KAJAMA.COM NEWSLETTER

    • 10 Tips for Giving Dynamite Tea Leaf Readings

      by Caroline Dow

      (Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

      Chances are that you are reading this article because you are a tea buff captivated by the pretty patterns made by the leaves left at the bottom of your favorite cup of Darjeeling. You know that tea leaf reading has been practiced as a form of divination, probably ever since the first cup was brewed, and you are intrigued to try your hand at it.

      In the many tea cup reading workshops I have delivered over the years, I’ve found that my students eagerly listen to my explanations, can hardly wait to prepare their first cup for reading, and then . . . .stare in consternation at the soggy mass left at the bottom of the cup and lament, "How am I supposed to make sense of that?"

      To help lift you over the hump—that clutch moment when you fear you’re floundering in a red sea of Rooibos—and onto the path toward giving dynamic readings, here are 10 easy-to-put-into-practice tips. When putting these tips into practice, remember that your objective is to tell a good story to which the person you're reading for can relate.

      1. You don't need to interpret every image you see.
        The clump opposite the handle that looks like something the cat left, and from which no definable symbols can be extracted, probably means you put too many leaves in your inquirer's cup. Since leaves plump up a lot after they steep, a half teaspoon of dry leaves is plenty. (The inquirer, by the way, is the person for whom you are reading.) If you get involved with trying to include every image you find in your interpretation, the tale you tell may veer off course, and your inquirer will become mystified about what you're communicating. So, at least initially, only talk about the images that fit the story you are putting forth. If your inquirer broaches other questions or seeks a clarification, then you can point to some of the other images.
      2. Only interpret the images that relate to your inquirer's question.
        The best time to ask your inquirer to share concerns is while the person is drinking the tea so that these thoughts more thoroughly infuse the leaves. Also, when you have the question in mind before you take a peek at the cup, your intuition will guide you to elicit the significant symbols. Once when I went for a reading for myself—not a tea leaf reading, but an intuitive reading—the psychic waxed on and on about my husband and how intelligent, kind, romantic, and athletic he was. Now I happen to think my husband is rather wonderful, but I was going for a reading to find out about my own professional concerns, not his. Needless to say, when my stated question was never answered, I left unhappy.
      3. Ease yourself into the interpretation by concentrating on the larger, well-formed images.
        These are more important than tiny, light, sketchy looking ones.
      4. Develop a systematic plan for finding symbols.
        First, see if you recognize any special tea leaf reading symbols. These images occur frequently in cups and hold special significance for tea leaf readers. For example, a single dot, which when coupled with an image emphasizes its meaning. Blobs warn of disappointment (unless you put in too many leaves!), an arrow indicates a message forthcoming, lines harbinger journeys, and dashes indicate movement in affairs. Next, look for images that represent concrete, realistic things—the sorts of items that surround us in everyday life. Houses, cars, dogs, hats, human profiles, apples, birds, computers, feathers, trees, and flowers represent typical items that appear in cups. Only after you have identified common objects should you move on to discovering more complicated images such as numbers, letters, words, geometrical forms, and universal symbols.
      5. Don't try to memorize a dictionary full of symbols.
        Your inquirer, who is probably your cousin, co-worker, or friend, doesn't expect you to become a symbols maven overnight, and won't mind if you need to look up something. While it's a good idea to familiarize yourself with the significance of some common symbols, such as a crown for victory, a heart for love, and an apple for knowledge, you'll find that you will instinctively be aware of many definitions, as they often follow common sense. Besides, the more readings you perform the more symbols you will remember. Note that there is a danger in overemphasizing precise, bookish symbolic meanings. Such inflexibility can interfere with your interpretation and cause your inquirer to say, "What?" "Come again?" "I don't quite understand you." Along the same lines, if after you have exhausted every possible way to explain the images in the cup, and have given every possible meaning for the symbols, and your inquirer still