. However, each time it happened, I too felt that spirit was directing me to connect with the person that my phone ended up dialing.

I have a clock that once belonged to my ex-husband. Years after his death, I was remodeling and started to move the clock to a safe place when it began to chime. I felt strongly that this was his way of communicating that he approved of what I was doing. I also had a music box that belonged to my grandmother, and after years of silence, it began to play one day very briefly. I later realized that this had occurred on her birthday. For these reasons, I agree that these are signs from his last girlfriend, and that she is trying to get the two of you together.

Though it may be hard to pull away when his girlfriend's spirit keeps pushing you toward him, given your particular situation, I do recommend continuing to distance yourself from him. When you pull back your energy, if he truly loves you, he will break through his fears and find a way to move things to the next level. Often, fear of losing what we have can motivate us to overcome issues from the past.

My suggestion is that you continue to stand back from the relationship. If things happen that lead the two of you to discuss getting back together, let him know that you won't see him again until he seeks help for his issues and is ready to make a commitment.

Despite the constant signs that his girlfriend wants the two of you together, she will have to work her influence on him, not you. The next time an incident like this occurs, stop, call her name, and say, You need to send these signs to him. He is the one you need to convince. If these same unexplained incidents were to start happening to him, he might finally realize that it is time to move on and that even his late girlfriend agrees.

*****

Oceania:

Having a girlfriend die unexpectedly in his arms took an emotional toll on your boyfriend, and he has not yet fully healed from that traumatic experience. He now associates love with literal heart break and death. That being said, his past is not your fault, and you should not have to pay for it.

Your frustration is understandable, as is your wanting to move on to someone whole and healthy who is capable of commitment. One way or another, we eventually lose everyone we love, but when people have truly grieved, they have renewed faith in their ability to cope with the next loss to come. Ironically, by trying to avoid loss, your boyfriend is ensuring that he will lose you sooner rather than later.

Whenever you pull away, he tries to hang on and maintain the status quo. He is comfortable with the way things are because you're the one doing all the accommodating. His self-centered attitude is interfering with you phoning your friends, but I have news for you: He couldn't do that unless a part of you is colluding with him!

All of us feel victimized in relationships at one time or another, but the fact is that no one has any power over us unless a teensie part of us aligns with our oppressor's viewpoint. A small part of you is willing to stay under any circumstances, which is why you don't fully seize your freedom. Once you make peace with the fact that this relationship is too little and unacceptable to you, your phone will start working again, and your dates will stop disappearing. The notes from the music box were a manifestation of your boyfriend tugging on you, trying to entice you to stay, but four notes are not enough! You deserve an entire symphony.

You have been excusing your choice to linger in this dead-end relationship by attributing roadblocks to leaving it to your boyfriend's ex. As I don't see her in this picture, I beg to differ when you say, It's not me with the problem. You have your own fears of commitment and loss or you'd be long gone by now. You and your boyfriend share more than a birthday; you're both also willing to settle for a half-baked relationship in order to feel safe.

There may also be an element of you hoping to be his hero, his angel, the special one he has kept around longer than those who came before you, but that's just an ego trip and waste of your time. Only he can heal himself. You might tell him to look you up when he has done so. I invite you to affirm the following: I release all blocks between myself and complete love.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.