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    • The Three Rooms: Which Room Are You In?

      by Kevin Murphy
       
      "Remember, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have, it depends solely on what you think."

      Although the Buddha is often credited with that quote, its origin doesn't really matter. Few people would dispute its message. So if most people would agree that our thoughts determine how we feel, then why are we not very good at monitoring our thoughts? The analogy of The Three Rooms can help.
      From The Three Rooms perspective, our thoughts can only be in one of three places: they can be in the past (the Past Room); the future, (the Future Room); or the present (the Present Room); and whichever room our thoughts are in determines our experience of life in that moment.
      Since our thoughts can move back-and-forth in the linear concept of time, it is imperative that we observe our thoughts. It is that act of observation that separates our awareness from our thoughts so we are no longer at the effect of them. This awareness, or consciousness, is what all the spiritual masters have urged us to connect with.
      In order to access this Divine Consciousness, we need to know where our thoughts are. That's why the fundamental question that we need to ask ourselves is "Where am I?" In other words, "Where are my thoughts?" If you can ask and answer that simple question, then you have already separated your awareness from your thoughts. Unlike the physical body, our thoughts can be in one of three places, and each place leads to a different experience of life.
      The Past Room:
      When our thoughts are in the Past Room, we continuously think of events that have caused us to feel negative emotions based on what we perceive others to have said or done to us...or us to them. We tend to dwell on those thoughts which further perpetuates the negative emotions they generate. Resentment, guilt, anger and shame are a few of the emotions we feel when our thoughts are in the Past Room.
      The Future Room:
      This is when we think about all the things that can go wrong and we focus on the worst-case scenarios. We look around at what is, and we project the image of what we don't have into the future. The feeling of stress and anxiety that this creates is what actually pushes away the very things we desire.
      When our thoughts are stuck in the Past or Future Room, we are constantly seeing the world as separate from us, so we feel the separation from our own Higher Self. That is the singular cause of the negative emotions we feel in the Past and Future Rooms.
      The Present Room:
      Instead of looking at what is, this is when we focus on what can be. There is an absence of negative thought, so there is nothing preventing us from feeling our connection to our Source. The love that we feel when we are in communion with our Higher Self is the feeling that allows us to attract into our lives that which we desire.
      If we are going to observe which room our thoughts are in, we need to better understand the thoughts that we are observing:
      A thought is a vibration that is stored as energy in a Field of Potential Probabilities, waiting to manifest.

      This field of energy has had many names. Sometimes it is called Divine consciousness, prana, or the Akashic field. Other times it is called the quantum vacuum, ether, or the zero-point field. No matter what name you apply to it, it is the Source energy that makes up all there is.
      All of the inspired ideas we receive, as well as the negative thoughts we produce, are stored in the same Field of Potential Probabilities. It is up to us to determine which ones we access based on the vibrations we are producing in any moment.
      When our emotions resonate with the same vibrational frequency as our Higher Self, we are able to interpret those vibrations in the form of inspired ideas. This is what happens when our thoughts are in the Present Room.
      When our emotions are not in alignment with our Higher Self, we are interpreting vibrations based on what we see and hear in the form of resistant thoughts. This is what happens when our thoughts are in the Past and Future Room.
      In the movie The Greatest Showman, P.T. Barnum, played by Hugh Jackman, makes a birthday present for his daughter. He tells her, "This is a wishing machine. You tell it your wishes and it keeps them safe until they come true. Even if you forget them, they are always there."
      Wouldn't that be amazing if there was a real wishing machine? Well, there is. It is the same Field of Potential Probabilities (FoPP). Your wishes are just thoughts from your imagination. They are stored in the FoPP until your vibrational frequency lines up with them, even if you forget them. If you feel negative emotions about something you are wishing for, the manifestation of that wish will sit patiently in the FoPP waiting for you to align with the feeling of the wish being fulfilled.
      Since your wish is just a thought, it will manifest if you will align with it. The only way to be in alignment with your wish is to feel as if it has already come true. The feeling is everything. When your thoughts are stuck in the Past or Future Room, you cannot align vibrationally with your wish because your thoughts are in a room that doesn't bring you joy. There is always a gap between when we make a wish and when it manifests. You must enjoy the gap, otherwise the manifestation won't come.
      The doubt caused by our own negative emotions is the very substance that prevents our wishes from being fulfilled. The irony is that if you don't feel the joy as if your desire is already fulfilled, then it can't come to pass. But if you feel the joy of it manifesting before you can see it, then you will feel the joy again once it does manifest. That is what is meant by "twice-felt." In the Past and Future Rooms, you don't feel the joy and your wish never comes true. In the Present Room, you get to feel it twice and it does come true. It's your choice.
      Kevin Murphy is a former Wall Street managing director, high school and collegiate wrestling champion, community activist, speaker, coach, and author. His book The Three Rooms, invites you to start the process of better monitoring your thoughts--while providing you the keys to transform your life by doing so. Since our thoughts affect our health, our wealth and our relationships, observing which room your thoughts are in can change your experience of life. For more info, visit:www.thethreerooms.com