requires more information, you might try using another form of divination to clarify the issue. A woman once came to me with a complex question about her ballet studio. She didn't know how to drum up more business. Should she advertise more, if so, where? Was her business partner the right one or should she rely more on her manager, or even change managers? Would it be better to sell the studio? If so, who would be the best buyer and when should she do it? Obviously, the tea leaves couldn't unravel all these complexities in a single cup, even though I read from China Black tea leaves, which render more images than most kinds of tea. After I completed the reading, I brought out my a href="http://www.llewellyn.com/encyclopedia/term/tarot">tarot deck and drew three cards for each question that the leaves had left unanswered. The cards showed my inquirer's past experiences, the current situation, and the probable outcome. If you feel it is helpful, you may also add a pendulum to your tea leaf reading, especially when the inquirer has many questions that can be answered by "yes" or "no."
      6. When you see an image that puzzles you, try to view it from all angles, even upside-down.
        It may look like a woman's profile from one viewpoint, and like a cat from another perspective. Both images are valid, and interconnected. In this case, the interpretation might be to watch out for a woman of a jealous, gossipy nature.
      7. Still stuck on a symbol? Don't hesitate to describe the image to your inquirer, and get their opinion of its significance for them.
        We all have our private symbolic language and individual interpretations. For instance, if somebody were reading a cup for me and found a frog, they might interpret it as meaning a sudden move, possibly a change of job or residence, both of which are standard definitions. However, for me, a frog is a very positive symbol; in fact, I consider it my totem animal. So to see a frog in my cup means fertility of body, mind, and spirit, happiness, and success in my endeavors. Once I distinguished a scorpion, symbol of vicious criticism, in cup that was otherwise filled with positive signs, including a flying bird, a dolphin, the number 2, a bouquet of roses, and two birds cuddling in a nest. I asked my inquirer if a scorpion meant anything to her. She smiled and responded that she was in love with a man born under the sign of Scorpio, but that he had been studying abroad for the last year. She missed him very much and although they corresponded frequently, she was worried that they might drift apart. I assuaged her concerns with the following interpretation: Soon (because of the position of the flying bird near the handle, which represents present time) she would receive a message from her lover that he was coming home. After a safe journey (the dolphin), perhaps as early as in February (the second month of the year), he would return and declare his love for her (bouquet of roses). The couple would enter into a partnership (also the number 2), that would culminate in domestic bliss (nesting birds).
      8. Use your intuition.
        This may sound like a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how many neophyte readers get hung up on dictionary definitions for symbols, and suppress the intuitive right brain. If, while you are examining the cup, your inner voice whispers that you should interpret a symbol in an unconventional way, go with the flow. Remember the woman's profile and cat in tip #6? Those images may not point to an envious woman at all, but to a friend with well-honed psychic abilities who will help the inquirer solve a personal problem. It's even better if you can find nearby symbols to support your interpretation. Your initial impressions are what strike you from the very first moment you gaze into the cup. Your intuition may even cause you to visualize something in your head that does not appear physically in the cup. Mention this to your inquirer as you progress with the reading.
      9. Remember that you need not interpret every image in symbolic terms.
        In other words, a breadbox may literally refer to a breadbox and not to the inquirer's economic state. Once I really did see a breadbox in a gentleman's cup. When I mentioned this to him, he told me that he had been looking high and low to buy one to no avail. The breadbox in his cup was coupled with a computer, so I advised him to go online with his search.
      10. My final piece of advice is to relax!
        Novice readers tend to worry too much that they're going to be confronted with a blank wall when they gaze into the cup. This attitude sets up a mental block that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You'll always find something to talk about in the cup. And if you don't, perhaps it's because your inquirer already knows the answers to the questions.

