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    • Exploring the Subconscious with Dowsing

      by Kathryn Klvana

      (Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

      Know thyself. That good advice goes back all the way to the days of Plato and Socrates, and the ancient Greek inscription at the Temple of Delphi. But sometimes, knowing yourself is a lot harder than it should be, especially if you are out of touch with what is going on at the subconscious level.

      Even though our conscious, rational mind determines what choices we make in life, the hidden part of ourselves, our subconscious mind, is equally important. If these two halves of your mind are out of sync, you may find that everything becomes more difficult. Illnesses, accidents, anxieties, and fears are some ways the subconscious tries to get our attention. If your subconscious doesn't agree with what you'd like to do, making changes becomes nearly impossible.

      Dowsing is the perfect tool to talk to the subconscious mind and find out what's going on beneath the surface. In many ways, it's like the old-timer walking a field with a forked stick, trying to find water. In this case, you will use a pendulum to explore the subconscious and try to strike those deep veins of truth that are flowing beneath.

      A pendulum can be anything that can dangle in a balanced way on a chain or string. Hold your pendulum in your dominant hand and tell yourself, "Show me a yes." You are programming yourself to recognize a positive answer. My yes response is a clockwise circle, but yours may move counter clockwise or back and forth. Once you've established your yes, ask for a no. It may take some time to get your pendulum moving with just your thoughts, but you'll eventually find that it gets easier with practice. For more help in learning to dowse, see my book, Intuition in an Instant.

      Once you become comfortable with dowsing, you will have a valuable tool to help you explore your hidden motivations, much like a therapist might in a counseling session. You will want to get in the habit of talking to your subconscious on a regular basis. To do so, take a few moments to center yourself. Close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Once you are in a relaxed state, hold your pendulum and ask if you can connect with your subconscious mind. Then ask yourself for the name of your subconscious. This will help you access your subconscious more easily. Once you have a name, use your pendulum to confirm that this is what your subconscious wants to be called. In general, you may find it best to talk to your subconscious as if you were talking to a child. Be gentle with yourself and offer thanks for all the hard work it has been doing on your behalf. Then be quiet and ask what it is feeling. Something might come to mind quickly, an emotion or a thought. If you are having problems with a particular project or goal, you might want to check in with your subconscious and use your dowsing skills to explore what's going on. Deep-rooted blocks, false assumptions, and self-limiting attitudes can be buried deep in the subconscious. First you have to identify these blocks, and then you can begin to release them with the help of your pendulum. For instance, if you determine that the phrase, "I don't deserve," is rooted in your subconscious, you can do a clearing to help erase that from your mind.

      Get settled in your favorite dowsing place. Take a few moments to center yourself and take a few deep, complete breaths. Calling upon your higher self to assist you, say out loud or to yourself, "I ask my higher self to examine my subconscious mind and remove the blocks that are related to ______ (the negative statement). Fill the space that is created with love and whatever I need most at this time."

      Dowse again to check and see if the block remains. If it does, you can talk with your subconscious and present reasons why that statement is false. Someone who deep down feels she doesn't deserve all the success she has experienced might say to her subconscious, "We do deserve all the good we have in our life. We have worked hard to achieve our goals. We are a good person and we always try our best." Then dowse to see if the subconscious is now ready for a clearing, and repeat the process.

      Another way to use dowsing to interact with your subconscious is when you want to make a major change in your life. If you are calling on willpower to lose twenty pounds, or quit smoking, or tackle a big project, check to make sure your subconscious is in agreement. If your subconscious doesn't want the change to happen, most likely it won't. That is worth repeating: you will not be successful in reaching your goals unless your subconscious is open to the idea.

      Anytime you call upon willpower to make some sort of change, you are using your logical, rational, conscious mind to set it in motion. You will spend a lot of time thinking about your goal, perhaps drawing up a detailed plan that you can put into action. You tell yourself, "I can do this. I will put these steps into action and I will succeed." But there are many times when that's not enough. Is it lack of willpower, or is it a tug of war between the conscious and subconscious mind?

      As a dowser, you have a distinct advantage. You can get in touch with the underlying motivations and beliefs of your subconscious simply by asking questions and using your pendulum.

      Start by asking, "Are there subconscious blocks to this goal I would like to achieve?" If you get a positive response, you can follow with other questions to understand what exactly it is, and then clear it. Call upon your higher self to assist you with removing whatever obstacles the subconscious has placed upon this goal.

      Understanding what is going on inside the subconscious mind is a good place to start dowsing, because the process helps to remove obstacles—both to the goals we want achieve and to the intuition we want flowing in our lives. The clearer we are, the more accurate our dowsing will be. That journey starts by "knowing thyself."

      Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2011. All rights reserved.

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    • Psychic Readings for Close Friends and Family?

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      I have been reading professionally for about 22 years, and there is still one little wrinkle I’ve yet to iron out. I learned a long time ago not to read for close friends and family, for a variety of reasons. It seems as if I always end up feeling under-appreciated when I do. They seem to feel more like I’m giving them my personal advice instead of channeling spirit. These also tend to be free readings, and I don’t get back from them what I put into this work. It’s also harder to separate what I am getting from spirit from my own opinions sometimes, and it can be harder to communicate the truth if I know they may not be open enough to hear it. So I’m wondering if you will read for close friends and family members. If not, why?

      Thank you! Cassandra

      Dreamchaser:

      What a very common quandary you find yourself in with this question. I absolutely refuse to read for my daughter because she argues with me, insists that I am wrong (for the record: I am never wrong about her life), and then gets mad and storms out of the room – every single time. On the other hand, I will read for my birth mother, as she is very open to whatever spirit has to say to her. She also understands that I do not make up the news, I just deliver it. Those are the two extremes I personally have to deal with in my life, and everyone else falls somewhere in between.

      Of course readings for family or close friends are free. I would not know how to go about asking someone I love for money. If you feel that you are being taken advantage of in any way (such as very frequent free readings), then put your foot down and say something. As far as acquaintances go, or friends of friends, I give them a friend rate. I charge enough to make it worth my time, but that’s usually less than what I really need to charge to do this for a living.

      You were given this gift to help people, Cassandra. The fact that you make money at it is just a bonus. When you read for people you know, you will never be appreciated like the public appreciates you. I hear it all the time from famous athletes or actors. They say something like, “Everyone in the world adores me and screams my name but my mama just tells me to clean my kitchen.” Those who are close and used to us never really show their appreciation. I do know one thing; your family really does appreciate you. Your wisdom is invaluable to them. We should use this as an example to thank those around us who do for us. Let’s make sure we are not doing the same thing to them that they are doing to us.

      If you feel that you cannot separate your personal opinion from the reading, do not read for that person. You know that we cannot use our gifts manipulatively. If you want someone to do something, you cannot tell them that spirit said to do it, unless of course spirit really did say so. Unless you are clear to read someone, do not do it! The reading process should be the same no matter who you are reading for. You tune in, get the messages and start speaking them. If spirit disagrees with your opinion, check your opinion. In my experience, spirit knows best.

      The bottom line is that you should not read for anyone you don’t feel right about. Definitely do not read someone if you cannot distinguish spirit from your own wishes. You are free to choose who you will read for.

      I wish you clear channels.

      *****

      Astrea:

      I would never read for anyone in my immediate family, and I would never ask them to read for me. What a shocking suggestion! I am neither that arrogant nor foolhardy! Some things are too personal, even for family.

      There are several people I actually enjoy doing readings for. These people care about me, and they don’t bug me incessantly. I know and love them. Some other people are just plain fun to read. I’ve been known to give unsolicited readings to hapless friends too! People who know me know how difficult it is to do readings at all. They know it’s not a hobby. If one of those people asks and I don’t feel like it, I say no. If, for some reason I know wonderful psychic friends who won’t feel bad or uncomfortable laying out their fees for readings.

      People who are barely acquaintances who ask for freebies fall into the psychic freeloader category to me. I don’t put up with that, and I’m not gentle about vocalizing it either. I open my email daily to many emails from my so-called friends who really just want free readings. They usually say, “How are you, that’s good, now I need to ask you…” They don’t fool me.

      Another group I eliminated from my life was comprised of people who pay once or twice for a reading, then think you are a close friend. They expect you to issue a daily report for the rest of their lives. Sometimes they are tricky and will send in little daubs here and there, so that you feel guilty about not staying in touch with them. Those are the psychic “grifters.” I don’t play with those people, either.

      There is one other group that I positively will not read. That’s the group of people who want your advice for free, but then tell you what the other psychics they paid say about the subject.

      I have clients who are close friends —  ex-clients, too! Those people paid for my work, just like I would pay for their work. For them to expect it for nothing devalues everybody.

      Sometimes I’m sarcastic; sometimes I try to be cute. The last time one of my friends’ friends (an attorney) said, “Hey, I have a great idea! Why don’t you get out your cards and do a reading for me? Wouldn’t that be fun?” I answered, “Yes…then when we’re done, we can go to your office and go through all the research you need to do for your next six cases. Won’t that be fun?” Something like that usually works, and you avoid all kinds of long explanations.

      Most of the time I will answer one or two questions from friends. Then I gently suggest if they want a reading, they schedule one with me or someone else at Kajama.com.

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