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    • Psychic Advice: When All Your Employers "Victimize" You

      miserable

      I am an ethical, hardworking nurse, and have always tried to do the right thing, which sometimes means standing up for myself and for what is fair. I’m facing big challenges in gaining employment so I can provide for myself and my son. I have been treated most unfairly by employers several times, and they still badmouth me. I don’t have the money for an attorney, so I have to just keep praying that the people who once said they’d be good references still will. Could I truly be so bad? I’ve always done the best I could for employers. Without an attorney to counter all the bad talk about me, I don’t know what to do. I’ve been victimized, tried to move on, and been victimized again. I am now in dire straights financially. Is there a spiritual reason all this is happening to me, and some way I can turn it around?

       – Gina

      Dreamchaser:

      Sometimes we have to work with people we do not really like and would not associate with personally, so you will never like everyone you work with or for. Furthermore, let me point out that not everyone you work with or for will like you either.

      You are not the type of woman who sits back and plays “church mouse” when someone is attacking you or someone else. You tend to stand up for yourself, which will rub some people the wrong way — especially if they are bullies to begin with.

      You are not that “bad,” to use your term; in fact, you are not bad in any way. You also do not need a lawyer. Everyone has a right to give whatever type of reference they want. You just happened to have serious personality conflicts in the last few jobs you were in. I’ve heard from a few nurses that doctors or superiors do not like it when a nurse is actually more knowledgeable than they are. (I think the patients appreciate you, however!)

      You do have employers who want to give you good references. They said they would; there is no reason for them to tell you that they will give you a good reference and then not do so.

      Here’s the rub: I think you are caught in a whirlpool of negativity. You have had so many things go against you the past few years out of which you can’t seem to climb. Everywhere you turn, you face negativity; every new venture you attempt, you face negativity.

      Quantum physics proves that what we think is the reality that we create. You are stuck in this negative cycle and so you continue to create more negativity. I suggest you rent a movie called What the Bleep Do We Know? Watch it a few times so you can absorb the concepts that are laid out so skillfully in this film. If you change your thinking, you absolutely can change your reality. Watching this movie is the easiest way I know to absorb these powerful teachings.

      You could also start to use sage to clear out the negative energy from your person and your environment. You can buy it from an online auction site if you can’t find it in your area. Light the sage stick, blow out the flames, let it smolder and walk with it through each room of your house. Let the smoke go into every corner and every crevice. You can do this as many times as you feel is necessary. It will change the energy in your house and inside of you as well.

      Start with those two suggestions and watch things change around you.

      I wish you balance.

      *****

      Astrea:

      I believe most nurses can relate to your complaints. I have several friends and clients who are nurses. Because they love the work they do, they hang in there and protect their patients from the bureaucracy of hospitals and nursing homes.

      My best friend has been fired three times this year for being too strong an advocate for her patients. I also have friends who work in hospitals and nursing homes in support, billing, cleaning and food service. They seem to feel the same as you do: that they are underpaid, under-appreciated, and often downright abused.

      It’s not anything you have personally done. The whole medical profession is suffering. Unlike many other countries, our government in the United States hasn’t made open and affordable health care a top priority. Medicine is big business in this country, and that is causing all kinds of problems for those who work in that field and need its services. I’m sure you find it almost impossible to be the sort of caregiver you want to be given the obstacles you face at every turn.

      Since you can’t afford a private attorney, I feel you should contact the American Civil Liberties Union. They have attorneys who specialize in problems such as yours. These attorneys handle cases where people are harassed at work, unfairly treated, and brow-beaten by their employers. There is no charge for their services, and you can find them in the white pages of your local telephone directory.

      If there is anything that can be done to prevent your former employers from speaking badly of you to other prospective employers, the folks at the ACLU will know what it is. They are very nice people and are used to talking to folks like you who find themselves in desperate times due to unfair treatment.

      Here’s another idea: perhaps you’d be happier if you went back to school and took courses to become a Nurse Practitioner so you could be more independent and work for yourself. One of my friends has taken a job as a “traveling nurse.” She goes to homes in the Appalachians — sometimes in places so remote that she is required to walk or travel on horseback. She finds this far more interesting and rewarding than hospital work. It’s also more spiritual because she gets to build personal relationships with her patients and is supported by the people she works for.

      Check the internet for courses in your area so you can free yourself from the bonds of the “established” medical machine and love your nursing career again.

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