      Tea leaf reading is one of the most satisfying leisure activities you will ever enjoy. It makes an entertaining, inexpensive, and tasty way to relax and in the company of friends and family. You will find that spending time with others in the informal, cozy environment of the tea table will do wonders for you as well. Through reading the leaves, you can put yourself and your inquirer on the path to better health (because tea is good for you), expand your social network, and at the same time, perhaps discover nuggets of wisdom about your character and clues to your future. In this sense, tea leaf reading provides a user-friendly tool for self-growth and self-realization. If you are able to come up with ideas for your inquirer about how to deal with current issues and draw up plans for the future, so much the better. May your experiences unraveling the mysteries of tea leaves be as rewarding for you as they have been for me.

      Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2011. All rights reserved.

      Continue reading →
    • DOUBLE VISION: DREAMS OF A FATHER-LIKE SPIRIT?

      dream-interpretation-2

      I have been feeling someone lifting/standing up from my bed. I am not sure who it is, but I feel it is either my dad or my father-in-law, both of whom are in spirit. I think they are trying to tell me something. I have tried to connect with my dad, but have made no progress. I have seen him in my dreams: I am at the top of the stairs and he is at the bottom, but I can’t seem to make out what he is trying to say. I just don’t know how to connect with him and wanted to know the best way to go about this. Could you please help me out? Thank you!

      Debbie

      Dreamchaser:

      The people we most want to talk to when they pass over are our parents, Debbie. Unfortunately, they are often the people we have the hardest time hearing. I see this sort of situation over and over – even with myself! When my daddy died, I so wanted to talk to him, but I could not hear him. It is not just you, Debbie!

      You will not like this answer, but when the time is right and everyone is strong enough, you will be able to communicate with him. I can only speak from my own personal experience: My daddy popped up one day when I was driving down the road alone in my car. It was approximately two years after he had passed. I smelled cigar smoke and I heard (in my mind, not in the car), “Hi.” I actually looked over expecting to see him there. I did not, of course. Again he said, “Hi.” I said, “Hey, daddy!”

      You see, my daddy used to have me drive him places and he would sit in the passenger seat, smoking a cigar and then sleeping. When he would wake up, he would look around, get his bearings, look over at me and say, “Hi.” I can now hear his voice in my mind and talk back to him, but I have not seen his form or heard his voice outside of my head. In most cases, that is how the communicating is done between all spirits and humans on earth. Hollywood misled us into believing that we actually see them walking into the room and speaking to us outside of our bodies. That is not usually reality.

      You can also pray and ask for divine help in your connection with loved ones in spirit. When one passes over, they must learn how to become spirit again. Sometimes that is a fast process, and sometimes it takes a while. If you pray and ask for help, sometimes a higher being will come and intercede on your behalf and help get that spirit back across the veil to this side to communicate with you. I have heard tell that crossing the veil between the two worlds is hard for some who have recently passed over.

      I want you to consider the relationship you have with someone on the other side as the world was before the Internet, e-mail and unlimited long distance. When most of us were growing up, we would have to write a letter to someone, mail it and then wait for his or her response. Oh, and kids, this one will kill you: We would have to get up and cross the room to change the channel, and we only had three to choose from. We are used to instant everything these days.

      Our loved ones get our letters, and they will write back. It just takes time.

      I wish you fruitful conversations.

      *****

      Astrea:

      It must be frustrating to see your dad and not understand exactly what he’s trying to say to you. I believe you’re right: He is trying to communicate with you. I think that you’re on stairs is probably the most significant aspect of this dream or vision that you’re having of him. That you are separated by some kind of distance isn’t unusual, since you’re just beginning to see him on a regular basis. The stairs in your dream are a representation of how you are separated from him in life, since he is beyond the veil in spirit. The stairs represent the barrier between the two worlds, ours and the world after.

      I feel that your dad is trying to tell you climb higher in your life. Are you achieving all your goals and dreams? By being below you on that staircase, your dad is saying that you are already climbing higher than he did while he was alive, and he is there to encourage you to keep striving and moving forward to make your own dreams come true. He’s not trying to warn you of anything; he just wants to encourage you on your way to happiness. He wants you to know that he is still there, still with you, and that you’re going to achieve great things in your life – things that he was only able to dream about doing when he was alive and on the earth plane.

      The bed shaking is different. That’s your father-in-law doing that! He has a big, expansive, fun personality, and he liked to shake things up when he was alive too. Try to pay attention when he does this to you, so that you can link it to some kind of waking event related to your own life or your children or your husband. My guess would be that he is particularly watching over one of your children or a child-to-be, and that he’s eager for that child to notice and see him too. Even though he wasn’t a blood relative to you in this life, he felt closer and more comfortable with you than his son or anyone else in his own family. As time goes by, he’ll wake you and send you messages for those people he cared about.

      It is wonderful that you’re able to see and be with loved ones who have crossed over. I’m glad that you’re not afraid to explore what’s going on with them. Our loved ones want the best for us always, and yours seem to be doing extra duty to take care of you and your family. They must love you all very much. That kind of devotion is very rare and beautiful. Appreciate them and thank them for staying close by to help take care of you and your family. They’re hanging around because they want to – it’s a pleasure for them – but it’s still good manners to say thank-you!

      Continue reading →